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Everyone has started a new job and tried to navigate it successfully. Or when you transition to a new position and have to work with an entirely new team. We try to be a cohesive unit at work and avoid being the “bad cop.” The worst case scenario is having the “I can’t work with him/her.” Andrey encountered this situation recently. He decided to research tips to having more effective work relationships with coworkers. Andrey composed a lists that we will discuss today. We will starting with the most obvious and moving towards the most helpful as we go along:

Tips On Having Effective Non-Sexual Work Relationships With Coworkers? Outline

* Tips on effective interpersonal work relationships:

* Think before you speak – Avoid putting your foot in your mouth.

* Stay positive – Positivity is contagious.

* Don’t spread rumors – This is a distraction at work.

* Avoid office politics at all costs – Do what is right.

* Check your ego at the door – Do not think you know everything.

* Don’t underestimate your coworkers – Everyone has good contributions.

* Don’t treat the office as your home/play favorites – This is a place of business not the school yard.

* Were there any that you saw on any of the lists that spoke out to you? Or maybe even one that wasn’t even listed?

* Resource Reads:

* Tips to Improve Interpersonal Relations at Workplace

* Role of Employees in Interpersonal Relationship Development

* Role of Managers in Interpersonal Relationship

* How to Develop Effective Work Relationships

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Listener Joe reached out to TheRelationshiPodcast and suggested we discuss the challenges of dating someone with a disability. By Joe’s own admission, he has a disability, and stated the difficulties he has in his current relationship. Specifically, Joe expressed the challenges he faces with his on and off, long-term, and long distance relationship. Those 3 terms put together is a relationship tsunami. After Ryan’s consultation with Joe, Ryan wondered how people with disabilities cope with relationship problems.

Relationships: Dating People With Disabilities And The Challenges Outline

* What is your definition of a disabled person?

* Do you think disabled men or women have a harder time dating or being in relationships?

* Is a disabled ailment(s) a deal breaker for you?

* Would your answer be different if it was a physical vs mental disability?

* If your partner suddenly became disabled, would you continue the relationship?

* Why or why not?

* Is there more unconditional relationships with disabled versus non-disabled?

* Why or why not?

* What kind of advice would you give someone that may want to consider dating someone with a disability?

* Resource Reads:

* 6 Things To Know About Dating Someone With A Disability

* Would You Date Someone In A Wheelchair?

* What It’s Really Like To Tinder Date When You’re Disabled

* Expert Dating Tips For The Best Disabled Dating Websites

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5 Love Languages? In the beginning of my current relationship, I had a hard time figuring her out; does she love me? For a woman’s point of view, I talk to my homegirl, Sherry. Shout out to Sherry in The Bay! Sherry is my favorite Ratchet. Sherry asked me about my 5 love languages, which I did not know about.  The 5 Love Languages is a book by Gary Chapman that specifies that every person has 5 ways to express and experience love. Chapman’s theory is that people organically give love in the way that they prefer to receive love.

Do You Believe In Gary Chapman’s Theory There Are 5 Love Languages? Outline

Explaining Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages

Words of affirmation – Using words to support the other person. 

Gifts – a present.

Acts of Service – Actions that your partner will like.

Quality time – Giving your partner your undivided attention.

Physical touch – Any action that requires physical touch.

What is your thoughts that people “give love in the way that they prefer to receive love?”

Do any of the 5 Love Languages resonant with you?

Which of these languages is the most important?

Which of the languages do you think is the least important?

If people have a mismatch on how they give/receive love, is there a way to reconcile this to improve the relationship?

Resource Reads:

5 Love Languages – Discover Your Love Language [Assessment]

Dr. Gary Chapman Explains The 5 Love Languages

A Love Language Minute [Audio]

How the Five “Love Languages” Can Help You Win at Relationships

Why Won’t You Date Me with Nicole Byer “15-The 5 Love Languages w/ Warren Burke” [Podcast]

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How Do You Deal With Indecisiveness In A Relationship? Everyone who’s been in any relationship or even friendship knows the worst question a person can ask them is “So what should we eat?”. It’s the question that probably ends more relationships than it should. The where-do-we-eat question makes even the most composed of people internally groan because of the conversation that has to follow. The core reason why this question is so hard to answer is because of indecisiveness. So, let’s talk about it.

How Do You Deal With Indecisiveness In A Relationship? Outline

* What do you think indecisiveness does to a relationship?

* How do you deal with your own indecision?

* Are there things you do to cope with someone’s indecision?

* Caltech conducted a study focusing on “choice overload.” They gave varying numbers of choices to willing participants and hooked them up to fMRI monitors. The theory is that our brain does a quick calculation based on the freedom of choice and the effort needed to make a decision. Caltech discovered that there is a “sweet spot” between 8 to 15 number of options (with 12 being the overall average). Anything less and anything more and our brains don’t really want to process the information.

* What are your thoughts on this?

* Things you can implement in to your own life to help curtail indecision?

* Do you have any advice you would give to someone who deals with indecision in their own lives (internally or externally)?

* Resource Reads:

* Scientist Uncover Why You Can’t Decide What To Order For Lunch (caltech.edu)

* Choice Overload Reduces Neural Signatures Of Choice Set Value In Dorsal Striatum And Anterior Cingulate Cortex

* 1.04 The Don’t Suck At Life: Where Should We Eat?

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Do we have a love affair with perfection? Everyone in the workforce has worked in an environment that demands absolute perfection. Some vocations consider this criteria optional whereas others made it a lifestyle choice in the career they pursue (cue Jiro Dreams of Sushi). Human beings will always remain imperfect and yet, our careers, livelihoods, and even relationships with people will demand such a thing. Today we’ll get into what that entails and if humanity’s attempt at perfection is a futile flaw.

Is Our Relationship With Perfection A Futile Flaw? Outline

* What is your definition of perfection?

* Do you work in an environment that commands perfection?

* Is there some justification behind this standard? Why or why not?

* Are there careers that give you more freedom to screw up?

* In this kind of environment, are people more successful or less?

* As Asian-Americans we grow up in traditional households where “just enough” and “perfection” is a very gray line. Why do you feel this is the case?

* Are kids better or worst off growing up within such an environment? Why or why not?

* Does confidence plays a role in the pursuit of perfection. Why or why not?

* There are links between perfection and suicide. Given Asian work cultures reinforce perfection, do you feel the U.S. will do something to improve suicide prevention?

* Why do people want to live a perfection life even though no one holds them accountable for being perfect?

* Resource Reads:

* Perfectionism And Suicide Are Linked, Finds New Study

* The Problem With Pursuing Perfection

* Pursuing Perfection Is The Point

* Raising Children in the Age of Perceived Perfect Parenting

* Michelin-starred Sukiyabashi Jiro Chef Dreams Of More Perfect Sushi

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Is sex a chore now? This topic came about because I was listening to a podcast episode, The Chore of Sex, by Relationship Hot Topics with Hank Davis and Rebecca Ryder. After listening to it, I think I can relate that sex is a chore sometimes. I’ve had a few long term relationships (over 1 year) and sometimes the sexual excitement definitely dissipates. You still love them, but the sexual fervor you once had is not the same anymore. I was curious if other guys or even if women have experienced this.

Do Any Of You Find Having Sex Is A Chore Now? Outline

* Do you feel that sex is a chore? Or heard similar stories from your friends or family?

* Which sex do you think experience this the most?

* Or do you think it’s even?

* Do you think only a certain age demographic feels that sex is a chore?

* Is this because people have been desensitized by sex with the same partner?

* What are the best excuses to get out of sex?

* What’s The Best Excuse To Avoid Sex When You’re Just Not DTF?

* Funny Ones:

* This bench is too public (8)

* I have a partner already (12)

* I ate Taco Bell today (15)

* My religion forbids it (25)

* I masturbated too much today (29)

* The dog is watching (33)

* Do you think the easy access to porn has an effect on this?

* What is your take on partners faking orgasm?

* Resource Reads

* When Sex Is A Chore

* When Sex Gets Boring

* Faking It: Why Pretend An Orgasm

* Five Ways To Have More Sex (Without It Feeling Like A Chore)

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In our previous episode we discussed about the pros and cons the movie Crazy Rich Asians brought to the table and what the impact meant for an overhaul of the perspective of Asians abroad and Asian-Americans alike. While East Asian-Americans held a majority of the spotlight throughout Hollywood, the darker shades of our Southeast Asian brethren took to the shadows and the supporting roles we know today. Today we have on the show my colleague (and friend) Viknesh who is an independent Asian-American Filmmaker from Singapore and is a veteran Filmmaker residing in the Bay Area, to share his thoughts on filmmaking and give us behind the scenes insights on his own film, Cold Pressed.

Relationships With A Filmmaker: Cold-Blooded For Cold Pressed Outline

* What’s your definition for art?

* What makes storytelling different in Filmmaking, versus writing a book or painting a canvas?

* With respect to Crazy Rich Asians, we shared our thoughts about how specific Southeast Asian ethnicities didn’t have much of a voice. What are your thoughts on the movie and this lack of representation?

* Where do you feel the film industry will be ten years from now?

* What are some of the challenges you face as an independent Asian-American filmmaker in 2018?

* I know you’re married, how did you discuss with your wife the importance of pursuing this passion of filmmaking as opposed to having the traditional 9-5?

* Do you feel single people have it easier to pursue their passions versus married people, why or why not?

* What’s different about the NorCal film industry vs. the SoCal (or Hollywood) driven one?

* More About Viknesh Silvalingam

* IMDb: Viknesh Silvalingam

* Instagram: cinema_viknesh_experience

* Cold Pressed

* Twitter: @ColdPressedTM

* Instagram: coldpressedthemovie

* Resource Reads:

* U.S. Film Industry Topped $43 Billion in Revenue Last Year, Study Finds, But It’s Not All Good News

* One Way That Crazy Rich Asians Is a Step Backward

* 7 Challenges Facing Independent Filmmakers

* Changing stereotypes and a world of Crazy Rich Asians

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If you haven’t seen Crazy Rich Asians, you probably should since we CANNOT guarantee that this episode will be spoiler free. The TRP will go over a few plot points over the course of today’s discussion. Here is a quick introduction to the movie:

* Director: Jon M Chu also directed GI Joe: Retaliation, Step Up 2: The Streets, and Justin Bieber: Never Say Never.

* Characters: Constance Wu (Fresh off the Boat), main character, plays Rachel Chu and newcomer Henry Golding plays Nick Young (Rachel’s boyfriend).

* Synopsis: The story is about a Chinese American economics professor, Rachel, that gets invited by her boyfriend, Nick, to accompany him to his best friend’s wedding in Singapore. The twist is Rachel finds out that her boyfriend is part of the richest family in Singapore. Some of the situations presented in the movie are extreme for cinematic and/or comedic effect, many of the obstacles that Rachel faces are often faced by other Asian Americans here in the states.

How and Can Asians Relate to Crazy Rich Asians? Outline

* What is your general impressions of Crazy Rich Asians?

* Did you like it?

* Why or why not?

* In the beginning of the movie, Rachel is shopping for clothes for the wedding with her mom.  Rachel’s mom warns her that even though she looks Chinese and speaks Chinese, the people in Singapore may not be willing to accept her as one of them.

* Do you find that people in your respective homelands treat you differently when they know you are American?

* Does this affect your relationships with any family and/or friends you have there?

* During the party at the house, Nick has a conversation with his mom where she warns him to not be too American. This foreshadows her feelings that Rachel is not a good fit for him because she does not share the same values as them. One of these values is the importance of sacrificing your dreams to take care of your family instead.

* Has your family ever imposed this value on you?

* Have you ever had to give up a dream because it lacked a clearly defined future?

* Now if we talk about the movie as a whole, there are 2 main criticisms that we’ve seen coming from the Asian American community.

* Firstly, the movie is said to be not Asian enough. It just replaces a typical Hollywood romcom drama with Asian actors and fit Asian cultural references to fit. Thoughts?

* Second, some say the movie doesn’t really represent enough of a cross-section of Asia as a continent. The movie focuses on Chinese culture and can even be seen as furthering the stereotype that all Asians are Chinese. Do you find this to be the case?

* Resource Reads:

* Crazy Rich Asians

* How ‘Crazy Rich Asians’ Is A Step Backwards

* Not Every Asian Will See Themselves In ‘C...

    

I’ve [John] had many girlfriends come and go. The funny part is I was more upset that I couldn’t hangout with her friend’s anymore than the break up itself. A lot of them were really cool people and I enjoyed their company. I had a friend that was in a long term relationship before it ended; he told me that he was more devastated that he could not hangout with her family. I’m curious if you guys have had this experience too.

Is It Appropriate To Stay Friends With Your Exes Friends Outline

Have any of you had this experience before? Missing your exes family or friends.

Is there circumstance where it is okay to continue a relationship with your ex’s inner circle?

Good break up?

Bad break up?

Circumstances do not matter?

Have you ever been confronted by an ex about this? Example, “You are not allowed to hangout with my friend’s or family.”

Does any of this matter in comparison when we were younger vs. now?

Do you have a problem if your ex is friends with your friends?

What about being social media friend’s?

Is there an appropriate way to tell your friends not to be friends with them?

Is there an appropriate way to tell your ex to not be friends with your friends?

Resource Reads:

Is It Healthy To Stay Friends With Your Ex’s Friends?

What to Do When Your Friend Group Is Still Friends With Your Ex

Staying Friends with Your Ex’s Friends: Breakup Etiquette

How to Deal with Your Ex’s Friends: A Very Necessary Field Guide

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We mainly talk about the concept of relationships a lot and we’ve defined it in different ways every episode. But, what about love? Just like relationships, love is a very ethereal concept and each person’s understanding can vary based on their experience.

What Is Love? Baby Don’t Hurt Me. Don’t Hurt Me. No More. Outline

* What is love (as a broad concept) to you?

Ryan: Catalyst, Vessel, and Beacon

Andrey: First prong: Feeling and Second prong: Substantiation through action

John: Having affection for a person or other people, and put their needs above yours

Is this how you feel love is understood by the world today?

What are the main categories of love that you have in your life?

Is there some form of love in every type of relationship that you have?

What is romantic love to you?

Romantic love

It’s mostly thought of as involuntary. Is it?

If you fall out of love with someone, did you love them in the first place?

Does love need to be mutual for it to be considered love?

Does love transcend wrongdoing? Should it? (ie. abusive relationships, cheating, etc.)

Resource Reads:

What Is Love, and What Isn’t?

What Is Love?

Meaning of Love

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