The Unlearning Studio

S5E10

In this heartfelt and wisdom‑filled conversation, I sit down with Alex Castillo, Christian coach, mentor, and long‑time leader of young athletes, to explore what it truly means to breathe life back into your marriage. Alex brings a grounded, faith‑centered perspective on connection, loyalty, desire, and the emotional patterns that quietly shape how couples love each other.

We talk about the two things that kill desire and loyalty, how to strengthen your marriage through regulation and co‑regulation, and how to remove yourself and your spouse from fight, flight, freeze, and fawn so you can return to safety, softness, and partnership.

Alex shares powerful insights on God’s design for marriage, the spiritual purpose of covenant, and why breathing life into your marriage begins with returning to the posture of serving one another the way Christ served.

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/alessandracharlesworth

Connect with Alex Castillo | https://youtu.be/bBHXhbAupm0?si=OWBNXo4s1mi9YbU8

Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and business owners shatter their revenue ceilings. We uncover the costly patterns stalling their growth, heal what’s underneath, and strengthen a foundation built to sustain the life and business they’re meant to lead.

We support:

• Individuals by uncovering and reprogramming your inner child and ancestral wounds that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.
• Organizations by solving your people and process problems that quietly erode trust, undermine performance, and stall momentum.

Whatever pattern you don't want to keep repeating, we address it at the cellular root.

S5E09

In this extraordinary episode, I sit down with Silvia Gálvez, Inner Child Healing Expert, Business Strategist, and Founder of Authentic Transformation, for a conversation that changed the way I thought about my relationship with myself and God. Silvia brings twenty years of experience working with addiction, trauma, and abuse, and she shares the profound patterns she’s uncovered in the human psyche, the nervous system, and our spiritual identity.

We explore the masks your inner child wears to survive, the identities we adopt to protect ourselves from pain we were never equipped to process. Silvia discovered five distinct masks for each of the six inner child wounds, and the way she explains them is both compassionate and revelatory.

As she says so powerfully:

“We wear the mask because we don’t want to feel the pain.”

This conversation moves through inner child wounds, ancestral trauma like the ancestral exile wound where she expounds on why feeling like people don't like your going to die, the ancestral abandonment wound and why we crave to belong to a tribe and community. She delves into our divine identity, emotional imprints, and the ways these patterns quietly shape our businesses, careers, relationships, and sense of self.

Buy the online course | Transcend, Sacred Codes For Inner Child Healing | https://authentictransformation.ca/transcend-sacred-codes-for-inner-child-healing/

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/alessandracharlesworth

Connect with Silvia Gálvez | https://linktr.ee/TheInnerChildHealingExpert

At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and business owners shatter their revenue ceilings. We uncover the costly patterns stalling their growth, heal what’s underneath, and strengthen a foundation built to sustain the life and business they’re meant to lead.

We support:

• Individuals by uncovering and reprogramming your inner child and ancestral wounds that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.
• Organizations by solving your people and process problems that quietly erode trust, undermine performance, and stall momentum.

Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

S5E08

Kerry Castillo shares his secret to raising resilient kids: parenting with courage instead of control. We explore the joy of fatherhood, the heartbreak of watching your kids struggle, and the deep inner work required to raise resilient, adaptable, and confident children. We dig into the shift from rescuing to equipping, the power of letting kids make their own mistakes, and how the words we speak become the inner voice they carry for life.

• Why giving kids space to fail builds resilience, confidence, and emotional strength
• How to move from rescuing to supporting without stepping in too quickly
• The role of ego and fear in parenting and how to release both
• What it looks like to let kids make mistakes without shame or panic
• How a parent’s language becomes a child’s lifelong internal dialogue

This episode offers a grounded, honest look at fatherhood and the kind of parenting that prepares kids to learn from failure, and to rise from it stronger.

🎧 This is The Unlearning Studio where we unlearn the patterns that hurt us and learn to live lives that feel good. Remember, you can create the life and love you want.

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/alessandracharlesworth

Connect with Kenny Castillo | https://youtu.be/bBHXhbAupm0?si=OWBNXo4s1mi9YbU8

At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and business owners shatter their revenue ceilings. We uncover the costly patterns stalling their growth, heal what’s underneath, and strengthen a foundation built to sustain the life and business they’re meant to lead.

We support:

• Individuals by uncovering and reprogramming your inner child and ancestral wounds that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.
• Organizations by solving your people and process problems that quietly erode trust, undermine performance, and stall momentum.

Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

S5E07

I sit down with Christian sexpert Angela Griffith for a refreshingly honest conversation about intimacy, expectations, and the myths that quietly shape our marriages.

Angela brings wisdom, humor, and a deeply grounded perspective as we unpack the pressures couples carry into the bedroom, especially the cultural lie that every sexual experience should be “mind‑blowing” or cinematic. Together, we explore what real intimacy looks like when we let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace connection over performance.

We dive into:

• Why married sex isn’t always mind‑blowingly orgasmic and why that’s not a sign of failure
• The biggest lie Hollywood tells us about sex and how it distorts our expectations
• Patterns that keep couples from experiencing fulfilling intimacy
• Strategies for building connection that go beyond physical touch
• The different types of intimacy every marriage needs to thrive
• Why fun and recreational play is often the first intimacy to disappear and how to bring it back
• Sex journaling as a powerful tool for communication, clarity, and growth

If you’re ready to rethink what great sex in marriage really looks like and find freedom from the pressure to “perform” this episode will encourage you and give you tools to grow.

🎧 This is The Unlearning Studio where we unlearn the patterns that hurt us and learn to live lives that feel good. Remember, you can create the life and love you want.

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/alessandracharlesworth

Connect with Angela Griffith | www.TheChristianSexpert.com

At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and business owners shatter their revenue ceilings. We uncover the costly patterns stalling their growth, heal what’s underneath, and strengthen a foundation built to sustain the life and business they’re meant to lead.

We support:

• Individuals by uncovering and reprogramming your inner child and ancestral wounds that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.
• Organizations by solving your people and process problems that quietly erode trust, undermine performance, and stall momentum.

Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

S5E06 – The Anxious & Avoidant Cycle

with guest Malisa Hepner, therapist, author, and host of “Emotionally Unavailable”

Why do anxious and avoidant partners seem irresistibly drawn to each other—yet often end up in cycles of push, pull, and misunderstanding?

In this episode of the Empower Create Encourage Podcast, I sit down with Malisa Hepner to unpack the magnetic (and sometimes messy) connection between these two attachment styles.

After we explore:

• The simple truth about what drives anxious and avoidant attraction
• The recurring patterns in decision-making, problem-solving, and conflict
• How emotional safety can be cultivated for both partners
• Common intimacy and bedroom dynamics in anxious/avoidant relationships
• The impact of dissociation and “performative desire” on connection
• How avoidance of pain affects emotional intimacy
• Grounding and regulation techniques for individuals and couples
• One small but powerful step couples can take toward secure love—even if they’ve never experienced it before

If you’ve ever felt stuck in this loop—or love someone who has—this conversation will help you see the cycle clearly and give you tools to change it.

🎧 Tune in and remember: You are empowered to create the love, life, and reality you desire.

Connect with Malisa Hepner, on her instagram | @malisa.hepner

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage

At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality.

We support:

• Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.
• Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact.

If you're a growth-minded leader ready to remove what's holding you back—personally or organizationally—we'd love to support you.

Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

Are you living your own life—or the one you inherited?

In this episode of Empower Create Encourage, I sit down with Simon Luthi, author of Becoming the Rocket Shaman, to explore how cultural conditioning, family patterns, and unconscious stories shape who we think we are.

We talk about:

• The subtle signs you might be living an inherited identity
• How to recognize and release the roles you never chose
• Simon’s “Once Upon a Time” method for uncovering unconscious stories
• Why “Is this mine?” is the question that can realign your life
• The first steps to rewriting your story as a sacred act

Connect with Simon Luthi, on his website | www.therocketshaman.com

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage

At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality.

We support:

• Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.
• Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact.

If you're a growth-minded leader ready to remove what's holding you back—personally or organizationally—we'd love to support you.

Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

I sit down with Heidi Blackie, former healthcare professional, trauma-informed coach, and founder of UnshakableMe, to talk about the hidden cost of people-pleasing and the self-sabotage “grenades” we carry without even realizing it.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why people-pleasing is not kindness—and how to tell the difference
• What “self-sabotage grenades” are and how to spot them in your life
• How trauma and nervous system dysregulation fuel burnout cycles
• The difference between setting a boundary and building a wall
• What Micro-Boldness is—and how small truth-telling moments change everything

Heidi’s 3 Tools to Start Reclaiming Your Power:

1. Label your patterns without judgment – Awareness interrupts autopilot
2. One daily act of self-compassion – Small shifts rewrite big stories
3. Practice Micro-Boldness – Speak, rest, or ask for what you need

Connect with Heidi Blackie on her website | https://www.unshakableme.com

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage

At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality.

We support:

• Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.
• Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact.

If you're a growth-minded leader ready to remove what's holding you back—personally or organizationally—we'd love to support you.

Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

We all carry parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to hide—shame, insecurity, fear, or even behaviors we regret. But what if the parts we believe are “unlovable” or “ugly” are actually the gateway to healing, authenticity, and true connection?

In this raw and honest conversation, psychiatrist and voice liberation advocate Dr. Fred Moss joins us to explore what it means to face the uncomfortable, unpolished parts of ourselves—without judgment, without shame.

Together, we unpack:

• The different types of “ugly” that live inside us—those that harm us first, and those that harm others.
• Why we’re taught to silence the very parts of us that need the most compassion.
• How to reclaim your true voice and live in alignment with who you really are.
• Creative and simple practices to reconnect with yourself on a daily basis.

Dr. Fred brings deep insight, practical tools, and a radically human lens to mental health—challenging the belief that we need to be “fixed,” and reminding us that healing starts when we stop hiding.

If you’ve ever felt like parts of you were too messy, too broken, or too dark to be seen or loved—this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen now and rediscover the power of your unfiltered, unedited self.

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage

Connect with Dr. Fred Moss on his website | https://www.skool.com/welcometohumanity/about

Heal inner child wounds and remove operational barriers in your organization. Learn more and transform at https://authentictransformation.ca/

⚠️ Trigger Warning:

This episode includes discussion of betrayal, infidelity, domestic violence, sexual abuse, sex, and rape fantasies, along with themes of trauma, intimacy, and healing. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This content is intended for audiences 20 years and older.

What counts as betrayal? Is it only cheating—or can the small, everyday breaches of trust be just as damaging? And if we forgive someone… does that mean they’re automatically owed our trust again?

In this deep and powerful conversation, I’m joined by Dr. Bruce Chalmer, couples psychologist and author of Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again.

Together, we explore:

🔹 How betrayal shows up in both big and subtle ways

🔹 Why forgiveness is about liberating yourself, not restoring blind trust

🔹 What true intimacy requires—especially after trust has been broken

🔹 Sacred sex as a healing practice and how to reconnect through it

🔹 Similarities, differences, and patterns in what men and women often desire in sexual connection

🔹 Signs of emotional abuse and domestic violence—and how to identify when something isn’t just a “rough patch”

This is a brave space for those navigating the aftermath of hurt, seeking deeper connection, or learning to trust again—yourself and others.

🎧 Tune in and be empowered to heal, grow, and create love that is sacred, conscious, and true.

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage

Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer on his website | https://brucechalmer.com

Heal inner child wounds and remove operational barriers in your organization. Learn more and transform at https://authentictransformation.ca/

In this raw and powerful episode of Empower Create Encourage, I’m joined by the bold and brilliant Kiko Pawlenchuk as we dive headfirst into the full spectrum of motherhood—the joy, the dark, and the downright ugly. From societal misconceptions to silent shame, we unpack the unspoken realities mothers face every day.

We talk about what it means to embrace honest vulnerability—sharing the hard truths of needing space, feeling low, and telling our kids, “Mama needs a minute.” We explore how this openness doesn't make us weak; it teaches our children resilience, empathy, and emotional awareness.

This episode also shines a light on how our deepest triggers often stem from our own unhealed inner child wounds. Those moments of emotional activation? They’re not failures—they’re invitations to heal, grow, and evolve.

Whether you're a mom, thinking of becoming one, or just want to better understand the fierce, sacred, and sometimes chaotic journey of motherhood, this episode will meet you where you are—with truth, laughter, and lots of heart.

AHAHAHA Disclaimer:

This episode is not actually sponsored by Anusol, the Calgary Public Library, or Depends… but if you’re a new mom, we highly recommend all three. You’re welcome.

Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage

Connect with Kiko Pawlenchuk on Instagram | @katekikokeeks

Heal inner child wounds and remove operational barriers in your organization. Learn more and transform at https://authentictransformation.ca/