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Attunement is vital and essential in a marriage relationship. 

Attunement can be defined as "bringing into harmony." But for many of us, attunement wasn't a consistent experience in our family of origin. As a result, the lack of attunement can be a significant source of conflict and tension in marriage.

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer insight into the importance of attunement and how attunement can be cultivated and developed in your marriage relationship. 

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When we don't have access to our spouse's attention or focus, we can sometimes feel distress in our bodies. And, of course. It's such a natural and common relational experience in marriage. Yet, it can be a difficult tension in a marriage. 

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer listeners insight into how couples can navigate the lack of access well without perpetuating a sense of disconnection. 

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Each of us develops particular loyalties that protect us. Loyalties are often a strategy to relationally cope both in our early story and in our marriage. Yet our loyalties can inhibit connection and/or perpetuate disconnection. 

 Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer listeners an opportunity to become aware of how loyalty to our early experiences in our family of origin limits our core desire, which is to be seen and known by our spouse. 

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One of our four primary emotions is sadness. Sadness, unfortunately, is often met with judgment, whether from ourselves or our spouse/partner. And sometimes, when sadness is felt, it is met by an attempt to talk the other out of what they feel. 

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer a vulnerable reflection of common dynamics when sadness is experienced and what we need from the other when we feel sad.

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Contempt can be a disruptive and divisive force in marriage. It often reveals itself in the form of judgment and usually implies that one's thoughts, ideas, beliefs, and feelings are minimized. Contempt can become an embedded pattern for many couples experiencing a sense of disconnect and lack of emotional intimacy.

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer insight into how contempt reveals itself and helpful responses to our contempt that invite connection rather than perpetuate disconnection.

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Sometimes the emotional reactivity we have with our spouse is connected to the remembering of trauma which can cause significant distress. And when our body remembers the trauma/loss/heartache of what we have endured, we crave a presence from our spouse that reminds us we are not alone in the remembering. 

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer insight into how trauma reveals itself in particular interactions in our marriage and how we might offer helpful responses to one another when trauma that is stored in our body reveals itself.

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Trauma is part of each couple's story. Meaning, each individual brings a story of trauma into marriage and for many couples, there is trauma within their marriage. We may not be aware that our emotional responses to our spouse are often connected to the trauma we have endured.  Sometimes the trauma in our body is remembered, felt, and re-experienced and the way in which it reveals itself in marriage can create significant disruption.  

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer insight into how trauma reveals itself in particular interactions in our marriage and how we might offer helpful responses to one another when trauma that is stored in our body reveals itself. 

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Sometimes we can't be what our spouse needs. Sometimes we don't know what to say or how to respond to our spouse's needs. And often, we don't know how to react or what to say. And sometimes, in not knowing, we may communicate that what our spouse needs is too much or off limits. 
Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer a unique perspective on how to respond to our spouse when we are unsure of what they need or what could be helpful.

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Conflict can certainly be difficult for most couples. Conflict is common and familiar and can be a stuck point that can perpetuate disconnection. In conflict, many couples are reenacting their family of origin experiences, and avoiding conflict is avoiding intimacy. So what is the goal or hope of conflict?

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer a thoughtful and engaging conversation about how couples can navigate conflict that leads to greater intimacy, awareness, and understanding. 

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Internal scripts are part of how we navigate the relational world of marriage. Internal scripts are what we say to ourselves regarding an event and experience and often can create a sense of disconnect relationally. Sometimes, we aren't aware of our internal scripts and the role or impact they can play.   

Join  Dr. Steve and Lisa Call in a conversation on becoming aware of internal scripts and how they can impact relational dynamics.