The Wise Wife Podcast

By Natasha Drisdelle

The Wise Wife Podcast is for women who are standing for their marriage and refusing to surrender God’s design to passivity, fear, or cultural advice.

Hosted by Christian author and mentor Natasha Dri... more

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Number 1: E39 The Single Strategy that Saved My Marriage
You've been praying, you've been showing up, you've been doing what everyone told you was the right thing. And your marriage is still getting worse. There are 2 types of prodigal spirits that drive relationship breakdown: rejection and dominance. They attract their opposite, and they feed off each other. When the marriage starts to strain, a wife naturally reaches for the strategy that would work on her own spirit. Grace poured on a dominant husband feeds his control. Pressure applied to a rejection-driven husband pushes him deeper into hiding. That is why you can give everything you have and still watch things get worse. In this episode, I walk you through both spirits: how each one thinks, how it behaves in a marriage, and how to discern which one is driving your husband's behavior (and which one is at work in you). I share the story of a wife whose 20 years of peacekeeping fed her husband's coercive control, and my own story as a former dominant spirit whose breakthrough started when finally faced with consequences. We go to Adam and Eve, Ahab and Jezebel, and 1 Peter 3:1-2 to see what pure and reverent behavior actually requires. Resources mentioned: Two Types of Prodigals (course). Currently includes 30 days of access to the course support circle, live Q&A group coaching with Natasha. https://www.wisewife.co/course-two-types-prodigals The Wise Wife Blueprint (book), where Natasha tells her full story. wisewifeblueprint.com Follow the show for a new episode every Wednesday. It helps me keep putting this teaching out.
July 17, 202631min
Number 2: E36 Follow the Fruit to the Root
Years ago I walked into our bathroom and found raw sewage backing up into the toilet and the tub. We could have spent the rest of our lives scooping it out, or we could deal with the massive tree root that had grown silently underground for decades until it finally broke the sewer line. Most women I coach are still scooping. You've been trying to change the behavior. You've prayed harder, set up boundaries, read the books, listened to the podcasts, started over a hundred Mondays. The same patterns keep coming back. The anger, the control, the people-pleasing, the shutting down, the fear. This isn't about effort. You've been doing the work. The patterns keep coming back because the work has been happening at the wrong layer. The fruit you see grows from a root that is still alive underground. This is part two of the series I started last week with the victim and the martyr. Last week I told you both of those identities were ditches and asked you to be honest about which one you lean toward. This week I show you how to climb out. We talk about soul wounds, the unhealed emotional pains from your past that the enemy uses as a legal entry point to attach lies, accusations, shame, and fear. I explain why the most dangerous soul wound is the one you never acknowledged as a wound, and why a "great childhood" can still hide the filters that are running your life. Then I share the five whys, the strategy I use with my wise wives to reverse engineer the visible bad fruit in your life all the way back to the root memory. From there, I give you five steps to actually heal it. Identify the fruit and the stronghold. Acknowledge the wound. Invite Jesus into the memory. Forgive and renounce the lies. Command the spirits to go. You cannot forgive what you won't admit, and you cannot heal what you won't confront. By the end of this episode, you'll have the framework, the workbook, and the prayers to do the actual work. Resources mentioned in this episode - The Fruit to the Root workbook (free): https://www.wisewife.co/root - Last week's episode: The Victim and the Martyr - The Wise Wife Community: https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp - Scripture: Matthew 18:21-35 (the parable of the unforgiving servant), Matthew 18:35, Luke 10:19 Here are the three key takeaways from this episode You cannot heal what you won't confront. The most dangerous soul wound is not the biggest one. It's the one you never acknowledged as a wound. A "normal" or "great" childhood does not mean you escaped without filters. Some of the most controlling, fearful, people-pleasing patterns come from women who would say they had it good. Soul wounds give the enemy legal access. When a wound is delivered and not healed, the enemy attaches lies to it, and demons exploit those lies. Inner healing without deliverance is incomplete, and deliverance without inner healing is temporary. Forgiveness, renouncing the lies out loud, and commanding the spirits to go in Jesus' name is how the door gets closed. The five whys take you from fruit to root. Pick one piece of bad fruit. Anger, control, fear, resentment, people-pleasing, stonewalling. Ask why. Answer honestly. Ask why again. Keep going past the noble, convenient answer until you find the earliest memory of feeling the way the fruit is making you feel now. That memory is usually the wound. That is where Jesus wants to meet you. Subscribe and review If this episode met you somewhere, do one thing for me. Hit subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and leave a quick review. Reviews are what put this show in front of the next woman who needs to hear that the root, not the sewage, is the real problem. Thank you for being here.
June 03, 202641min
Number 3: Reality Discipline in Marriage (Stop Trying to Fix Your Husband)
Many wives feel trapped in a cycle of trying to fix, manage, or carry the weight of their husband’s choices, only to end up exhausted, frustrated, and stuck. In this episode, Natasha breaks down a powerful and often misunderstood concept: reality discipline. Originally taught in parenting, this principle has profound implications for marriage, especially when you’re dealing with sin, dysfunction, or unhealthy patterns. This is not about control, or manipulation, and it’s definitely not about passive compliance. It’s about stepping out of the way, holding your ground with strength and dignity, and allowing God (and reality) to do what you cannot. If you’ve been trying everything to create change and nothing is working, this episode will reframe the battle and show you a better way forward. What You’ll Learn - Why trying to “fix” your husband often backfires - The difference between biblical submission and unbiblical compliance - The most common flesh-driven responses(and why they don’t work) - What reality discipline actually is (and how it applies in marriage) - The critical difference between applying consequences vs. allowing them - How to set boundaries without anger, control, or fear - Why this is a spiritual battle, not just a marriage problem Key Scripture Referenced John 10:10 Resources & Next Steps Two Types of Prodigals Course Learn to discern the root stronghold driving your husband’s behavior, and how to respond in a way that doesn’t make it worse. 👉 https://www.wisewife.co/two-types-of-prodigals-course-launchsale-sp Wise Wife Community Join weekly live coaching, teaching, and support as you walk this out in real time. 👉 https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp Wise Wife Conference (Atlanta, GA) September 12–13, 2026 👉 https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026 Connect with Wise Wife Website: https://wisewife.co Share This Episode! If this episode encouraged you, share it with another wife who needs hope today. You are not called to carry what only God can change. Stand firm in truth, walk in wisdom, and trust Him to do the work.
April 15, 202640min
Number 4: Should I Submit in This Case? What Biblical Submission Actually Looks Like
“How do I submit in this situation?” It’s one of the most common—and most misunderstood—questions in Christian marriage. In this episode, Natasha addresses a real-life scenario from a wife who feels stuck carrying the weight of her household while her husband avoids responsibility. But instead of giving a surface-level answer, she reframes the question entirely: It’s not just “how do I submit?” It’s “should I submit in this?” Inside this conversation, you’ll learn: - Why submission is often misunderstood in both Christian and secular spaces - The difference between biblical submission and enabling sinful behavior - The two extremes women fall into: the protector and the appeaser - Why both control and passivity are rooted in fear - What it actually looks like to live in the “spirit-led middle” - A simple 2-question framework to help you discern your response in difficult situations Natasha also shares personal examples from her own marriage, showing how choosing strength and dignity over fear became the catalyst for real transformation. This episode is not about compliance, and it's not about control. It’s about honoring God, walking in truth, and having the courage to stop getting in the way of what He is doing. Key Takeaway: Coddling and enabling sinful behavior is not love, it’s actually one of the most disrespectful things you can do to your husband. If this episode helped bring clarity to your situation, share it with a woman who may be asking the same question.
April 08, 202642min
Number 5: Ep. 28: He Wants To Come Home, But I Don’t Feel Secure in His Love
What do you do when your husband wants to come back, but not fully as a husband? In this episode, Natasha addresses a common and painful question from wives navigating broken marriages: how do you know whether letting him come home is wisdom or enabling dysfunction? She unpacks the difference between regret and repentance, explains what an “in-home prodigal” looks like, and shows why many women end up tolerating arrangements God never asked them to accept. This episode covers: regret vs. repentance boundaries vs. demands why fear makes women accept scraps how children learn marriage from what is normalized why you must stop absorbing consequences that belong to your husband what it really looks like to respond in strength and dignity If your husband wants the benefits of home without the responsibility of covenant, this episode will help you discern the difference and respond with wisdom, truth, and dignity.
March 17, 202620min