The Superior Men Podcast

Matt and Jay discuss the art of complimenting women, the best (and worst) pick up lines, the four dynamics of male/female interactions, what you should NEVER say to a woman and so much more!

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Episode 40 - Complimenting Women

WASM Article: How To Compliment Women

5:00 - Our favorite pick-up lines

7:30 - What is a compliment?

10:30 - Why do we use compliments?

12:00 - Compliments vs Flattery

14:30 - The challenge of complimenting women

16:00 - Men vs Women: Where do you want to eat?

20:00 - Complimenting women to try and make them happy when they're feeling emotional

21:30 - Men generally say what they mean, Women generally say what they are CURRENTLY FEELING IN THAT MOMENT

23:30 - The dangers of valuing women over yourself

26:00 - The dynamics of male/female interactions: Power, Attraction, Integrity, Purpose

27:00 - Who has the power in an interaction? Whoever needs the other person less

29:30 - Women enjoy a man who can lead well

31:00 - The different kinds of attraction - or lack of attraction

33:00 - Integrity: Are you telling the truth or are you lying to get what you want?

36:30 - Many lies that guys tell are motivated by a genuine desire to make her happy

40:00 - What is your purpose when talking to her?

43:00 - Do you know what your goal is for that conversation?

46:00 - Think before you speak - because most women will know what your motives are before you open your mouth

49:30 - Don't say these things: "You're the most beautiful woman ever and you always will be no matter what" "I'm the luckiest guy because I'm with you" "As long as you're happy I'm happy."

52:30 - Do say these things: "Wow you are lucky to be with me!" "You're going to have a great night - if you behave." "I can tell you're in love with me."

56:30 - Be attractive to her, but more importantly be attractive to yourself

58:30 - Don't accept unattractive behavior from her

59:30 - Don't say: "Let's do whatever you want to do." "You're the boss."

62:30 - Do say: "Yes these are my tattoos. No you can't touch them." "I have a great idea for tonight. Wear something nice and I'll pick you up at 8pm."

64:00 - Speaking with Intregrity

66:00 - Don't say: "I'll do anything for you." "I could never look at another woman."

69:30 - Do say: "Sure I'll help you out...what's in it for me?" "I love seeing beautiful women." "I'm going out to XYZ tonight. Want to join me? No? Okay, I'll see you later."

72:30 - What's your purpose in talking to that woman? Get laid? Getting ego validation? Are you trying to experiment and get better with women?

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76:00 - Don't say: "Soooo how am I doing so far?" "Am I getting lucky tonight?"

77:30 - Do say: "If you play your cards right you might get lucky"

Matt and Jay discuss the art of complimenting women, the best (and worst) pick up lines, the dangers of valuing women over yourself, the four dynamics of male/female interactions, what you should NEVER say to a woman and what you SHOULD say instead - and so much more!

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Nineteen Eighty-Four (1984) by George Orwell

Nineteen Eighty-Four is George Orwell's haunting prophesy of the future, a vision of totalitarian government that has held multiple generations of readers spellbound with its terrifying possibilities.

Though it was written over 60 years ago, this powerful and unforgettable story has lost none of its potency. The themes Orwell explores are critical to understanding the demands of absolute power: the obliteration of truth, the death of individuality and liberty, and the creation of a world where the ruling power controls everything, from information to thought and memory.

Bleak, chilling and far too close to reality, Nineteen Eighty-Four is one of the most important novels ever written.

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"Nineteen Eighty-Four (1984)" Show Notes

0:00 - Intro to "Nineteen Eighty-Four"

Eric Blair (aka George Orwell) wan English writer who lived through World War II and saw first hand the Totalitarian atrocities carried out by Stalin and Hitler. He wrote 1984 in an attempt "to push the world in a certain direction, to alter other peoples' idea of the kind of society that they should strive after."Intended audience: Anyone who watches the "news"; anyone who believes we need to learn from history; anyone who likes scary stories.People who won't like it: Anyone who has 100% faith in their government; Antifa members

7:00 - How easy is the book to read?

Challenging to read. Writing is straightforward and clear but Orwell creates new words (ie “Newspeak,” “Doublethink,” “Thoughtcrime,” etc) and references plenty of political theory (ie Oligarchical Collectivism, Command Economy, Perpetual War) that will take time to learn but ultimately will reward the readerPrint: 326 pages (8~10 hours)Audio: 11.5 hours

8:00 - Reviews and Significance of Nineteen Eighty-Four

THE classic Dystopian NovelStars really don’t matter (it’s been taught in high-schools and colleges nationwide for decades) but if you’re curious, Amazon’s current rank for the most popular version has 10,328 4.5 star ratingsCurrently: #16 Amazon - Political Fiction (as of 1/31/20)#10 Amazon - Censorship and Politics#117 Audible - Overall Audible books #6 Audible - Classic Literature#8 Audible - Science Fiction

10:00 - Bio of George Orwell

George Orwell - pseudonym for Eric Arthur BlairBorn 1903 in Bengal, India, to British parents, raised in EnglandReturned to India in 1922 to serve as an officer with the Indian Imperial Police in Burma. At one point he was responsible for the security of 200,000 people.Spoke fluent BurmeseIn 1927 moved to London (then two years in Paris) and began earning his living penning novels and essaysSoldier in Spanish Civil War (1936-39) for the Republican Faction 1941 - Hired by the BBC (British Broadcasting Company) for “war work” to create Cultural Broadcasts for India to counter the Nazi propaganda that was being used to undermine the British Imperial presence in IndiaTraveled extensively throughout India, England and Europe, meeting people in every political and economic status and learning the truth about how government actually worksBesides his classic “Animal Farm,” his works include a novel based on his experiences as a colonial policeman, “Burmese Days,” two firsthand studies of poverty, “Down and Out in Paris and London” and “The Road to Wigan Pier,” an account of his experiences in the Spanish Civil War, “Homage to Catalonia” and his last novel - the one that has shaped the world - “1984.”Died 1950 from Tuberculosis

13:30 - Major Themes of the Book

WAR IS PEACE / IGNORANCE IS STRENGTH / FREEDOM IS SLAVERYMinistry of Peace (Minipax) -- The war ministry of Oceania's government, in charge of the armed forces. The nation is in an ongoing genocidal war with either Eurasia or Eastasia. The key to controlling the populace is using the right amount of force not to win th

Nineteen Eighty-Four is George Orwell's haunting prophesy of the future, a vision of totalitarian government that has held multiple generations of readers spellbound with its terrifying possibilities. Orwell's 1984 is one of the most important novels ever written.

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Matt and Jay rethink macros, discuss the Protein/Energy Diet, why fat isn't bad, the importance of controlling your blood sugar, the calories in Uranium, the subtle dangers of weight loss companies like Jenny Craig and Weight Watchers, why you should stop eating Pretzels and much more!

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Episode 39

Rethink Macros

WASM Article: https://www.wearesuperiormen.com/rethink-the-3-macros-pe-diet/

7:00 - Intro to The P/E Diet

9:30 - You need to start thinking about the ratios of the macros you eat

12:30 - Comparing apples with apples - Calories aren't always calories

18:30 - Fat is bad...right?

21:00 - Fat is storage for energy / Fat can also be used directly as energy as ketone bodies

23:30 - Carbs are the bodies first choice for energy / Carbs CAN'T be used for energy storage

27:30 - No food is "bad" or "good" - it's all about what you're getting in the food you're eating

29:30 - Controlling your bloodsugar (via your diet) is KEY to making sure your body's self-regulatory mechanisms are working correctly

33:30 - Our bodies don't do well with a constant influx of dietary carbohydrates - especially simple carbohydrates

36:00 - Protein not a functional energy source

39:00 - What IS a calorie really?

42:30 - How many calories are in one kg of coal? One pound of hay? 1g of Uranium U235?

47:00 - What is the P/E diet? Divide your daily intake of protein by your daily intake of energy (fat + carbohydrates)

49:30 - Standard American Diet (SAD) vs Protein Sparing Modified Fast (PSMF) vs Balanced Diet ([Protein] = [Fat + Carbs])

52:30 - What does a good maintenance diet look like?

55:00 - P/E ratio of Egg Whites = 12/1

56:30 - Ribeye steak P/E ratio = 1.3/1

59:00 - Matt's Heavy Cream Latte / Butter P/E ratio = 1/12

62:30 - Cupcake P/E ratio = 1/20

65:30 - Pretzel P/E ratio = 1/25

69:00 - What SHOULD we eat? #1 Focus on Protein, #2 Then add fat, #3 Then add carbs

73:30 - What NOT to eat? For most people, no grains, nothing processed or pre-packaged

77:30 - How do you calculate P/E ratios for your food?

Ideal Bodyweight Calculator https://www.calculator.net/ideal-weight-calculator.html

82:30 - Maintenance Mode P/E ratio vs Weight Loss P/E ratio

84:30 - Jenny Craig isn't a Weight Loss company, it's a Food company

Matt and Jay discuss the Protein/Energy Diet, why fat isn't bad, the importance of controlling your blood sugar, the subtle dangers of weight loss companies like Jenny Craig and Weight Watchers, why you should stop eating Pretzels and much more!

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Matt and Jay discuss when Throwing In the Towel is a good thing, the critical value of giving up, how to use triage to prioritize your shit, Dr. Baumeister's Cookies and Radishes experiment, the amazing truths of Rocky IV and much more!

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Episode 38

Throwing in the Towel

WASM Article: https://www.wearesuperiormen.com/throwing-in-the-towel/

5:00 - New Year, New You?

8:00 - Nope---New Year, Same You

10:00 - What goals/habits have YOU tried to change before and failed?

12:30 - The unpredictable things that derail our goals

14:30 - Multi-tasking vs High-speed triage and prioritization

17:00 - 911 emergency response: Same event, different priorities - depending on POV (victim, officer, dispatch center)

21:30 - Our FOCUS, our ATTENTION, is where we have the capacity to create or change something

24:30 - Key concept: YOUR WILLPOWER is FINITE and EXHAUSTIBLE

26:30 - Dr. Baumeister's Experiment: Cookies, Radishes and Puzzle Solving

29:30 - The solution when we're seriously overwhelmed? Often we just give up

32:00 - David Goggins used the Rocky soundtrack on repeat when he broke the Guinness World Record for Pull-Ups

33:30 - Rocky IV - How Rocky fails, refuses to throw in the towel and Apollo Creed dies

39:00 - Strategy to transform your life: Start giving up on some things

41:00 - Stephen Covey's Four Quadrants from "7 Habits of Highly Successful People":

Urgent & Important: Crisis, emergencies, pressing problemsNot Urgent & Important: Planning, prevention, relationship-building, healthUrgent & Not Important: Some phone calls, some meetings, "popular activities"Not Urgent & Not Important: Most social media, escapism, junk mail, mindless TV

47:00 - Spend your time working on the Not-Urgent & Important items in your life

49:30 - Maximize your energy by giving up things that don't serve you

51:30 - How to know your willpower is used up? Spending more than 20 minutes CHOOSING a show on Netflix

54:00 - The 8-year long remodel

57:00 - Flashlights vs Lasers = Same amount of energy, used differently

59:00 - What projects/goals can you cut from your life? Where can you throw in the towel?

63:30 - Success isn't a battle it's a war

Matt and Jay discuss the critical value of giving up, how to use triage to prioritize your shit, Dr. Baumeister's Cookies and Radishes experiment, flashlights vs lasers, the amazing truths of Rocky IV and much more!

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Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss and Tahl Raz

Never Split the Difference is a riveting, indispensable handbook of negotiation principles culled and perfected from Chris Voss’s remarkable career as an FBI hostage negotiator and later as an award-winning teacher in the world’s most prestigious business schools.

This book provides a gripping, behind-the-scenes recounting of dramatic scenarios from the gang-infested streets of Haiti to a Brooklyn bank robbery gone horribly wrong, revealing the negotiation strategies that helped Voss and his colleagues succeed where it mattered most: saving lives. As a world-class negotiator, Voss shows you how to use these skills in the workplace and in every other realm of your life.

Life is a series of negotiations: whether buying a car, getting a better raise, buying a home, renegotiating rent, or deliberating with your partner, Never Split the Difference gives you the competitive edge in any discussion.

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"Never Split the Difference" Notes:

0:00 - Intro to "Never Split the Difference"

Chris Voss, the FBI’s lead international kidnapping negotiator, teaches you the tools and techniques he's learned over several decades of experience to be successful in every negotiation you haveIntended audience: Anyone who wants to greatly improve their ability to get what they want from other peoplePeople who won't like it: Anyone who isn't ready to work on themselves

5:30 - How easy is the book to read?

Enjoyable, chatty, fun to read but it will take some time to absorb - probably at least two read-throughs260 pages - 7-9 hoursAudiobook - 8 hours

6:30 - Reviews and Significance

Well known 3,552 reviews, 4.8 starsCurrently (as of 1/2/20)#16 Current Amazon Charts - Overall#1 Amazon - Business and Communication Skills#5 Amazon - Communication Skills (overall)#53 Audible - Overall Audible books (just above our last book 12 Rules at #54)#1 Audible - Communication Skills

10:00 - Bio of Chris Voss

24 Year veteran of FBILead Crisis Negotiator for NY branch of FBI then became Chief International Hostage Negotiator for FBIBorn in Mt. Pleasant, IowaMasters of Public Administration from HarvardOriginally planned on being on the SWAT team, but he injured his knee and had to find a new career path. His application to become a negotiator was rejected at firstBegan his training process and acquired most of his experience working a suicide hotline. Chris says that the suicide hotline was an in-depth course on emotional intelligence - learning how to deal with irrational people and keep himself from getting emotionally engaged. Represented US in G-8 as international kidnapping expertAfter working over 150 intl hostage cases for FBI, left and founded The Black Swan Group, a consulting firm that provides training and advises Fortune 500 companies through complex negotiationsVoss has taught for many business schools, including: USC’s Marshall School of Business, Georgetown's McDonough School of Business, Harvard University, MIT's Sloan School of Management and others

12:30 - Major Themes of the Book

CHAPTER 1 | THE NEW RULESHow to Become the Smartest Person . . . in Any RoomCHAPTER 2 | BE A MIRRORHow to Quickly Establish RapportCHAPTER 3 | DON’T FEEL THEIR PAIN, LABEL ITHow to Create Trust with Tactical EmpathyCHAPTER 4 | BEWARE “YES”—MASTER “NO”How to Generate Momentum and Make It Safe to Reveal the Real StakesCHAPTER 5 | TRIGGER THE TWO WORDS THAT IMMEDIATELY TRANSFORM ANY NEGOTIATIONHow to Gain the Permission to PersuadeCHAPTER 6 | BEND THEIR REALITYHow to Shape What Is FairCHAPTER 7 | CREATE THE ILLUSION OF CONTROLHow to Calibrate Questions to Transform Conflict into CollaborationCHAPTER 8 | GUARANTEE EXECUTIONHow to Spot the Liars and Ensure Follow-Through from Everyone ElseCHAPTER 9 | BARG

Never Split the Difference is a riveting, indispensable handbook of negotiation principles culled from Chris Voss’s remarkable career as an FBI hostage negotiator.

Life is a series of negotiations: whether buying a car, getting a better raise, buying a home, renegotiating rent, or deliberating with your partner, Never Split the Difference will give you the competitive edge in any discussion.

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