The Sexual Alchemy Podcast

This week, I share a quick rundown of some of my abilities and the superpowers I use as a sexual alchemist. You'll learn what sets me apart from most sex therapists and counsellors, and how you and your sexual partner can benefit from the gifts I have to offer.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- About my ability to see through fear, shame and social conditioning

- The importance of being entirely present in a distracted world

- How I receive information from your body through my hands

- The subtle art of turning on the pilot light

- How to clear your system from shame, fear and social conditioning

- The difference between getting aroused at a genital level, and bringing your entire arousal system online

I'm so grateful for these abilities that allow me to help those courageous enough to step into their own growth, healing and expansion. I feel genuinely honoured to do this job, to help those in pain expand their erotic potential and get in touch with who they are as sexual beings.

Resources:

• Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training
• The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen
• The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop
• Sign up for bi-monthly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11
• Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/
• My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/
• My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/
• Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/
• Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/
• Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1
• Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/
• Find me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexualalchemy

Today's episode is about something I hear a lot working with cisgender heterosexual couples - what should men do when their spouse shuts down to sex? I share multiple options to explore as a couple and come back into intimacy together. You'll also learn alternatives for couples who want to try new things separately, how men should approach this issue from a compassionate, non-judgmental approach, and more.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- How a compassionate, loving, and empathetic approach can help you get back into intimacy with your spouse

- What it means for you as a man and your sexual energy that your partner is shut down to sex

- Why introspection might be a helpful tool to find out the root cause of the shutdown of sex

- What options you have if the answer is to solve it in separate ways

- A short story of a couple who went through this issue and how they solved it

- Why you shouldn't be judgmental with your partner about it

As hard as it might be to hear that your spouse has decided to close herself to sex, you must know it is as hard for her to acknowledge it first, and perhaps even harder to verbalise it. Regardless of the frustration, shame or guilt you might feel when hearing it, you must remember to be patient and curious, and get into the conversation with a loving, caring, and compassionate mindset.

Resources:

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexualalchemy

If you are a man in your late 40s, 50s, or mid-50s who perhaps hasn't had many sexual experiences, or you are in a long-term relationship and sex has become predictable, infrequent or plain boring, you might be going through the middle-age itch. Today, you'll learn everything you need to know about the middle-age itch and the countless new doors it has the potential to open in your sexual, romantic, and erotic life.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What is and what isn't the middle-age itch

- Why most men experience a middle-age itch at some point in their lives

- Some of the options men choose to figure out how to deal with their middle-age itch

- The endless opportunities that opening up can bring into your life

- The resources available to help you figure out your middle-age itch

Regardless of the main reason why you might be going through a middle-age itch, this might be an excellent chance to be open and honest with your desire. By opening up, you are not only allowing new experiences into your life, but you might also create opportunities you didn't even know were available.

Resources:

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexualalchemy

The mainstream culture that encourages and advocates for safety for women during sex seems to ignore that the same principle applies to men. Men also must feel safe in order to enjoy sex fully. In today's episode, you'll find out why almost no one speaks about men's safety during sex, the different levels of safety a man can and should experience, and how to make men feel safe.

What You Will Learn:

- Why mainstream culture and conscious sexuality circles don't speak about men's safety during sex

- The things you need as a man to feel safe while you are aroused

- The different levels of safety a man can experience during sex

- Why is safety so important, and how you create it for yourself as a sexual being

- Good indicators that you can trust your partner and feel safe around them

It is a myth and a mistake to assume that only women must feel safe to let themselves go freely and fully during sex. Men need to feel safe to open up to whatever arises when they're aroused. As a man, the first step is to recognise it, find a physical and mental place where you feel safe, be aware and know what triggers you, and establish open communication with your partner.

Resources:

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexualalchemy

Your penis is much more than flesh and blood or a simple instrument you use to penetrate or feel physical pleasure. In today's episode, you'll discover some of its other characteristics, uses and meanings. You'll learn to connect with your genitals from a place of love, not shame, to explore and choose the kind of energy you want to transmit with it, and expand your experiences of pleasure.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Your penis is a portal to the Divine

- The difference between connecting with your penis through love and through shame

- How you name your genitals defines much more than you think

- What it means to use your penis consciously

- Why you should come into erotic encounters with reverence

How you connect with your penis is crucial to finding yourself as a sexual being. Many men are taught to refer to their genitals with shame, guilt, or fear, and as long as they are trapped in that mindset, they'll transmit that energy when they experience sex or pleasure. The first step to getting out of that place is to connect with your penis with reverence.

Resources:

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexualalchemy

As the word pegging made it to several headlines in the UK recently, I've dedicated today's episode to explain the word's meaning, origin, and what it means to be into pegging. I'll take you through safe ways of practising pegging pleasure and health-wise, what it says about a cis man's sexual orientation, and more.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What pegging is and what it says about who's into it

- How anal penetration can give pleasure to men

- What you can learn about penetrating someone by being penetrated

- The safest and healthiest ways of practising pegging

- How to enhance your pleasure while being pegged

- What being pegged tells about cisgender men's sexual orientation

Swapping roles within a couple can bring several benefits and open infinite new paths to pleasure. If you and your partner are open to trying new things, pegging offers many mental, emotional, spiritual, and sexual benefits. It also gives you and your partner a fantastic opportunity to be vulnerable and courageous, and explore pleasure's hidden corners together.

Resources:

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexualalchemy

The stress produced by everything happening in the world right now, and the busy life you most likely have, certainly makes it harder to connect intimately with your partner or simply get in the mood to have sex. So, are there any shortcuts to intimacy in those days where it seems impossible to leave work at work and stop thinking on your next day's to-do list? Actually, there are plenty of them, and in this episode, I'll share some of the most effective ways to leave stress aside, connect with your partner, and easily transition into intimacy.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why it is so challenging to go through the "out of your head and into your body" transition

- How to use chat to gain clarity about what you need to transition into intimacy

- What is the "brushing off" exercise, and how can it help you get in the mood

- The unique connection eye gazing can provide

- How you can help each other get into your own bodies

Part of the transition into intimacy is about being present and connected, which can only be achieved by taking a moment and being intentional about how you feel. Once you and your partner are on the same page, it is about deciding where you want to go, what you want to create and what kind of experience you want.

Resources:

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexualalchemy

This week, I address the reasons why doing inner work of self-improvement (especially on our sexuality) feels so scary. I go through one by one cause that might be holding you back from working on improving your relationship with pleasure, intimacy, and your sensual, sexual self.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What inspired today's episode

- Why it's normal to feel scared or nervous about working on self-improvement

- Why doing inner work might bring pain and sadness from the past

- Why holding back your feelings is not a good idea, and what damage it can cause to you

- How to get in touch with your superpowers and stop being afraid of them

Throughout your life and sexual experiences, you've probably had parts of your sexual identity blamed, shamed, rejected, or neglected. Therefore, it's perfectly normal to be afraid of exposing those same parts again. Yet growth produces discomfort, and part of exploring your intimacy is letting yourself be seen. It's a vulnerable state of being and it might feel uncomfortable, but it is your best chance to connect with who you are as a sexual being.

Resources:

- Book: Elizabeth Gilbert, "Eat Pray Love: One Woman's Search for Everything" https://amzn.to/3dZkCbc

- Book: Rebeca Lowrie: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

In today's episode, Marcia Baczynski joins me to talk about consent, boundaries, authoritarianism, and sexual freedom. Marcia is an internationally recognised coach, writer, and presenter in sexual communication, boundaries, consent, and desire.

Throughout our conversation, Marcia shared her unique perspective on how sexual freedom is a rock in the shoe of the most controlling and prohibitive side of the political spectrum. She explains her work with consent and boundaries, the effects of certain laws and legislations on minorities' sex life and their freedom in general.

We also talk about her book, "Creating Consent Culture," the work she does with her peers, and she shared a terrific exercise for creating awareness around consent and boundaries.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- How Marcia understands consent and boundaries

- Why she believes the consent culture might be endangered by particular political views

- What drove Marcia into working with consent and boundaries

- The three misconceptions about the consent culture Marcia doesn't agree with

- Why it is crucial to keep a playful mindset growing up

- A fantastic consent exercise to give our bodies a somatic experience of saying NO

- The differences between the gatekeeper and the agreement or collaborative consent model

Marcia is passionate about helping adults overcome shame and connect with their true desires, whether sexually, romantically, or relationally. In 2004, she founded the Cuddle Party, a workshop that literally travelled around the world and counts over 200 facilitators on 5 continents. Throughout her career, Marcia has been featured in over 100 magazines, including Rolling Stone, the New York Post, the San Francisco Chronicle, GQ, and Marie Claire, to name a few.

Resources:

- Asking For What You Want website: https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/

- Book: "Marcia Baczynski, Erica Scott - Creating Consent Culture" https://amzn.to/3dQdBJW

- Field Guide to Consent: https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/consent/

- Book: "Adrienne Maree Brown - Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good" https://amzn.to/3PGF0Lp

- Book: Rebeca Lowrie: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

Today's episode is about a particular subject that I initially wanted to cover in a solo episode; but when I tried to do it on my own, I just felt too emotional and too biased towards this topic, so I decided it would be better shared in a conversation. The person who immediately came to my mind was Fidel Beauhill, The Modern Man Coach, Founder of The Modern Man Coach Academy and The Modern Man Movement. He is a life and relationship coach for men, helping them through divorce, breakups and midlife crises, and helping them step into their masculine energy in a positive way.

Fidel and I had an awesome conversation about the phenomenon of incels and why we feel we should call them in instead of calling them out. We discussed the controversy around Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson, how to use the terms masculine and feminine in a better way, and what we can do to change the antagonistic narrative between men and women.

What We Cover:

- What the term 'incel' stands for and the rhetoric surrounding it

- What coaches who work with men can do to change that extreme rhetoric

- What is so controversial about Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson

- How Fidel teaches men to step into and embody their masculinity in a positive way

- Why today's men feel devalued, less powerful and disconnected from their masculine energy

- The taboos surrounding male sexuality

- How to be pro-masculine without being anti-feminine

- How the current culture of victim mentality affects men

- Why it's useful to have a gender identity framework to work with and explore it

Cultivating self-awareness is the key to navigating the challenges that modern men face. Knowing who you are is a life-long journey of self-exploration and examination. To get started on this path, Fidel proposes a three-step framework - Values, Vision, Goals. When you know what's most important to you, when you have a compelling, long-term vision of the future, then you get to decide how you're going to get there and learn a lot about yourself along the way.

Resources:

- The Modern Man website: https://modernman.org.uk/

- The Modern Man Club Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themodernmanclub/

- Connect with Fidel Beauhill on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/fidel-modernman-beauhill/

- Facebook https://www.facebook.com/themodernmancoach

- Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themodernmancoach/

- Twitter https://twitter.com/ModernManCoach

- Book: Fidel Beauhill - Divorce: The Modern Man's Guide: https://www.amazon.co.uk/DIVORCE-Modern-Guide-Fidel-Beauhill/dp/1527276236/

- Book: Rebeca Lowrie: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/