The Pretender

Jay talks about personal life cycles and how his understanding his own 4 year life cycles have helped him embrace the transitions both in business and personal life. He also talks about the cycle of friends, the role the play in phases of life and letting go of people when their purpose has been fulfilled in your life. Finally, Jay addresses the impending shift of life that is dawning on his life as he hits another year 4.

Resources & Links:

Mark Moss' Pendulum theory

Strauss-Howe generational theory

Song Jay mentioned - God blessed the broken road

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In this special; Pete talks about fasting, Mental health, quitting alcohol and how he found a final home in Zambia.

Resources & Links:

Dr. Gabor mate

Book Jay mentioned (There is a City…There is a Temple - Elizha)

Mental Health

Fasting

Pete's favorite local snack

Quotable: "Humility comes from knowing that you don't have a home" -Pete

Show notes:

Fasting (5:00)

Quitting Alcohol (17:34)

Mental Health (34:10)

Finding a home in Zambia (1:05:43)

Jay's welcome tribute (1:22:45)

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Jay and his good friend Pete continue their conversation where they left off on plant based diet more about everything from parenting , permaculture homeschooling and much more.

Resources & Links:

Plant based diet

Permaculture

Geoff Lawton

Zaytuna farm

ACE homeschool curriculum

Solwezi, NW

Lusaka

Show notes:

Plant based diet (1:30)

Permaculture (7:30)

Homeschooling (25:00)

Homeschool and Socialization (46:40)

Podcast origins and what's next (55:45)

Jay's gift to listeners (1:15:58)

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In this episode of the Pretender, Jay talks to his good friend Pete about his experience leaving the corporate and western life to move to Africa, Pete shares about everything from parenting to plant based diet, permaculture and much more.

Resources & Links:

Plant based diet

Forks over knives

Chris Paul

Show notes:

Peter (1:37)

Moving to Africa (10:03)

Wife's role and strength (15:14)

Parenting and the stigma of stay at home dads (20.56)

Basketball/NBA (38:17)

Plant based diet (51:18)

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In this episode of the Pretender, Jay talks about social media, his little history with early social platforms and why he is not on social media anymore.

Resources & Links:

The messaging network itsmy

Waptrick

MySpace

Show notes:

Looking back on 2021 (1:42)

A/S/L (Age/Sex/Location) (5:05)

Facebook (11:42)

Disconnected (19.19)

Emojis and smileys (22:12)

LinkedIn (28:30)

Breaking out: (31:47)

Impact of social media (37:17)

Connect with real people (38:33)

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In this episode of the Pretender, Jay talks about the challenge of starting over when something doesn’t work…picking yourself up when you fall to try something else in your life (resilience)

Resources & Links:

The valley of bitterness, child loss and how I got free

The google blog platform

Word press

Show notes:

New beginnings are part of life (2:10)

There are no guarantees (5:05)

Starting over is messy (6:31)

Resilience (8:29)

Starting over for another child (10:41)

Starting over in my business (12:17)

Embrace starting over (14:35)

I called myself a novice and beginner (20:32)

The blog to the podcast (21:15)

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In this emotional episode of the Pretender, Jay talks about his struggle with bitterness after losing a child and how he got free.

Resources & Links:

Thi'sl

The song Be King

The Movie Saving Private Ryan

How a man handles miscarriage

Show notes:

Bitterness and resistance to let go (2:42)

Letting go with the help of my wife (6:08)

The throne I had is fallen here (8:11)

Forgiving yourself and others (12:29)

Child loss (13:50)

Ryan (15:58)

Being there for someone grieving (17:30)

This story is for you (20:12)

Bitterness is Pride (21:21)

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In this episode I talk about how following your own path or dream can be a lonely walk. How taking a different route in life brought experiences of loneliness, and how finding people with similar stories can be overwhelming. I share how I’ve dealt with these experiences.

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In this episode I talk about my experience in searching for a purpose and the meaning of life. I also touch on the views of some of my favorite philosophers on this subject, which Philosopher I think tops them all and some tips on how you can focus on the moments of life instead of searching the mysteries of life.

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In Part 2 of the Journey of an imposter, I talk about the reason we mask our struggles. I also address why and how our attitudes can be better to those who are brave and willing enough to share their struggles. Then I share why I do my best to not mask my struggles.

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