The Superior Men Podcast

Matt and Jay discuss power in relationships, why every ship needs a Captain, the myth of TRUE equality, modern feminism and victim mentality, Male cops vs Female cops, the hormonal desires of men and women, 5 Rules to help Men lead in the home...and much more!

Surveys Page Link

Our “Sexual Magnetism” book is coming soon! We’ll be offering limited advanced copies and deep discounts but ONLY if you've signed up for our email list! To sign up head over to https://www.wearesuperiormen.com/join/

For faster access, tell your mobile assistant or smart speaker "Play 'The Superior Men Podcast'!"

Make sure to listen to our 30-minute book review show "The Superior Men Bookcast" - available now with your TSMP subscription. Bookcast #8 “12 Rules for Life” coming December 10!

Episode 36 Notes

4:30 - Who wears the pants in a relationship?

5:30 - Every ship must have a Captain, every car needs a driver

7:30 - Modern masculinity under attack

10:00 - Captains don't - and can't - do all the work

12:00 - TRUE equality is impossible

14:00 - Feminism, Patriarchy and "The root of all societal evils"

16:30 - Feminism: The dictionary definition vs the modern definition

18:30 - Equality vs Dominance

20:00 - Modern feminism is a victim mentality

22:00 - Men and Women have natural strengths and weaknesses

23:30 - Male cops vs Female cops

26:00 - Which genders should work which jobs?

27:30 - Do women make good leaders?

30:00 - Power in relationships: A biological base

32:00 - Women in high-commitment jobs (C-level jobs, Lawyer, Doctor, Business owner, etc) often leave or downgrade hours to spend more time with family

33:30 - Do women WANT to be the leader in a relationship?

35:00 - Women who woo men...

37:00 - Why every romance novel and rom-com has the same Male/Female dynamic

40:00 - Men and Women are hormonally driven from birth to do different things

43:00 - In relationships, Women want a Man they can look up to and respect

45:00 - Hot Jock with cute mousy girl = Very plausible / Hot cheerleader with nerdy loner guy = Not plausible

47:00 - The Captain must CONTINUOUSLY EARN his position or else MUTINY!!

49:00 - Why Women don't want to lead

51:00 - "Give a Woman a house and she will give you a home"

52:30 - How you as the Man lead in home

54:00 - Lead - but don't be a dick

56:00 - Being a good leader means taking care of everyone in your group

58:30 - If you want to accomplish nothing, attempt to make everyone happy at all times

Matt and Jay discuss power in relationships, why every ship needs a Captain, the myth of TRUE equality, modern feminism and victim mentality, Male cops vs Female cops, the hormonal desires of men and women, 5 Rules to help Men lead in the home...and much more!

Continue reading TSMP #36 – Power In Relationships: Who Wears the Pants? at We Are Superior Men.

Matt and Jay discuss power in relationships, why every ship needs a Captain, the myth of TRUE equality, modern feminism and victim mentality, Male cops vs Female cops, the hormonal desires of men and women, 5 Rules to help Men lead in the home...and much more!

Continue reading TSMP #36 – Power In Relationships: Who Wears the Pants? at We Are Superior Men.

Matt and Jay discuss how to negotiate successfully, the age old question "where do we go for dinner," the real reason Amazon is successful, when you should NOT compromise, the power of silence, using the 7-38-55 Rule and so much more!

Surveys Page Link

Our “Sexual Magnetism” book is coming soon! We’ll be offering limited advanced copies and deep discounts but ONLY if you've signed up for our email list! To sign up head over to https://www.wearesuperiormen.com/join/

For faster access, tell your mobile assistant or smart speaker "Play 'The Superior Men Podcast'!"

Make sure to listen to our 30-minute book review show "The Superior Men Bookcast" - available now with your TSMP subscription. Bookcast #8 “12 Rules for Life” coming December 10!

Episode 35 Notes

WASM Article: How To Negotiate Successfully

For more great info, read Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss

5:00 - What is Negotiation?

8:00 - We're negotiating all the time - ie. The eternal question: "Where do we go for dinner?"

10:30 - Where to find non-fixed prices - Used items, Craigslist

13:00 - Service work is haggle-able

15:00 - Never let people treat you badly

17:30 - You can always walk away from ANY situation

19:30 - Matt's work negotiations

22:00 - Valuable non-monetary compensations

27:00 - 9 Tips for Successful Negotiating / Tip #1: Do Your Research

29:00 - Are you using the internet for research? DO IT!

33:00 - The greatness of Amazon = Reviews

34:30 - Tip #2: Cultivate An Abundance Mentality / Diversify! Have multiple families in different states

37:30 - Buy this product NOW or it will disappear in the next 5 seconds

40:00 - Tip #3: Avoid the "Middle Ground Fallacy"

42:00 - Compromise is often the answer but not always - NEVER compromise your dream

45:00 - Tip #4: Practice Active Listening (Mindtools.com)

48:00 - Tip #5: Use "Mirroring" / Consciously mirror other people's words back to them

50:00 - Use 4 Seconds of Silence + I'm Sorry / Say "I'm sorry...your best offer is $14,995?" and then stay quiet, don't respond

53:00 - The power of silence

54:30 - Tip #6: Label Their Emotions / "It sounds like you're... angry (scared, upset, etc)"

56:00 - Tip #7: The 7-38-55 Rule

59:00 - Negotiate IN PERSON, not any other way

59:30 - Tip #8: Identify Game Changers & "Black Swans"

1:03:00 - Tip #9: Don't Accept a Bad Deal / ALWAYS be willing to walk away

Matt and Jay discuss how to negotiate successfully, the age old question "where do we go for dinner," the real reason Amazon is successful, when you should NOT compromise, the power of silence, using the 7-38-55 Rule and so much more!

Continue reading TSMP #35 – How To Negotiate Successfully at We Are Superior Men.

Matt and Jay discuss how to negotiate successfully, the age old question "where do we go for dinner," the real reason Amazon is successful, when you should NOT compromise, the power of silence, using the 7-38-55 Rule and so much more!

Continue reading TSMP #35 – How To Negotiate Successfully at We Are Superior Men.

Extreme Ownership: How US Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

As leaders of SEAL Team Three's Task Unit Bruiser, Jocko Willink and Leif Babin's mission was to help US forces secure Ramadi, the most violent and dangerous battlefield in Iraq. In gripping, firsthand accounts of heroism, tragic loss, and hard-won victories, they learned that Extreme Ownership is the most important factor in whether a team succeeds or fails. Returning home from deployment, they instituted SEAL leadership training to pass on their harsh leadership lessons. After leaving the military, Willink and Babin launched the company Echelon Front to bring these same principles to the civilian world. Since 2010 Echelon Front has taught countless leaders in virtually every sector how to use Extreme Ownership to develop their own high-performance teams and effectively lead those teams to dominate their battlefields. 

Read and listen to "Extreme Ownership" on Amazon!

Listen to the "Jocko Podcast"

Want more great books? Check out our MUST READ LIST!

Extreme Ownership Notes:

0:00 - Intro to Extreme Ownership

Navy SEALs Jocko Willink and Leif Babbin teach how the principle of Extreme Ownership has led their teams to victory, both on the battlefield in Iraq and in corporate AmericaIntended audience: Anyone who wants to eliminate excuses from their life and take themselves and their team to the next levelPurpose of the book: To change the way you think about Personal Responsibility

4:45 - How easy is the book to read?

Fast read, thrilling, edge-of-your-seat war stories, valuable business applicationsPrint: 317 pages (6-8 hours)Audio: 9 hours 33 minutes

5:30 - Reviews and Significance

2,985 reviews, 4.8 stars#1 in Audible Military History#2 Kindle Business Teams#52 out of all Audible Books

7:00 - Bio of Jocko and Leif

Jocko Willink

Spent 20 years in the U.S. Navy SEAL Teams, starting as an enlisted SEAL and rising through the ranks to become a SEAL officer. Commander of SEAL Team Three's Task Unit Bruiser during the battle of Ramadi. Task Unit Bruiser became the most highly decorated Special Operations Unit of the Iraq War. After Iraq, Jocko served as Officer-in-Charge of training for all West Coast SEAL Teams. During his career was awarded the Silver Star, the Bronze Star, and numerous other personal and unit awards. In 2010, retired from the Navy and launched Echelon Front where he teaches leadership principles across a wide-range of industries and fields. He runs one of the top-ranked leadership podcasts: https://jockopodcast.com/Jocko is also the author of the children's book Way of the Warrior Kid and the New York Times bestseller Discipline Equals Freedom.

Leif Babin

A graduate of the U.S. Naval Academy, Leif served thirteen years in the Navy, including nine as a Navy SEAL. Babin was SEAL platoon commander in SEAL Team Three's Task Unit Bruiser. In addition to his work in Iraq, Babin became the primary leadership instructor for all officers graduating from the SEAL training pipeline. He is the recipient of the Silver Star, two Bronze Stars, and a Purple Heart. In 2011, Leif left active duty and co-founded Echelon Front where he serves as leadership instructor, speaker, and executive coach. Babin’s editorials have been published in the Wall Street Journal and he has appeared on a variety of national television news shows, radio programs and podcasts.

9:30 - Major Themes of the Book

12 Principles divided into 3 Sections

Victory from Within (principles 1-4)EXTREME OWNERSHIPNO BAD TEAMS, ONLY BAD LEADERSCLARITY AND BELIEFMANAGE EGOVictory in Combat (principles 5-8)COVER AND MOVE (TEAMWORK)KEEP THINGS SIMPLEPRIORITIZE AND EXECUTEDECENTRALIZED COMMANDSustaining Victory (principles 9-12)SOUND PLANNINGLEAD UP AND DOWN THE LINEBE DECISIVE AMIDST UNCERTAINTYDISCIPLINE BRINGS FREEDOM

14:30 - Jay's perspectives

I love how the

Extreme Ownership: How US Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin As leaders of SEAL Team Three’s Task Unit Bruiser, Jocko Willink and Leif Babin’s mission was to help US forces secure Ramadi, the most violent and dangerous battlefield in Iraq. In gripping, firsthand accounts of heroism, tragic loss, and hard-won victories, they learned that Extreme Ownership is the most important factor in whether a team succeeds or fails. Returning home from deployment, they instituted SEAL leadership training to pass on their harsh leadership lessons. After leaving the military, Willink and Babin launched the company Echelon Front to bring these same principles to the civilian world. Since 2010 Echelon Front has taught countless leaders in virtually every sector how to use Extreme Ownership to develop their own high-performance teams and effectively lead those teams to dominate their battlefields.  Read and listen to “Extreme Ownership” on Amazon! Listen to the “Jocko Podcast” Want more great books? Check out our MUST READ LIST! Extreme Ownership Notes: 0:00 – Intro to Extreme Ownership Navy SEALs Jocko Willink and Leif Babbin teach how the principle of Extreme Ownership has led their teams to victory, both on the battlefield in Iraq and in corporate AmericaIntended audience: Anyone who wants to eliminate excuses from their life and take themselves and their team to the next levelPurpose of the book: To change the way you think about Personal Responsibility 4:45 – How easy is the book to read? Fast read, thrilling, edge-of-your-seat war stories, valuable business applicationsPrint: 317 pages (6-8 hours)Audio: 9 hours 33 minutes 5:30 – Reviews and Significance 2,985 reviews, 4.8 stars#1 in Audible Military History#2 Kindle Business Teams#52 out of all Audible Books 7:00 – Bio of Jocko and Leif Jocko Willink Spent 20 years in the U.S. Navy SEAL Teams, starting as an enlisted SEAL and rising through the ranks to become a SEAL officer. Commander of SEAL Team Three’s Task Unit Bruiser during the battle of Ramadi. Task Unit Bruiser became the most highly decorated Special Operations Unit of the Iraq War. After Iraq, Jocko served as Officer-in-Charge of training for all West Coast SEAL Teams. During his career was awarded the Silver Star, the Bronze Star, and numerous other personal and unit awards. In 2010, retired from the Navy and launched Echelon Front where he teaches leadership principles across a wide-range of industries and fields. He runs one of the top-ranked leadership podcasts: https://jockopodcast.com/Jocko is also the author of the children’s book Way of the Warrior Kid and the New York Times bestseller Discipline Equals Freedom. Leif Babin A graduate of the U.S. Naval Academy, Leif served thirteen years in the Navy, including nine as a Navy SEAL. Babin was SEAL platoon commander in SEAL Team Three’s Task Unit Bruiser. In addition to his work in Iraq, Babin became the primary leadership instructor for all officers graduating from the SEAL training pipeline. He is the recipient of the Silver Star, two Bronze Stars, and a Purple Heart. In 2011, Leif left active duty and co-founded Echelon Front where he serves as leadership instructor, speaker, and executive coach. Babin’s editorials have been published in the Wall Street Journal and he has appeared on a variety of national television news shows, radio programs and podcasts. 9:30 – Major Themes of the Book 12 Principles divided into 3 Sections Victory from Within (principles 1-4)EXTREME OWNERSHIPNO BAD TEAMS, ONLY BAD LEADERSCLARITY AND BELIEFMANAGE EGOVictory in Combat (principles 5-8)COVER AND MOVE (TEAMWORK)KEEP THINGS SIMPLEPRIORITIZE AND EXECUTEDECENTRALIZED COMMANDSustaining Victory (principles 9-12)SOUND PLANNINGLEAD UP AND DOWN THE LINEBE DECISIVE AMIDS

The mission: Secure Ramadi, the most violent and dangerous battlefield in the Iraq War. Under the most intense circumstances imaginable, Navy SEALs Jocko Willink and Leif Babin learned that Extreme Ownership is the most important factor in whether a team succeeds or fails. Returning home, Willink and Babin launched the company Echelon Front to teach civilian leaders in every industry how Extreme Ownership will lead their teams to victory.

Continue reading Extreme Ownership – Bookcast #7 at We Are Superior Men.

Matt and Jay discuss Sexual Imagination and Fantasy, Fish Sex and Dominatrixes, Four Rules To Get Her Thinking About Sex, the Dressing Rooms at Victoria's Secret, the power of Erotic Storytelling, the risks of sexual fantasies, and much more!

Surveys Page Link

Our “Sexual Magnetism” book is coming soon! We’ll be offering limited advanced copies and deep discounts but ONLY if you've signed up for our email list! To sign up head over to https://www.wearesuperiormen.com/join/

For faster access, tell your mobile assistant or smart speaker "Play 'The Superior Men Podcast'!"

Make sure to listen to our 30-minute book review show "The Superior Men Bookcast" - available now with your TSMP subscription. Bookcast #7 “Extreme Ownership” coming November 12!

Episode 34 Notes

WASM Article: Exploring Sexual Imagination and Fantasy

5:00 - Today's episode is part 3 of our "Sexual Satisfaction" series

7:30 - Biggest and most powerful sex organ

10:30 - Fish sex and Dominatrixes

13:00 - We have a record of every second of our lives stored in our subconscious

16:00 - Prepping a woman's brain for sex

17:30 - Choreplay vs Foreplay

19:30 - Attraction isn't negotiated / Why you need to be "large and in charge"

21:30 - Like it or not - it's the man's job to initiate sex

25:00 - Sexual Starter Question: "What's one of your favorite romantic songs?"

28:30 - Judging women and having fun doing it

29:30 - Sexual Starter Question: "I really want to see you in XYZ sexy clothing"

32:00 - Your woman will remember the things you enjoy - so tell her about them!

33:00 - Sexual Starter Question: "Do you remember your first kiss?"

35:00 - The one question you should NOT ask her

38:00 - Four Rules To Get Her Thinking About Sex

41:00 - One of the most popular fantasies: Sex in the changing room

44:00 - Why you must use Erotic Storytelling

45:30 - Erotic Storytelling Starter: "What's your favorite erotic book/movie?"

48:00 - Why you need to Lead her sexually vs Pushing her to be sexual

51:30 - Erotic Storytelling Starter: "What's a sexy story from one of your friends?"

54:00 - The goal is to move her towards the question "What's one of your fantasies?"

56:00 - Don't ask her a sexual question unless you're prepared for her answers - and also to give YOUR answers

58:30 - More naked than naked: Exploring sexual imagination and fantasy is much riskier and scarier than just having sex

1:00:00 - Discussing fantasies requires strong trust and communication

1:02:30 - Great sex means learning more about someone

1:04:00 - We don't choose what turns us on / Fantasies aren't a choice