It's so important for you to tell your marriage story. Seriously. Your kids need to hear your story. You need to hear your own marriage story, and it's just important to tell your story. Your marriage story may be a great one. It may be a fairytale. Your story may have lots of peaks and valleys, or your story may feel more like a nightmare at this time. Don't give up. You're still writing your story. 

Today we share our story ... and remind you why it's important to tell your story. 

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Here's our 10 Tips

1. Be patient.
2. P___________ before the marriage. 
3. N________________ you marriage. 
4. Educate yourself.
5. Put yourself in your kids _____________ 
6. ALWAYS ... ALWAYS .... do this!
7. Be specific.
8. D________________ your kids. 
9. Be _____________ to the EX, but have clear ________________
10. ______________ God for __________________

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QUESTIONS COVERED: 

• We've been married a year and my husband is struggling to be intimate. Help?
• How can we have an active sex life AND small children at the same time?
• My husband is an introvert & I am an extrovert, HELP?
• What are your thoughts on friends who cause issues between a husband and wife?
• How many times do you recommend having sex per week?
• I'd like to spice things up sexually with my husband, but how?
• What ways do you recommend in praying together as husband and wife?
• As a wife, how do I get more "want of sex" into my system?
• Help, we are stressed due to money, work and children, etc. What do we do?

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“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times ... always with the same person.” 

Why many times ... through each stage of marriage. Almost everyone has three marriages in their lifetime. The smart ones learn to adjust and do so with the same person. 

WHAT ARE THE THREE STAGES WE’RE TALKING ABOUT?

1. Honeymoon (BEFORE KIDS)
2. Kids
3. Empty nest

In this episode we talk ... 

• Do's and Don'ts of each stage.
• Why it's important to model marriage for your kids.
• Scheduling sex.
• Your marriage suffers when you are only mom and dad, and never "husband and wife."
• Not feeling guilty when you leave your kids to take a trip for a weekend.
• The importance of regular check-ins.
• How to rediscovering your spouse.
• This biggest no-no of empty nest. 

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There is NO place in marriage for:

o  Screaming ...

o  Yelling...

o  Name calling...

o  Cursing ... 

o  Throwing things ... 

o  Saying unkind things...

Angry outbursts and losing control ... cause you to lost the love of your spouse, lose the respect of your spouse and children. Short tempers are a marriage killer. 

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5 LOVE LANGUAGES in Marriage:

We're talking the "5 Love Languages" of marriage. If you haven't taken the FREE - 3 minute quiz (Link below) in a while to find out your love language, now would be a great time to do it, before listening to this week's episode. Also, get your spouse to do it.

It's really hard to speak your spouse's love language if you don't know what it is.

Here are the 5 Love Languages:

1 - words of affirmation
2 - quality time
3 - receiving gifts
4 - acts of service
5 - physical touch

Love can be expressed and received in all 5 Love Languages. However, if you don't speak a person's primary love language, that person will not feel loved, even though you may be speaking the other four. IF we are to develop an intimate relationship with our spouse, we need to know each other's desires. If you wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants.

* Trey's love language is Praise
* Lea's is Acts of Service.

What is yours and your spouse's?

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/couples-quiz/

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Many couples seem to lose their spark when they stop working on their marriage. How do I know if I'm in a marriage with a roommate or soulmate? AND How do I get my soulmate back if we've become roommates. Here's some of the things we cover ...

ROOMMATES: 
* Roommates don't eat meal together.
* Roommates have no face to face communication. 
* Roommates have very little sex, or sex without intimacy.
* Roommates know things need fixed, but never do anything to fix them.

SOULMATES:
* Soulmates love doing things together.
* Soulmates grow spiritually together.
* Soulmates are one another's biggest fans. 
* Soulmates have intimacy that is a joy not a chore. 

HOW TO REGAIN OR REMAIN SOULMATES?
DO THESE 5 THINGS. 

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10 Tips for Making Things Better. Things we cover this episode ... 

1. You must do SOMETHING, to expect it to get better. 
2. The #1 thing you must do to make things better. 
3. Remember THIS about your spouse.
4. Do the things you did when you fell in love. 
5. The answer isn't upgrading your spouse. 
6. Seek help by doing these three things.
7. DANGER, do not do this ... when it comes to someone you talk to. 
8. Communicate daily.
9. Pray together.
10. The best time to work on your marriage is THIS time. 

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Today we cover ... 

* How much time should you be spending on social media?

* Hiding things from your spouse on social media. 

* Should I share my password with my spouse?

* Being friends with an EX or old boy/girl friends.

* 3 things you should NEVER do on Social Media.

* 2 Things you MUST do on Social Media if you are married. 

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Some things we covered in this podcast ... 

• ALWAYS put your spouse first.
• Set boundaries. 
• Play fair when it comes to holidays and special events.
• Be a team.
• Keep an open mind.
• NEVER betray your spouse to your parents. 
• Strive to live at peace.
• DO be the bad cop when needed. 
• How to be the best in-laws EVER!

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