Not where you think you "should" be by this time of the year? Do you feel "behind"?

There are two ways you can approach your goals. One works for you and one works against you.

One way is to see the road ahead as painful, discouraging, and filled with challenges and obstacles. This path is filled with self-doubt, anxiety, and stress. The other way is to approach your goals as exciting opportunities for growth, exploration and adventure. This will make you want to embrace the challenges, do the hard things and stride ahead with confidence and motivation.

So what determines either mindset? It depends on how you measure yourself. In this episode I discuss why it's so important to measure yourself against where you started instead of where you want to be. I talk about the concept of the Gap and the Gain, a term coined by Dan Sullivan of Strategic Coach and title of the book by the same name by Benjamin Hardy. You'll learn habits to stay out of the "gap" and in the "gain" so you can use your goals as a way to feel better, not bitter and make your mind work for you instead of against you.

Ready for support, accountability, guidance and coaching on your goals? Click here to book a free 45 minute strategy session with me where we'll discuss where you are, where you want to be, and what's getting in the way. If I can help, we'll discuss options to work together.

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Do you struggle with planning or following through on your plans?

In this episode, I delve into the world of planning and decision-making. Join me as we explore the reasons behind our inclination to prioritize immediate gratification over long-term rewards and uncover the power of planning to transform our lives.

Discover the profound benefits of planning and how it can combat decision fatigue and enhance willpower. Learn why the human brain thrives on direction and focus, and how planning empowers you to make progress towards your desired outcomes. By avoiding regret and embracing intentionality, you'll align your actions with your priorities and seize control of your time.

I'll also address common objections to planning and offer insights to overcome them. Explore the misconception that planning takes too long, and learn how to overcome overcommitment, distractions, and resistance. Overcome the pattern of past failures by harnessing the power of self-reflection and self-awareness, and uncover the soft skills needed to follow through on your plans.

You might be making some common mistakes with planning that are making it harder for you to follow through. I'll guide you through the pitfalls to help you navigate them successfully. From making time for self-care first to crafting specific and doable plans, I equip you with practical techniques to optimize your planning process. I also reveal the importance of connecting your plans with your values and goals, establishing priorities, and creating margin for unexpected challenges.

I share crucial questions that elevate your planning skills: Have you allocated time for self-care? Is your plan truly aligned with your priorities, values, and goals? Are your tasks specific and doable? I explore these questions and more, empowering you to become a master planner.

Join me as we unravel the secrets of effective planning, fueling your motivation, and propelling you towards your desired outcomes. Embrace uncertainty, overcome obstacles, and cultivate a proactive mindset that embraces failure as a stepping stone to success. Tune in now and discover the art of planning.

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The summer solstice is the longest day of the year and symbolises light, growth, abundance, joy, celebration, balance and purification. In this episode I go into the symbolism of this potent time of year and questions to reflect on to create more clarity and focus for the months ahead. I finish with a 9 minute solstice meditation. Whether the first 6 months of the year have been challenging or wildly successful, this is a great time to press pause, take some time to reflect and do a mid-year reset. Enjoy!

Journal questions:

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This is the final installment of the Yoga of Emotion Series. In this episode I share a 4 step process to shift from a challenging emotion to a more resourced one.

These tools allow you to feel more in control over your emotions and enable you to handle difficult emotions with more acceptance and self-compassion, and ultimately empower you to create your desired emotional state.

The 4 steps of Emotional Empowerment are:

1. Self-Awareness

2. Process (click here for the Inner Listening Practice - episode 54)

3. Curiosity

4. Generating Desired Emotions

I break down each one and share the #1 question to direct your mind for each step.

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In this episode, I'm diving deep into the world of emotions with Part 3 of a 4 part series based on my most popular workshop: The Yoga of Emotion.

Emotions are often misunderstood. We think that emotions are simply reactions to events. It's all about how we think about those events that create those feelings. Ten different people can witness the same event and experience ten different emotions based on their own thoughts and perspectives.

The Three Laws of Emotion are:

Law 1: The 90-Second Rule. Discover what emotions actually are and where they come from. I reveal a jaw-dropping study finding that shows how failure to manage emotions can age you by a whopping 35 years.

Law 2: The 50/50 Rule. Life isn't always sunshine and rainbows, and that’s actually a GOOD thing. Learn how to make peace with the “shitty 50” and navigate life’s challenges more easily.

Finally, Law 3: Fuel for Your Actions. Emotions are the GAS that takes you from where you are to where you want to be.

These 3 laws are a start to emotional mastery —a transformative tool that can revolutionize your daily life.

If you're ready to master your mindset and your emotional life, I invite you to book a free 45-minute strategy session with me. In this personalized session, we'll address any challenges or roadblocks that may be holding you back. Click here to book a time. Limited spots available.

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This is part 2 of a 4 part series based on my most popular workshop: The Yoga of Emotion.

In this episode I share the top 4 mistakes people make when dealing with challenging emotions. These are mistakes MOST of us make because it's what we've been taught and programmed to do. However, these mistakes can be harmful and get in the way of cultivating emotional wellness and a healthier relationship with our feelings.

These 4 mistakes are:

1. We engage in avoidance and numbing behaviors to escape how we're feeling (overeating, over drinking, overspending, over-working, over-consuming TV or social media)

2. Judging our feelings.

3. Blaming things or people for how we feel.

4. Bypassing our emotions.

For each of these mistakes I talk about why we do them, what it's costing us and what happens when we stop making these mistakes and learn Emotional Empowerment skills (coming in Part 4!).

Do you have questions about emotions you want me to cover? DM me on Instagram or send me an email at [email protected].

If you are currently struggling with these mistakes or going through a challenging time and want support, click here to set up a free 45 minute strategy session with me.

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This is part 1 of a 4 part series based on my most popular workshop: The Yoga of Emotion.

Yoga means to connect or join. The Yoga of Emotion is all about how we connect with and relate to our emotions.

Most of us were never taught how to understand and handle our challenging emotions in healthy ways.

We reject our unpleasant emotions and in doing so - become divided against ourselves.

Feelings are such an important part of our lives. They can either be our superpower or our biggest enemy.

In this episode I share 3 important truths about our emotions and why this series is so important:

1. Feelings ARE the goal.

2. Feelings are the doorway to unshakeable self-confidence.

3. Feelings are the thing we’re most afraid of.

These 3 truths about emotions will completely change how you live your life and pursue your desires.

Do you have questions about emotions you want me to cover? DM me on Instagram or send me an email at [email protected].

If you are currently struggling with some painful emotions and want support, click here to set up a free 45 minute strategy session with me.

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Sometimes when we focus on "good vibes only" or understand how our thoughts create our reality, we end up resisting negative feelings and trying to push away negative thoughts. However, what you resist, persists. If you've been trying hard to feel better without success, this podcast is for you.

The truth is, the fastest way to feel better is to allow and accept how you *actually* feel. This is NOT the same as wallowing and having a pity party for yourself - it's about fully FEELING your emotions in your body. In this episode, I share how I processed through some unpleasant feelings after noticing that trying to feel better and "think positive" wasn't working. I also share 4 questions to ask yourself to help shift your mindset out of unhelpful thinking.

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Low self-worth is something so many people struggle with. Low self-worth is not a character trait. It’s a habit of thinking. Many of us have a habit of being overly critical about ourselves. We focus on our flaws and shortcomings. We look for how we’re behind or slower than others or not good enough. We look at our past for reasons for our low self-worth - maybe we were criticized and judged by people in our lives, maybe family members told us we weren’t good enough or modelled being hard on themselves so we learned that’s the way to be. But the problem is when we start to define ourselves as someone with low self-worth and use it against ourselves. In this episode I share 3 ways to increase self-worth and the #1 thing to STOP doing.

If you struggle with self-worth and want support to change this mental habit, click here to set up a free 45 minute strategy session with me to see if coaching can help.

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Your disappointment, insecurity, shame, judgement and self-doubt arise from repetitive thinking. Anything thought with repetition becomes a habituated response. Every thought leads to a result. And what you focus on and think about expands. In this episode I share 5 mental habits to break to feel better and be happier:

I break down each one, what it creates and what to do instead.

If you want support and coaching in creating healthier mental and physical habits, click here to set up a free 45 minute strategy session with me.

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