The Sexual Alchemy Podcast

This week, I explore sex positivity and what it means to be sex positive, a term that is very often misused, misinterpreted, and even used to shame people. I answer some of the most common questions about sex positivity, what it tells you about the person who identifies as sex positive, what's the link between sex positivity and boundaries, and I share my definition of sex positivity.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

- How those who identify as sex positivists deal with the shame around sexuality

- What being sex positive tells about a person's preferences in sex

- Why it is crucial to have clear boundaries when thinking of sex positivity

- About boundaries and consent at different times and moments

Being sex positive is about being open to exploring your sexuality and willing to learn to love and accept yourself as a sexual being. In a way, it's an antidote for slut shaming and for shaming people for being sexual.

Resources:

- Check out "The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self" https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

In today's episode, I have the pleasure of chatting with my mentor, teacher, and dear friend, Barbara Carrellas. Barbara is the Founder of Urban Tantra; she is an author, artist, innovator, instigator and thought leader in the fields of sex, gender and spirit.

We had a fantastic conversation about urban tantra and its outstanding connectivity powers, using sexual liberation to free yourself from socially imposed rules and how marginalised groups used and still use it to fight oppression. Barbara also shares bits of her past, and her first experiences seeing sex and sexuality exploration as a revolutionary act.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What Urban Tantra is, and how it can help you explore your sexuality and connect with yourself and others

- About Barabara's approach to urban tantra

- The importance of seeking a-ha moments during your adult life

- Why exploring sexuality is an act of revolution and how it can help you change how you perceive yourself and the world around you

- The power you have in your hands to change the world, starting with your reality

As Barbara says, the quality that stands out about urban tantra is its inclusion; not just the inclusion of all races and classes and abilities of people, but also other erotic and spiritual practices.

Resources:

- Barbara Carrellas website: barbaracarrellas.com

- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BarbaraCarrellasUrbanTantra

- Twitter: https://twitter.com/urbantantrika

- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/urbantantrika/

- Barbara Carrellas books: https://www.amazon.com/Barbara-Carrellas/e/B001JP9VTQ

- Book: Adrienne Marie Brown - Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good: https://www.amazon.com/Pleasure-Activism-Politics-Emergent-Strategy-ebook/dp/B07CBCZSCY/

- Book: Rebeca Lowrie: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

In today's episode, I use the amusement park analogy to help you understand your choices, preferences, and desires in your sex life more deeply. I explore the different themed areas of your park, the attractions you are afraid to visit or feel troubled to mention to your partner. My invitation today for you is to go through your amusement park's map and see where it overlaps with your partner's.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

- How the amusement park analogy started and why it makes sense in relation to your sex life

- Why it might be a good idea to visit some areas of your park you don't see too often

- Some areas of your amusement park that might be worth exploring

- Why we should always spare some free space to build new attractions in our amusement park

If your sex life was an amusement park, what would be your favourite attractions? And which ones would be those you would like to experience, but for lack of time or confidence, you end up postponing indefinitely? Remember that there are things you are not aware you don't know, and because of that, your amusement park should always have free space to build new attractions.

Resources:

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

Today's episode is about semen retention. I'm going to debunk some myths about not ejaculating and its supposed benefits on men's sexual energy. I'll also explore the difference between having an orgasm and ejaculating, the different types of orgasms available for men, and the misunderstandings around sexual energy.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

- The myths vs. truth around how semen retention boosts sexual energy

- The link between semen retention and spiritual practices

- Different concepts of orgasming and ejaculating

- The multiple types of orgasms a man can experience

- The energetic and spiritual components of ejaculating that most men ignore

- Why there is a massive misunderstanding about sexual energy and its proper use

In many non-Western societies, semen retention is linked with spiritual practices, and it would make "more sense" to practice it consistently. Still, practicing semen retention to claim control over the body is pointless for men living under the stresses and pressures of the Western world. Instead of imposing a restrictive control over ejaculating, it is way more productive trying to understand the energetic and spiritual components of ejaculating.

Resources:

- Check out "The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self" https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

This week, I'm talking about how to cultivate, discover, and get in touch with your sexual self-awareness. First, I'll share what self-awareness is and how I define it, and then I'll explore the subtle difference between sexual self and sexual self-awareness, as well as propose a list of questions you can ask yourself to get in touch with your sexual self and your sexual self-awareness.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

- What is the best way to identify your self-awareness and get in touch with it

- The connections between your self-awareness, your sexual self, and your sexual self-awareness

- How your sexual self-awareness can establish a deeper relationship with your partner

Here are the questions to help you explore your sexual self and your sexual self-awareness:

- Who are you as a sexual being?

- What do you like to give, receive, experience or express?

- What triggers you?

- What makes you feel good, and what makes you feel not good?

- What makes you feel f*****g awesome?

- What are your boundaries? What are your soft and hard boundaries?

- Who do you fancy?

- What do you need to feel safe in a sexual encounter?

- How are you a safe person to be with erotically?

- What stops you from being present?

- How aware are you of your body and its sensations?

- How aware are you of your emotions?

- How do you receive feedback, and how do you give feedback?

- How are you at asking for what you want?

- What are your fantasies?

- How open are you to trying something new?

Resources:

- Book: Rebeca Lowrie: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

In today's episode, I'll answer a question I received from our community: why don't I like receiving oral sex, and is it possible to undo the conditioning that led me not to like it? I'll go through the possible reasons for not enjoying oral or penetrative sex, how to address them, and the best ways to try and solve these issues.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

- The stereotypes and misconceptions about oral sex and men

- Some of the most common reasons why some men don't like to receive oral sex

- Why social, cultural or religious conditioning might be the root cause of not liking receiving oral sex

- What it takes to undo social, religious or cultural conditioning

- Why addressing the issue's root cause is the mandatory first step to solving it

The reasons behind not liking receiving oral sex could be different in every case, but until you dig and find the root causes of it, it becomes challenging to find a solution. My invitation is to practice self-inspection, self-inquiry, and self-reflection to unveil why you reject, avoid, or simply feel off when receiving oral sex.

Resources:

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

Soum Rakshit joins us today to talk about sexual health, diversity, and how engineering applied to sex toys can boost people's sex life, reduce pain and discomfort, and increase pleasure. Soum is the CEO and Co-founder of MysteryVibe. This company produces sex toys designed to deal with major sexual health issues and keep the fire on after childbirth, impotence, menopause, cancer treatment or surgery.

In this episode, Soum talks about his passion for building stuff, his interest in solving people's problems, and the fascinating combination of events that led him to create MysteryVibe.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What inspired Soum to blend his engineering knowledge with his desire to solve sexual health issues

- How the idea of building Crescendo, MysteryVibe's first-ever product, came up and why

- Why MysteryVibe decided to build sex toys that are actually clinical devices that can increase pleasure and solve sex health issues

- What kind of devices MysteryVibe produce for women and men

- Why so many men are resistant to prostate massages, and why it is crucial to have more conversations about it

The first step to improving sexual health is having conversations, leaving preconceived ideas aside and talking. Whether inside the bedroom or at the doctor's office, being open to exploring our bodies and sexuality can bring more pleasure to our lives, freedom, and connection with our sexual partners.

Resources:

- MysteryVibe website https://mysteryvibe.com/

- MysteryVibe Blog: https://mysteryvibe.com/blogs/learn

- Connect with Soum Rakshit LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/soum/

- Check out "The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self" https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

Have you ever had a desire, a fantasy, or the urge to ask for something during sex that sounded like a weird thing to ask for, or perhaps made you feel that you're not normal? In this episode, I'll address why many men experience feeling not normal regarding their fantasies, desires and fetiches. I'll talk about what normality means, how it's interpreted and how you can determine whether you want to be labeled as normal or not.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

- An example of how even the wildest fantasy can be totally normal

- What is considered normal, and how it molded the way you understand normality in sex

- External factors that influence what is considered normal in the environment you grow up in and experience your sexuality

- Some of the questions most men ask to find out if they are normal

- Why every interaction and experience in the sex realm is normal as long as it is consensual

Most of us understand normal as acting as expected, established, or even imposed by cultural, religious and social norms. Instead of worrying about being "normal," you should focus on being true to your desires. As long as you do your thing in a consensual relationship, you can consider yourself and your inclinations completely normal.

Resources:

- 056 Chat with DK Green, What is Taboo?: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/the-sexual-alchemy-podcast/episode-56

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

Are you aroused all the time? Do you feel you're pestering your partner for sex all the time, or just feel you have all this extra sexual energy and don't know what to do with it? In this episode, I'll share several ways to deal with the abundance of sexual energy you might be experiencing.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

- A backstory of how I dealt with my extra sexual energy and what I learned from those experiences

- Why it is essential to get really close and intimate with your sexual energy

- The difference sitting with your sexual energy can make instead of extinguishing it every time it shows up

- How to move your sexual energy through your body using breathing

- The importance of being a student of your own arousal and keeping a curious mind

- The benefits of sharing your sexual energy with nature and the elements of the universe

For many men, the first impulse is to deal with the arousal immediately, extinguish it and move on. The invitation today is to explore that energy a bit more, sit with it, and learn how to hold it, redirect it, get used to it and decide when and how to release it in any way you choose to.

Resources:

- Check out "The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self" https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/

This week, I'll address a question I received: how to maximise erectile health and functionality? To answer this question, we'll focus on what you can do to deal with this issue from a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual standpoint. We'll learn about the energetic relationship between you and your penis and how to create a loving relationship with him.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

- The importance of taking care of your overall health to improve your erectile health

- What you can do if you feel pain or discomfort while having sex

- How the proper use of your breath is essential to enhance your relationship with your penis and your erections

- How to improve the relationship with your penis from a mental and emotional level

- The importance of being intentional about the energy you give and receive when exploring your sexuality

You can do plenty of things to improve the relationship with your penis and your erections. I recommend you examine your relationship with your sexuality, masturbation, penetration, or any other way you share your penis with someone, and be aware of the energy exchange produced in those situations.

Resources:

- The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Alchemy-Journal-Men-Discovering/dp/B09NJHN24M/

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

- Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/s_xualalchemy/

- Find me on Twitter https://twitter.com/rebeccalowrie/

- Find me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rebecca.lowrie1

- Find me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccalowrie/