Your 20s can be the most difficult decade to feel abundant.

Financial struggles, identity struggles, trying to figure out where you even belong… In this episode, I'm breaking down what actually creates abundance (and what doesn't) during one of the hardest decades to feel secure in.

In this video…

0:00 introduction

2:45 know your risk tolerance

4:52 lesson 1) you need to start feeling abundant now

11:21 lesson 2) limit pessimism in your life

16:41 lesson 3) having the belief that you deserve more

18:54 lesson 4) A higher power WANTS you to be/feel more abundant. 

21:14 recap! 

23:51 final thoughts and how to support this channel

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Maybe you don't hate your job. Your day is just missing your values.

For the longest time I thought I couldn't get excited about my

days because I didn't enjoy my work enough. What I actually

realized was I wasn't building anything into my week that was

connected to my top values. 

So in this episode, I'm sharing the top 5 things I

do after a work day that don't involve my phone (or a TV). 

Fair warning… please don't copy my routines! The point of a

routine is regulation, familiarity, and listening to your body.

What's perfect for me might look completely different for you.

Use this as a starting point to figure out what YOU actually

value.

We're halfway through summer. This is your gentle reminder to

maximize the season you're in.

In this video…

00:00 introduction

02:27 reminder to use this as inspiration!!

04:39 you're probably not aligned with your values

05:54 #1) Spending time in nature / just be outside.

08:47 #2 + 3) Spending time with loved ones

09:51 why meeting in person is so important

12:13 the first hangout (in a while) is the hardest

13:31 my family + friends make life worth living!!

17:26 #4 fuelling my body (movement + food)

19:24 #5 replenishing creative energy

22:26 how your current lifestyle can guide you

24:55 we are social beings!!

25:47 final thoughts

26:53 how to support this channel

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Because your after-work routine should work for you, not against you. You are way more unique than any routine on the internet. The best routine aligns with what you value, supports your current lifestyle (and what it might be missing), and helps your nervous system relax so you can feel more abundant afterwards.

You are not one person. You are your parents' version, your best friend's version, your coworker's version, and none of them fully capture who you are. So why are you spending your entire twenties trying to control something that was never actually controllable?

In this episode, I am getting into why we take things so personally, from evolutionary wiring to childhood conditioning to the stories different cultures teach us about our own worth. We are talking about the difference between defending your identity and defending your ego, the blue hair theory, and the LET THEM mindset that changed how I move through the world. This is the detox of finally letting people misunderstand you.

This one is for you if you replay conversations for days, if you have ever assumed someone disliked you over one look, or if you are ready to stop managing everyone else's perception of you.

in this video…

00:30 introduction

03:33 greece story + we're caring for unlikely reasons

07:37 how this is damaging relationships

09:29 we care because we're trying to protect our identity

10:08 cultural, psychological + environmental factors

12:07 evolutionary factors

13:33 the danger of seeking approval in your 20s

14:43 high school experience + blue hair theory16:60 recap!

18:57 people in your close circle

20:55 life is too precious to live it for others

22:20 next steps!

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For my 100th episode I think it's time that I share the ultimate detox message for our generation. 

Although it might be painful to admit… maybe our parents were right? Maybe it is our phones. Specifically, social media. 

If you’ve been listening for a while, you know my complicated relationship with social media. I’ve always felt like a bit of a hypocrite: promoting the podcast and making a living as a social media manager on the very apps that drains me. While there are amazing creators out there, these apps were ultimately built using psychological manipulation. They are no longer just tools for connection; they are engines built to influence and sell to us.

In this episode I share my honest thoughts about social media, the psychology of how it’s perpetuating common pain points of feeling “lost” or “behind” in our twenties. I also share some strategies to find a balance with this app (if you’re not convinced to write it off, lol)

Lastly, I encourage you to lean into what your gut is telling you while listening to this video. Only *you* will know what your form of balance is.

Okay, let's get into it.

in this video…

00:00 introduction

02:45 the evolution of instagram

05:35 social media is modern marketing

09:50 the delicacy of our twenties

10:47 yes, it affects our attention span

11:05 mental noise: scrolling is messing up our values & opinions

12:35 it's perpetuating feelings of being "behind" and "lost"

13:45 reflection. how do you consistently feel?

15:10 quick recap

15:38 we can't be bored anymore

16:13 so, why do we keep using it?

20:52 strategies & mindsets to find a balance with social media

26:05 final thoughts

how to support me (so I can keep posting!)…

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2. Get my seasonal workbook: A 4-part workbook you can use every year to plan your goals in alignment with nature’s seasons. https://www.thetwentiesdetox.com/align-with-the-seasons-guide

more resources…

The Twenties Detox Newsletter

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Reconnect with your values

https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/

mentioned in this video…

You Need to Be Bored. Here's Why.

https://youtu.be/orQKfIXMiA8?si=Xe1eSno3ZD25HRnJ

The Social Dilemma (2020)

For the last five years, I’ve meditated almost every single day.

Although highly requested... I was so intimidated to make this video. It is incredibly hard to put five years of deep, soul-shifting lessons into words without sounding cliché. But so many of you have been asking about my practice, so I wanted to finally sit down and try to extract my biggest lessons.

Grab a cup of tea, get comfy, and let’s chat. This is a longer one!! I’m sharing how this daily practice completely saved my mental health, my biggest struggles, and the 10 lessons that changed how I view the world. Whether you’re a total beginner looking for simple mindfulness tips, or you’ve been on a self-improvement journey for years, I hope this helps you let go of the pressure, stop watching the clock, and just reconnect with who you really are.

I hope you enjoy!!

In this video: 

0:00 introduction

2:00 how i learned about meditation

3:30 meditation anchors you in the present

5:40 time is the hindrance

8:30 There is no “success" with meditation

10:48 what to do when your thoughts are racing

13:15 the importance of breathwork

14:13 *why* we have racing thoughts (science)

18:40 meditation puts a pause on the threat system 

23:58 how to separate yourself from your thoughts

25:39 You need time to realize you don't need time

26:27 Start with meditation apps. But your breath is the greatest teacher.

28:27 my favourite types of meditations

30:51 Final thoughts

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There was a specific summer where I stopped fighting the season and started actually listening to it. And honestly, everything shifted after that. 🌞

In this episode, I am getting into what it really means to live seasonally, and specifically what summer is asking of you right now. We are talking about Q2 reflections, why summer is actually one of the best times to pivot instead of push harder, how social media can quietly pull you away from your own values if you are not paying attention, and the gardening analogy that completely changed how I think about goals.

This episode is part of the Seasonal Living Series, and it might be the most grounding one yet!! This one is for you if you have been feeling a shift in your energy lately and you are not quite sure what to do with it.

In this video:

00:30 A big thank you!!

01:25 Intro to seasonal living

04:07 Q2 Reflections!

07:09 Social media influencers and summer

08:41 Why it's okay to not always have a strategy

10:53 Summer is a time to pivot

14:48 Weeding out distractions!

16:22 How to live seasonally: the workbook

18:22 Doubling down on what's working!

21:42 Final thoughts

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books mentioned (affiliate link, win-win)

• Fourth Wing Series

For the people who get angry easily. See red. Little things might trigger them. You might even feel ashamed afterwards. You’re not alone, this won’t be forever, but there is a REASON behind it.

I couldn’t fit a video episode in this week, but didn’t want to leave you hanging!! I have been podcasting for about 3 years now, and although I’ve improved…there’s a few golden episodes in there that didn’t get their spotlight. This episode is one of them. I hope you enjoy!

Back to video episodes next week. 

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Morning routines are still one of the most talked about topics on the internet. And somehow, so many of us are still waking up feeling behind before the day has even started.

In this episode, I am sharing everything I wish someone had told myself earlier about building a routine that's *actually* tailored to yourself.

We are getting into why copying what you see on social media is quietly working against you, how your routines can start regulating your nervous system instead of adding to your stress, the two morning rituals I keep returning to no matter what season I am in, and why flexibility might actually be what makes a routine hold long term. We are also going into evening rituals, seasonal workouts, and the one values-based question that ties all of it together.

This one is for you if you have tried to build a routine a hundred times and it never sticks. If you scroll through "that girl" content and feel more behind than inspired. If you are ready to stop performing your mornings and actually feel them.

In this video:

0:00 Introduction
1:30 Influencers and their routines
2:40 The "perfect" routine
5:55 The purpose of routine
7:40 Stop following other people's routines
8:50 Routines for regaining control
10:58 Routines for nervous system regulation
13:03 Morning ritual #1: mindfulness
16:44 Morning ritual #2: joy
21:30 Why your routines don't stick
23:30 Evening rituals: grounding + quality time
25:55 Quarterly workout routines
30:59 Occasional rituals: travelling, social media detoxes, family time
33:16 Knowing your values is the key
34:01 Summary + outro

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Unlearning is the work nobody warns you about. You can read every self-help book, do all the right things, and still feel stuck, because sometimes the problem is not what you have not yet learned. It is what you need to let go of first.

In this episode, I am walking you through the art of unlearning, what it actually means, why it is one of the most powerful things you can do for your personal growth, and the real practical steps I have used to start rewiring the limiting beliefs that were quietly running my life. We are getting into the role of neuroplasticity, how tools like meditation, affirmations, and journaling can genuinely shift your inner world, and the personal stories that made me realize I had to unlearn before I could truly grow. This is the episode I needed years ago.

This one is for you if you have done the inner work and still feel like something is holding you back, if you know something needs to change but cannot quite name what it is, or if you are ready to stop letting old beliefs make decisions for you.

In this video

0:00 introduction

2:02 my final year of university (covid, grief, straight As)

9:06 post graduation + my first unlearning

11:53 my first spiritual awakening (thanks to Eckhart Tolle)

13:39 step one: awareness + mindfulness

16:32 how limiting beliefs control you

18:38 summer post grad + tony robbins!

21:06 unlearning requires you to mourn a previous identity

22:38 blaming people (and yourself) will slow things down

23:49 the table analogy for belief systems

25:50 knocking down the legs

28:24 final step: create an empowering belief system

30:09 next steps <3

TONY ROBBINS BOOK: Awaken the Giant Within

ECKHART TOLLE: A New Earth

More stuff for you:

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Being soft and being ambitious are not opposites. But most of us in our twenties were never shown how to hold both at the same time, and this episode is the conversation I wish someone had started for me sooner.

In this episode, I am breaking down 5 real ways to stop treating hustle and rest like they are at war with each other. We are going into why living through the extremes might actually be part of your process, how your sleep and circadian rhythm are quietly deciding how much energy you even have to give, why the seasons can do some of the heavy lifting for you if you let them, and why bringing play back into your life might honestly be the most ambitious thing you do all year. This is not a formula. This is the version of balance that actually fits your life.

This one is for you if you are in your twenties, refuse to give up on your ambitions, and are completely done arriving at the finish line running on empty.

In this video:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 02:02 My hustle culture years
• 02:49 (1) You need to experience the extremes before finding your balance
• 08:23 (2) Balance looks different for everybody
• 11:06 (3) Proper sleep is the foundation to balance
• 18:14 (4) Using the energy of the seasons (nature)
• 22:29 (5) The power of play
• 27:33 Outro

Resources mentioned:
Gary's Playful Tactics in the Workplace: https://www.instagram.com/garyware
The Meso, Micro, and Macro Breaks Framework: https://www.breakthroughplay.com/the-three-types-of-rest/

Let's connect:
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