The Sh*t They Should've Taught Us In School with Rachelle Indra

Season 3 Episode 4 : Who Is Your Ego Forcing You To Be?

In this episode, Rachelle dives into the concept of the Ego, unpacks the role it plays in relationships, and explores how it can shape self-worth and even influence our patterns of attraction. Listen in as Rachelle spills about her own dating experience, and the complexity of seeking both independence and partnership.

Touching on the Ego's need for control and predictability, Rachelle shares insights into the challenges of vulnerability and transition in relationships. She candidly reflects on her own journey of realizing the need to shift from a mindset of reinforcing personal strengths to embracing true partnership dynamics. Through vulnerability and introspection, Rachelle invites listeners to reconsider their own relationship patterns and explore new pathways to connection and growth to get you to your very own "It's scary, but I don't want it to stop."

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Book Recommendation - "Untethered Soul" By: Michael Singer
• The Ego Voice is the voice that says "I AM..." and puts things into black and white boxes. It craves control and safety, and doesn't like to be challenged.
• Vulnerability is strength. It is the Ego that gets scared and hears it as weakness
• Awareness is the first step to change
• QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER:
• What is it you identify with?
• What does your Ego want you to be?
• Where do you feel like you need to prove yourself?
• What is the Ego's greatest fear? How does it show fear?
• How are you in relationships? 
• Are you always trying to save other people?
• Do you find yourself wanting to be safer by having the upper hand? Or wanting people to take care of you?
• You can change the pattern and lean into a healthier, more aligned YOU!!!

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March 13, 2024 || 39 Minutes

Season 3 Episode 3 : We Didn't Want To, So Why Didn't We Listen?

TW: Brief Mention of Sexual Assault

In this episode, Rachelle delves into the complexity of sacrificing our own desires to make others happy through the lens of sexual intimacy.

While both challenging the black-and-white view of cheating and exploring the nuanced motivations that lead to it, she bravely recounts the one time she cheated on a boyfriend, and why it took close to 20 years to process.

Talking everything from societal pressures to shame and guilt, Rachelle vulnerably revisits how cheating led to a long-believed story she's held about herself for decades, and invites listeners to hear her untangle it in real time.

This episode reminds listeners of the importance of checking in with ourselves and prioritizing our own needs, and warns of the pitfalls that come with abandoning that inner voice. Rachelle extends her insights beyond gender, acknowledging that societal pressures affect individuals across the spectrum, emphasizing the universal relevance of the message.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Cheating is not black and white.
• Societal Pressures around sex and intimacy effect people of all genders.
• Personal check-ins are essential!
• PERSONAL CHECK IN: Am I engaging in sexual behaviors when it's not an enthusiastic yes? Am I doing this FOR someone else's benefit? Where is the pressure coming from?
• Even if you're in a partnership with somebody that you love very much doing sexual things with them long term when you don't want to does damage.
• Take inventory of your stories and allow for moments of reflection

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February 28, 2024 || 31 Minutes

Season 3 Episode 2 : The Role We Needed To Play

This week's episode kicks off with a deep dive into the roles we adopt throughout our lives, and invites us to explore whether they still align with who we truly are. Rachelle shares her own journey of self-discovery, reflecting on how a conversation with her brother sparked her to look at whether the label of extrovert was actually her true nature.

She invites listeners to explore the roles they played growing up and question whether those roles still serve them. Through personal anecdotes and insightful analysis, Rachelle encourages us to embrace authenticity and stop the cycle of forcing ourselves into molds that don't fit.

This introspective episode challenges us to let go of societal expectations and embrace our truest selves, reminding us that tremendous growth comes from allowing ourselves to simply be who we are.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• It is not about becoming something people want you to be, or doing more. It is about UNdoing old patterns and allowing who you are to shine.
• Questions and Journaling Opportunities:
• What was expected of you as a child?
• What was important to your parents?
• What traits/actions got you love vs. pain?
• Does that still apply to who I am today?
• If you were on a desert island, who would you be?
• When you're alone, who are you?

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February 14, 2024 || 25 Minutes

Season 3 Episode 1 : The Shallow Bond

Welcome back to Season Three!

In this kickoff episode, Rachelle dives into a candid conversation about GOSSIP, and provides profound perspective on how it may be what is hindering genuine connections.

Listen in as she shares a personal story about a dinner dominated by gossip, and delves into the dynamics of mob mentality and the ego's love for superiority... Discover the illusion of bonding through gossip and join Rachelle in breaking free from 'us versus them' mentalities.

From 'Dorito Conversations' to questioning gossip's impact on intimacy, this episode sparks self-reflection on the depth of our relationships. Ready to foster more authentic connections? Let's dive in!

Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Gossip offers a false sense of security, taking us further away from vulnerability and authentic connection
• Not every one of your friendships needs to be deep, emotional, and bonding. You are allowed to have fluffy, fun, surface level friendships, too.
• "Dorito conversations," offer momentary satisfaction but a lack of depth and true connection.
• Some Questions To Reflect On If You Have Relationships That Don't Feel Bonded or Intimate:
• Are you holding back because you want to keep things surface level in your friendship (partnership, etc)?
• Am I safe enough to get to a deeper level?
• Are you not offering opportunity for deeper bonding? Is it because of habitual gossip?
• Are you spending time with people who keep things surface level? If yes, why?
• Do you want to change it?

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January 31, 2024 || 28 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 30 : The Importance of Shedding

In this week's episode, Rachelle takes us on a journey through the transformative season of fall. Reminding us that now is the perfect time to shed what no longer serves us. Rachelle dives into the art of letting go, and talks shedding everything from habits to humans.

This episode promises to validate how habits may have once protected us, while encouraging us to trace their roots, acknowledge their protective intentions, and ultimately guide us to release them and adopt healthier behaviors.

Rachelle's insights provide a refreshing reminder to assess and declutter our physical spaces, inviting us to let go of remnants of our past selves. This episode is a soothing and introspective exploration of how we can gracefully transition into a new season of self-discovery and personal growth.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Things you may need to shed this season...
• Habits (with self, work, family, or other)
• Foundational Beliefs, the deeply ingrained narratives that can either empower or limit us.
• People / Relationships (gray area relationships are often trickier to recognize and release than ones that are "good" or "bad")
• Items in your home
• The awareness of knowing what we need to shed is half the battle. its ok to make recognition the first goal

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October 25, 2023 || 24 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 29 : I'm Sorry Isn't Enough

In this week's straight-talking episode, Rachelle breaks down exactly why "I'm Sorry" isn't enough. Listen in as she dives into the complexities of change within relationships, and explains the reasons why change doesn't happen even though it's possible.

Rachelle delves into the impact of societal norms on men and women's capacity for change, as she passionately advocates for improved emotional communication and support for men, while emphasizing that significant change often requires outside support in the form of therapy or personal growth work.

This episode ultimately underscores the importance of asking specific questions when someone promises to change, and serves as a compelling reminder to seek transparency and actively participate in personal growth within relationships.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• CAN someone change is different than WILL they change
• People don't change either because they don't want to or because they don't know how. 
• When somebody says, they'll change, ask them, "How?". How will you change? How will you work on that? What can I expect? 
• Don't marry somebody who won't go to therapy.
• Therapy, Self-Help Books, and Podcasts are great resources to facilitate change

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October 18, 2023 || 28 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 28 : I Didn't Owe Him My Time

In this week's episode, Rachelle explores the intricate dynamics of attraction and societal expectations, emphasizing how self-awareness and confidence have empowered her to navigate situations differently in her 40s compared to her 20s.

Sharing a personal experience with her trademark humor and sass, Rachelle passionately challenges the notion that women are obligated to cater to men's desires, and expertly debunks patriarchal narratives.

Throughout the episode, Rachelle champions the idea that it is essential to assert boundaries and stand firm in one's autonomy, despite outside expectations, and invites listeners to rethink societal conditioning, embrace assertive communication, and ultimately pave the way for healthier, more authentic connections.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Be okay turning somebody down. Even if they did something nice for you.
• You are responsible for compassionately and honestly asserting/holding your boundaries... NOT for how people receive them. It's ok of they are uncomfortable or feel exposed.
• Women are conditioned to put other's needs first, and we forget that somebody just getting to spend time with us is enough.
• YOU DO NOT OWE ANYONE YOUR TIME, ENERGY, OR BODY
• You should be able to make boundaries with somebody that has interest in you and have them be respectful that you're not interested. Period.

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October 11, 2023 || 34 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 27 : How You're Letting Your Insecurity Choose

In this week's thought-provoking episode, Rachelle explores the impact insecurities have on our life choices, especially when it comes to dating. As always, through candidly sharing her own experiences, Rachelle challenges common stereotypes and biases around physical appearance, highlighting how both men and women might miss out on meaningful connections due to rigid preferences based on societal norms.

This episode promises to question common beliefs about both men and women, and expose how these beliefs perpetuate traditional gender roles. Rachelle passionately advocates for broadening our horizons, encouraging listeners to break free from societal standards and embrace deeper, more authentic connections.

This episode serves as a powerful reminder to examine our insecurities and prejudices, whether in dating, career choices, or friendships, and to open ourselves up to a wider, more diverse range of experiences.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Are your insecurities making you choose the wrong people in life?
• What are your priorities when it comes to Dating? Friendship? Career?
• What are the self-limiting beliefs and preferences that keep you from expanding your "type"?
• You might be missing out on great connections because of that Ego-driven ideology
• How have societal standards and expectations shaped your perspective?

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October 4, 2023 || 32 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 26 : Your Easiest Tool to Tackle Anxiety and Overwhelm

In this episode, Rachelle takes us on a journey through an array of simple, cost-free tools to combat overwhelm and anxiety. She introduces the concept of "comfort shows," and explains how the familiarity can soothe an activated nervous system.

Not into TV? No Problem! Rachelle explores a long list of creative activities that provide solace and reduce anxiety, and encourages listeners to embrace familiar routines that offer relief from life's unpredictability. By creating a toolbox of comforts, and nurturing our nervous system, we can better navigate life's challenges... AND adventures!

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• The nervous system craves familiarity and predictability when in stress, so watching a show you've seen before can help alleviate symptoms of anxiety.
• You can have anxiety and feel overwhelmed by the good things in your life, too.
• It's important to recognize small accessible ways you can control to calm the nervous system.
• Make a list of the things that give soothing comfort to your nervous system: books, movies, shows, activities

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September 27, 2023 || 20 Minutes

Season 2 Episode 25: Why Solo Travel is for You

Fresh off three months in Europe, Rachelle takes you into the world of solo travel where she shares valuable insights and tips, making this episode a comprehensive guide to solo travel.

Rachelle highlights the transformative potential of traveling alone, emphasizing the learning opportunities that arise when we step out of our comfort zone. She describes how traveling this way can help us identify (and overcome) self-imposed limitations and help us discover hidden capabilities.

Offering practical advice on everything from safety to money-saving strategies, this episode is blasting out valuable tips to make your solo travel an accessible and fulfilling experience.

Make sure to stay to the end to hear Rachelle's "must-have" packing list for solo travelers.

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Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

• Books Mentioned in this Episode: "Wild" a book about hiking the PCT, "Eat Pray Love", "The Untethered Soul: by Michael Singer
• Solo travel reminds us how safe we are in our own skin, in our own thoughts, in our own decision making.
• Start Small: Go to countries that are known for being safe, or where you can speak the language
• IMPORTANT TIP: Get travel recommendations from people in a similar demographic as you: sex, gender, age, culture, financial background, etc
• TIPS TO SAVE MONEY: house swapping, camping, pet sitting.
• Pack for who you are, not who you want to be
• Important questions you get to answer during solo travel: Who are you when you're alone? Who are you when you get to do whatever you want, whenever you want? Where would you go? What would you see? When would you sleep? What would you eat? Where would you eat?

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September 20, 2023 || 62 Minutes