In this fiercely tender episode, Quinn explores sisu—a powerful Finnish word that describes the inner grit that rises when there’s nothing left to give but you keep showing up anyway. Drawing from their own ancestral roots, Quinn reclaims the kind of strength that isn’t about pushing harder, but about remembering who you are when the world goes quiet.

This is not about hustle. This is about sacred perseverance.
 This is not girlboss strength. This is sisu.

Through stories, reflection, and a closing guided meditation, Quinn offers practical and soulful ways to reconnect with your own unshakable strength after divorce—especially when you're tired of being the strong one.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why “I’m tired of being strong” is not a weakness—it’s a threshold
• The history and soul of sisu, a Finnish concept of embodied resilience
• How to make meaning from pain (Viktor Frankl-style)
• The power of ancestry and generational strength
• Main character energy vs. passive survival
• A somatic practice to locate your sisu in your body
• How rest can be revolutionary—and part of your strength
• A beautiful grounding meditation to close

Quotable Moments:

 👉 Share this episode with a sister who’s tired—but not done.

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In this raw, reflective, and empowering episode, Quinn opens up about the emotional terrain of fear—how it creeps in post-divorce, shows up in our relationships, careers, and even in the state of the world. They share deeply personal moments of walking into the unknown: moving during COVID, raising six kids alone, and heading back to school to become a nurse.

With wisdom from Pema Chödrön, Stoic philosophers, and Gavin de Becker’s The Gift of Fear, Quinn unpacks the crucial difference between fear that saves your life and fear that steals it. You'll learn how to identify healthy vs. unhealthy fear, work with your body’s intuition, and use simple yet powerful tools like the Stoic Pause and the "So What?" drill to regain clarity and take action—even when you're afraid.

You’ll hear about:

• Quinn’s journey to school, single parenting, and starting over
• The two kinds of fear women are facing in 2025
• Fear as a signal vs. fear as a story
• Why the mind prefers the familiar—and how that sabotages your growth
• What healthy fear feels like in the body
• Tools to sit with fear, question it, and move forward anyway
• Why women often mistake fear for wisdom
• And the mantra that could change everything:
• “Fear is just information. It’s not instruction.”

Quotables:

• "Courage isn’t about being fearless. It’s about acting with discernment—despite the fear."
• “You don’t need to kill the fear. You just need to stop letting it drive.”
• “Is this a sacred warning—or just a dusty-ass lie?”

Resources Mentioned:

• The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker
• Pema Chödrön’s quote: “Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.”
• Stoic philosophy on perception and response

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🔥 Episode Description: Welcome to the post-divorce pleasure revolution.

In this unfiltered, wide-ranging, absolutely juicy episode, Quinn and Britta Jo reunite for one of their signature off-the-cuff intimacy chats. This time? We’re talking orgasms, pleasure, post-divorce sex, religious shame, dating disasters, and reclaiming our deliciously complex female bodies.

We cover everything from “tuna can” lovers to the orgasm gap, from purity culture to sex in midlife, and we do it with our signature combo of sass, smarts, and soul.

If you’ve ever felt broken, frustrated, ashamed, or just straight-up bored in the bedroom—this one’s for you. Whether you’re single, dating, partnered, or figuring it all out, we promise this episode will make you laugh, cry, cringe, nod furiously, and maybe—just maybe—light a fire inside you that says, I deserve more.

Topics We Hit:

• The Orgasm Gap and why it’s still a thing in 2025 😤
• What happens when you grow up thinking female pleasure is a sin 😬
• How religious programming messes with our bodies and brains
• Sexless marriages, silent suffering, and the power of finally saying “enough”
• First orgasms, worst partners, and what happens when you fake it for a decade
• The Tragedy of Heterosexuality (and why Jane Ward is our new bestie)
• Why your body isn’t broken—you just might need a different lover (or toy 😉)
• Dying for Sex: the Hulu show that will change the way you think about your life
• How to rewire your relationship with your body through pleasure
• And why centering your orgasm might just be the most radical thing you ever do

🔥 Listener Love Note: If you’re a woman wondering if it’s too late for epic sex, deep pleasure, or wild joy—this episode is your proof: It’s not too late. It’s just the beginning.

✨ Featured Resources:

• Dying for Sex (FX/Hulu series)
• The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward
• Vitamin O by Barbara Keesling
• The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy
• Quinn’s episode: Get Yourself Off, Get Your Life Back

💌 Want to Join the Community? Britta Jo’s Stay or Go Community is a sacred space for women navigating divorce, desire, and rediscovering themselves. It’s part group coaching, part sisterhood, part safe haven for these juicy, real conversations.

To apply, text “stay or go community” to 33377 for an interview with Alex (who, side note, is Quinn’s badass oldest daughter 💁‍♀️).

🧡 Coaching with Quinn: Quinn is still taking 1:1 coaching clients for a limited time before diving deeper into nursing school. If you’re post-divorce and ready to glow all the way up, now’s the time.

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In this juicy, heartfelt episode, we’re talking about the orgasm—yes, your orgasm. Whether you’re self-partnered or dancing with a new lover, this episode is your reminder that pleasure is not a luxury—it’s your birthright.

We’ll explore:

• Why orgasm is one of the most effective ways to calm your nervous system
• The difference between how men and women respond to porn and masturbation
• What science says about the health benefits of regular climactic release
• How sexual shame, bad sex ed, and religious messaging have kept women in the dark
• The truth about your body’s ability to bloom, with or without a partner
• Tools, resources, and rituals to reconnect with your pleasure—today

We’re talking Dr. Emily Nagoski, Audre Lorde, Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez, personal stories, client breakthroughs, and some real talk about being fingered by a Mormon boy.

👑 Mentioned in this episode:

• OMGYes.com – Science-based pleasure techniques
• Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski – A must-read for anyone with a vulva
• Vitamin O by Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez – Bold, smart, orgasm-positive
• Dipsea App – Erotic audio stories for women
• Breathwork, mirror work, sensual movement, playlists, and more

Quote of the Episode:

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 Email me at [email protected]

Because there’s no glow-up quite like a woman lit from within by her own pleasure.

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Episode Summary:
In this powerful episode, I talk about rewriting your self-concept after divorce—not by looking back, but by imagining forward. Drawing on the work of Benjamin Hardy (Personality Isn’t Permanent), Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics), Dr. Joe Dispenza, and Gay Hendricks (The Big Leap), I break down how identity isn’t fixed, how to start thinking and acting like your future self, and why joy can feel so damn scary when you’ve been stuck in survival mode.

I also share my personal story of going from believing I wasn’t “cut out” for school to scoring in the 99th percentile on my nursing entrance exam, and how this transformation had everything to do with my self-image—not my circumstances.

Plus:

• The trap of personality tests
• A tool called the “creation walk”
• A client story about upper limits after love
• How I completely changed my parenting story post-divorce
• How to start living as your future self today

Action steps inside this episode:

• Write a letter from your future self
• Use 3 daily reminders to ask: “Am I being her?”
• Practice nervous system regulation when joy shows up
• Try a “creation walk” to rewire your self-image

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Motherhood is complicated, and it gets even more complex after divorce. In this deeply honest episode, I dive into something that many moms feel but rarely talk about—grieving the life we didn’t get to live because we had children. Whether you had kids due to religious pressure, cultural expectations, or a desire that later felt different in reality, this conversation is for you.

We talk about the messy, conflicting emotions of loving our kids and grieving our lost autonomy. We also explore the guilt, resentment, and cultural expectations that tell moms they must always be grateful—while completely ignoring the exhaustion, loneliness, and sacrifices that come with the role.

If you've ever thought, "Would I have done this differently if I had known?" or "I love my kids, but this is really hard," you are not alone. This is a safe space for the truth.

What’s Inside This Episode:

💬 The pressure to have kids—religion, family, society, and internalized beliefs
 💬 The reality of single motherhood post-divorce: exhaustion, resentment, and survival
 💬 How to process feelings of regret, loss, and grief without shame
 💬 The myth of the "perfect mother" and why it’s keeping us stuck
 💬 Why admitting hard truths about motherhood can bring unexpected relief
 💬 Practical ways to come to peace with your past choices

Quotes from the Episode:

💡 "You can love someone and still wish your life had gone another way."
💡 "Regret does not mean you don’t love. It simply means you’re human."
💡 "The myth of motherhood is that it's all-consuming joy. The truth is, it's both joy and sacrifice." — Esther Perel

Resources & Next Steps:

📩 Need support? Email me at [email protected]
🎙️ Listen to past episodes for more conversations on post-divorce life
💡 Work with me—If you're navigating these emotions and need guidance, reach out

💜 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a fellow mom who needs to hear it. And don’t forget to leave a review—it helps other women find this podcast!

See you next week, girlfriend. 💜

4o

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🎙 Episode Summary:
In this episode, I dive into YOUR post-divorce questions in a heartfelt and honest Q&A session. From navigating guilt, loneliness, and comparison to embracing second chances and financial independence, we’re tackling it all. Whether you’re 36 or 57, wondering if it’s too late to start over, or struggling with the idea of dating again, this conversation is for you. I share my personal experiences, practical advice, and encouragement to help you create a life you love—on your terms.

💌 Topics Covered:
✅ Feeling like it’s too late to start over at 57—why it’s never too late
✅ How to stop feeling guilty for moving on when your ex is struggling
✅ Dating after divorce: where to start and why you will feel like a lost teenager
✅ Comparing yourself to your ex’s new partner—why it’s normal and how to stop
✅ Navigating kids’ tough divorce questions—without badmouthing your ex
✅ Financial independence after years as a stay-at-home mom—YES, it’s possible!
✅ Feeling like your divorce was a failure—how to rewrite that story

💡 Resources Mentioned:
📌 The Burned Haystack Dating Method (Jenny Young) – A mindful approach to dating apps
📌 Dress for Success – Helping women re-enter the workforce with confidence
📌 Local community colleges & trade programs – Many offer free/low-cost job training

💬 Let’s Connect!
Have a question you’d like me to answer? Send me an email at [email protected]. I might just answer it in a future episode!

🎧 Subscribe & Review:
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe and leave a review—it helps more divorced women find this podcast and start living their best lives.

💃 Until next time, keep glowing! ✨

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Ever feel like you’re constantly passing the buck to “future you”? Skipping workouts, putting off tough conversations, avoiding finances—only to leave tomorrow’s self cleaning up today’s mess? In this episode, I introduce a powerful concept: being your own Aide-de-Camp (ADC)—the personal assistant to your future self.

I’ll share a hilarious story about my daughter and a schoolyard showdown, drop some Stoic wisdom (Marcus Aurelius, I see you 👀), and show you how to step into this role for yourself. Learn how small, consistent actions today can completely change your life in 6 months, a year, and beyond.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ The Aide-de-Camp Mindset—showing up like a military strategist for your own success
✔️ How planning, structure, and micro-habits create powerful momentum
✔️ Why setting boundaries, prioritizing rest, and cutting distractions is an act of self-love
✔️ Real-life stories of women who transformed their lives by stepping up for Future Them

Timestamps:
– That time my daughter almost had a schoolyard brawl (for a great reason!)
– Why we treat our future self like an afterthought (and how to fix it)
– What the heck is an Aide-de-Camp? And why you need one!
– Small daily habits = long-term transformation
- A mindset shift that makes discipline feel like self-care
 - Listener challenge: What’s one habit to start (or stop) for Future You?

Episode Challenge:
Identify one small habit you can start doing today that would make life easier for your future self.
AND… what’s one thing you can stop doing that would improve things for her?

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I received news from a friend about her divorce being finalized. It begged the question, what skills does a newly divorced women need? The episode is my answer. 

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• My daughter’s panic attack and what it taught me about emotional flashbacks and healing.

Main Topic: Getting to Neutral

• The Problem: Why jumping to “you’re fine” or forcing positivity doesn’t help in moments of distress.
• Emotional Flashbacks: What they are, how they show up unexpectedly, and how past trauma lives in the body.
• How I Handled It Differently:
  • Allowing emotions to run their course rather than pushing them away.
  • Encouraging her to feel rather than fight her fear.
  • Why neutrality is often a better goal than positivity.

1. Neutral Thinking Over Positive Thinking:
   • Instead of “just think positive,” focus on what is true and actionable.
   • Example: Rather than saying “You’re fine,” acknowledge, “This feels really scary, and you’re allowed to feel it.”
2. Emotions Are Temporary:
   • Like a toddler throwing a tantrum, emotions burn out if you let them run.
   • We don’t have to fear feelings—we just need to feel them.
3. No Drama, Just Data:
   • Negative thinking adds unnecessary weight.
   • Neutrality means stating facts: “This is happening. What do I want to do next?”
4. Don’t Let the Past Predict the Future:
   • Divorce trauma doesn’t define you.
   • Just because you felt unsafe then doesn’t mean you have to live in fear now.

For Divorced Women: How to Apply Neutral Thinking

• When an emotional flashback hits, focus on the present reality: Where am I? Am I safe?
• If supporting a friend or child, hold space instead of forcing solutions.
• Instead of spiraling into “Why is this happening to me?” ask, “What is my next best step?”

Closing Thoughts:

• Neutral thinking doesn’t erase pain, but it keeps us from getting stuck in it.
• You don’t have to force a silver lining—just take the next step forward.
• Let’s normalize feeling ALL the things without fear.

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