We have been conditioned to believe that happiness comes from getting what we want. This is the Gap Theory of Happiness - the belief that if we close the gap by getting what we want, then we will be happy. Unfortunately, getting what we want never equates to "happily ever after". Instead, we feel perpetually disatisfied and stuck on what psychologists calls the "hedonic treadmill" - chasing what we want under the delusional thinking that the "next thing" will be THE THING that will finally create lasting happiness.

In this episode, taken straight out of The Pleasure Project Program classroom, I give you 2 practices to close the gap right now. The key:

1) Love your life, and

2) Want what you have

Being happy now doesn't mean you stop going after what you want. It simply means you don't delude yourself into believing that happiness is on the other side of it. The Pleasure Project Program is all about finding happiness now WHILE creating the best possible life you can dream of.

Early enrollment is October 13-15. Learn more about the program here.

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What if we spent as much time feeling good on the inside as we do on looking good on the outside?

According to research, since the age of 3, we’ve been indoctrinated with a belief that we will never be enough.

Attractive enough

Smart enough

Successful enough

Worthy enough

Good enough

Productive enough

So we spend our lives striving to feel “enough”.

Here are some scary stats on how much we spend on looking good on the outside (and believing that will be the key to feeling good on the inside).

Plastic surgery: $58 Billion in 2023

Weight loss: $246 Billion

Beauty/anti ageing: $570 Billion

Women’s clothing: $965 Billion

Instead of making us feel better, our levels of stress, anxiety, anger, and sadness are at a 10-year high.

Changing the outside will not solve your feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.

Here’s what does:

Changing your relationship with your body, your mind, your emotions, your past, your purpose and your dreams and desires by reprogramming your BRAIN.

In this episode I talk about how we TRY to solve the "not enough" problem and why it doesn't work.

I share the critical skills you need to develop to cultivate self-love, self-trust, self-compassion and live a more authentic, intentional life.

These skills include emotional processing and regulation, understanding your emotions and the cause of them, generating positive emotional states, mind management, aligned action-taking and evolving your self-image.

This is exactly what we do in the Pleasure Project Program. Early enrolment is 3 weeks away. Save these dates: October 13-15 and click here to get on the waitlist.

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This bonus episode is taken from a day retreat teaching where I used the analogy of a roadtrip. After 10 years and hundreds of coaching clients, I've had a front row seat into people's brains and the way we hold ourselves back from the things we want. In this episode I outline the 11 mistakes we make, why we make them, the costs and what we can do about it.

Here are the 11 mistakes:

1. Driving while looking at the rear view mirror

2. One foot on the gas, the other on the brake

3. Hitting a roadblock, turning around and going back home (instead of finding another route)

4. Rubbernecking

5. Driving while looking at your phone

6. Carrying a suitcase filled with heavy rocks

7. Trying to drive without gas

8. Draining your battery

9. Ignoring the things that are breaking down

10. Letting people in the passenger seat steer the car

11. Speeding

Moving towards your desires and enjoying the journey is what The Pleasure Project Program is all about. Click here to join the waitlist. Early enrollment is Oct 13-15.

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The inner conflict is a fundamental part of being human. The Bhagavad Gita, the most famous yogic text in history takes place on a battlefield - a perfect metaphor for the battle that is happening inside each one of us. We spend our lives in a constant struggle between right and wrong, selfishness and selflessness and the desire to grow and the desire to be comfortable. So how do we navigate this inner conflict and align to the highest part of ourselves? The Gita tells us to "remember who we are".

In this episode I discuss the opening chapter of the Gita and how we can apply its wisdom to our daily lives. I talk about how to remember who you are and what you can do to create more clarity and inner guidance as you step out into the battle of life.

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What happens when you spend 80 days focused on love, connection and purpose?

I’m about to find out.

Today is day 1 of my new Pleasure Project: The Dharma Love Project.

Alongside my Pleasure Project Program students, I’m embarking on my own 80-day journey.

Inspired by 2 books: Love 2.0 and The Bhagavad Gita, I’m unwinding my own sticky patterns of attachment, self-doubt, and worry.

About a month ago, I was attending a business mastermind and the breakout teacher revealed that I had some work to do in the area of self-love.

Self-love would be the most important thing that would help me achieve my goals, she said.

I took it to “heart” and designed a daily practice to generate the emotion of love.

Another thing that has been an ongoing struggle for me is being overly attached to the outcome. If you’ve been in my world for a while, you know that I love to set goals. Goal setting has served me well over the years. However, when I take action towards a specific result, and if it doesn’t happen, I’m CRUSHED.

My emotions take a nosedive. Some days I’m on an emotional rollercoaster. (I’m so thankful for the emotional regulation tools in my back pocket, self-coaching skills and coaches in my corner - but what if I could experience more equanimity in my day-to-day life?).

What if I could learn to let go of the results of my actions? How would that change things?

How much more bold would I be?

How much bigger would I dream?

How much more authentically would I show up?

The Bhagavad Gita states: “The meaning of Karma is in the intention. The intention behind the action is what matters. Those who are motivated only by the desire for the fruits of action are miserable, for they are constantly anxious about the results of what they do.”

Throughout my project my intention is LOVE. Love for myself, my loved ones, my clients, my community (you!), and my work.

Why? Because love not only feels amazing, but is also amazingly good for you. (Read Love 2.0 if you want the science behind it).

So for the next 80 days, I will take aligned action, from love, without attachment to the results, in service of my dharma (purpose). Every week, I’ll focus on implementing teachings from the Gita like equanimity, courage, belief, service, commitment, and more. Listen in to hear the approach I will take.

Early enrollment for the next round of The Pleasure Project Program is October 13-15. Click here to get on the waitlist

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Fall is coming.

The time of year when we yearn to get back on track, recommit to our goals and establish a new rhythm.

As summer comes to a close, it feels like a fresh start, an opportunity to wipe the slate clean and begin again.

In the Pleasure Project Program, members design an 80-day experiment based on the ONE thing that would change everything for them.

This is NOT your average SMART goal setting. (Which is missing quite a few essential ingredients).

This is Goal Setting 5.0

The Projects are NOT massive to-do lists or 27-step actions plans.

They are growth tools designed to BECOME a different version of yourself. (Because that’s the only way to create lasting change).

The 80-day project is about using a holistic approach that includes neuroplasticity, accountability and coaching to create a breakthrough in your life.

In this episode of The Pleasure Project Podcast, I share 5 essentials for designing your fall reinvention and successfully creating the changes you want to make.

(Early enrollment for the next round of The Pleasure Project Program is October 13-15. Click here to get on the waitlist)

If you’re ready for a reinvention now, click here to set up a free 45 minute fall reinvention strategy session. We’ll discuss what you’re currently struggling with, what changes you’re ready to make and what needs to happen to achieve your desired results. Click here to book a time.

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One of the goals we all share is to be happy. The irony is - the more you have happiness as a goal, the less happy you are.

Happiness isn't something we can force. However, we can set up the conditions for happiness to arise.

In this episode I discuss:

Mentioned in this episode:

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What is "Hot Girl Summer"? I looked it up and found a few definitions:

Dictonary.com defines it as “feeling confident in who you are and having fun and looking good while doing it."

Urban Dictionary says it's about “just being you, just having fun. It's turning up, driving the boat and not giving a damn about what nobody's saying.” 

Ayurvedically speaking, staying balanced in the summer is about being COOL - not hot.

In this episode I share practical tips and tricks for staying cool, calm and collected this summer season using diet, lifestyle, exercise and self-care.

As a special bonus for podcast listeners, click here to download the Summer Season Guide that includes:

I hope this inspires you to include more fun, play and self-care into your summer!

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Do you struggle with not having enough time? Are you cronically late, rushed or overwhelmed? This podcast is for you.

In this episode I share how I went from living in time scarcity to time abundance. I've identified 7 things I did to shift my relationship with time and be more intentional with how I spend my days. Imagine having hours to yourself each day. These 7 shifts will help you create more space and time for what matters most.

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In this episode I explore the transformative power of setting feeling intentions for a more fulfilling life. Drawing inspiration from "The Desire Map," I discuss the importance of combining outcome goals with desired emotions to create a joyful and purposeful journey. I talk about the distinction between intentions and goals, emphasizing how intentions shape our being while goals focus on our actions. Learn how to create "feeling intentions" and how to infuse everyday activities with feeling intentions, including defining desired emotions and incorporating them into your daily routines. Tune in to discover how setting feeling intentions can empower you to enjoy the process to achieving your big goals.

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