The Self Worth Edit

This week we're chatting toxic friendships with Sabrina Molu. Sabrina is the editor of the lifestyle blog, SimplySabrinaBlog.com which reaches over 100k viewers a month and generates 550K impressions a week and a million Pinterest page views. Sabrina has been featured in POPSUGAR, Refinery29, AOL, and Jezebel Magazine. She specializes in lifestyle content from the perspective of a millennial WOC. 

They are millennial women who are undergoing major life changes like graduating, moving into their own places, settling down with a partner, and learning how to adult. Sabrina's blog serves as a modern day advice column. 

In this interview with Sabrina we talk about how to spot toxic friendship signs, how to deal with toxic friends and even how to know if YOU might be the toxic friend. If you've ever wondered about the signs of a toxic friend and how to deal with toxic friendships from a place of self worthiness this episode is for you. 

Keep up with Sabrina on simplysabrinablog.com and follow her on Instagram for advice on relationships, beauty, home decor and more!

Check out Sabrina's blog posts on toxic friendships:
Are You in a Toxic Friendship?
How to Gracefully Handle a Friend Breakup

Read: Everything is Figureoutable

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Is fear getting in the way of your dreams? Do you want to put yourself out there some way but fear keeps stopping you in your tracks? Maybe you want to start or leave a relationship, launch a business, change career paths or move across the world but fear is weighing you down.

Let's be honest, the fear isn't going anywhere. You can either give up on what you want or 'feel the fear and do it anyway' to get to the other side. Easier said than done! In this episode I reveal what it actually feels like to 'feel the fear and do it anyway' so you know exactly what to expect.

Hey, I can't conquer your fear for you. But I can make the process a little less uncertain and reassure you that you're not alone in it.

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In our very first interview, we talk with Disha Mistry Mazepa of the But What Will People Say podcast about self confidence, living and loving our lives on our own terms and the role that financial independence plays in being able to do so. 

Disha's podcast started as one about interracial, interfaith and intercultural marriage / relationships. Over time, it has expaneded to include discussions about other topics that fall under the "log kya kahenge" mentality such as LGBTQ relationships, divorce, mental health, sexual assault, skin care, nutrition, disabilities, and more. Her own personal story is the inspiration for her podcast, as her relationship with her husband was kept a secret for years from her family out of fear of being disowned and the downright negative reactions she expected to receive from the SA community, especially her parents. She hopes that by sharing not just her story, but the stories of other men and women who have chosen to date outside of their own cultures, she will help provide a sense of hope and empowerment for those listening and also a chance for her guests to feel heard. 

Disha's confidence and conviction to live her life on her terms and inspire others to do the same is inspiring. Tune in for a great interview!

Have questions about interracial relationships? Be sure to check out Disha's podcast. You can also connect with her on Instagram!

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Tools of the Titans

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Log kya kahenge? Meaning, 'what will people say?' is the most burdensome question many of us grew up with. For many of us, we watched as our families made - and expected us to make - important life decisions based on log kya kahenge? It's maddening, irrational and unhealthy. But it's also likely engrained in you now as it is in me. While it can be tough to shrug it off once it's so deeply wired within us, we can leverage reframing to make the instinctive jump to 'log kya kahenge' work for us. Learn how in this BONUS episode!

Please note, this audio comes from a video I originally created on this topic and shared to IGTV (are you following me on Instagram yet? @theselfworthedit). So, sound quality may not be as pristine as usual. I promise, the message is worth it.

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Are you acknowledging and sharing your truth -- the good, bad and ugly -- or are you ignoring and hiding it? You've likely heard the saying, 'Instagram is a highlight reel.' We've accepted that people focus on sharing what appears good, successful and fun while completely ignoring sharing pain and failures. In this episode, we'll discuss what dangers this poses and why allowing yourself to be vulnerable is important. Speak your truth. 

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Have you ever considered individual counseling? South Asian mental health is often a taboo topic, and we tend to have a lot of misconceptions about therapy in our communities as a result. In this episode we dispel the following misconceptions: 

• Only those who are sick or ill seek out therapy, it's a 'first world' act
• You should be able to talk to your friends/family instead of a therapist
• Therapy doesn't work (plus, a bit about discussing therapy with your family)
• A therapist will judge you 
• Therapy is expensive 

I also share several resources, including for affordable / virtual therapy:

• Psychology Today
• Directory of South Asian Therapists
• The Mood Space
• Betterhelp
• TalkSpace
• Open Path Collective

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We are meant to tune into and listen to our emotions, they're present to guide us. Yet, so often for us South Asian women guilt has been mis-wired. We're taught that feeling guilty for self care and prioritization of our own needs is what is healthy and respectful. In reality, this self sacrifice does more harm than good both on the individual and community levels. 

In this episode, I offer 3 techniques for side stepping toxic guilt you may face when making big life decisions. These include:

• What it means + how to take real responsibility of self
• How to leverage 'future self' thinking to benefit yourself and your loved ones long term
• The value of consistently activating your friend voice

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In this very first, full episode of The Self Worth Edit I take you through the story of my marriage and divorce. Along the way, I share 5 lessons in self worth that I learned both while living through and reflecting back on the painful yet life-giving experience. 

Lessons I share in this episode include, at a high level:

• The dangers of feeling 'not enough'
• Why you can't sidestep life challenges
• The importance of leaping into the unknown despite fear
• What your surroundings teach you about your inner thoughts and feelings

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Welcome to The Self Worth Edit! One of the only positive podcasts specifically serving South Asian women. In this brief introduction, meet the host, learn about the intended audience and get an idea of what future episodes might sound like.
If you're into self improvement podcasts, don't forget to subscribe, rate and review this one while you're at it! New episodes every Monday.
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Welcome to The Self Worth Edit, the podcast discussing personal growth topics specifically for South Asian women and beyond. If you're looking for positive podcasts or self improvement podcasts for all, but from the perspective of a woman of color then this is the place for you. This self love podcast will cover topics including spirituality, self confidence, mental health, relationships and more. Have you been searching for Pakistani podcasts or a desi podcast? You've found it.

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