Quinn and Britta dive into one of the most gut-wrenching challenges women face when considering or navigating divorce: the “agony” of 50/50 custody.

How do you cope with the heartbreak of being away from your kids—even if your co-parent is safe and trustworthy? And what if you’re the one who has always been the anchor parent, the one who knows the bedtime routine, the favorite snacks, the little cues no one else sees?

💔 In this episode, we talk about:

• The grief and fear of losing time with your children
• The cultural and biological narratives that feed “mom guilt”
• The difference between maternal attachment and children’s evolutionary drive to attach
• How patriarchy and capitalism have shaped the idea that mothers must always be present
• Boots-on-the-ground strategies: goodbye rituals, quality time over quantity, and re-regulation practices
• How to reframe your child’s time away as a chance for their independence and resilience to grow

Quinn and Britta share their radically different backgrounds in motherhood—one the eldest of eight, parentified from childhood, the other the eighth of ten, with a more hands-off upbringing—and how those frameworks shaped their parenting styles, their divorce experiences, and the way they handle custody today.

✨ Key takeaways:

• Your child’s foundation of safety doesn’t disappear when they’re away from you.
• Nervous system regulation (yours, not your child’s!) is essential.
• Time apart can teach kids resourcefulness, adaptability, and trust in multiple safe adults.
• Modeling courage and emotional adulthood is more powerful than clinging to control.

This is Part One of the conversation. Next week, in Part Two, Quinn shares her lived experience of co-parenting with someone she doesn’t trust—a very different scenario with very different challenges.

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What if the things you think you’re “bad at” aren’t flaws, but simply skills you haven’t practiced yet?

This week’s episode is about stripping away the shame and drama around struggle and seeing it for what it is: a skill you can learn.

I share a moment with my health coach that completely shifted my perspective—when she told me that eating three meals a day instead of snacking was “just a skill.” Those three little words took the heaviness out of the struggle and opened the door to an entire framework for the post-divorce glow-up.

Together, we’ll explore:

• Why reframing struggles as skills changes everything
• Dating as a skill (from profiles to boundaries to spark)
• Money as a skill (budgeting, investing, and yes—fat bank accounts are sexy)
• Parenting as a skill (it’s not you, it’s just practice)
• Strength and health as skills (lifting, eating, sleeping—learnable)
• Making new friends and building a support network (awkward at first, then easier with reps)
• How to release shame and practice your way into a life you love

Your glow-up isn’t about perfection or innate talent. It’s about repetition, practice, and compassion.

So the next time you think you’re failing? Remember this: you’re not failing—you’re practicing. And your glow-up is just a skillset away.

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Too many women wear divorce like a scarlet letter — a permanent label that defines their worth, parenting, relationships, and future. In this episode, Quinn shares how she refuses to let divorce define her life and instead uses it as fuel to expand into new possibilities, like going back to school and building a bigger, bolder life than ever before.

We’ll explore:

• Why “divorced” is not your permanent identity — and why you don’t owe anyone that box on a form.
• How divorce can make you a better parent, not a worse one.
• The surprising way divorce elevates your self-worth and helps you discover who you truly are.
• How post-divorce relationships can become the healthiest and most passionate of your life.
• Why resisting your big life costs more energy than building it.
• Why divorce is not a scarlet letter, but a badge of courage and freedom.

Quinn reminds you that divorce isn’t the end — it’s a catalyst. A chance to write the juiciest next chapters of your life. This is not about survival. It’s about expansion, courage, and unapologetic joy.

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This week’s episode is a love letter to one of the riskiest, most liberating beliefs I’ve ever adopted:
 It is safe to rely on the generosity and honesty of strangers.

I’m sharing the story of how buying a quirky little car on eBay completely rewired how I move through life as a divorced woman, single parent, and human navigating the daily grind.

We’ll talk about:

• How divorce and betrayal shrink your “trust radius”
• Why suspicion feels safe but is actually a prison
• What Diana Chapman’s world as an ally philosophy has to do with your ex-husband
• The nervous system’s role in rebuilding trust (and why your body has to go first)
• “Trust push-ups”: small, safe ways to start letting people in
• The surprising science behind why letting others help you is a gift to them
• How to hold both trust and strong boundaries without apology

You’ll also hear how I’ve reframed my ex as one of my greatest teachers, why I keep choosing to extend the benefit of the doubt, and how this belief has made me lighter, freer, and more powerful in my own life.

Your challenge this week: spot three moments a day when someone offers you help, kindness, or honesty—and see how it feels to let the world prove you right.

Because trusting strangers isn’t about being naïve. It’s about deciding you’re strong enough to handle whatever comes… and opening your life to a whole lot more good in the process.

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Divorce may be the end of a marriage, but it’s not the end of your becoming. In this episode, Quinn gets personal and powerful about what it’s like to go back to school in your 50s, what it means to reinvent your career and identity post-divorce, and why the idea that you’re “too old” or “too late” is a damn lie.

From brain science to time management, from limiting beliefs to midlife clarity—this episode is a love letter to every woman who’s felt the spark to try something new but shut herself down with fear or shame. If you've ever thought, "Who am I to go back to school now?"—this one's for you.

In this episode, Quinn shares:

• Why divorce is both tragedy and transformation—and how you get to choose how to use it
• The truth about adult neuroplasticity and how learning protects your mental health
• Personal stories of post-divorce reinvention (including her own!)
• Powerful resources to learn how to learn, including Barbara Oakley’s course and book recs
• Encouragement to start small and take just one step
• A rally cry to trust your timing, your brain, and your badass self

Resources Mentioned:

• Learning How to Learn – Barbara Oakley (Coursera)
• Mindshift and A Mind for Numbers by Barbara Oakley
• Feel Good Productivity by Ali Abdaal
• Ali Abdaal’s YouTube Channel
• The Learning Scientists
• Flashcard apps: Anki and Quizlet
• Make It Stick: The Science of Successful Learning by Peter C. Brown
• Notion study templates (if you’re techy like that)

Connect with Quinn:
Got a spark you’re ready to follow? Want to talk about going back to school or making a big life pivot?
💌 Email Quinn at [email protected]

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We’re diving into the real reason you feel stuck—and it’s not your ex, your job, or your dating life. It’s the story your brain is telling you on repeat.

Quinn shares a deeply personal moment with her ex-husband that triggered a cascade of thoughts… and how she used it as a powerful teaching moment. You'll learn how your brain is wired to protect you—not empower you—and what to do about it.

This episode will show you how to:

• Tell the difference between facts and the story your brain is spinning
• Recognize when your brain is being a lazy little liar
• Spot and interrupt confirmation bias (aka the Inner Mean Girl)
• Practice new, bold beliefs (even before you feel ready)
• Sit with discomfort and still move forward
• Steal confidence from one part of your life and use it somewhere scary

If you've ever wondered, "What if I'm just being delusional?" — this episode is your permission slip to believe the wild, juicy, freedom-filled version of your story.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

• [01:20] A tense moment with her ex—and why it’s not the facts that matter
• [07:40] How your brain filters reality like a shady Instagram lens
• [12:10] What pattern-seeking has to do with trauma and safety
• [19:45] Why your brain would rather be right than happy
• [25:00] The mental friction of believing something new (and why it’s worth it)
• [30:30] Two practical tools to rewire your beliefs
• [35:00] A loving kick in the ass for anyone afraid of “being wrong”

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking:
 “I’ll finally be okay when he apologizes.”
 “I’ll feel whole when I meet the right person.”
 “I just need closure…”

That, my friend, is what we call a healing fantasy—and this week’s episode is all about busting that myth wide open.

In this raw and revealing solo episode, Quinn explores the healing fantasy trap so many of us fall into post-divorce. Through personal stories, client breakthroughs, and the wisdom of thought leaders like Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, and Brené Brown, you'll uncover why waiting for external validation, rescue, or resolution delays your true healing.

Quinn walks you through how to step out of the fantasy and into your real power—right here, right now.

In this episode, we explore:

💔 What the "healing fantasy" is and why it keeps you stuck
 🔄 How we unconsciously delay our healing by waiting for someone else to change
 🧠 The real reason your ex’s apology wouldn’t actually change anything
 🪞 Why The Notebook is a dangerous lie—and Eat Pray Love is your new truth
🧘🏽‍♀️ Three practices to reclaim your present power: presence, vulnerability, and courage
💪 A five-step framework to begin healing right now
🎯 Client stories that show the difference between fantasy and true transformation

Power Quotes from the Episode:

Listener Challenge:

What’s your healing fantasy?
 Where are you waiting for something outside of you to fix something inside?

This week, call it out—and take one brave action to shift back into the present.

Mentioned in this Episode:

• The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
• Loving What Is by Byron Katie
• The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
• Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
• The Notebook by Nicholas Sparks
• The quote by Mel Robbins: “No one is coming.”

Connect with Quinn:

💌 Email: [email protected]

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“Straight people, are you okay?”
In part two of our electric conversation about The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward, Britta and Quinn leave behind history class and drop into the raw, personal reality of living inside a system not built for emotional or erotic fulfillment—especially for women.

💔 We go there:

• What it feels like to be in a marriage that deadens desire and gaslights your truth
• The silent epidemic of women waking up every day thinking, “I wish I was dead”
• Sex as performance vs. sex as presence—and how to tell the difference
• Why even “good guys” can’t save you from a bad system
• The double-bind of men and how patriarchy imprisons them too
• What straight women can learn from queer wisdom, radical community, and conscious pleasure

🎤 We confess:

• The rage, numbness, and exhaustion that haunted us before our glow-ups
• How our Mormon trad-wife pasts trained us to uphold patriarchy
• What finally woke us up—and how coaching, queerness, and community saved us

🌈 We offer:

• Four exit ramps from the tragedy of heterosexuality
• A new vision for relationships rooted in truth, consent, creativity, and community
• The hope that another way isn’t just possible—it’s already happening

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Is this it?”—this episode is your full-body YES to more.

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In this spicy, eye-opening episode, Quinn and Britta take a wild ride through the history and heartbreak of heterosexuality—inspired by Jane Ward’s brilliant book, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality.

They explore:

• 🕰️ The surprising history of how romantic heterosexual love was never the default—and how the invention of modern marriage was more about control than connection.
• 🧠 The role of patriarchy and capitalism in shaping straight relationships into something that often feels unsatisfying, especially for women.
• 💔 Why straight women often feel unseen, overworked, and under-loved—and why this isn’t a personal failure but a systemic issue.
• 💡 The internalized misogyny and benevolent sexism that still show up in modern dating and marriage.
• 🔥 Real talk from two  besties about the absurdity of relationships with straight men and why some women are saying, “I’m good, thanks.”

Plus: Stoic wisdom, messy laughter, personal stories, and truth bombs about the straight struggle. This one’s for our divorced divas, hetero skeptics, and anyone who’s ever asked: Is this really what love is supposed to feel like?

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It’s not magic. It’s muscle memory.
Quinn returns this week with a powerful message: your glow-up isn’t built in the moments of clarity—it’s built in the reps. Drawing from personal stories (including cult recovery, parenting nine kids, and coaching women post-divorce), they share how practicing calm, boundaries, and new emotional habits is the key to becoming who you really want to be.

In this episode:

• The science + stoicism behind “we don’t rise to our expectations, we fall to our training”
• What Beyoncé, Serena Williams, and your post-divorce life have in common
• How Quinn learned to be a calm parent after 12 years of yelling
• What emotional habits you’re unconsciously rehearsing
• How to teach kids to regulate and how to practice asking for what you want in love
• Powerful practices for boundary-setting, nervous system healing, and changing your self-concept

You’ll also get a weekly challenge to train for the version of you who thrives.

Quote of the episode:

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