The Team Meeting Podcast

In social media we look at everyone else's success and we celebrate them or we wish we were them. Let's stop doing that. Let's notice and learn from public figures but let's not worship them. Let's talk about ways to stop comparing how we live our lives to how public figures "seem" to be living their lives. 

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Let's agree that it takes work to maintain your self confidence. Doing this work during a pandemic is not fun or comfortable.  However, we can grow from it. Today we talk about ways to maintain our confidence despite weight gain, disappointments, loneliness etc.

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Hi friends

Let's talk about time I sabotaged my 5th grade class election. I was nominated to be class president and could not handle the idea of leading my peers. So the day of the election, I convinced my mom that I was sick and I stayed home. My crush, I forget his name, won the election.

Have you ever ran away from something you knew you were supposed to?

Let's talk about it in today's meeting.

Hi friends, 

My nails are trash but as they say the show must go on, especially in a pandemic. So let's talk about having difficult conversations. Do you avoid them like avoiding a scale or do you run towards them like Mel Gibson in Bravehart?  Which are you? Let's talk about some things you can do to get more comfortable having those difficult convos. 

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Today we're talking about obstacles and how they don't always mean you're on the wrong path. Sometimes they are there to give you fuel for your life and help you grow. I know it sounds unappealing but join today's team meeting.

I'm using excerpts from the book The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday. Its a great book.

I am so familiar with obstacles and I've let them bully me for years.  I was intimidated by hard things.

• Hip replacements 
• Starting a family as a single woman
• Starting podcast 
• Feeling unattractive because of the number on my jeans
• Becoming a cycle instructor
• Wearing a crop top

Here are 4 discussion points from the Ryan Holiday Book

Channel Your Energy—Arthur Ashe  was a black tennis player, one of the greats actually. To survive segregation in 50s and 60s required restraint, and he channeled this energy into fierceness on tennis court. His style is best described as something he referred to as physically loose and mentally tight. Adversity can harden you or it can loosen you up and make you better if you let it. 

The art of acquiescence (The acceptance of something without protest) I’m going to take it a little further and say without regret or without giving in to fear—Abraham Lincoln's speech impediment forced him to go with it, and by with it I mean he had to find a way to communicate strongly and he chose to write. He was a great writer as a result. Ryan has a quote “Constraints in life are a good thing. Especially if we can accept them and let them direct us. They push us to places and to develop skills that we’d otherwise never have pursued."  Example Pat Riley and hip surgery movement restrictions. 

Love Everything that happens Jack Johnson the Boxer—the act of turning what we must do into what we get to do. Johnson ( a black boxer) was hated by everyone who watched him box, but he choose to enjoy every single minute of it. The grit of loving everything that happens to you is actually beautiful. Johnson once faced a white boxer who was brought out of retirement to stop Johnson from being a champion in his weight class. The crowd booed Johnson, but he smiled and fought his fight. An announcer is quoted as saying “No one understands him, this man who smiles. Well the story of this fight is the story of a smile. If ever a man won by nothing more fatiguing than a smile, Johnson won today.”

Live in the present moment. “It doesn’t matter whether this is the worst time to be alive or the best, whether you’re in a good job market or a bad one, or that the obstacle you face is intimidating or burdensome. What matters is that right now is right now. The more you embrace the moment and not the past, the easier the obstacle will be to face and move. —not easy you need to catch your mind when it goes to the past. The other day I had to do this when I was working on a project that reminded me of a failure a few years ago. They are different but I was bringing the past in to my present moment. I could feel the dread trying to cuddle with me. 

This is a great book and I highly recommend it although it will require you to take notes and re-read passages.

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Today's meeting is a short one but the message is big, big enough to repeat over and over again. 

Agenda: Don't let your mistakes, other people or things define you.  Let's stop allowing it, and you have the power to refuse the definition.

Jeans that are too tight don't mean you're not good enough. I'm working through this now, and I know its tough I want to punish myself for bad food choices but instead I am loving myself and rejecting the idea that I'm not wonderful because these lil jeans are squeezing me extra tight.

 A relationship fail, doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It may just mean that relationship wasn’t good for you. For me, this means I don’t define myself as a failure because I have not been married yet.  Also if you're a singe male who likes latte, let's be amigos. 

Only have $50.87 in the bank until your next paycheck. Yes, I've been there. No, you are not losing in life,. Go to the dollar store and hold on, this is a season not a permanent place. 

I am a good writer even when my writing is not embraced by whoever out there in the internets.

You are enough, you are amazing regardless of your painful life experiences, heartbreaks and disappointments. Now it's time for you to believe it. 

Let's start today's short meeting. 

Friends,

Today's meeting agenda is about insects, specifically caterpillars and butterflies. The process a caterpillar must endure to become a butterfly is apparently gross and painful but also magnificently beautiful. So to me, this means change is hard and also worth it.  

So let's talk about nature and how it relates to our own journey through painful life experiences. Also please note, I do not like butterflies. This makes me a horrible human, I know. I recognize their beauty but I also think they're creepy.  

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Hi friends, here is a 10 minute quick meeting. Today's agenda is about looking at broken clocks and expecting the correct time. I love clocks and I also collect watches. When the batteries die, I don't always replace them immediately. I keep the clock on the wall for decoration and I wear watches because they are pretty but when the battery dies they have the wrong time. How often are we looking at our past or our mistakes or our so called failures and bringing them into our present moment. How often do you look at a broken clock as if it has the correct time?

Friends, are you looking your past pain as if it's your truth, are you looking at a broken clock as if it is true?

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In today's 10 minute meeting we're talking about how to navigate through the unknown. I think we can all agree that we have lived and are living through unknown and uncertain times. 

Let's talk about ways to be kind to ourselves while managing chaos in our life. 

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Comparing yourself to other people is dangerous and highly inaccurate. In today's short episode I talk about comparison and how it "ain't cute." 

There is a difference between comparing your life to someone else's and being inspired by someone.

Comparison ain't cute because the social media feed you're looking at is 5 minutes of their life and you will rarely see the messy bits.

Here is a quote from Lisa Olivera

"Instead of assuming other people are better than you, you can ask. Do I really believe any human is inherently better than another or am I just trying to make myself feel bad."

Let's start today's meeting.