The Partnership Podcast

On Episode 52 Lauren and Trey discuss the ways in which they are building bridges, growing their support teams, and allowing themselves to be witnessed.

They ponder why people raised male tend to avoid therapeutic interventions and Lauren challenges Trey on the level of success he feels like he has attained. Do the wounds of our parents affect the way we interact with our lovers? Trey will be figuring that out soon!

Lauren dissects the concept of “felt safety” and how as she and Trey grow closer they have the potential to wound one another more and more deeply. Recently, she has seen first hand how much her “ugly” triggers Trey’s childhood coping mechanisms.

At minute 19:20 Lauren shares an analogy about how she feels she can see the brand new bridge they are building to one another while they traverse a temporary bridge they've built over these past few weeks.

You will not want to miss the vasectomy update at minute 23:30! Trey tells the tale of bringing a "fresh" semen sample to the urologist and the hilarity that unfolded!

They close out this episode with a conversation about agency of choice and the power of celebrating the little wins every day. By inviting others into their lives to speak loving truth these two are slowly building a stronger bridge back to one another.

If you would like to learn more about connecting sexually or healing inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

Episode 51 is a real-time look at the old and new tools Trey and Lauren are using to heal themselves and their partnership. They discuss the individual ways they are caring for their nervous systems and how they are navigating one another’s sensitivities in this season.

In this episode, Trey and Lauren reflect on three major misunderstandings from their vacation. With transparency and vulnerability, they explore how these instances triggered deeply rooted traumas within each other, shedding light on the complexities that emerged amidst their disagreements.

Amidst the turmoil, Lauren advocates for a shift in perspective, encouraging Trey to embrace curiosity during their arguments and misunderstandings. This episode delves into the emotional intricacies of their relationship, offering listeners a poignant glimpse into the challenges of navigating conflict and healing wounds in real time.

Tune in to witness an unfiltered dialogue as Trey and Lauren traverse the nuances of their journey, seeking understanding, growth, and connection in the face of adversity.

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

They are finding their way back to each other - gently, slowly, and tenderly. This episode is full of the tools they are using and the insight they have sought from outside sources.

Oh friends, Episode 47 is raw. You might remember Trey’s recent feelings of excessive output - well, it didn’t end. After two weeks of tallying and nit-picking, it all came to a nasty head on Monday night of last week.

Lauren shares how she was deeply hurt and how her body got her out of bed at 2:45am to journal. Trey describes how he came down to find her and details the conversation they had from 3:00am-5:00am Tuesday morning.

You’ll see how tired Lauren is and yet grounded in her center. She shares how she felt like a Mama Bear for her younger self and knew that if Trey did not get outside help this would be the “beginning of the end,” because this is not her work to do, but his work to tackle on his own.

Lauren talks through her desire to get back to a place of open heartedness, but to NOT have it help against her in any way.

Trey committed to seeking outside help from one of Lauren’s dear colleagues and to join Lauren for a partnered Human Design reading on Thursday - their 1st Anniversary. He promised to get to the root of this wound and cease this maltreatment.

Trey woke up on Tuesday and made a detailed list of things that are his to work on. Despite this work, the day was sensitive and fragile and Lauren shares how her body had the hardest time feeling safe and the tools Trey used to help her access anger - including making her walk at the golf course and giving her permission to call him names and rage at him.

At minute 43:00 they share about some of the guardrails they’re instituting now, even without fully healing. One of these new patterns is ‘TIDY TIME’ and another is sharing our “ouches” nightly.

Want to see Lauren in her anger? Watch the video at minute 47:00 where Trey brings up his birthday and his expectation that Lauren “curate” a magical day for him.

You’ll hear Lauren’s complete disinterest in sex and her disgust with being rushed.

At minute 54:00 you’ll hear Trey say, “if I can’t be that to you, you need to go!”

We cannot force someone to change or to heal or to grow. If they are not willing to do the work, we need to go.

Lauren continually says that she is scared but she is not a victim. Trust is earned through trustworthy behavior and she is ready to see the work.

Lauren is in the water, hanging to the life saver and she tells Trey that she needs him to pull her to safety.

There’s still more to come of this slow journey to resolution - as this was filmed on Wednesday after the crack in their bond on Monday - but they hope you benefit from this real-time look at emotional wounding and the gentle steps they are both taking to heal themselves and their partnership.

If you would like to learn more about conflict like this inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

Episode 46 is short and sweet! Trey and Lauren start off talking about the discomfort Lauren’s been experiencing in her body in this season of growth and how so many go through similar seasons!

At minute 3:14 Lauren talks about the nausea she’s been experiencing for the past month. Is she pregnant or is it a precursor for something else?

They review tools to combat anxiety and how to support one another as they step into something new!

Then they launch in the public partnership of the moment, TAYLOR AND TRAVIS!

Trey moans over the recent publicity the Chiefs have received and considers whether or not it’s the best for Travis to be out at all hours before a game and Lauren shares how she thinks this pairing is incredible!

Individuation is so important inside of partnership as are our natural stages of human development! Lauren and Trey discuss where they were in their own growth when they met and if they’d met earlier if their relationship would have even happened!

Enjoy this short and sweet episode and the ponderings of this growing partnership!

If you would like to learn more about individuating inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

Trey and Lauren open Episode 45 with the update you’ve been waiting for! Did Trey gather enough courage to orgasm?!?! You’ll have to tune-in to find out!

Welcome to episode 44 where Lauren and Trey talk about their journey into and through Trey’s vasectomy! This episode was recorded just DAYS after he was snipped and while the whole experience is still VERY fresh in his mind! 

Lauren opens storytime reminding the audience about her scare over the summer with a uterine fibroid. It was at that point that Trey decided to find a urologist and get on the books!

At minute 8:57 Lauren asks Trey to tell the story of his initial consult! He shares that he seriously felt like he was in middle school health class! 

At minute 15:00 Trey launches into his experience of the day of surgery and how he felt far from sexual! Then at minute 18:18 Trey gets wheeled back to have his vasectomy!!

Trey gives his play-by-play of the surgery which is great and short and sweet, then, at minute 21:25, Lauren comes behind and gives the much more colorful and accurate version! ;) 

Trey shares how he felt “meek” in the hospital gown, which is totally a thing!

At minute 29:00 Lauren shares one of her favorite moments all regarding “scrotal wear!”

Lauren asks all about recovery at minute 33:00 including arousal and desire and at minute 34:00 Trey shares that he is, “afraid to come.”

Lauren shares at minute 39:00 how this whole thing has created such a large obstacle to sex and has made her so very horny!! Jack Morin’s Erotic Equation, ATTRACTION + OBSTACLE = EXCITEMENT is on display!!

If you would like to learn more about alternate forms of birth control and how to discuss them with your partner, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock  ⁠

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.

So many giggles on Episode 43 of the Partnership Podcast where Lauren and Trey cover their original Partnership Yes/No Lists, the 3 C’s of Partnership, and their recent sexy getaway!

At minute 4:50 Lauren and Trey start unpacking the logical choice they made in choosing partnership with one another. Listeners will enjoy their short trip down memory lane as they approach their anniversary and giggle over Lauren’s most used word of the week, BEMOANING: to regard with displeasure, disapproval, or regret.

At minute 7:20 they start to unpack the “lists” they each made independently before meeting on October 26, 2019. Lauren wants the audience to understand that we each individually get to be specific about our desires for a partner, but that does NOT excuse us from unpacking the harmful effects of cultural beauty standards. For Trey, his list was helpful, because it allowed him to get, “clear on what he wanted” and then forget about it! Lauren wrote her “list” slightly differently in 2019 when she was coming to grips with being a divorcee and single mother! (Enjoy your hilarious NFL moment at minute 16:21!)

At minute 19:25 Lauren shares how Nora McInery’s book, NO HAPPY ENDINGS, inspired her to write a story different from the sad one she was experiencing! Nora taught her to write “lonely hearts club ads” that allowed her to look beyond the limits of her small town and for a future partner like Trey! Honing in on what you want allows our future partners to be the object of our truest desire and WOW is that powerful!

At minute 22:00 our hosts begin to take us on the hilarious journey of their weekend getaway! They share the highs and lows and inbetweens of this sex-cation gone… sideways! There’s a slight skip at minute 24:58, but nothing is lost!!

Lauren shares how anxiety and separateness build her anticipation for the evening and on the contrary,Trey shares the work he did to slow his mind and his rhythms down in order to be present as a lover. They both giggle about the nervousness they experience over not knowing what they’re gonna talk about and then tell the story about what they did AFTER dinner and before going back to their room! Listeners will laugh when Lauren talks about the planning that goes into the undergarments that we wear or do NOT wear on dates!!

Trey talks to the fellas for a moment at minute 31:00 about outercourse and training up your skills! If anyone needs teaching tools, of course, reach out to Lauren for more info on OMG Yes!

Oh… but friends, the real meat of the podcast begins at minute 35:00! We’re not gonna give it away here, so make sure you watch or listen!

At minute 36:30 Lauren talks about how she refused to hate on her body “stuffed” in lingerie because as adrienne marie brown states in PLEASURE ACTIVISM, there is “big business in not being enough!”

They talk about the fun and then the moment the fun goes WRONG at minute 41:13 and how they responded and handled disappointment in the middle of their sexy weekend! Lauren shares that the grace and compassion she extended to herself was so important in overcoming the disappointment of a “failed” encounter! Trey shares how caretaking was important and needed in the moment!

If you would like to learn to plan a sexy getaway, improve your partnered sexual encounters, or write a pro/con list for a future partner, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠