The Phoenix Frequencies

Nienke is counting down the days until her trip to South Korea. Part of her trip will involve visiting the demilitarisation zone (DMZ) between North and South Korea.
Peace is not the absence of war but an attitude toward peace. Peace seemed hijacked by happiness in the last century, but we need to elevate our Peace attitude further than that.
In Self-leadership, the practice of pause and feeling is a skill to develop.
To develop the courage to pause before responding. So we can respond with response-ability. Peace isn't just the SDG 16 of the UN. (Goal 16 is about promoting peaceful and inclusive societies, providing access to justice for all and building effective, accountable and inclusive institutions at all levels. People everywhere should be free of fear from all forms of violence and feel safe as they go about their lives, whatever their ethnicity, faith or sexual orientation).
We can start with ourselves, without any money investment: with the peace attitude, learning to pause and listen to ourselves and other, neutral. Leaving the hunger for applause beside you. Starting to feel grateful for what you can, with compassion for what you can't yet and care for what is to come. Be an example. Make peace a verb.   
You can join Nienke on the GCI app and learn more about the peaceful impact you can make at any time

Special thanks to  Sheva Carr the Fyera Foundation, Dr Scilla Elworthy, Gert Olefs and Daeyoung Kim

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

Storms are not there to blow you over; they are there to clear your path.
Even if you try hard to find the eye of the storm, the storm still exists. If you try to BE the eye of the storm, the storm still exists. I
You have a choice to control the storm and exhaust yourself or to prepare yourself for what comes. 
In the calm after the storm, you can overlook what seemed chaotic but is clearing your future and revealing your hidden gems. 
The countdown had begun: 3 more weeks to go to complete a year of The Phoenix Frequencies podcasts 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

What would you do if you could take all the gems of your life so far, learn from them and implement them in a new life chapter you are creating? Starting from scratch? 
What are you waiting for? The perfect timing? That doesn't exist.... 
What perfect circumstances do you want to create? They are never ready.....
Nienke's grandmother Emma started her new life at the age of 90 because the new was calling her, and she loved it even more than the old.
You can be the reader of your life's book others wrote for you or become the author of your new life's book today.
It doesn't take courage, just enough love for the new to begin: phoenix. 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

Feeling disappointed and acting based on that is a human thing. 
We can only be disappointed if we expect something upfront. 
Rarely do we speak about our expectations. We only act on them. 
In this episode, Nienke speaks about the opportunity she got to build another relationship with feelings of disappointment. 
It is sobering to learn from nature. Nienke shares what the Valley of the Fallen Heroes taught her. There is a new creation, no disappointment.
How do you react when you feel disappointed? 
 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

If a trigger is a mental, emotional or physical response about an event that happened in your life in the past, a shiny object can become an addiction. The  drive to fill the uncomfortable feeling that was created in your past. 
But a glimmer, that unexpected spake of beauty, joy, hope, ease, and peace, can become your self-supportive nutrition to counterbalance an overdrive of stress-related triggers. 
Do you dare to transform into a mature response to what you think you need? 
Then, it's time to be conscious of the abundance of glimmers around you that can nourish you at any time.

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

When we compare our successes or choices with our outside world and see a gap in feelings or failure, shame can sneak into us. Once shame gets hold of us, it starts to design our lives. We can drift off in directions that are not serving us at all. 
If we start to grow our shame under our invisible carpet, it can become a hurdle that is hard to resolve. 
Shame eats us, because it likes the secrets we tell ourselves as the truth... 
If you don't want shame to ruin your life any longer, there are four simple steps to let all the density of shame disappear. 
How do you get there? Nienke shares it in this week's episode. 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

How many certifications or diplomas degrees do you need to become who you are? How do you show up, and what do you think your identity is? 
Who are you? Who are you if life kicks in and all you thought you created as results don't count any longer? You are not your results of collected degrees but how you show up. 
Where are you compromising to make an ideal match for your family, parents, children, friends, colleagues, or boss? 
We have another choice. How? Nienks shares in this week's episode.

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

Due to what comes our way in life, we create our perceived perception as 'the truth'. By creating our truth, we keep ourselves safe from feeling hurt, disappointed or insecure. 
It predicts how we listen; it shapes our actions. We create our self-protection limiting beliefs. 
But life will give us the same situations until we learn and transform because there is only the truth we created. Maybe you don't get what you want until you see you create what you need, in order to shift. 
By taking her armour down and looking under the soil to the roots, Nienke discovered nothing was true; it was only a perspective.  
Being self-honest and putting your vanities aside is the most intimate place you can go. 
It can be the most fruitful one as well: to rise. 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

Worrying and overcare can sneak into our lives like invited, unwanted guests. 
When they show up, we can give them the attention they ask for or send them away. Thank them for coming, and they are no longer needed. 
Nienke had the opportunity, based on possibly concerning yearly tumour check-up results, to choose between worrying and overcaring and starting a new collaboration based on what is serving her now. 
She chooses the new. Do you dare? 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com

When you got dressed today, did you dress for the weather of today? 
Or did you dress already for next week? Or for the weather of 3 months ago?
If we adjust for outside circumstances why don't we do the same for for our inner circumstances? 
Why do respond to things as if it was years ago, or as protection what might happen in the future? 
How would it be if we ar prepared for all circumstances or at least tapp into the possibility to get ready for today based on today, not what was, or what can come. 
Bringing an umbrella isn't a bad thing but we don't need it all the time. 

We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others.  Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives. 

Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future. 

If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to  heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com