Silent agreements tend to lurk in the background, shaping behavior without ever being named. In this episode, we dig into how to identify these unspoken norms by observing team patterns, listening to fringe voices, and asking the right questions. Whether it’s the awkward pause when someone challenges leadership or the universal shrug at missed deadlines, these quiet agreements are powerful—and sometimes toxic. I’ll walk you through practical strategies for surfacing them, evaluating their impact, and preparing your team for change.

This episode builds on ideas from my new book, Human Resources for the Soul: Managing the Human in You, available now on Amazon. If you're ready to lead with more clarity, courage, and emotional intelligence, it's a must-read.

Stay tuned for Part 3, where we’ll bring these ideas to life with real-world case studies from the field—messy, eye-opening, and refreshingly honest.

Ever walked into a meeting and just knew not to speak up — even though no one told you not to? Welcome to the world of silent agreements: the unspoken rules that shape everything from who gets promoted to who makes the coffee. In this episode of The Resolution Room, host Robert Holmes peels back the layers of these hidden norms, exploring how they form, what impact they have on workplace culture, and why they often go unchallenged. With real-life examples from corporate, nonprofit, and government settings, you'll learn how to spot these stealthy behaviors, understand their influence, and — most importantly — renegotiate the rules to build healthier, more transparent teams.

Grab a coffee (and remember to refill the pot), because this one’s a culture check you didn’t know you needed.

In this episode of The Resolution Room, host Robert M. Holmes—HR strategist, coach, and author of Human Resources for the Soul—dives into the complicated space where mental health language and HR buzzwords get twisted into tools for dodging responsibility.

From “I’m protecting my peace” to “This place is toxic” and “I’m burnt out,” we explore how valid concepts like boundaries, burnout, and psychological safety can be misused in ways that paralyze teams and frustrate leaders. Through real-life stories, expert insights, and a few HR horror tales, Robert breaks down the difference between self-care and self-sabotage, and why compassion and accountability must go hand in hand.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between honoring someone’s well-being and holding them accountable—or wondered how to lead a team where “wellness” doesn’t become a weapon—this episode is for you.

In this follow-up to our eye-opening first episode, we shift from awareness to action. If you’ve ever wondered how to lead with empathy without sacrificing accountability, this one’s for you.

Host Robert Holmes breaks down what it means to build a trauma-informed workplace—from leadership behaviors and HR policies to small daily practices that help employees feel seen, safe, and supported. You’ll learn the principles behind trauma-informed leadership, explore how psychological safety transforms team performance, and hear practical strategies that any organization can implement—no therapy degree required.

Whether you’re an HR professional, a people manager, or just someone who cares about creating a better workplace, this episode offers concrete steps to reduce harm, boost trust, and lead with humanity. Because when people feel safe, they don’t just survive at work—they thrive.

In this powerful first installment of a two-part series, host Robert Holmes dives deep into a workplace issue that’s often invisible but highly impactful: trauma. Not just the big, obvious kind—but the subtle, long-lasting effects of unresolved emotional wounds that quietly show up in emails, meetings, and missed deadlines.

Robert unpacks how trauma affects performance, communication, and conflict on the job — from overreactions to feedback, to shutting down during meetings, to that mysterious coworker who always seems one spreadsheet away from a breakdown. With expert insights, relatable real-world scenarios, and (as always) a dash of humor, this episode peels back the layers of workplace behavior and asks us to consider: what if that “difficult” colleague isn’t difficult… but just deeply human?

If you’re a leader, manager, HR professional, or just a curious soul who’s ever wondered, “Why do people act like that at work?” — this one’s for you.

🎧 Tune in to learn:

• The science behind trauma’s hidden impact on job performance
• How unresolved stress shapes communication and conflict
• Why understanding trauma isn’t “therapy talk”—it’s leadership 101

🛠️ Stay tuned for Part 2, where we flip the script and focus on actionable solutions for trauma-informed leadership and policy.

In Part 2 of our microaggressions series, we move beyond definitions and dive into real-world examples. Robert Holmes unpacks how addressing microaggressions requires individual mindfulness, interpersonal courage, and an organizational culture that walks the talk. Learn how daily practices of respect and inclusion create workplaces where people feel seen, heard, and valued.

In this episode of The Resolution Room, host Robert Holmes delves into the subtle yet impactful world of workplace microaggressions. Often dismissed as minor or unintentional, these everyday slights can accumulate, leading to significant psychological and organizational consequences. Robert unpacks the various forms microaggressions take—be they racial, gender-based, or related to ability—and distinguishes them from overt discrimination. Through real-world examples and evidence-based strategies, listeners will gain insights into recognizing, addressing, and mitigating microaggressions in professional settings. Whether you're an HR professional, leader, or team member, this episode offers practical tools to foster a more inclusive and respectful workplace.

Hey everyone, welcome back to The Resolution Room, the podcast where conflicts aren’t problems—they’re growth opportunities in disguise! I’m your host, Robert Holmes, your trusty conflict resolution coach and emotional intelligence enthusiast. Today, we're tackling something crucial: Emotional Intelligence, and how mastering it can literally transform the way you handle conflict in your life, at work, and even with your in-laws! (Just kidding!)

Welcome to Resolving Conflict – How to Speak to People I’m Coach Holmes from RMH and today, we’re wrapping up our series with one of the most powerful perspectives on conflict—turning disagreements into opportunities for growth.

Most people see conflict as a problem to avoid, but what if we reframed that way of thinking? What if, instead of something negative, we saw conflict as a chance for innovation, stronger relationships, and personal development?

Welcome to The Resolution Room, I’m Robert Holmes and today we’re tackling an issue that affects every professional environment—workplace conflict.

Disagreements at work are inevitable. Whether it’s a misunderstanding with a coworker, a personality clash, or a dispute over responsibilities, how we handle these conflicts determines our success and  either creates a positive workplace culture or destroys it.