The Unhooked Podcast

The Unhooked Podcast!

Listen in this week as Debbie, my friend from many years in the Rooms, shares her story and so much wisdom from Recovery.

We combine our best practices for dealing with the madness (especially our own!)...

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The UNHOOKED Podcast! 

“The Victim, the Villain & the Hero: Getting out of the Drama Triangle” 

There is a pattern I have observed in many dysfunctional groups where someone creates a storyline that presents them as the victim and another as a villain, but it’s often not true or at the very least…exaggerated for a purpose. 

Example: We knew someone who has needed a lot of favors over the years and so many people were glad to oblige, until it became too much or it was time to pay back…then a smear campaign began and that person was turned into someone evil.  

This happens in broken and dysfunctional families, friendship groups, coworkers, Mom groups etc. 

You don’t have to accept the role someone assigns you in the story. 

Listen in for tools and tips from the rooms! Check it out! 

The Unhooked Podcast! 

“Fire Starters and Chaos Creators” 

The People Who Light the Match and Walk Away 

The Emotional Arsonists in Our Lives  

Many of us have known people who create a problem, trigger an argument, make a reckless decision, spread gossip, stir conflict, or disrupt an entire family system—and then act as if nothing happened. 

When others react to the damage, suddenly the focus shifts from what they did to how everyone else responded. The fire starter becomes the victim. The people cleaning up the mess become the problem. 

We are not just talking about difficult people—you’re talking about a pattern that many survivors of dysfunctional families, addiction, trauma, and unhealthy relationships recognize immediately. 

This episode is about learning how to recognize these patterns and stop getting hooked into them.  

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The Unhooked Podcast!

Sometimes our reactions aren't simply emotional, mental or even hormonal! Sometimes they are coming from a nervous system wired for threat! When that's the case, we need a different approach.

Sometimes people, places and things (even texts and emails at first glance) can light my nervousness up like I'm in trouble!

Listen in to this week's tools and tips from the rooms of recovery along with my own experience, strength and hope.

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Listen to this week's Unhooked Podcast for a special guest, Writer/Director Mark Rosman share his story of being an award winning accomplished Director, while dealing with the anguish of a close loved one's battle with addiction.

Mark is releasing a film soon titled, "Keep Coming Back" (one of my favorite recovery phrases) that will be interesting as well as encouraging for ALL sides of the house.

You can reach out to Mark at:

Website: KeepComingBackFilm.com

and

Email: [email protected]

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The Unhooked Podcast!

"Factory Reset: There's Freedom in Being Fully Present”

What if healing and finding peace isn’t always about fixing what’s broken? What if sometimes healing is simply returning to what we’ve forgotten to pay attention to? 

Recovery Teaches Us to Come Back to Today, to the now…

Many family members affected by addiction, alcoholic behavior and dysfunction live in: regret about yesterday, fear about tomorrow, hyper-vigilance in the present.

The truth is we only have today. 

Listen to this week's experience, strength, hope with tools and tips from the Rooms or Recovery and the journey of this messy life!

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The Unhooked Podcast!

“Run Regardless: The Power of a Cadence”

We don’t always get to choose how hard the road is, but we do get to choose what we repeat to ourselves while we’re on it.

Most people think endurance comes from stronger legs or maybe from people who are already strong.It doesn’t.

It comes from strong thoughts. Mind training…

Anyone who has ever…  run a race, walked through grief, lost someone close, stayed sober one more day, prayed a son or daughter through, survived betrayal, or simply gotten out of bed during depression… discovers this. 

Every runner develops a cadence.A rhythm.A phrase.A mental anchor.

Recovery has one too.

Faith has one too.

Life needs one too. 

The question isn’t:

Do you have a mantra?

It’s:

Which mantra has you?

Selah!!  

I have been down for the count many times… I had to be my own corner coach in those moments….  Whether during morning 5Ks, marathons, work stress, financial difficulties, loss, friend betrayal… many times I wanted to stop but kept going, finding out who I AM in those moments, pulling something resident deep within, or believing for it anyway…

Listen in for tools and tips from the rooms.

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The Unhooked Podcast!

“Do No Harm… But Take No Nonsense”

Loving Others Without Abandoning Yourself

Protect your peace without punishing people.

Because recovery isn’t just about getting sober (emotionally or chemically). It’s about becoming someone who can love deeply without losing themselves.

Detachment is not indifference—it’s love with healthy boundaries. 

And…  Peace isn’t weakness; it’s strength that no longer needs to prove itself. 

Listen in for the tools and tips from the rooms of recovery!

The Unhooked Podcast!

Miss Havisham from Great Expectations was...

•     Jilted at the altar on her wedding day.

•     that day, she stopped all the clocks in her home.

•     Left the wedding dinner untouched and the wedding cake to rot on the table.

•     Continued to wear her wedding dress.

•     Lived in darkness for decades.

•     Her life became a monument to pain and betrayal.

Miss Havisham didn’t just experience a wound—she moved into it and decorated it.

We all know people who are frozen in a moment. Sometimes that person is us.

Listen in to hear tools and tips from the rooms of recovery!

Promptly admitting when we’re wrong is not about shame, humiliation, or self-condemnation. It’s about freedom.

The longer we defend, justify, deny, or explain away our mistakes, the more tangled we become.

Recovery, faith, and emotional maturity all point toward the same truth: freedom lives on the other side of honesty.

Why is it so difficult to simply say, "I was wrong?"

Most of us would rather:

• Explain
• Defend
• Minimize
• Blame circumstances
• Point out what the other person did

Yet those few simple words can stop days, months, or even years of suffering.

No matter what side you are on in any issue...the tools and tips from the Rooms of Recovery are helpful for managing conflict, moments of madness and the need for self-awareness (because dealing with anyone who doesn't have it...isn't fun).

Listen in to check it out!