Connected Families Podcast

The Science Behind Building Unshakeable Kids


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Dr. Nicole Wilke is back in this episode to explore another layer of building resilience in kids–affirming character development. Dr. Wilke shares practical wisdom on speaking healing words to our children and fostering resilience through appropriate levels of challenge and support. In addition, Stacy highlights how you can use the ABC’s of Affirmation tool to practice what the Bible and brain science teach us about resilience.

Key Takeaways:
  • Creating margin and proper rhythms can help you speak more wisely
  • Challenges build resilience when paired with appropriate support
  • Focus on one character trait at a time as a family
  • Model the character you want to see, including confession when you fall short
  • Affirm success and help your children understand the “why” behind character development
  • Mentioned in this podcast:
    • ABC’s of Affirmation PDF download
    • Dr. Wilke’s book: Overcoming: What Scripture and Science Say About Resilience
    • Ep 201 | Overcoming: How Adversity, Challenges & Childhood Trauma Can Shape Our Children in Positive Ways
    • Proverbs 12:18
    • James 1:12
    • Galatians 6:9
    • Galatians 5:22
    • 1 Thessalonians 5:18
    • Check out our website for more resources to support your parenting!

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      Guest Bio:

      Nicole Wilke, Ph.D., is a researcher, missionary, author, and marriage and family therapist dedicated to improving care for vulnerable children and families globally. She currently serves as Director of the Christian Alliance for Orphans’ Center on Applied Research for Vulnerable Children and Families, bridging research and practice to improve care for vulnerable children and families around the globe. Her passion for this work stems from her family’s experience with adoption and fostering. Having lived on four continents, Nicole currently resides with her family in Peru, where they work to improve the system for children in alternative care.

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