The YES Effect

If you've ever struggled with finding your true place in the world, Bara Mann's story will inspire you. Despite a successful career as an engineer, she always felt out of place. After a fluke introduction to meditation and mindfulness, she knew it was time for a change. So took a leap of faith and quit, not knowing what was next. What happened next was pure magic.

Bara is now a Transformational Life Coach and Speaker, specializing in helping people overcome their patterns and limiting beliefs so they can advance confidently in their lives and careers. Bara is on The Yes Effect to talk about how saying "yes" to what your body is telling you will lead you to your true passion and place in the world.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why you should say "yes" to what your body is telling you
• Why mindfulness and meditation are so effective
• How to overcome the fear of taking a leap of faith
• How to balance masculine and feminine energy
• How meditation can help ADHD and focus
• How to get to the root of what is causing you anxiety and tension
• How to find your passion in life
• Advice for making a big career change

Quotables:

"The reason meditation is so powerful is because you get quiet enough to hear the truth."

"Your body doesn't lie. You don't need to know exactly what's going to come next and there's so much adventure in not knowing. Taking that leap and allowing what will be to be is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. And it's really fun, too!"

Links mentioned in this episode:

Bara on Instagram

Bara Mann's website: baraco.org

Book: Debbie Ford "The Shadow Effect: Illuminating the Hidden Power of Your True Self"

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Sometimes we try so hard to force an outcome, we lose sight of why we were doing it in the first place. The good news: it's not about lack of effort. It's just the wrong kind of effort. In this short episode, I'll share exactly what to do the next time you're struggling to accomplish something that is just not happening, no matter how much time and effort you're putting in. This little change will make all the difference.

Please share this with someone who is struggling toward an outcome. With the right effort, I guarantee it's only a matter of time.

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"When you're forcing an outcome, pause and ask yourself 'is this something I really want?'"

I wanted to share this quick story of a moment in grade 5 that changed my life. As kids, we all know how powerful peer pressure can be. It's much easier (and often safer) to follow what everyone else is doing, rather than speak up - especially when you're painfully shy and bullied, like I was. And for many of us, this carries into adulthood, too. But here's what happens when you stand your ground, separate yourself from the crowd and stick to your beliefs.

Please share this podcast with someone you know who needs encouragement to stick to their beliefs, despite what everyone else says.

Links mentioned in this episode:

TYE 124: What I learned from getting bullied at school

Quotable:

"In the moments when you have to stand up when everybody else is sitting down, it never gets more comfortable, but it also doesn't kill you."

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Logic can keep us safe, but it can absolutely crush our true essence. Truth is, the people who accomplish the things that light their soul on fire follow their magic, not their logic. Here's a quick listen to explain why (recorded in a park in Toronto, to please excuse the skateboarding in the background).

Please share this podcast with someone you know who is letting logic get in the way of their true potential. And never be afraid to let your freak flag fly.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why trusting your body is better than trusting your brain
• How my parents influenced me
• Why we often say "yes" to things we should say "no" to

Quote:

"The people who accomplish the things that light their soul on fire follow their magic and not their logic."

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This quick story was one of the most surreal experiences of my life. It's a moment with a stranger where I truly realized how sharing your story can help others.

An aspiring young female firefighter had tracked me down and asked to meet for coffee. Throughout her training, she had been rewatching this TED Talk I did on becoming a female firefighter.

The day we met in person, her phone rang. That moment, both our lives changed.

There is somebody out there that needs your help. And something small you might take for granted has the power to impact others going through the exact same experiences you did.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to inspire others
• How to motivate others as a leader
• Why sharing your story is important
• How to motivate yourself

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Everyone has something to give to the world. In this episode I'm going to share 3 things about storytelling and finding your truth that will motivate you to share more of your experiences, gifts and earned wisdom to change people's lives. And I'm also going to explain why so many people get stuck thinking they don't have a relevant or inspiring enough story to share. It's actually the ordinary stories that matter more than the extraordinary ones.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why many women struggle to tell their story
• Why the loudest person is rarely the wisest
• How to find your story
• How to inspire people using your story and your gifts
• The meaning of your "original medicine"
• 3 important facts about storytelling
• The meaning of reciprocity and how to leverage it

Quotables:

"Nobody cares about the Everest you submitted unless they know about the training and shitty times of waking up at 5am, your fingers are bleeding. That's where we relate to your story."

"It's almost never the loudest person that is the wisest."

"Your story is not about you. It's a bridge of possibility for your audience."

Links mentioned in this episode:

TYE 131: How to be a better public speaker with Gail Larsen

Book "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion" by Robert Cialdini

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Sarah Wilkes helped me survive my absolute biggest lifelong fear - the death of my dad. She wasn't just there for me, she taught me how to see lightness in death, how to accept and navigate grief and how to keep my dad with me long after he was gone.

If you're grieving the dying or death of a loved one, this will help you see death from a whole new perspective.

Sarah is a Reverend and Spiritual Advisor who has worked in palliative care and emergency services. This was an impromptu conversation recorded in her backyard (please excuse the background noise) and with her blessing, I'm sharing with you on the The YES Effect podcast, because I know Sarah's humility and incredible wisdom will help guide you through death and grief like it did for me.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to implement continuing bonds in your life after a loved one dies
• How life and death are just different time loops which we can reconnect whenever we want
• Why saying goodbye versus sudden death doesn't necessarily make things easier
• How both sudden and prolonged dying each have grace
• How grief is like paying a debt which has different payment plans and durations
• Why grief is much like a roadtrip with highs, lows and people who come and go
• Why we need to recognize the journey of the dying and acknowledge their remaining life
• Why laughter is just as important as tears when it comes to death
• How to react to actions and conversations with someone entering the other side
• Why we make death harder than it needs to be

Quotables:

"You made death accessible and cool."

"We're all stuck in these little time loops and it's the cognition of us recognizing the immediacy of our loved ones in another frame of time that we can connect with them whenever we choose to."

"Saying goodbye doesn't make it easier (sudden death). Each season and each type of death has its grace."

"Grief is a debt you pay in your own way and in your own time."

"Death is as safe as life gets."

"We make it harder than it needs to be."

Links mentioned in this episode:

TYE 057: Live Like You Were Dying with Sarah Wilkes

Sara Wilkes website: anamcaramor.ca

FB: Spirit Sessions with Sarah Wilkes

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Podcast producer: Adam Liefl

Rachel Pedersen became known as "The Queen of Social Media" for one main reason: realness. In a universe seemingly dominated by male business gurus, hustle culture, perfection, makeup and filters, Rachel helped open the doors for businesswomen to leverage their no makeup, no filter, sweats-and-slippers authenticity on social media.

And she comes by it honestly.

In less than a decade, Rachel went from single mom living on welfare to founder and CEO of two multimillion-dollar companies, a top social media marketer and consultant, worldwide viral sensation, leading authority on storytelling through social media. She also shares openly about living with depression.

Rachel's new book "Unfiltered: Proven Strategies to Start and Grow Your Business by Not Following the Rules" is a literal piece of art. If you follow it, it gives you permission to be exactly who you are and I guarantee it will be your rocket fuel.

Rachel Pedersen is on The YES Effect show to talk about fearlessly going for it, starting a business from the bottom and finding your version of success by ignoring everyone else's rules.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Rachel's journey of single mom on welfare to starting a business
• How bravery and handling pressure is what elevates successful people
• How to act on your dreams and start taking action steps - even from zero
• Why the small, "crappy" steps of entrepreneurship are important for success
• How Rachel found success differently from most business media gurus
• The moment Rachel decided to go from 'talking about hashtags to changing the world'
• How an emotional livestream of Rachel talking about depression went viral
• Why many women still struggle to be truly authentic publicly
• Why more influencers and celebrities are doing "no makeup" social media posts
• How Rachel helped grow a company 6700% in less than a year
• Why ClickFunnels Founder Russel Brunson encouraged her to write a book
• The importance of knowing when to speed up and slow down in your business

Quotables:

"There was a part of me saying 'you've come so far, let's not stop here. What's the worst that can happen? Let's try for it.'"

"It's one crappy step at a time. It's one crappy TikTok that's sharing my voice…done. Ugh. Then the next crappy action step. Not that the action steps are crappy, but when we first do them it doesn't feel revolutionary. I didn't realize that's a part of the 'how'."

"You change what society gets to see. You change what becomes normal for the little girl who maybe doesn't look a certain way." -SV

"So many people are suffering in silence and silos." -SV

"When you are willing to say 'I'm going to do something different' and are willing to stand out and take the heat and pressure of that, all of us are together in a different category because it takes so much bravery."

"Usually the things we've been criticized the most for are actually your rocket fuel."

"You get to be in charge of exactly what you want to build. This is not a runaway train. You're the conductor and you get to decide how fast or slow you need to go and when you need to stop."

Links mentioned in this episode:

Rachel Pedersen's website

Book: Unfiltered: Proven Strategies to Start and Grow Your Business by Not Following the Rules

Social Media United

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Mindy Schulz survived a parent's worst nightmare. Now, she is turning her horrific story into an inspiring presentation. She recently called me for some advice and tips on public speaking and how to properly tell her story for an audience. With her blessing, I recorded our coaching call and am offering it to you - raw and uncut - in this podcast.

Mindy's backstory:

In 2016, Mindy was walking her 5 month-old son Tristan when they were hit at a crosswalk by a distracted driver. Tristan was killed instantly by the impact. Mindy was badly injured. During this coaching call, Mindy explains the unthinkable grief, guilt and pain that felt following the event. But she also explains why she's now eager to use her experience for the betterment of others.

It was a very emotional call, as we dug into the details of the event and precisely how this story can be told to engage and impact an audience. "Wow, thank you. Now I feel far more empowered. I feel more at ease. This feels more natural to me which gives me a lot more confidence and assurance. I feel like it's a natural extension of me now instead of forcing myself into a box."

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The 3 objectives of a speech: what you want the audience to think, feel and do
• Why a public speaker needs to convey their authority on a subject
• What kept Mindy going when she was at her absolute lowest
• What motivated Mindy to want to share her story publicly
• The correct emotions that will move an audience, and which ones not to use in a speech
• The 4 factors of influence: authority, social proof, consistency & reciprocity
• How writing a speech is different than writing a book
• How to properly begin a speech
• The method I use to "memorize" a speech
• Why Mindy originally chose to "soften" the details of the story, and why I advised her not to
• How to use "The Bounce" in a talk to directly speak to your audience during a story
• How I use graphics and pictures to memorize a talk

Quotables:

"In the fear there's something beautiful."

"I've done scary things before and I've done it by surrendering to the process and moment by moment trying to be grounded in what it is I'm supposed to learn."

"So many people will think they don't have the ability to be courageous because they're still feeling the fear."

"You're not writing a book or a story. You're reliving and unpacking a moment with us."

"You can not be wrong telling your story. I know you have the courage and bravery to share it in a way that's going to be life-changing for the audience."

"I want them to crack open enough so they can love themselves just a little bit more at the end of the day."

Links mentioned in this episode:

Robert Cialdini's book "Influence"

Lisa Nichols

My TEDx Talk "Hacking Possibility"

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I've learned more about being a better human from dog trainer, Susan Garrett, than anyone I've ever met. She is as much a life coach as she is a renowned dog trainer and world dog agility champion. Her teachings for dogs are all rooted in kindness, creating the proper environment and leaning into each dog's unique qualities, rather than forcing them to be what they're not. All things that we humans can use to better our own behaviour.

Susan is one of the world's most successful dog trainers and agility competitors. She has won over 30 Gold Medals at National or World Championship events with every dog she has ever owned over the past 30 years. She's on The YES Effect to talk about how practice, patience, visualization, ignoring negativity and embracing our strengths - for dogs and humans - is what leads to success.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why Susan focuses on kindness in dog agility training
• How we can manipulate our environment to make the right choice the easy choice
• What Susan learned as a kid by having the TV on during dinner
• How Susan has trained so many dogs with different qualities to all be champions
• How athlete's mindset, visualization and breathwork help in training our brain for almost automatic success
• Susan's method of visualization before every dog agility competition
• How we can "trick" our brains into knowing how to succeed before even doing it
• How visualization helps Susan alleviate back pain and plantar fasciitis
• How the behaviours you rehearse everyday with your dog become who you show up for in the world to other people in your life

Quotables:

"You can achieve everything you want and have the dog of your dreams if you focus on training your dog with kindness."

"The behaviours you rehearse everyday with your dog become who you show up for in the world to other people in your life."

"You can choose to try something and if it doesn't work, we're going to get a lesson from that."

"Your brain doesn't know what's real and what's not. So if you can visualize, your brain thinks you've already done it. And who isn't better at anything the second time you do it?"

"When I look at my dogs all I see is greatness. It's up to me to bring it out."

"Raise your vibration. When you're coming from a place of gratitude, love and appreciation, it changes the energy you send out into the world and controls the reality you're going to receive."

Links mentioned in this episode:

Susan's website: https://dogsthat.com/

Susan Garrett Dog Agility Blog

Susan Garrett on Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Pinterest | TikTok | YouTube | LinkedIn

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Podcast producer: Adam Liefl