The Unhooked Podcast

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"Unhooking from Stuck Grief"

When grief or melancholy comes rising up or slamming in, how do we move through it...or move it through us?

It's happened to me lately.

Listen in to this week's podcast to consider ways to handle it, recovery from it or move the heaviness that sometimes comes in like a rising tide.

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In these weeks tools and tips from the rooms, we look at how judgment runs interference for acceptance.

Black and white, all good or all bad thinking.

"When all you have is a hammer, everything is a nail!"

What if situations can't be judged as much as people maybe shouldn't quickly be?

Listen in for some lessons learned from judging (or being judged).

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It's been a rough winter. I know what it's like to run low on energy and high on stress.

What do we do to fire the engines back UP and keep going?

Listen to this week's podcast for tips and tools from recovery to build that momentum back up and keep going.

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Worry is something almost every family member of someone struggling with alcoholism, or addiction understands.

Our minds start racing.

We imagine the worst.

We try to mentally control situations that were never ours to control.

But recovery programs give us tools to interrupt that cycle.

So today I want to share what my responses to Worry.

Not a perfect formula.

But a practice.

If you or someone you know is burdened with worry, listen in!

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This week is all about deciding how close we want to get to the fire! Drama, chaos, conflict, etc.

It's critical to know the day we stop looking inward to heal or improve, we gradually get worse (Stoic belief).

If you feel stuck or are experiencing "emotional vertigo" from dealing with the dysfunction and stress of the behavior of others...this one's for you!

Tools and Tips and Gifts of Recovery, best way to handle all things chaotic.

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This week's episode of the Unhooked Podcast pulls tools and tips (along with a few embarrassing memories and examples...for the sake of transparency) when it comes to dealing with those times when we are so stressed we almost can't take another thing.

From the rooms, therapy, leaning into those experiences and great support and advice, I share how I stabilized, calmed down and found my way through some of the most trying times and the curve-balls of drama and stress that showed up in the midst of it.

Thank goodness we don't have to stay stuck in anguish or the ways we handle (and even mishandle) it!

I share my own issues and drama, along with failures and victories when it comes to all of the above.

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In this week's episode we look at "Magical Thinking,"

Magical thinking is when someone is expecting life to change without changing themselves. Without examining and working on behavior patterns, patterns of thought, reactions etc…

“Magical thinking is when we hope instead of heal.”

Intentions and promises without effort don't bring about change and healing. Awareness doesn’t automatically equal emotional maturity.

What works?

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We all have brutal days, it's life. How do I personally keep going?

One step at a time...mantras, put the kettle on, running regardless..

Whatever you need.

Listen to this week's short podcast with tips and tools for tough days, from the rooms of recovery.

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Looking back to a Summer when I was given a big dose of truth regarding my own emotional baggage and how often I needed to not make it a burden for others.

Two things can be true at once... we can feel fear and sadness while knowing we need to change our perspective, patterns and habits.

This gave space to those closest to me and kept them from the worry of tiptoeing around emotional meltdowns, freak-outs and thin-skinned feelings.

Listen to this week's take on lessons learned with tools and tips from our journey of recovery!

This week’s take on tools and tips from the recovery is about empathy, triggers, and the quiet truth that healing doesn’t usually arrive in a lightning bolt.

If you’ve ever felt activated by things that shouldn’t be a big deal… this episode is for you. 

Core idea: You can understand someone without co-signing them. You can hear venting without taking on the baggage

Empathy is seeing someone, not siding with them. Empathy is not compliance. Agreement is a choice and an inner belief; empathy is a posture.

Agreement for the sake of “keeping peace” is at the expense of truth and honesty.  UGH hard lesson!

Recovery Is Gradual, Not Sudden

Healing is quieter than we were taught to expect.

“What am I asking to be resolved when what I really need is peace or relief in the moment?”

As the stoics say: Let’s work for the rest of our lives on self-improvement.