The Sh*t They Should've Taught Us In School with Rachelle Indra

Season 2 Episode 14 : Who Are You Changing For?

Join in as Rachelle reflects on the concept of identity and asks, "Who are you changing for?"

This week's episode delves into the theme of losing ourselves in other people's stories, and explores the consequences of constantly adapting who we are for others. Touching on everything from Enneagram personality types, to TikTok videos, code-switching, and alcohol consumption, Rachelle raises important questions about authenticity, personal identity, and self-discovery.

Full of existential questions, and with an emphasis on the importance of setting boundaries, this episode tackles everything from grief to purpose, and offers ample opportunity to reflect and experiment, so you can more confidently remember Who You Are.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Take time to reflect on who you are when you are alone.
• Take time to reflect on the main relationships in your life (children, partner, parents, friends, pets, etc.) and who you are in them.
• Who are you the most You with?
• If you are changing for relationships: Are you changing because of a level of appropriateness (work vs. social)? Or are you changing your identity?
• If you've lost yourself take time to journal: Who, what, where, when, why?

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July 5, 2023 || 32 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 13 : What Are You Missing About Forgiveness?

In this week's deeply introspective episode, Rachelle dares you to delve into a world beyond surface-level forgiveness, but don't worry, she won't leave you in the deep end alone!

Listen in, with a pen and paper in hand, and join her in answering potent, life-changing questions as she shares her personal insights on inner-child work, gratitude, and acceptance.

This episode emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and patience in the ongoing journey of forgiveness, and promises to offer you multiple pathways to actively work with it's transformative power.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Write down the things you would like to forgive others for.
• Write down the things that you would like to be forgiven for.
• Write down what you would like to forgive yourself for.
• When you think you're finished, write 3 more things.
• Dive deeper: Can you forgive the Universe? Can you forgive God?
• How can you help the process of forgiveness? Meditation, journaling (free write until the ego gives up and the heart takes over, and gentle movement (walking, yoga, stretching)

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June 28, 2023 || 29 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 12 : Are You Taking on Pain to Keep Others From Discomfort?

In this week's episode, Rachelle asks the penetrating question, "Are you taking on pain to keep others from discomfort?". Beginning with a gripping personal story of sustaining an injury during a massage, she shares how that experience inspired her to take a look at this lesson.

Throughout the episode Rachelle uncovers heartbreaking examples of individuals enduring physical pain and discomfort to avoid inconveniencing or hurting others.

Reflecting on how societal gender expectations prime us to put others first, Rachelle breaks down how that differs for men and women, and explores childhood patterns that uncover some of the reasons we can't (or don't) stand up for ourselves.

Be sure to listen until the end where Rachelle shares a compelling experiment that just might remind you to reclaim your voice, honor your worth, and assert your needs and desires!

You are the hero of your story.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

You need to matter the most to yourself. You are the hero of your own story!

Are you putting myself in pain for others? How?: Change begins with awareness

Why are you putting yourself in pain for others? : Societal pressures? Childhood patterns?

Self-Love, Self-Worth, and Self-Confidence are key to retraining our brain to believe that our physical safety, our physical comfort, is more important than how somebody else feels. 

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June 21, 2023 || 24 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 11 : Is Your Dream Holding You Back?

This week Rachelle takes us on a journey sharing the true price of getting your dreams "at any cost". She bravely and boldly explores the host of reasons we may not reach our dreams, and explains why it's ok to pivot.

Listen in as she breaks down the narrative we've been sold through society, entertainment, and media, that we have to put everything into one dream, and challenge yourself to lean into your creativity and agility.

Learn to embrace the wisdom gained through failures and step more authentically into your choices... which might even mean embracing a new dream.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• It is ok to give up on a dream
• When thinking about your dream ask yourself: What are you willing to sacrifice? What is your family willing to sacrifice? Am I open to other dreams...to different dreams?
• Masculine tells us to push, work to exhaustion, sacrifice anything to get to a dream, which can lead us down dead ends, and keep us closed off to new pathways of success.
• Feminine says, "this is what I want, but I'm open to how I get there." Offering creative solutions, flexibility, and agility
• Take into consideration if it is your goal, or if it was put into your head by someone/where else? (society? partner? parent? culture? religion?)
• Reframe "failures" as "pivots"
• Make a list of how you'll know when you've achieved your dream: Define what success looks like and feels like, so you know when you've reached that place

Are you willing to throw in. Your entire life savings, is that safe? Is that healthy 

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June 14, 2023 || 22 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 10 : What Rewards Does This Season Have For You?

Welcome to SUMMER!!!

This week is all about embracing the energy of the season: Living in abundance and enjoying excess!

It doesn't have to cost a thing to indulge in the benefits of Summer, Every.Single.Day, all Summer long. So, tune in for an enthusiastic reminder not to be afraid of the good things coming your way, as Rachelle takes us from "Guilty Rest" to "Fun in the Sun"!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Are you giving yourself time to take a break?
• Embrace the energy of the season: Indulge, enjoy, and rest
• Rest is not a reward. It's essential.
• Everything should be done in moderation...including moderation, so embrace abundance and enjoy living in excess

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June 7, 2023 || 27 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 9 : You First Have To Be Your Own Mochaccino 

Listen in this week to hear Rachelle explain what her clients say is the piece of wisdom they most share with friends and family, The Cup of Coffee Theory.

Whether you apply this lesson to friendship, romantic partnership or beyond, Rachelle teaches us the power and freedom that comes with healing our wounds and saving ourselves, so we can let go of expectations, stop looking for external validation, and more deeply enjoy our relationships with others.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• We need to be our own full cup of coffee (warm, satisfying and perfectly delicious all on our own), so that when someone comes and offers us whipped cream (themselves) we can simply *enjoy* the addition to our already full cup
• You cannot love somebody into loving themselves.
• There is not enough coffee in anybody's mug to make up for a lack in another's, so be wary of getting into a relationship with someone who only has half a cup
• The most successful and happy couples are not trying to save each other, they are enjoying each other
• If you save someone over and over again they do not develop the tools to do it for themselves

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May 31, 2023 || 26 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 8: Breaking Up With The Nice Guy

This week Rachelle checks in with an episode all about the TikTok video that made her go viral!

After 14 million views, and a comment section FULL of people asking, "Why did you break up with the nice guy?!" Rachelle openly and compassionately addresses the nuances of her personal story while journeying through a multitude of other reasons "why".

Discussing everything from values, desires, and childhood wounds to non-negotiables stemming from culture and religion, this conversation promises to make you feel seen, and may even help you define what you are (or aren't) willing to compromise for in a partnership.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Feelings of Embarrassment, Guilt, or Shame (especially when leaving someone who is good to us) are just some of the reasons we get stuck in something that isn't right for us long term.
• Somebody can be a wonderful person who is great to you and still not be the right partner for you.
• You can compromise yourself out of happiness : Toxic Compromise
• Defining your values, priorities and desires will help ground you into decisions and stay aimed toward gratitude.
• Time, (LOTS of) Communication, and Clear Boundaries are the cornerstones for being able to stay friends with an Ex.

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May 24, 2023 || 28 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 7 : Are you allowing the shithead in you?

This week Rachelle asks the question, "Are you allowing yourself to be a shithead, or are you so focused on perfection that you miss being in the present moment?"

She walks through how addiction to wellness practices (retreats, workshops, self-help books, bettering ourselves) can develop, and how that has potential to lead us into toxic positivity, taking us away from our authentic selves.

Challenging the narrative that the inner work is guiding us to our "highest self", Rachelle offers permission to put it all down, stop putting happiness on the other side of a wall, and embrace your enough-ness.

This episode is full of opportunities to build awareness and resiliency by peeling back the layers of armor, so you can get closer to your authentic self and embrace the shithead in you!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Are you addicted to doing inner-work?
• By denying or rejecting our humanness (being shitheads!) and seeking perfection, we sabotage our ability to show up authentically in the present moment.
• Time away from "the work" helps remind us that we can handle things as we are, and have a chance to implement the tools learned.
• By defining and focusing on 1-4 things (max) to work on, we learn to let some habits slide to make space for others
• The purpose of inner-work isn't to make us more enlightened or worthy, but rather to expose and embrace our humanness so we can get closer to our authentic selves

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May 17, 2023 || 21 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 6 : Finding Home

"This is not an episode with Answers. This is an episode with questions" -Rachelle Indra

In this week's episode Rachelle gets raw! Staying close to the heart Rachelle asks the thought-provoking and sometimes gut-wrenching question "What IS home?". She takes us on a journey through her musings, from her childhood expectations due to societal promises, to pre-covid desires, and finally to where she is now.

Rachelle offers her experience on discerning what is "Home" vs. "Familiarity", and how she leans into what feels right, true, grounded, and settled even during times of transition. Say "Fuck It" to cliches and indulge in exploring the true meaning of finding Home inside yourself despite pain, overwhelm, and trauma.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

*Listed below are a handful of the powerful and thought-provoking questions discussed in the episode

• What is Home? A Person? A Place? A Feeling?
• Can you exist in two places at once? By falling in love and finding happiness in multiple places, will we always leave pieces of our heart behind? If home is both places, which one is real?
• Is it safe to put your heart in another person or place? What happens during times of transition?
• Listening to the signs and messages from the Universe will guide us back Home, even (maybe especially) when our ego is telling us to stick to a plan

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May 10, 2023 || 30 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 5: What Do You Emotionally Want To Plant This Spring?

In this episode Rachelle describes how to harness the benefits of Seasonal energies. She shares about living in alignment with those cycles and how each Season prepares us for the next.

We learn the importance of having hobbies as an adult, why we don't (or feel we can't) have them, and get a gentle reminder of the natural desire we had as children to explore and play!

Weaving hard-hitting and thought-provoking questions throughout the episode, Rachelle challenges the "its not good enough" narrative and encourages us to lean into what the Universe has in store.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• What do you want to grow in your life?
• What is something new you want to purposefully put into your life? (Hobbies? Habits?)
• Hobbies are something we do just for us. Enjoy the process! Enjoy the Doing!!!
• Can you see what the Universe has planted for you? Can you see where it's planted you?
• Now is the time to trust the gardener, whether that's You or The Universe.

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May 3, 2023 || 17 Minutes