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Each of us desires to be known and seen by our spouse.  Sometimes we develop strategies and ways of being known and seen by our spouse and strategies and coping responses when we experience being unseen and unknown.  Often this struggle can be the undercurrent of the tension in marriage.

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call explore in depth how the desire to be seen and known can lead to a hopeful connection in marriage.

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Our body remembers events and experiences from the past, especially experiences in our family of origin.  And sometimes our emotional responses to our spouse can be related to something being remembered in our story. Our body gives us clues to what we might be feeling and what we might be remembering from our past, from our story.  

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer some reflections, insight, and ways to engage one another well when our body remembers something that is familiar from the past that is being remembered and reacted to in the present.

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How we respond to our spouse's need, desire, request, and hope plays such a significant role in what happens next.   Yet a common experience in marriage is one of dismissal and even judgment. Often, we believe we can respond to our spouse's request with a sense of frustration or even irritation. 

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer some helpful insight and reflection into common dynamics that can create a sense of disconnection and what might help us in those moments.

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Awareness offers the key to understanding difficult moments in our marriage. Awareness can help us make sense of what's happening in moments of tension, hurt, and disappointment and awareness can lead to repair.

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer a conversation on how awareness can be such a helpful relational tool when couples struggle in a moment of misunderstanding, hurt, disappointment, and/or frustration. 

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Intentional curiosity can be such a connective tissue for couples in moments and experiences of disconnection. Often when we feel frustrated or irritated with our spouse's behavior, we turn away or we become more bothered and/or more irritated. Sometimes our spouse's behavior is communicating something and we can't quite make sense of what's happening. 

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer some helpful insight into how couples can embrace the connective experience of intentional curiosity. 

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Withdrawing from our spouse is common in marriage and sometimes it can be difficult to navigate well.  Sometimes one withdraws as a way to cope with the helplessness one feels when feeling overwhelmed, yet the withdraw can cause significant distress for the other.

Join Dr. Steve and Lisa Call for a conversation into understanding the relational dynamics that contribute to the common withdraw pattern that occurs for couples and helpful ways to navigate the withdraw well.

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Sadness can often feel off-limits, and we usually try to avoid feeling and expressing sadness.  Sometimes we aren't sure what our spouse needs when sadness is present and we aren't sure how to respond.  What do we need when we feel sad?  Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call have a conversation about helpful ways to navigate and stay present to our spouse's sadness. 

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Sometimes in our marriage relationship, we can feel like we are too much and/or not enough. Often there is a longing for more intimacy, more emotion, or more connection, and in that longing, there can be a sense for the other that they aren't enough.

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call validate the struggle that couples often experience in the not enough/too much interaction and helpful ways to navigate the interaction.

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 Validation is an essential relational ingredient.  It's an essential relational ingredient in the midst of a different idea, thought, belief, and/or feeling between spouses. Validation is the intentional reflection that what our spouse is experiencing is valid.  Yet the lack of validation implies to your spouse that what they are thinking or feeling is less than or doesn't matter.  

Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa Call offer some helpful insight and strategies into how we navigate validation well in moments of difference and conflict. 

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Couples often struggle with the experience of repair. It can be a difficult process to navigate for so many reasons. And the inability to repair can perpetuate disconnection. The lack of repair is often connected to the resistance to repair.  
Listen in as Dr. Steve and Lisa have a thoughtful and hopeful conversation that provides insight into how couples can repair well when experiencing hurt, frustration, silence, withdrawal, or some form of disengagement and disconnect.