Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay

Episode 65

It is Episode 65 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay, and today we are talking more about The 4 Agreements and how to use them to improve your relationship communication. Today’s focus is on not taking things personally. Do you find this is something that comes up a lot in your relationships? it is possible to learn to manage it.

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Episode 64

It is Episode 64 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay, and today we are talking more about The 4 Agreements and how to use them to improve your relationship communication. Today’s focus is on what is means to be impeccable with your word. Do you say what you mean and mean what you say? How do words show up in your relationship?

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Episode 63

It is Episode 63 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay, and today we are talking about The 4 Agreements and how to use them to improve your relationship communication. I have included more information below about these agreement and I would love for you to share in the comments how they show up in your life.

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The 4 Agreements

I love the book by Don Miguel Ruiz, The 4 Agreements. In my private practice, I use these agreements as a foundation to help couples stay on the right track or reset when needed. They are simple agreements to make, but they are not necessarily easy to keep. These agreements are not meant to be used a way to judge one another or hold each other emotionally hostage, but rather they are intended to help create a foundation for success

The 4 Agreements

• Be Impeccable with Your Word

• Don’t Take Things Personally

• Don’t Make Assumptions

• Always Do Your Best

Don Miguel Ruiz is the author of The 4 Agreements, and I highly recommend his book if you’d like to dive deeper into them. There is also a 3-book boxed set available that digs even deeper in the agreements and also offers insight into the 5th agreement. I’ll have to write more about this topic soon, as it has become such an integral part of my work with individual and relationship clients.

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Be Impeccable with Your Word

• Speak with Integrity

• Say only what you mean

• Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others

• Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love

Don’t Take Things Personally

• Nothing other do is because of you

• What others say and do is a projection of their own reality

• When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering

Don’t Make Assumptions

• Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want

• Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama

• With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best

• Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to when you are sick

• Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.

Episode 62

It is Episode 62 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay and today we are are talking more about the idea of setting goals and a vision for the New Year in your relationship. I’m not a huge fan of making New Year’s resolutions, because I feel like they can set you up to feel frustrated or even like you’re not doing enough rather than focusing on the idea of making steady progress. I do like the idea of setting goals or visions for where you are headed from a relationship perspective. Maybe even picking a word, phrase or a quote you can use a way to ground you when things feel out of control or not on the same page. Would you share with me some of your relationship goals for this year?

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Episode 61

It’s Episode 61 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay and today we are talking about what it means to create a Relationship Reset.

As you listen, I want you to ask yourself, “What does It mean to be on the "Same Team" in your relationship?”.

Creating a patterns interrupt can hep reset when your relationship gets off track. My partner and I use “SFT or #SFT” as a pattern interrupt and in this episode I talk about how that came to be our phrase and what it means.

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Episode 60

It is Episode 60 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay and on today’s episode we are digging The 5 Apology Languages and how they can show up in your relationship. The 5 Love Languages are often discussed, The 5 Anger Languages were the topic of Episode 59, and today is all about The 5 Apology Languages.

The different apology languages have a lot of overlap with each other, and they can be such a healing element in your relationship. They are an important part of learning to develop healthy relationship communication to discuss things.

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Episode 59

It is Episode 59 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay and on today’s episode we are digging The 5 Anger Languages and how they can show up in your relationship. Although The 5 Love Languages are often discussed, The 5 Anger Languages are not talked about as much, but they are very important to understand.

Anger is not a bad emotion, but it is a secondary emotion, and it’s important to process the feelings beneath the anger. There are healthy and unhealthy ways to express those emotions, but it is important to develop healthy relationship communication to discuss things.

If you are needing a guide to help you get started having healthier relationship communication, you can download my FREE Relationship Communication Guide by clicking on the button below:

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Episode 58

It is Episode 58 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay and on today’s episode we are digging The 5 Love Languages and how Physical Touch can show up in your relationship. If you have never taken The 5 Love Languages Quiz, I do highly recommend taking it so you can see what works best for you.

Here is the link to The 5 Love Languages assessment https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

As with all assessments, the results are to be used as a guide to better understand yourself and how you show up in the world. Specifically, knowing your love language and attachment style can be super helpful when understanding how you show up in your relationship.

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Episode 57

It is Episode 57 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay and on today’s episode we are digging The 5 Love Languages and how Gifts can show up in your relationship. If you have never taken The 5 Love Languages Quiz, I do highly recommend taking it so you can see what works best for you.

Here is the link to The 5 Love Languages assessment https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

As with all assessments, the results are to be used as a guide to better understand yourself and how you show up in the world. Specifically, knowing your love language and attachment style can be super helpful when understanding how you show up in your relationship.

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Episode 56

It is Episode 56 of Therapy Thoughts with Lindsay and on today’s episode we are digging The 5 Love Languages and how Words of Affirmation can show up in your relationship. If you have never taken The 5 Love Languages Quiz, I do highly recommend taking it so you can see what works best for you.

Here is the link to The 5 Love Languages assessment https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

As with all assessments, the results are to be used as a guide to better understand yourself and how you show up in the world. Specifically, knowing your love language and attachment style can be super helpful when understanding how you show up in your relationship.

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