When you quit drinking you feel better, you feel pain better, anger better, shame better, all the things you were numbing out. You will also feel joy, love, happiness better.

Life can throw you some curve balls. Knowing yourself, knowing how to take care of yourself is more important than ever.

I’m not saying your vision board and affirmations aren’t useful, but they are just part of the way. Listen to find out what really works when you have a goal – like sobriety you need to achieve. In this podcast, I talk about the book Rethinking Positive Thinking by Gabrielle Oettingen and the WOOP process – Wish, Outcome, […]

Life isn’t always rainbows and unicorns, sometimes it’s hard and heartbreaking and you have no idea how to cope. Listen for some simple, easy to use tools for the times when you don’t know what to do.

Do you ever think you could be happier if your life were easier? If you didn’t have to endure so much pain? Listen to find out why that’s not necessarily true.

Are you telling yourself you can’t do something? Are you telling yourself a story about you, your life, the people in your life that is actually bull? Hold that story up to the light and decide if it is keeping you small and stuck, and if it’s time to do something about it.

Loving-kindness meditation is a self-care technique that can be used to boost well-being and reduce stress. Regularly practicing loving-kindness meditation will increase your capacity for forgiveness, connection to others, self-acceptance, and more. This technique is easy to practice and can provide a sense of calm in minutes. During a loving-kindness meditation, you focus benevolent and […]

We all experience trauma, we all feel shame, we all can also think that’s it’s hopeless, that there is no point in even trying to dig out from behind the facade. This is not true.

With 28years of sobriety between us Patti and I talk about our lives with and without alcohol, getting sober with young children, within marriages and navigating a demanding career. We talk about consequences and circumstances that led us to sobriety and the lives that we led since. We talk about shame, friendship, poetry, and the […]

Our attention is a valuable thing in an overstimulating world. When we allow our attention and our focus to be drawn randomly from one external stimulus to another we lose the small wise voice of our own inner intelligence. Stop for a breath. Pause. Decide what is worth your attention.