The Sexual Alchemy Podcast

Today we celebrate our first year together by diving right into the process of creating this show. I'm going to review the topics we touched on, the fantastic guests featured on the show, and the food for thoughts they gifted us.

Today's episode is about showing gratitude to all the beautiful listeners who join me every week, whether to learn, get curious about their own sexuality or just feel contained.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What brought me to the decision to start this podcast

- The two main goals I pursued with the creation of this podcast

- Some of the topics I covered during the last year

- The out of the curve guests that I've had so far and their invaluable teachings

- A huge shout out to the listeners and some of their most heartwarming reviews

Resources:

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

This week, I'll walk you through the unique content I have prepared for the first online Festival of Sexuality from April 7th to April 10th, 2022. I'm also sharing why I've decided to put this festival together and how it will help you find your true self as a sexual being.

Featuring on the Festival of Sexuality:

- Barbara Carellas, author of "Urban Tantra"

- Betty Martin and her "Wheel of Consent" model

- Mollena Lee-Williams Haas and her 24/7 master/slave marriage

- The excellent Tantra teacher, Jan Day

- Julia Hollenbery and the healing power of pleasure

- Breathing techniques with Steph Magenta

- The incredible DK Green and an inclusive look at sex

- Get inspired by Kelly Gordon

This festival is my offering to celebrate the first anniversary of the podcast and the best way to thank the community that joins us every week. The main goal is to celebrate sexuality, normalize sex conversations, and rescue sexuality from the realms of fear and shame. My desire is that every person feels free to talk about sex, tell their partners what they like and what they don't, the things they would like to try, and where they don't feel comfortable going.

Resources:

- Festival of Sexuality 7th-10th April 2022: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- Book: Barbara Carellas - Urban Tantra: https://www.amazon.com.br/Urban-Tantra-Sacred-Twenty-First-Century/dp/1587612909

- Book: Julia Hollenbery: The Healing Power of Pleasure: https://www.amazon.com.br/Healing-Power-Pleasure-Medicines-Rediscovering-ebook/dp/B08X4YJ8T8/

- Book: Dossie Easton: Radical Ecstasy: https://www.amazon.com.br/Radical-Ecstasy-English-Dossie-Easton-ebook/dp/B005HZ6F5M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

I'm delighted to welcome Kelly Gordon onto the show this week. She is Head of Creative at Hot Octopus, a sex toy company that celebrates diversity and works tirelessly to bring down stigmas around all forms of consensual sexual expression. Kelly is also a loving mom of two kids, a wife, a podcast host, and Co-Founder and People Director of With Not For, a recruitment solution to find paid employment options for people with disabilities.

Kelly is a wheelchair user and an outspoken advocate for people with disabilities to claim their rights to pleasure in sex life. We delve into Kelly's journey of discovering herself as a sexual being, how she dealt with her disability around sex as an early teen and as an adult, her multiple projects and her commitment to tear down the taboos around sex and disability..

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- How Kelly landed into the sex toys industry

- Why she decided to speak openly about her sexuality and sexual experiences

- Kelly's thoughts on the need for disabled people to get a personal assistant

- The experiences during Kelly's adolescence that motivated her to become an advocate for people with disabilities to claim their rights of finding pleasure in their sex lives

- What conversations society should be having around sex and disability

Kelly's own experiences allowed her to bring a different look at the industry. After spending many years working in industries where she felt judged and not fitting in entirely, she found her place in the world. Her creative mind, passion for having uninhibited conversations about sex and her inclusive drive helped her build a thriving career around her identity and who she is as a human and sexual being.

Resources:

- The Festival of Sexuality: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- Kelly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mskelgee/

- Hot Octopuss: https://www.hotoctopuss.com/

- Hot Octopuss on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotoctopuss/

- Pleasure Rebels Podcast: ‎Pleasure Rebels on Apple Podcasts

- With Not For: https://www.withnotfor.co.uk/

- With Not For on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wnf_recruits/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

This week, we welcome Sarah Rose Bright to the show. She is a Sexologist, Sex and Intimacy Coach, and the creator of Intimate Sexuality. Sarah is on a mission of inspiring women and couples to discover their sexual pleasure and awaken their sexual confidence.

We had a fantastic conversation about being intimate not only with our partners but with ourselves too. We also dive into the idea of thinking about sex as a lifelong learning process, the concept of thinking of sexuality as a partner that evolves with us as we get older, and the myths around menopause and its relationship with sex.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What Intimate Sexuality is and how Sarah Rose uses it to improve people's relationship with sex and intimacy

- The impact of social, cultural and religious conditioning in how we understand and experience sex

- Connection with our partner is as essential as connection with ourselves during sex

- Having great sex requires black belt communicators with a continuous and deep desire of learning about their sexuality

- What parameters we use to measure successful intimacy

The misconception around intimacy is that people tend to believe that penetration is a sine qua non to be intimate. Pleasure is also often used as a reference for successful intimacy, which leads many couples to think they need more sex for a deeper connection, when actually they need more intimacy.

Resources:

- The Festival of Sexuality: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- Sign up to Sarah's newsletter for pleasure mapping, a free guided practice: https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/guided-pleasure-mapping /

- Book a free consultation with Sarah: https://calendly.com/sarahrosebright

- Ignite Your Sexuality, a 10 module self-study course for women: https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/an-online-course-for-women/

Find Sarah Online:

- Website: www.sarahrosebright.com

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosebright/

- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahrosebrightsexcoach

- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/sarahrosebrigh t

- Find me on Spotify for some playlists: https://open.spotify.com/user/dog9xui4wwpjatvbnpb2t7l3y?si=jnc_V6wxSCqaqr3UhNgD6Q&nd=1

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

Joining me to discuss today's juicy topic is DK Green, a Psychotherapist, Counsellor, Speaker, and Author. He primarily works with GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity), CNM, kink, tantra, consensual non-monogamy, and sex workers both in his therapy room and as an educator.

Our conversation revolves around the nuances of taboo depending on cultural and religious conditioning, and what is considered taboo in western civilizations. We talk about consensual non-consent sex, breath play, and the fantasies around incest, bestiality, scat golden showers, feet fetish. We also explore the intimate relationship between taboo and fantasy, role play, and the pleasure and turn-ons performing a sex act considered taboo.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- The broad spectrum of what people consider taboo in sex

- The psychological minefield we enter when we allow ourselves to play with taboo

- The three big no's in sex and why for some people it is a turn-on to play with them

- The crucial role of negotiation and communication when playing with taboo in consensual sexual relations

- How playing with taboo can be part of a healing process

- The aftercare for the receiving, and the active component in fantasies like rape play or domination

Leaving aside the three big no's of sex, the definition of taboo will be very different for a traditional married couple and for someone who is into kink. Still, the curiosity of playing with boundaries suggests a desire for exploration, and when we allow ourselves to explore, to move towards the new and unfamiliar, the closer we get to the juiciness of sex.

Resources:

- The Festival of Sexuality: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- DK Green's Website http://www.dkgreen.com

- Learn more about DK Green's offers https://linktr.ee/DKLeather

- Connect with DK Green [email protected]

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

We have an exceptional guest for today's episode, Artemisia de Vine. She is a retired sex worker, somatic sexologist, erotic choreographer, artist, writer, speaker, trainer, and Founder of The deVinery: Artemisia's School of The Erotic.

Artemisia specializes in the psychology of what turns us on, how to play with it purposely, and explore the places we go inside ourselves when we do it. We delve into her mind-boggling work, her past experiences as a sex worker, and how she transitioned from master practitioner to teacher. Artemisia also shares details of how she navigates her unique art and reads the psychology behind each person's turn-ons.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why Artemisia decided to go through the sex worker path, and what amazing discoveries she made in the process

- The relationship between vulnerability, arousal and the sexual flow state

- Why guilt usually gets in the middle of giving and receiving pleasure

- Why we can't experience our turn-ons freely unless we move our consciousness from our ego

After co-creating thousands of erotic experiences for her clients, Artemisia got intrigued by the safety switch that made people free themselves, be vulnerable and dive into pleasure. Then she started working with desire itself and decided to start helping people interact with that part of them that creates their turn-ons.

Resources:

- Find out more about how you can learn techniques, hear stories, get private coaching and become a member of The deVinery! There is even an upcoming workshop on Sex, Power and Consciousness. https://artemisia-de-vine.mykajabi.com/Explore-More

- The Festival of Sexuality: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

Today, we are joined by Jaeleen Bennis, creator of Bondassage and Elysium by Bondassage, who invites us to think of sexual exploration as a path to self-discovery and healing.

In this conversation, we explore Bondassage and Elysium, compare them with a traditional BDSM session, and talk about Jaeleen's mission of making kinky play accessible for everyone. Jaeleen spoke about her passion for educating and de-stigmatizing this type of bodywork and, at the same time creating unforgettable sensual, blissfully pleasurable and provocative experiences in her clients' lives.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What Bondassage and Elysium are, and how they are utterly different from BDSM

- Bondassage can be an excellent way to reconnect with our bodies

- Why trust is one of the most important factors to perform Bondassage

- Why Bondassage must be an unscripted and spontaneous session to reach its full potential

- The impact of Bondassage on heterosexual men, who perhaps may be surrendering and receiving for the first time in their lives

During a Bondassage session, the practitioner does not receive any verbal feedback from the client and they focus on nonverbal clues the person tied up gives, like their breath and the energy changes. It is not like the practitioner does whatever they want, they observe the reactions, and when the person receiving demonstrates pleasure, the one giving expands on that. To summarize, Bondassage is an excellent, safe and fun way of dipping the toes in kinky waters.

Resources:

- The Festival of Sexuality: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- Bondassage http://bondassage.com/

- Learn Bondasagge http://learnbondassage.com/

- Bondassage for Couples http://bondassageforcouples.com/

- Jaeleen Bennis website http://jaeleenbennis.com/

- 50% off the Art of Bondassage Courses (normally $395) with this link: https://www.bondassage.com/50off/

- Festival of Sexuality: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

In this episode, we'll discuss the sexual expectations that the mainstream narrative deposits on heterosexual men and people with penises. We'll explore the suggested rules and regulations about how people with penises must show up in erotic and sexual situations and their effects on those people's psyche, health and even sexual and erotic pleasure.

We'll debunk myths and popular beliefs on what it means to be a sexual being and how you can benefit from having full access to your sexual energy.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What is expected from people with penises in sexual encounters and what kind of pressure it produces

- What happens when you are feeling frustrated by not fitting into the tiny box the mainstream narrative built for you

- A story about a young man that swallowed the "manual of how to be a sexual man"

- The effects of discovering who we are as sexual individuals

The easiest way to meet with who you are as a sexual being is to let go of the expectations, habits, patterns, beliefs, and thoughts that limit and oppress you. The cultural norm is a tiny, narrow, limited, and oppressive narrative designed to shame and control people. Accessing your sexual energy, free from the limitations generated by the cultural norm, will allow you to connect with your true self to your magic as a sensual, sexual being.

Resources:

- The Festival of Sexuality: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

Valentine's Day is one of those holidays that, even if we want to ignore it, community, social media, friends and even marketing campaigns constantly remind us to celebrate romantic love. That is why this week, I've decided to come up with a different kind of Valentine's Day. We will explore alternatives for those who don't have a romantic partner to celebrate with, those who prefer to celebrate their love for themselves and those interested in practicing self-love.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Turning Valentine's Day into a self-love day

- How empowering and nourishing it can be making love to ourselves

- How to normalise being romantic in our day to day lives

It is possible to reframe Valentine's Day by using the date to practice self-love or going out with our loved ones. We can take our kids out, our siblings, a friend or even our parents, and demonstrate the love and appreciation we have for them. Valentine's Day is also an excellent opportunity to enjoy some super hot sex with ourselves.

Resources:

- Festival of Sexuality: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

This week, we will talk about the relationship with ourselves, the most important relationship we'll ever have. We will analyze how the relationship we establish with ourselves affects how we interact with others, what we think of ourselves, and even how we see the world. We will also go through a set of questions to help you narrow down and learn what kind of relationship you have with yourself, and pay attention to what you need to improve. What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why it is essential to establish a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves

- Knowing what triggers us and what doesn't is critical to building boundaries and enjoying our erotic and non-erotic encounters

- How the way we deal with emotions and conflicts can help us understand better the relationship we have with ourselves

- Why it's harder for many men to receive pleasure than to give it

The more we know ourselves, and the more we are willing to explore profound levels of intimacy with ourselves, the deeper we will connect with others. On the other side of the spectrum, the more we try to hide and cover up the parts of us we believe are not attractive or not good enough, the harder it gets to engage with sexual partners or even with people in general in our lives.

Resources:

- Join The Festival of Sexuality online from 7th to 10th April 2022. Find out more at https://www.sexualalchemy.com/festival-of-sexuality

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/