Join me for continued uncovering of my life in Nome.  If you see the youtube version I am wearing a kuspuk which is a traditional native women's blouse made by an elder in St. Michaels. I discuss my life in Nome and the wonderful support from the Shut Up and Act Dumb, parenting teen/tween community has shown.  

This episode we delve into the difference between emotional childhood and adulthood and how becoming an emotional adult will be an important part of going from conflict to connection.  Come join us while we head down the road of life and move from hostility to harmony with your teens and tweens. 

Hello lovely parents, 

In this 6th episode of the parenting teens from conflict to connection podcast we take a deep dive into the definition of sarcasm and where it is meant to be cutting and mean and how it is taken by our teens and tweens.  We discuss simple, fast and effective ways to interrupt it and why it is important.  

This is so exciting!  Moms, I am offering a one week transformational from conflict to connection bootcamp with your teens before I go back to Alaska and won't be able to focus on my lovely moms of teens.  This will start you on your journey to handle any struggle and be resilient in the face of hard feelings.  Imagine less door slamming, more connected conversations and peace in the home. transformational course!

Hi all, 

In this episode I talk a little about my life in Nome Alaska so we can get to know each other better and then I dive into the idea of being your child's main person and what that means.  My daughter calls me her "main person" and not because I am the person that she wants to spend the most time with or wants to tell everything to or owes anything to.  I am the person that she can tell her hardest and deepest struggles and know that she doesn't have to take care of my feelings and emotions.  That I will manage my own mind and keep myself mentally fit enough to be able to listen fully and take thoughtful, discerning action if necessary.  That I won't freak out and make it about me and my feelings.  If you become your child's "main person" there won't be a lot of looking outside of your home for comfort in ways that are destructive or have struggles that are so unbearable that it is hard to get over them.  

I am so excited to share with you my webinar replay which lays out the six quick, reliable and easy steps of going from Hostility to Harmony with your teens.  This process will put you well on the way to a more connected relationship with your teens and tweens.  

If you want to take a deep dive and 10x the results quickly sign up for your transformation, Six steps from Hostility to Harmony Boot Camp starting on September 14th.  It is a three week intensive course where you will have a class 3 classes, 2 Q&A  sessions and daily contact with me and the support of the community.  

The time to act is now!  I am heading back to work in Alaska in 1 month and won't be able to pay the kind of attention needed to change things around.   School is beginning and emotions are high. I have also recently seen the difficult struggles teens are having with the new "normal" and don't want you to head to a undesired ending.   transformation boot camp 

Special bonus for the first 20 people that sign up!! 

Today I talk about my life and how I came to this work and the 50/50 experience of life. 

We were never promised a life without upset or struggle and it turns out throughout time life is generally 50% positive emotions and 50% negative emotions.  If you can really allow the feelings of the 50 %negative emotions to be worked through without resisting or buffering you can experience it as part of the full human experience and not suffer through it.  When we resist or buffer the suffering becomes greater and the 50% negative increases and makes life more unbearable.  Being able to handle the 50/50 will make us able to be present when our teen/tween shares negative emotions with us without jumping in the pool with them(identifying with it in a self indulgent way where you are living the experience as if it were your own), or thinking there is something very wrong.  

Please like, rate and review this episode,  Share it with anyone you think will benefit.  We need the whole world to have this theory and support to be able to change the trajectory of this next generation to be more loving, peaceful and able to take on life's biggest challenges. 

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Thoughtful moms of teens learn the Six steps to go from hostility to harmony  starting Sept 14.  Act quickly and the first 20 people enrolled will get the scientifically proven positive intelligence course and 1 free session with me.  Sign me up for the transformational 6 set from hostility to harmony program. 

In this episode we talk about the self coaching model as developed by Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School (LCS).  I am a certified life coach trained at LCS, and found this model to always work in helping me re-evaluate my thoughts relating to the results that I want. 

C-circumstances

T-thoughts 

F-feelings

A-actions

R-results 

Do a thought download every morning and pick a thought to put in the model. 

If you would like to join the "Quickly go From Hostility to Harmony with your teens and tweens Workshop" sign up at transformational course  The first 20 people to sign up with get two 1:1 sessions with me and the scientifically proven Positive Intelligence 6 week course to 10x your results a 1,300 value.  

Join me when we explore the wonderful power of managing your own mind and intentionally choosing the thoughts that will help you see a clearer path to a calm home and relationship.  The circumstance is neutral and your thought is what you have control and power over. It's gonna blow your mind how powerful you can be in making your home life go well when you manage your mind.  

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You and your children are completely worthy and lovable no matter what you do and can never lose it.  It is your birthright as a human on this planet!  I want you to find a picture of yourself and your child/children from under the age of 12 and carry that around with you so that you can always look at the essence and remember the just right human being that you and your child/children are.