The Self-Aware Millennial

On this week's episode, J.Mix is joined by Destani Simone and Thérèse Green to unpack their thoughts on being unhitched and child-free black women! They discuss the pressures imposed on society and their peers to get married and have children and confront why they have not reached the next milestone. J.Mix expounds on her annoyances with "sheeple" who are only getting married and having kids to fulfill a conditioned expectation. Destani toys between wanting to get married out of love and/or out of financial stability. And Thérèse has a message for parents who claim to know everything about their children.

Other things discussed:
Why do folks cry at weddings, Societal pressures of getting married while black, Origins of marriage vs. Marriage in 2020, J.Mix's unresolved annoyance with Engagement/Wedding/Pregnacy/Birth announcements, Overpopulation, Parents who desire freedom from childrearing responsibilities, and so much more!

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After concluding Episode 24's colorism discussion, J.Mix and Bats extend their conversation by conveniently diving into recapping information discussed in Episode 23: Nonmonogamy for DUMMIES. If this convo resonates with you, give it some stars on Apple Podcasts :)

Some of the topics discussed:
Why folks get married knowing their chances of divorce is 50/50, Will + Jada's "entanglement," Cheating as a passage to accepting nonmonogamy, Men having a harder time with getting cheated on than women, having sex without committing to a relationship, The trials of falling for someone that isn't your primary partner. Etc.

Disclaimer: We discuss some mature themes and sensitive subjects regarding marriage that may or may not sit well with people who are not open to understanding the non-monogamous perspective on relationships. Please understand that J.Mix and Bats come with nothing but love and want their self-awareness to be shared amongst listeners who are open-minded to understanding their perspective.

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AND be sure to check out Bats and J.Mix on the latest episode (106) of
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On this week's episode, J.Mix is joined by two sensational NOLA actors, Monica R. Harris, and Martin "Bats" Bradford to discuss the perils of colorism in America, more specifically in New Orleans, where it runs unapologetically rampant in the black community. (SIDE NOTE: Colorism IS, in fact, underlined in red because it is, apparently not considered a real word.) They also discuss "light skin privilege" and why it should be taken with the same severity as the BLM Movement's efforts to address the existence of white privilege. The trio, furthermore, touch on how light-skinded BIPOC individuals can utilize their strengths to elevate the voices of their melanin-rich brothas and sisters. AND they explore their individual privileges and strengths in combating colorism in the BIPOC community.
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Somehow J.Mix got six months into this podcast without discussing this week's subject matter in detail. This week, J.Mix is joined by Dylan Trần to give a crash course into the beautiful monster that is Nonmonogamy. This episode is specifically catered to our TSAM friends who are curious about the lifestyle and want an organized layout into what it takes to successfully transition to multiple partnerships AND overcome the biggest monster that keeps most folks from dipping their toes into the nonmonogamy pool: JEALOUSY.

J.Mix + Dylan also address all of the common nonmonogamy terms that get incorrectly defined such as polyamory + polygamy, and open relationship + monogamish.
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Lastly, the two spread love on their personal experiences being nonmonogamous with their respective sexual partners in true, open, transparent, nonmonogamous dialogue that they hope inspires and alleviates the misconceptions and negative feats inhibited about the lifestyle by society.
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Nonmonogamy Recommendations/Resources:


1) "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
2) "Sex at Dawn" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
3) "Sapiens" by Yuval Noah Harari
4) "Explained" S1. Ep.3 (Monogamy) on Netflix
5) Subreddits: r/nonmonogamy & r/polyamory

Read J.Mix's Article "My Relationship With Open Relationships" on It's Not Too Complicated's website by visiting:
https://www.itsnottoocomplicated.com/blog/my-relationship-with-open-relationships-a-guest-piece-from-jessica-mixon

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On this week's episode of The Self-Aware Millennial, J.Mix is joined by THE Qween B. Amor to discuss Qween's revolutionary journey to self-awareness. Qween reflects on her evolving experiences as an active trans-queer performing artist who serves the social justice community through dance and her unapologetic use of her body and religious iconography at national rallies and protests around the country. They discuss their first celebrity crushes, why cis white men need to step up in the revolution, the importance of signing the LGBTQ+ Protections Act, and so so SO much more!
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https://www.change.org/p/the-house-of-representatives-the-lgbtq-protections-act-2458f818-31ca-4483-8f8e-2d510ff3791e?utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=custom_url&recruited_by_id=ad4bb060-1a94-0130-a13f-38ac6f16cbb1
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Special shout-out to the House of Tulip @HouseOfTulipNO (IG)
and @Southern_Solidarity (IG) for giving back to our community members who are most in need.
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National Queer & Trans Therapists of Color Network: https://www.nqttcn.com/
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On this week's episode, J.Mix is joined by Cameron Ware and Lauren Turner as they discuss the ins and outs of being black theatre makers in the city of New Orleans at this moment in time. In solidarity with the black brothers and sisters that share their sentiments about the consistent grapple with predominately white institutions around the country, they all discuss their personal grievances with predominately white NOLA theatres such as Summer Lyric, JPAS, Southern Rep, and Rivertown.

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The three also explore what has come to light on the Living Document of BIPOC Experiences in the NOLA Theatre. They discuss what needs to happen in BIPOC communities in order to move forward with AND without the assistance or support from PWIs.

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Click here to view the Living Doc of BIPOC Experiences in the New Orleans Area Theatre:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Bgeq4C4_Hid_F0yqWKO-nmAQA5d7HvUQWyxPH6ZEyLk/edit?fbclid=IwAR1229aty7Tk4U-uz1ymsyDFSw2bkPHlA3jMf6LbP09sB4KvcGE_lD_otis

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On this week's episode of TSAM, J.Mix is joined by NOLA's beloved showgirl, Ariana Amour, to discuss this month's ongoing conversation about implicit biases behind sexual preferences towards transness. They give their praises to the Black Trans Lives Matter movement and Ariana enlightens J.Mix with a detailed summary of her astrology birth chart. Other topics covered: Self-accountability, Female vs. Woman, Dick obsession, Astrology popularity amongst Millennials, Elder black community's implicit biases towards the LGBTQ+ community, and much more!
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and Explore their Linktr.ee for more insight on how to get involved and support their mission.
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Qween Amor has begun a petition called the LGBTQ Protections Act.
Follow her IG @qweenamor and sign her petition so that all acts of violence against lesbian, gay, bi, trans and queer men and women will be federally considered hate crimes and punishable by law under local hate crime statutes.
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QUICK PSA: If you're only here to hear the "Entanglements" portion of our conversation, please consider reminding your friends and followers that the cops who murdered Breonna Taylor have YET to be arrested... and then... you have our consent to scroll to 56:00.
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In continuation with "Self-Accountability Month" J.Mix sits down remotely with roommates Julie Dietz and Megan Whittle to explore their histories with racial fetishization and how it compares and contrasts to their innate attraction to other races. On the contrary, all three compare their own encounters with folks non-consensually fetishizing their bodies in comparison to the model race that represents that specific fetish.
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J.Mix also sheds light on how she, as a black woman, can tell if someone is fetishizing her versus if they are showing genuine attraction. The three ladies also discuss (IG) @alexand_erleon 's excellent post on Sexual Racism and Erika Hart's (IG) @ihartericka  mind-boggling Facebook Status on the dangers of having a "preference" in dating.
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Also discussed is their collective thoughts on playing the highly recommended dating game "Monster Match," branded as a dating website that exposes the explicit bias of algorithms. It scales down the plethora amounts of dating apps so that they’re easier to understand. Instead of millions of users, there’s just you, a real human being, and 100 imaginary monster profiles. As you swipe right (to like) and left (to dislike) profiles, they show you how the next profile you’ll see is affected. You’ll get to know exactly what profiles you get—and miss out on—over the course of a few dozen swipes. All without actually having to go on any dates, talk to people, or put yourself out there.
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For counselors looking for ways to ethically bring up client prejudices in counseling https://ct.counseling.org/2014/01/addressing-clients-prejudices-in-counseling/
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Beau and J.Mix's Dating Preference Survey is now available for anyone who is ready to reflect on the deep-seeded influences behind their current dating "preferences" in accordance to race. J.Mix plans to touch base on this survey via the podcast in a few weeks. As of this show-notes write-up, 23 responses so far! Thank you!

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In honor of July aka. "Self-Accountability Month" J.Mix and Beau Autin are confronting their own implicit biases about their personal dating preferences and histories over dating apps and in their interpersonal relationships with others. In this episode, they compare and contrast the race and orientations of the communities they grew up amongst and how it has affected their current dating preferences. They also explore how this has negatively influenced the LGBTQ+ community in terms of acceptance of all spectrums of queerness.
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If you are curious about how algorithms function on dating apps, there is a game, Monster Match, branded as a dating website that exposes the explicit bias of algorithms. It scales down the plethora amounts of dating apps so that they’re easier to understand. Instead of millions of users, there’s just you, a real human being, and 100 imaginary monster profiles. As you swipe right (to like) and left (to dislike) profiles, they show you how the next profile you’ll see is affected. You’ll get to know exactly what profiles you get—and miss out on—over the course of a few dozen swipes. All without actually having to go on any dates, talk to people, or put yourself out there. Check it out. Feel free to inbox J.Mix with your thoughts!
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J.Mix and Beau are creating a self-reflection survey for TSAM listeners to take if they are looking to observe and reflect on their own biases. Once published, link to the survey will be available on TSAM's Linktree.
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On this episode, J.Mix is joined by Santa and Mrs. Claus aka. Jon Sparks and his beautiful wife, Maritza Dávila. Their love has transcended for over 40 years and they graciously join TSAM's community to give their wisdom on the many facets of what their marriage has taught them about themselves and the world around them. This episode is a continuation of the ongoing challenges of being in an interracial relationship during the black lives matter movement and throughout history. As you will hear in this episode, Jon and Maritza are still learning about each other all the while allowing enough space to expand their creative roots as independent artists. On this episode, J.Mix also gives shout-outs to the local NOLA organizations that she has been supporting during the movement. And she updates listeners on the fortunate developments of her conversation with her white male friend from the previous episode.
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New Orleans organizations to follow to stay up-to-date on the fight for Black Lives:
Southern Solidarity - @southern_solidarity on (IG)
New Orleans Workers Group- @neworleansworkersgroup (IG)
New Orleans Hospitality Workers Alliance - @neworleanshospitalityworkers (IG)
Take 'Em Down NOLA - @takeemdownnola (IG)
Orleans Parish Prison Reform Coalition - Facebook
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