The Relationship Babe

The Relationship Babe

By Jess WilkinEducationSelf-Improvement
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The Relationship Babe episodes

  • How to get yourself out of debt!

    This is a no sugar-coat episode where we get real and talk about some steps you can take to get yourself out of debt. 

    After living with a revolving $8,500 credit card debt, I got pissed because I was getting nowhere. This episode has practical steps to help you become aware and take action for yourself. Because credit card companies won't advocate for you, you have to. 

    Here's a link to my Dave Ramsey post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CDkTMnkl6_P/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link 

    Take Action: 

    1) Enter your details at this free app 

    https://www.everydollar.com/app/sign-in 

    2) Determine how long it will take you to pay off your balance (this one stings a little). 

    https://www.bankrate.com/finance/credit-cards/credit-card-payoff-calculator/ 

    3) Get pissed. It's ok to be frustrated. Let that fuel you! 

    4) Find a tracking tool to use to track every payment you make. You can use everydollar but I found I liked a simple excel file better. 

    5) Take action and track it! Every extra dollar, birthday money (yep, grammy's $30 goes towards your debt), sell some shit if you have to, and put it towards paying off your debt! 

    *I am not an expert or providing financial advice and I cannot guarantee this method will work for you. I use my own personal experiences to provide you with the steps I personally took to get to where I am today. Remember, I can help pave the road for you, whether you want it to be a dirt or rock road, but if you do nothing with it, that's your own asphalt. 


    25 min
  • Step 2: JOIN OUR COACH TEAM PAGES

    Request to join in Stronger Together Coaches and introduce yourself with a pic and a short bio. I promise you’ll fall in love with our community!  I also host a Team Benefitness Tribe coach page, just for us. Join it and check off the box on your 10 Step Checklist when you're done!

    3 min
  • How to stop the self sabotaging
    Self sabotaging can reek havoc on your mindset. Here are my own tips to help you take proactive steps to be a better you!
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    11 min
  • Comparison - what to do when you find yourself over analyzing all your life choices?

    Have you ever had someone change jobs unexpectedly or get a divorce and you find yourself re-evaluating all your life choices?

    This is exactly how my brain works so when I learned that my go-to power couple was getting a divorce last year I was like, "Wait, what?" I thought they were happy. Shit. Am I happy?"

    Anyone else do this weird over analyzation of their life? Ok… glad I'm not alone.

    This morning I found myself checking out an IG account I hadn't seen in a while. She was the person who inspired me to start a podcast and I couldn't help but think about what she was up to. I opened up her stories to hear her drop a bomb. She had left the company we both work for. Dude… she was a successful (in my eyes) 6 figure earner. I was moved to chills (not tears, cause I'm not a crier) when I heard her speak a few years ago. This change had me go from a leisurely brain break from work to analyzing if I need to switch careers.

    Here are some tips to get through the "whoa. Do I need to make a move too?"

    1. Sit with the change. What will it feel like? What will it look like? How will you go about your day if ___ wasn't a part of it any longer?
    2. This is super generic and in my head, a bit "old school" but… make a pros/cons list. Get out your Trapper Keeper, draw a line down the middle of the page and GO!
    3. Know that you are not your thoughts. I started listening to a book called "Untethered Soul". I was moved add to cart while sitting in the waiting room at the doctor's office when my mom had a breast cancer re-evaluation. The idea that "We are not our thoughts" intrigued me because I've had some pretty fucked up thoughts before. Smothering my husband with a pillow to muffle the snoring and analyzing how I would get away with murder. What would my kids think of me knowing I killed their dad. Are our life insurance policies up to date. You know, the usual. What in the actual EFF. I am a terrible person! No. You are not a terrible person you are NORMAL. Okay… back to thoughts. To be honest, this book was too abstract for me to wrap my mind around and the narrator bored me to tears (really this time) so I stopped listening. BUT I still think about that phrase often as my husband snores after lying down only 2 minutes and 27 seconds earlier. Instead, I reach for my earplugs.
    4. In some situations, you just gotta make the move!
      5. 18 min
    9. "Live in the moment, but sometimes you need to be forward thinking"
      A year ago hugs and high fives were a thing nobody thought twice about. I miss them both. I miss teaching cycling and the gym. Not having to question vacations. I miss watching my kids play sports and not having to think about contact tracing... but I don't miss my commute. Or having to pack my food, workout clothes, laptop, and rush the kids to school Monday-Friday. I also don't miss the weight I gained around the holidays that were holding on through St. Patty's day weekend. I knew that if we were going to have to "stay home" I wasn't going to let the excuses of not going to the gym stop me. I knew I needed control before I spiraled and found myself wrist deep in the nutella jar again. 🙄
      12 min

    About The Relationship Babe

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    Welcome to The Relationship Babe podcast. Where I am to help you build and maintain healthy, fulfilling connections with those around you. I'm here to provide you with guidance, personalized insights,…