I recently recorded a longer podcast with this same title, and today I’ve pulled out a 4-minute extract for you. If you’d like to hear the entire thing, I’ll copy in the link to the archived podcast here >  https://gum.co/SP277 … It’s more important to be sober, more important than all the other things, by a … Continue reading omm317.everything.is.like.everything →

Ever ask someone for advice and leave out whole parts of the story so that you might get a favourable response, particularly one where we’ll all agree with you and cheer: “fuck your husband, he’s a shit’? That’s my thought for today. send me your ideas, and i’ll use this as the topic of my … Continue reading omm316.the.stories.we.tell →

Some days you wake up and you want a hard reset, you want to evolve starting today. and in order to evolve, you’re going to need to change how you’re doing this. you’ll have to try something different > happy thursday. sober treat today will be cleaning off my desk. sober treat tomorrow will be … Continue reading omm315.evolve →

“why can’t i keep trying to moderate, why can’t i just continue to stop and start and quit and relapse, why is it all so black and white, so harsh, why do i have to quit entirely?” well, because it’s easier. it’s easier to be sober than it is to engage with the thinking that … Continue reading omm314.easier →

Our head will make up reasons, so that drinking might seem like a good idea. this little extract audio for today is taken from a longer 13-part free series called Duck Ponderings: Behind the Scenes with a Sober Girl. This chunk is from the Husbands audio. It’s about how we think that husbands (or the … Continue reading omm313.our.head →

Sometimes you want a special drink, you want something that feels special. YOU want to feel special. == happy sober sunday to you, recorded this earlier in the week when in rhode island. ~ sign up for these one minute messages on Gumroad to get access to ALL of the episodes & the occasional video … Continue reading omm312.special →

This message is extracted from podcast SP262 which is a full-length 40 minute audio about Yoga, and counsellors, and booze advertising. In this clip, we talk about marriage counsellors who don’t ask about alcohol use when you go in to see them, and in general this is a bit of a RANT session. you either … Continue reading omm311.sober.first →

This message is extracted from podcast SP261 which is a full-length 25 minute audio about how we think it’s harder to quit drinking when we’re alone… and how we think it’s harder to quit drinking when we have 4 kids. Well. What if it’s the shitty hard for everybody. “Of course it’s harder FOR ME,” … Continue reading omm310.loneliness →

This one-minute audio message is about how to set up accountability for yourself, so that you can get the thing done. it’s also about how to stop beating yourself up for needing accountability == happy Friday, grey rainy day here finally after weeks of heat and brown grass. i’m heading into a rare weekend without … Continue reading omm309.accountability →

I got a message from J this morning, and thought I would reply to him in the form of a one-minute message. are you a coward if you haven’t yet quit drinking? or is your head arguing with you about what tools and supports you might use to get going? be kind to you. == … Continue reading omm308.coward →