The Wise Wife Podcast

By Natasha Drisdelle

The Wise Wife Podcast is for women who are standing for their marriage and refusing to surrender God’s design to passivity, fear, or cultural advice.

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Number 1: E40 The 7 R's of Restoration
You can pray for restoration every morning and still not be ready for it. After almost 20 years of standing with women who are believing God for their marriages, I keep seeing the same 7 things in the wife before her breakthrough ever comes. Not in the prodigal. In her. This is not a formula, and I am not promising that checking 7 boxes brings your husband home by Christmas. But in every restoration I have watched actually hold, these 7 were already at work in the standing wife. God is not restoring just a marriage. He is restoring people, and He seems to start with the one who is listening.
July 28, 202635min
Number 2: E39 The Single Strategy that Saved My Marriage
You've been praying, you've been showing up, you've been doing what everyone told you was the right thing. And your marriage is still getting worse. There are 2 types of prodigal spirits that drive relationship breakdown: rejection and dominance. They attract their opposite, and they feed off each other. When the marriage starts to strain, a wife naturally reaches for the strategy that would work on her own spirit. Grace poured on a dominant husband feeds his control. Pressure applied to a rejection-driven husband pushes him deeper into hiding. That is why you can give everything you have and still watch things get worse. In this episode, I walk you through both spirits: how each one thinks, how it behaves in a marriage, and how to discern which one is driving your husband's behavior (and which one is at work in you). I share the story of a wife whose 20 years of peacekeeping fed her husband's coercive control, and my own story as a former dominant spirit whose breakthrough started when finally faced with consequences. We go to Adam and Eve, Ahab and Jezebel, and 1 Peter 3:1-2 to see what pure and reverent behavior actually requires. Resources mentioned: Two Types of Prodigals (course). Currently includes 30 days of access to the course support circle, live Q&A group coaching with Natasha. https://www.wisewife.co/course-two-types-prodigals The Wise Wife Blueprint (book), where Natasha tells her full story. wisewifeblueprint.com Follow the show for a new episode every Wednesday. It helps me keep putting this teaching out.
July 17, 202631min
Number 3: E36 Follow the Fruit to the Root
Years ago I walked into our bathroom and found raw sewage backing up into the toilet and the tub. We could have spent the rest of our lives scooping it out, or we could deal with the massive tree root that had grown silently underground for decades until it finally broke the sewer line. Most women I coach are still scooping. You've been trying to change the behavior. You've prayed harder, set up boundaries, read the books, listened to the podcasts, started over a hundred Mondays. The same patterns keep coming back. The anger, the control, the people-pleasing, the shutting down, the fear. This isn't about effort. You've been doing the work. The patterns keep coming back because the work has been happening at the wrong layer. The fruit you see grows from a root that is still alive underground. This is part two of the series I started last week with the victim and the martyr. Last week I told you both of those identities were ditches and asked you to be honest about which one you lean toward. This week I show you how to climb out. We talk about soul wounds, the unhealed emotional pains from your past that the enemy uses as a legal entry point to attach lies, accusations, shame, and fear. I explain why the most dangerous soul wound is the one you never acknowledged as a wound, and why a "great childhood" can still hide the filters that are running your life. Then I share the five whys, the strategy I use with my wise wives to reverse engineer the visible bad fruit in your life all the way back to the root memory. From there, I give you five steps to actually heal it. Identify the fruit and the stronghold. Acknowledge the wound. Invite Jesus into the memory. Forgive and renounce the lies. Command the spirits to go. You cannot forgive what you won't admit, and you cannot heal what you won't confront. By the end of this episode, you'll have the framework, the workbook, and the prayers to do the actual work. Resources mentioned in this episode - The Fruit to the Root workbook (free): https://www.wisewife.co/root - Last week's episode: The Victim and the Martyr - The Wise Wife Community: https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp - Scripture: Matthew 18:21-35 (the parable of the unforgiving servant), Matthew 18:35, Luke 10:19 Here are the three key takeaways from this episode You cannot heal what you won't confront. The most dangerous soul wound is not the biggest one. It's the one you never acknowledged as a wound. A "normal" or "great" childhood does not mean you escaped without filters. Some of the most controlling, fearful, people-pleasing patterns come from women who would say they had it good. Soul wounds give the enemy legal access. When a wound is delivered and not healed, the enemy attaches lies to it, and demons exploit those lies. Inner healing without deliverance is incomplete, and deliverance without inner healing is temporary. Forgiveness, renouncing the lies out loud, and commanding the spirits to go in Jesus' name is how the door gets closed. The five whys take you from fruit to root. Pick one piece of bad fruit. Anger, control, fear, resentment, people-pleasing, stonewalling. Ask why. Answer honestly. Ask why again. Keep going past the noble, convenient answer until you find the earliest memory of feeling the way the fruit is making you feel now. That memory is usually the wound. That is where Jesus wants to meet you. Subscribe and review If this episode met you somewhere, do one thing for me. Hit subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and leave a quick review. Reviews are what put this show in front of the next woman who needs to hear that the root, not the sewage, is the real problem. Thank you for being here.
June 03, 202641min
Number 4: E34 My Marriage Stand, Part 1
My Marriage Stand: Part 1 — I Hated My Husband There was a time I hated my husband. Not the small kind of hate. The kind where you lie awake at night wondering if you married your mortal enemy. And the part that's even harder to say? I thought I was the good one. This is Part 1 of a 3-part series where I'm telling my full story. Not the cleaned up version. The actual story of how my marriage died, what was really happening underneath it, and what God did with all of it. In this episode I talk about how we met, what we both brought into the marriage that we never dealt with, the slow collapse that followed, and the moment I found out it was over. I gave up on my marriage. Then I gave up on God. And that's where Part 1 ends. If you're in a hard marriage right now, this one is for you. Not because it's going to be easy to hear, but because I'm not going to pretend it was easy to live. Key Takeaways We both came into marriage with idolatry. I wanted Tim to be my spiritual leader, my validator, my everything. He came in with a survival mentality. Neither of us knew what we were doing, and nobody in the church had equipped us for any of it. The turtling is the most dangerous place. When a wife has tried and tried and finally just shuts down and concedes, that's not peace. That's the enemy's finish line. Giving up on your marriage is bad but recoverable. Giving up on God is the real crisis. That's what I did, and that's what the enemy was after the whole time. My heart posture was the problem. There was truth in everything I was bringing to God. But I was bringing it as a victim demanding a verdict, not as a wife asking what needed to change in me. The more he failed, the more controlling I became. And the more controlling I became, the more he withdrew. We fed each other's worst patterns for years before anything broke open. Resources Wise Wife Conference 2026 — Atlanta https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026 Wise Wife Co Community https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp The Wise Wife Letters — Weekly Newsletter https://www.wisewife.co/newsletters/the-wise-wife-letters/ This is Part 1 of 3. Part 2 — What God Did With the Wreckage — is coming soon.
May 13, 202627min
Number 5: The Power Isn't in the Oil: What Anointing Actually Does
Anointing your house, your husband's pillow, your kids' foreheads, your kitchen sink — none of it does anything if you don't actually believe God is who He says He is. In this episode, Natasha answers a question one of our Wise Wives asked about anointing oil. What is it? Why do people use it? Does it actually do anything? She walks through the biblical roots of anointing — David being set apart for the throne, oil consecrating priests and sacred items, the Holy Spirit's presence symbolized through oil — and then turns to the New Testament instruction in James 5:14 to show what carries the real weight in anointing: prayer, faith, and the name of the Lord. Then she calls something out - there is a religious spirit that turns anointing oil into performance. It feeds self-sufficiency, it looks holy and produces nothing. Natasha shows the difference between obedience and performance, and why one woman's anointing carries authority while another woman's is just oil on a doorframe. She also tells the story of the first time she ever anointed something — her separated husband's space pen — and what God did with it. In this episode: The biblical roots of anointing oil and why it was used to consecrate What 1 Samuel 16:13 reveals about oil and the Holy Spirit James 5:14 and what actually carries the weight in anointing The four declarations you make every time you anoint The religious spirit and how it turns obedience into performance Natasha's space pen story Resources mentioned: Subscribe to The Wise Wife Letters at www.wisewife.co for prayers and resources to help you start anointing your home, your husband, and your family. Join us in Atlanta: The Wise Wife Conference is coming September 12–13, 2026. Find out more at www.wisewife.co If this episode encouraged you, share it with another wife who needs hope today. And if you want to go deeper, join us inside the Wise Wife Mentorship at www.wisewife.co
May 06, 202619min