The Survivors Playbook

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This is such a great conversation with the amazing Terri of Character Outs Podcast, who was raised by a covert narcissistic mom. We dive into her childhood, her adulthood, and how she make the very hard, but also, very necessary decision to go no contact with a mom who manipulated her at every turn. Spoiler alert- Terri has created a life she loves with a husband she loves, and children she loves and even a grandchild. It turns out, you can in fact create a great life and break cycles of dysfunction and toxicity, so that your own children don't have to heal from their childhood. 

You can find Terri on social media: @characteroutspodcast and also listen to her amazing podcast on Apple and Spotify: Character Outs Podcast.

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This is such a powerful episode, where I talk to the amazing, whip smart and incredibly articulate, Paola Telfer, a UBC electrical engineering grad, turned entrepreneur who created Sens.ai, a revolutionary at home brain training system. Her own accident, which left her at rock bottom and wanting to heal herself, was the catalyst for her wanting to create a system that was far more accessible to the average person. 

We dive into how this product can help survivors retrain their brain, create new neuropathways, and really live lives they love, despite what the abuser in their lives, do, or don't do. It really is such an empowering episode because we dive into how this product can help change your brain, which has been impacted by abuse, and therefore, your life.

Spoiler alert: it truly does work and has literally changed my life. I've gone from not sleeping, to consistently sleeping through the night, after a 20 year battle with sleep. And my focus and productivity have drastically improved as well. 

You can find her and Sens.ai on social media @sens.ai.inc

Or at: www.sens.ai/chantalcontorinescoaching

You can also use the Coupon Code: CHANTALCONTORINESCOACHING to receive $100 USD discount off a Sens.ai headset

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This is part 2 of John's story- from toxic dysfunctional family, to marriage to a covert narcissist, to divorce, and the parental alienation that occurred both during as well as after the divorce. 

This is a story of triumph over pain, of creating rock solid impenetrable boundaries, of finding your people outside of your family of origin, of creating a life you love, despite what the abusers in your life do or don't do. 

John shows us how to live life outside of abuse, of manipulation, of rejection. 

You can find him on Instagram at: @malevictimsofnarcissisticabuse

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This is Part 1 of John's story- you may know him as the creator of the social media page "Male Victims of Female Narcissists". He was raised in a dysfunctional and emotionally stunted family and then served over a life sentence with a woman who was not interested in a partnership, but rather, a dictatorship. He's suffered tremendous pain and suffering at the hands of those who were meant to love and support him. But, this pain has not stopped him from creating a life he loves, which has started with his creation of rock solid boundaries. 

Part 2 of his story is coming next week, so stay tuned. 

You can find John on IG at: @malevictimsoffemalenarcissists and on his podcast The Narcissist Abuse Recovery Channel (NARC) available on Spotify and Apple. 

Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. 

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This is the episode for every protective parent who is worried about how the abuse is affecting their child. For every protective parent (that includes you too, stepparents), who have watched their once bonded child align completely with their abusive parent. 

How many of you have sleepless nights, wondering if they'll ever see through the lies, confusion, brainwashing, and chaos? Wondering how they'll possibly ever come back to you?? This is Maegan's story, as a child with two narcissistic caregivers and one protective mom, a mom who never stopped loving her, showing up for her, and being there for her, even when the pressure became too much for Maegan and she was forced to align completely with her abusers against her mom. 

This is a real life story, like so many of yours, of pain, pressure, disconnection, but also, healing, growth and reconnection. 

No matter where you are on this journey, know that there is in fact hope. 

Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. 

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In this episode, I talk to the amazing Carl Knickerbocker, of Unapologetic Parenting- he's a father, a husband, an ex husband, an author of not one, but two books, and to top it all off, he's also a divorce and family law attorney who has become an expert in narcissistic counter parents. We talk about the legal aspects, his tips for those divorcing a narcissist, hiring the right lawyer, and move into the ins and out of parallel parenting. This episode is full of nuggets, tools, tips and strategies to help you navigate one of the hardest journeys of your life. 

You can find Carl on social media: @unapologeticparenting or on his website at www.carlknickerbockerlaw.com, or through his books, "The Parallel Parenting Solution" and "Family Court Solution". 

Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. 

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In this episode, I have the pleasure of talking to the amazing Dr. Nadine Macaluso, the ex wife of the Wolf of Wallstreet, therapist, author, and all around amazing human who turned her life completely around, with 2 young children, and with nothing to her name. 

We talk about trauma bonds and cognitive dissonance, and how these affect every survivor of narcissistic abuse, but also, children victims too. This episode is full of juicy tips and nuggets that I know are going to help you create a life you love, despite what the narcissist in your life does, or doesn't do. 

You can find Dr Nae on social media: @therealnadine. 

Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. 

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This is the episode for anyone who has suffered, or is suffering from chronic pain. Wowza. Adriana shares her story of growing up with a narcissistic mom, to dating various narcissistic men (so common, as your body goes with what it knows), to suffering debilitating chronic pain attacks, in rapid fire. From this, to building a life she loves. It's a power half an hour full of tips and tools to help you navigate this with far more clarity and confidence, and also, hopefully, help you regain your own personal power. 

A little bit about Adriana in her own words:

After nearly 3 decades of enduring narcissistic abuse and 4 years of dealing with severe chronic pain - I had to make the choice to embark on my own healing journey.

Doing my inner work not only helped me heal from the physical pain I went through, but it also helped me heal from the narcissistic abuse I endured from being raised by a narcissistic mother, other close relationships, and even colleagues/toxic workplaces (they were everywhere!).

My own healing journey inspired me to become a life coach so I could help other people. My certifications include:

• Certified Professional Life Coach
• Certified Mind Body Fitness Coach
• Certified Stress Management coach
• Certified SafeSpace Trauma Informed Facilitator

My goal is to empower survivors of narcissistic abuse to heal, set boundaries, and live life on their own terms! 

You can find Adriana on IG: @letsgetyourshifttogether

By email: [email protected]

Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. 

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In this Episode, I talk about the importance of radical acceptance, reframing and mantras to help survivors, specifically those protective parents, navigate the ultra marathon that "co-parenting" with an active narcissistic counter parent is. I then move into a discussion about how these tools can help those protective parents whose children have been turned against them. It's a powerful episode full of insights and tools and mindset shifts to help you live a life you love, despite what the narcissist in your life, does, or doesn't do. 

Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. 

And find it all here at: https://linktr.ee/chantalcontorinescoaching

Download The App for every survivor and protective parent here: https://studio.com/chantal-contorines/coparent

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In this episode, I talk to Courtney Gilmartin, a documentation expert, the founder of the Monarch Method, as well as the New Jersey Protective Moms  a Non-Profit organization. 

Documentation is truly the foundation of your case proving your ex's patterns of behaviour, so, it's vital that you become an expert in this area, as they are always going to counter parent, and very rarely do what's actually in your children's best interest. 

Courtney drops some key tips and tricks that are sure to help any protective parent listening in. 

You can find her on IG at: @courtney.gilmartin and on her website: www.monarchconsultinggrp.com. 

I hope you all leave with new tools in your toolbox that expand your playbook!

Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me. 

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This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice.