The Salty Goddess

Avoidance has receipts, darling, and in this episode, we are opening the books.

In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret continues the three-part arc on avoidant behavior patterns with Episode 2: the audit. Last week defined avoidance and explained how avoidant behaviors often begin as protection. This week asks the harder question: what is avoidance costing you?

Avoidance may provide temporary relief, emotional distance, control, and a short-term sense of safety, but that relief is not free. Avoiding hard conversations, intimacy, decisions, accountability, apologies, boundaries, responsibility, visibility, or necessary endings can cost you trust, closeness, leadership credibility, opportunity, repair, peace, and time.

This episode walks listeners through how to audit themselves and their court. Where does avoidance show up? What are you calling it instead? Are you truly keeping the peace, setting boundaries, processing, being strategic, or staying private, or are you avoiding discomfort and letting your ego guard the cell door?

Anne Margaret also challenges listeners to examine the people around them: who benefits from your silence, lack of boundaries, conflict avoidance, overwhelm, or unwillingness to grow? Who mirrors avoidance back to you? Who triggers your automatic withdrawal? Who is harmed by your silence, defensiveness, delay, or refusal to repair?

This is not a shame spiral. It is not self-attack. It is not an excuse parade. It is evidence collection.

Because avoidance does not just protect you from discomfort. It delays honesty, blocks repair, damages trust, weakens leadership, starves intimacy, and convinces you that silence, distance, and delay are the same thing as peace.

They are not.

If you have ever avoided a conversation, used busyness as an excuse, called discomfort “peace,” let family history override healthy boundaries, delayed accountability, or stayed in dysfunction because walking away felt too hard, this episode will hand you the mirror with just enough salt to make it useful.

Audit thyself. Audit thy court. And stop spending your most valuable currency on people, patterns, and prisons that have NEVER served you.

Avoidance is sneaky. It does not always look like running away. Sometimes it looks like being busy, private, independent, calm, logical, low-maintenance, professional, or “above the drama.”

But what if the thing you keep calling peace is actually avoidance? What if that boundary language, emotional distance, busyness, or polished self-control is not protecting your peace, but in fact helping you build your own prison?

In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret begins a new three-part arc on avoidant behavior patterns. This first episode is the assessment: what avoidant behaviors are, why people develop them, and what avoidance does for the person who uses it.

This is not a diagnostic conversation and it is not medical advice. This episode explores the very human ways people avoid discomfort, vulnerability, conflict, commitment, intimacy, feedback, decisions, success, uncertainty, grief, joy, accountability, and repair.

Avoidance often begins as protection. Maybe emotional needs were dismissed. Maybe conflict felt unsafe. Maybe vulnerability was used against you. Maybe being low-maintenance earned approval. Maybe success, visibility, love, or healing created too much risk.

But the strategy that protected you in one season can imprison you in another.

This episode asks the essential question:

Are you protecting your peace, or avoiding discomfort while your ego stands guard at the cell door?

If you have ever avoided a hard conversation, delayed a decision, refused to ask for help, stayed in potential instead of action, ghosted your own growth, or called emotional distance “keeping your peace,” this episode will hand you the mirror with just enough salt to make it useful.

Avoidance is a prison, not peace. Your ego is the warden.

Next week, the arc continues with the audit: how to determine whether avoidance is costing you connection, trust, leadership, intimacy, confidence, and your most valuable currency — time.

Salty warning: this episode is 65 minutes long. That is not a mistake. That is a masterclass and you are  welcome, it is also free!  Hydrate, pack a snack, adjust your crown, plan a bathroom break, do the work!

In this extended episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret closes the confidence versus ego arc with the action phase: how to move from being ego-led to confidence-led, how to build real confidence through evidence and practice, and how to handle people who refuse to grow even after you have led them directly to the Fountain of Confidence.

This episode breaks down five practical behaviors for personal growth: telling the truth faster, practicing clean accountability, building competence on purpose, regulating before responding, and keeping small promises to yourself. Anne Margaret explains why confidence is not a mood, a performance, or a motivational slogan, it is a practiced way of life built through self-trust, evidence, repetition, accountability, and emotional regulation.

The episode also explores how to lead ego-led people toward confidence without becoming their therapist, emotional valet, self-esteem witness, or unpaid maturity consultant. You will learn how to model confidence-led behavior, correct behavior without attacking identity, ask better questions, reinforce progress, hold boundaries, and recognize when someone refuses to drink from the fountain.

And when they refuse? You stop overexplaining. You stop confusing potential with pattern. You adjust access. You stop rescuing them from consequences. You release the assignment.

Because confidence is not just knowing who you are. Confidence is knowing what behavior earns access, and what behavior gets escorted back to the gate.

In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret moves from recognition into the full Audit: how to determine whether you are being led by ego or confidence, and whether you have allowed ego-led people too much access to your life.

This episode breaks down the difference between ego-led behavior and confidence-led behavior, including how people respond to correction, conflict, criticism, comparison, boundaries, apologies, success, accountability, and vulnerability. Anne Margaret explains why ego protects image while confidence protects integrity, and why self-awareness without action is nothing more than performative emotional fanfare.

But this audit does not stop with you. This episode also introduces the Court Access Model: the throne room, inner court, outer court, gate, and outside the Queendom. Because not everyone deserves access to your time, energy, peace, strategy, vulnerability, dreams, or nervous system. Access is earned by behavior, not history, title, guilt, obligation, or proximity.

If you have ever wondered whether you are confidence-led or ego-led, whether someone in your circle is safe with access, or whether it is time to demote someone from the throne room to the gate, this episode is your mirror, your audit, and your royal permission slip to adjust access accordingly.

Core question:

Confidence and ego are not the same damn thing, and arrogance is not confidence with better shoes.

In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret kicks off a new recognition-assessment-audit-execution arc by breaking down the difference between confidence-led and ego-led behavior. Confidence is grounded in self-trust, competence, accountability, and the ability to be corrected without collapsing. Ego, on the other hand, is often image protection, emotional armor, and the desperate need to be seen favorably.

This episode explores why ego is not always evil, how trauma, shame, invalidation, fear, and repeated emotional unsafety can create ego-led behavior, and how confidence is built through evidence, mastery, failure, recovery, and self-respect. Anne Margaret also explains the difference between confidence, ego, arrogance, insecurity, and self-esteem, because words matter, darling, and we are not letting performative nonsense run around unsupervised.

If you have ever wondered whether you are operating from self-trust or self-protection, this episode will help you recognize which internal operating system is running your mouth, your reactions, your relationships, and your life.

This week’s recognition question:

If you ran the audit and thought that was the hard part, think again.

In this episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret breaks down the brutal truth most people avoid: awareness is not transformation! Execution is.

You’ve already identified the people, patterns, and behaviors draining your time, energy, and peace. Now comes the part that separates high performers from everyone else, making decisions and taking action.

This episode dives into:

If you’re still hesitating, delaying, or overthinking, here is your wake-up call.

Run the audit… or don’t. Either way, you chose the outcome.

🎯 Perfect for high achievers, entrepreneurs, healthcare professionals, and anyone ready to stop tolerating low-return environments and start executing with intention.

Run the audit… or DON’T. Either way, you chose the outcome.

Let’s stop pretending you don’t know what needs to change.

In this unapologetically direct episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret Perry walks you through the ROI Audit: a powerful framework designed to evaluate the real return on investment of your:

Because whether you like it or not:

Everything in your life is costing you time.

And not everything is worth what you’re paying.

Identify three people or situations.

Run the audit.

Because waiting doesn’t create clarity.

It reinforces the problem.

You are not broke.

You are hemorrhaging time.

And most of it is being wasted on people, patterns, and behaviors that produce absolutely zero return on investment.

In this unapologetically direct episode of The Salty Goddess Podcast, Anne Margaret Perry delivers a hard truth most people avoid:

This episode dives deep into:

And most importantly:

A perspective that will stop you in your tracks:

Life is not measured in years… but in seasons.

When you realize someone had only 55 springs, 55 summers, 55 autumns, and 55 winters…

Even 100 seasons wouldn’t be enough.

So why are you wasting even a fraction of yours?

This episode is dedicated to Piper, my Princess Piobaire, whose time was spent fully, loyally, and without wasted investment.

When someone shows you who they are through patterns, behaviors, and consistency:

Some of y’all don’t have a workplace problem…

In this unapologetic, fireside truth session, Anne Margaret—The Salty Goddess—calls out the real reasons people stay stuck professionally in 2026.

And spoiler alert?

It’s you.

Inside this episode:

Why workplace flirting, “soft power,” and manipulation scream insecurity—not influence

How repeating the same behaviors guarantees the same chaotic outcomes

The harsh truth about leaders who gossip (hint: they’re not leaders—they’re liabilities)

Why lack of gratitude is a career killer

The uncomfortable reality of people who critique everything but fix nothing

How toxic workplace culture is often created—and sustained—by behavior, not circumstance

This episode is not gentle.

🎙️ Expect:

If you’ve ever wondered:

Why you’re not getting promoted

Why workplace environments feel toxic

Why leadership feels broken

Or why nothing seems to change…

This is your mirror.

Because over here?

We do behavioral correction.

So go ahead—get uncomfortable.

Growth lives there.

Grab your drink, clutch your pearls, and prepare to get historically corrected.

In this unapologetic Saint Patrick’s Day special, Anne Margaret—The Salty Goddess—throws green beer, plastic leprechauns, and performative nonsense straight into the fire and delivers the real story of the Irish.

We’re talking:

Ancient Ireland being smarter than half the world (yes, older than the pyramids)

Saint Patrick not even being Irish (and definitely not a snake assassin 🐍)

The brutal truth behind the Great Irish Famine (spoiler: not just potatoes, and yes—people starved while food was exported)

Irish immigrants arriving in America to signs that literally said “No Irish Need Apply”… and then building the damn country anyway

How the Irish went from unwanted outsiders to running cities, dominating first responder professions, and shaping American culture

This is not your Pinterest version of Ireland.

If you’ve ever:

Celebrated Saint Patrick’s Day without knowing what the hell you’re celebrating

Thought Irish culture started with shamrocks and ended with whiskey

Or needed a reminder that history is messy, brutal, and badass as hell

Then this episode is for you.

🎙️ Expect:

So pour your Jamo, sit your ass down, and let The Salty Goddess educate and entertain you at the same damn time.

Because we don’t do surface-level over here…