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Ryan’s pun game is always on deck.  These past episodes I’ve [John] been dropping puns like panties.  I [John] guess it’s because I’m board (bored). Anyone catch that?  Deck and board? Har har har. Like puns, it seems many people are just as quick with relationship clichés; I [John] am most definitely guilty of doing so. Today we talk about some of these relationship clichés. The TRP team will discuss our thoughts on their meanings and people’s perception of what they could mean.

What Is Your Take On These Relationship Clichés? Outline

* “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”

* “Love conquers all”

* “If you can’t love me at my worst, you can’t love me at my best”

* “Never settle for anything less than a fairy tale”

* “Happy wife, happy life”

* “Never go to bed angry”

* Any additional clichés we need to talk about?

* Resource Reads:

* 10 Relationship Clichés That Are Ruining Your Expectations (And Two That’ll Keep You Strong)

* 16 Relationship Clichés That Single People Just Can’t Get, Won’t Get

* 4 True Dating Clichés That Will Change The Way You Look At Love

* 20 Online Dating Clichés-And What They Really Mean

* If you like this episode you should listen to:

* What Is Your Thought on Relationship Second Chances?

* The Importance of Relationship Building Through Travel

* Decoding What Guys Say. Do We Mean What We Say?

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Before smartphones and dating apps, people had to actually physically meet up to start dating. Ok sure, there are a few outliers that were able to start legitimate relationships in the AOL chatrooms, but I think it would be safe to say that’s a relatively small number. And even then, I know for a fact that many of those relationships were blind. Blind, as in, they didn’t know what the other person looked like until they met up with them for the first time. It took like 3 minutes to download a single 3mp photo and you still couldn’t figure out what the other person looked like. But yea, we didn’t have Match, there wasn’t Eharmony, and Tinder definitely didn’t exist. So that begs the question, if you couldn’t get out to meet people, what did you do? Well one of the things that I would do is ask for a hook up. OR, you’d have that awkward conversation that starts with them asking, “hey, you’re not seeing anyone right now, right?”

Have You Played Cupid Or Been Played By Cupid? Outline

* To start off, have you guys ever gotten a hook up?

* Did it work? Did it fail?

* Have you ever tried to hook someone up?

* What are some of the things you tried to do to help out?

* How did that pan out?

* Now that online dating exists, would you still be open to the hook up or for hooking up one of your friends?

* Extended questions:

* Have you ever played wingman?

* Have you ever had to catch the grenade?

* Resource Reads

* 10 Rules You Must Follow for Setting Up Single Friends

* Why You Shouldn’t Play Matchmaker With Your Friends

* Hinge’s new app lets your friends play matchmaker

* If you like this episode you should listen to:

* The Challenging Dating Landscape of Today

* Facebook Dating Entering Online Dating Market

* Technology: Changing The Dynamics of Relationships

If you want to be a guest on TheRelationshiPodcast please send us an e-mail.

You should binge on previous episodes of TheRelationshiPodcast. Start from Season 1 (Episode 1). LISTEN NOW.

      

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Have you ever given a relationship a second chance? Some of us have never given anybody a second chance [Ryan].  Ryan felt the need to explore this topic as he has gotten older and encountered people who have given their old flames a “second chance” to rekindle the passion. People always say “once a cheater/deadbeat/loser/whore always a cheater/deadbeat/loser/whore.” Is that really the case or is it possible that people can turn over a new leaf?

What Is Your Thought On Relationship Second Chances? Outline

* Have you ever given any of your relationships a second chance? If so why/why not?

* Would you give your current Significant Other (or Date) a second chance?

* What are some ‘Dealbreakers’ that wouldn’t warrant a second chance no matter how much you like them? (refer back to Episode 5, Season 1 of The RelationshiPodcast)

* Which cohort is more likely to give a second chance, younger or older people? And why?

* Do you know anyone who gave their S/O a second chance and had a happy ending? What about a ‘bad ending?’

* Resource Read

* Cheaters and Liars: Should You Ever Give Them a Second Chance?

* How to prove that I deserve a second chance? Via Withmyexagain.com

* 5 Reasons They Might Be Worth a Second Chance Via MeetMindful App

* If you like this episode you should listen to:

* Five Stages of A Relationship (Season 1, Episode 9)

* Brothers before Babes (Bros before hoes; Season 2 Episode 4)

* The Importance of Relationship Building Through Travel (Season 2, Episode 14)

If you want to be a guest on TheRelationshiPodcast please send us an e-mail.

You should binge on previous episodes of TheRelationshiPodcast. Start from Season 1 (Episode 1). LISTEN NOW.

      

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Office relationships? I started watching the 2017 version of Dynasty on Netflix; I am not embarrassed to admit it. The show starts off with Blake Carrington, CEO of Carrington Atlantic, marrying his colleague, Cristal Flores. Granted this is a television show and it may not be aligned with real life, but I think a lot of people are in this situation; have dual roles with work relationships and personal relationships. As I watched the show I realize the love and work relationships can be very complicated. Today, TRP explores office relationships.

Is an Office Relationship a Good Idea? Outline

* Have any of you had relationships with people that were also your coworker?

* Do you have a stance on dating people you have professional relationships with?

* Do you feel that it was more commonly accepted to date a coworker back then or now?

* Have you heard any good advice from people that have had office relationships?

* Why do you guys think people may choose to date a coworker rather someone outside of work?

* Do you guys imagine it would be difficult to compartmentalize work and home life?

* How do people deal when the personal relationship ends yet the work relationship must continue?

* Resource Reads

* Dating in the Workplace: Here’s What You Need To Know About Fraternization

* How To Handle A Personal Relationship At Work

* 5 Rules To Dating In The Workplace

If you want to be a guest on TheRelationshiPodcast please send us an e-mail.

You should binge on previous episodes of TheRelationshiPodcast. Start from Season 1 (Episode 1). LISTEN NOW.

      

This the NON-SALTY Disclaimer: ‘We at The Relationship Podcast do not discriminate based on race, sex, sexual orientation, income level, political affiliate, religion, or creed. These opinions are solely based on our own unique experiences; our opinions are not the rule. We are always open to EVERYONE’S personal life experiences and opinions. At the end of the day, we can always agree to disagree. Please enjoy the podcast.”

Chivalry is today’s topic of episode 15. I’m honestly surprised this hasn’t come up in any previous episode, but I think there might be a reason. Not to presuppose anything, but we’ve all heard people say, “Chivalry is dead.” Everyone has an opinion on this, but it rarely gets discussed at length. Before we get into modern chivalry, perhaps it would be wise to go over the history of chivalry and what it has meant historically. Chivalry was an informal moral and social code founded by the cavalry during the Roman Empire under Charlemagne and adapted by knights in the middle ages. It had more to do with warrior conduct, nationalism, and piety in those days. Today, it has been morphed and adapted many times to where most people ascribe their own definitions to it. So let’s get right into it.

Does Anyone Think Chivalry Is Relevant To Our Generation? Outline

* First things first, what do you think modern chivalry is?

* Do you feel like it is still relevant in modern society? Why or why not?

* Is it chivalry or chauvinism?

* Do you practice some form of chivalry in your own life?

* What are some things you would institute in your own code of conduct if you could make one?

* Resource Reads

* Why As a Girl, I’m Glad Chivalry is Dead

* Why Chivalry Is Dead, From A Man’s Perspective

* How Chivalry Died–Again and Again

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Who doesn’t like to travel? In 2018, Millennials and Generation Z is obsessed with wanderlust. Through each Instagram frame, it’s a race to sensationalize your vacation experiences. However, traveling for work takes on a whole new meaning and to the extreme can also be daily living (e.g. traveling across states to make additional income). Listen all the way to the end of the episode because we have an announcement for a special giveaway to enhance your travels.

The Importance of Relationship Building Through Travel Outline

* How does traveling define your life?

* Why do you feel the younger generation feels more inclined to travel now than previous generations

* Why do other countries prioritize traveling compared to the US?

* Pros and Cons for each

* What are your thoughts on people who travel between states during the workweek?

* Why is it important to travel with friends?

* Why is it important to travel with a significant other?

* Resource Reads

* Bend Oregon, a new Silicon Valley Community

* Why Millennials Have Become a Wanderlust Generation

If you want to be a guest on TheRelationshiPodcast please send us an e-mail.

You should binge on previous episodes of TheRelationshiPodcast. Start from Season 1 (Episode 1). LISTEN NOW.

      

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In previous episodes, we have spent a fair share of time talking about dating.  We have discussed what the dating landscape is now compared to our youth.  So I think it’s a natural transition to talk about; marriage.  Specifically, why is this generation taking so long to get married or delaying marriage?

Why Are We Taking So Long To Get Married In This Generation? Outline

* What is the meaning of marriage to you?

* Is marriage less of a priority today than it was before?

* Do you believe people are postponing marriage because the dating landscape is the way it is? Or is there other additional reasons?

* What are the Pros of postponing?

* What are the Cons of postponing?

* Do you think how people are dating now can jeopardize the future of marriage?

* Open discussion

* Resource Reads

* More Americans Waiting Longer to Marry

* More Americans Delaying Marriage Past Their 20s, New Data Show

* More Americans are living without a partner has increased, especially among young adults

* If you like this episode, you should listen/read:

* The Challenging Dating Landscape Today (S2E9)

* 1.01 The Don’t Suck at Life: You Are Single Because of You

* Ambiguity In A Relationship, Do You Navigate The Fog Or Abandon All Hope? – S2E3

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You should binge on previous episodes of TheRelationshiPodcast. Start from Season 1 (Episode 1). LISTEN NOW.

      

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Facebook Dating? It was just announced this past week that Facebook is going to be entering the online dating market. It’s such big news that Match Group shares fell almost 20%. For those unaware, Match Group is the parent company of Match, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, and okCupid, amongst other services. The TRP team along with special guest Kundai from NYC discuss if we would use Facebook Dating, the pros and cons, and if Facebook can successful in this space.

Facebook Dating Entering the Online Dating Market Outline

* Would you use Facebook Dating if you had the opportunity? Why?

* What is some of the added value of going with a Facebook Dating service?

* Do you see any potential downsides to having Facebook handle your dating life?  I.e. privacy, security, knowing friends of friends, fear of stalkers

* Is there anything that you’d like to see Facebook implement when they start fleshing out this service?

* Some people are speculating that Facebook Dating will disrupt the market, but the competition will bounce back. This is mainly because Facebook’s user base skews older than the users of other services. Reference: Can Facebook Smother Tinder’s Flame?

* Do you feel this speculation is true, or should we expect Facebook Dating to surpass the competition?

* If you like this episode, you should listen to

* Technology: Changing the Dynamics of Relationships (S2E7)

* The Challenging Dating Landscape Today (S2E9)

If you want to be a guest on TheRelationshiPodcast please send us an e-mail.

You should binge on previous episodes of TheRelationshiPodcast. Start from Season 1 (Episode 1). LISTEN NOW.

      

This the NON-SALTY Disclaimer: ‘We at The Relationship Podcast do not discriminate based on race, sex, sexual orientation, income level, political affiliate, religion, or creed. These opinions are solely based on our own unique experiences; our opinions are not the rule. We are always open to EVERYONE’S personal life experiences and opinions. At the end of the day, we can always agree to disagree. Please enjoy the podcast.”

Can you explain if this is a date or a meet up?  Ryan is up to his elbows in the dating element today.  After wrapping production of Annoying Women: The 15 Things Men Say To Do So (S2E10), Ryan tells Andrey and I that some people do not consider dates as dates anymore; they are now referred to as meet ups instead.  You can only imagine the confusion on Andrey and I’s faces.  So in today’s episode, we get more in-depth information from Ryan on what this all means.

Can You Explain If This Is A Date Or A Meet Up? Outline

* Refer to John’s article The Don’t Suck at Life: Is It A Date Or A Meet Up? (1.05)

* What’s the difference between dating versus meet up for the first time?

* Is this a generational cohort difference (old school mentality vs. millennial mentality)?

* Why do the lines get “blurred” when meeting on a Dating App and giving them your intention?

* If someone is inexperienced in dating, which gender usually takes the blame (men or women)?

* Should a first date really count as a date in 2018?

* Conflicting perspective/expectations between parties before the first date?

* How about post-first date (refer back to Aziz Ansari’s accusations of “Rape” and how that turned out)?

* Is there a difference between men and women and how they approach this?

* It’s 2018, does a guy always have to initiate and make it crystal clear it’s a first date?

* What about people with a shy personality (or even some women) who ask someone to “hang out” but don’t make it obvious when it’s a date?

* If you like this episode, you should listen to

* Do You Booboo – Improving Yourself Before Dating (S1E11)

* Decoding What Guys Say. Do We Mean What We Say? (S1E7)

* Friend (Ship) Defined vs. Friend (Zone) Entered – Dating (S1E4)

If you want to be a guest on TheRelationshiPodcast please send us an e-mail.

You should binge on previous episodes of TheRelationshiPodcast. Start from Season 1 (Episode 1). LISTEN NOW.

      

This the NON-SALTY Disclaimer: ‘We at The Relationship Podcast do not discriminate based on race, sex, sexual orientation, income level, political affiliate, religion, or creed. These opinions are solely based on our own unique experiences; our opinions are not the rule. We are always open to EVERYONE’S personal life experiences and opinions. At the end of the day, we can always agree to disagree. Please enjoy the podcast.”

Chilaquiles. It only took me (Ryan) 10+years to try this Anepelco Cafe’s version and have something to talk about with Mr. Don Juan of Taiwan (John). While John is reflecting across the ocean in his homeland of Taiwan during this important time (you’re in our thoughts, brother), Infatchewasian Season 2 is all about comparing and contrasting what’s good in NorCal vs. SoCal.

In this episode, the challenger is NorCal’s (Napa original) spot called Grace’s Table, which I tried, way back in 2014 (I know, I should go back to be fair but the episode sort of wrote itself, *shrugs*). We break down classically how the recipe is, what the merits are between these two, and whether or not we’ll ever go back for seconds.

Our Food Cred:

Ryan: The Break Dancing Bourdain is a food writer/ex-restaurant/hospitality professional.  Check it out here.

Andrey: Sous Chef 1 has +30 years specializing in consuming Indonesian food and avid cook.

John: The OutEatMeBro Sous Chef 2 was Yelp Elite from 2011 to 2012.  Check it out here.

Our Rating Scale: Each of us have a star that we can apply to our episode’s central theme. With a maximum of 3-stars that can be earned at the most.

* 1 Star = Our Favorite. Always consistent and willing to go back for seconds or thirds.

* 0.5 Star = Somewhat inconsistent and on the fence with the quality

* 0 Star = Forget about it. We don’t even want to go back or resample anything.

Wanna go to the places we mentioned mid-episode? Click on the links below and let us know what you think:

* El Farolito– San Francisco, CA (Mission District)

* Leo’s Taco Truck (Tireshop taco truck also Featured via Buzzfeed’s Worth It Series)- Los Angeles, CA (South Central)

* Taqueria Sinaloa (also featured in Anthony Bourdain’s No Reservation visit to the Bay Area) – Oakland, CA (International Blvd.)

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Intro music from The PassionHiFi and lyrics by JLewd.