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The question of whether you want to raise a family is something we all have to decide. It seems like today, people have taken the term ‘family’ and flipped it on its head. Ryan wants to talk about the pros/cons of raising any of these of elements and if it’s actually worth it for you.

Would You Rather Raise Children, Pets, or Plants? Outline

* Before we get into it, there are a couple of factors we like to highlight for consideration:

* Costs: Financial and emotional.

* Environment: Costs and limited resources.

* Household Dynamic: Dual income, single income, etc.

* Number of Household additions – 1, 2, 3, 4, etc?

* Pros/Cons of Household elements:

* Plants

* Pets

* Children

Some people do not know they cannot have children later on in life, what happens to the relationship then?

Fun facts:

Average cost to raise a child in America – $233,610 (from 1 to 17)

Annual pet expenses – Total Annual Costs: Dog: $695 / Cat: $705 ($12k from age 1 to 17)

* Resource Reads:

Pros and Cons of Gardening – Gardening Know How’s Blog

6 Pros and Cons of Owning a Pet

Co-Parenting Pros & Cons

How Much Does It Cost to Raise a Child in the U.S. in 2018?

The Annual Cost Of Pet Ownership: Can You Afford A Furry Friend?

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I could not think of any thought provoking topics for my episode so I thought I would do something different. I will be asking scenario based questions and our hosts will answer if they or their partner does it better. Our TRP hosts will answer “I’m so handsome!” for themselves or “Baes on fleek!” for their significant other. I would highly encourage our lovely and gracious hosts to explain why they chose themselves or their partner. There will be some follow up questions as well. So lets game on!!

Which Significant Other Does It Better Than The Other? Outline

The real life Walking Dead occurs in 2020, which one of you would survive?

What do you think is the key for a relationship to survive?

Terrible Cooks on the Food Network invite the both of you on the show, who would reign supreme?

How should people handle the situation if your significant other is a terrible cook?

5 years ago both of you stopped working for Bang Bros as adult film actors. Who ends up with the larger body count?

Some people are bothered by their significant other’s number, how do you suggest they get over it?

The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon invites you on the show because of your role in Crazy Rich Asians Lost In Tijuana. However, you forgot to get a haircut, who would cut your hair better?

As people grow older sometimes appearance change, should it matter if you or your partner are not attracted to each other like before?

Cliff diving into water is a popular thing to do when you are at a destination near a body of water. Which one of you is likely to push the other off the cliff?

In relationships, how important is it for couples to push each other to be the best version of themselves

Resource Reads:

6 Keys To Surviving A Relationship Crisis

What To Do If You Hate Your Partner’s Cooking

10 Ways To Deal With Your Partner’s Sexual Past (Because You Have To)

It’s Not The End Of The World If Your Partner Isn’t Attracted to You

Encourage, Don’t Criticize; Help Instead Of Trying to Fix

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TRP listener and friend, “Ross,” contacted the TRP a few weeks ago. Ross needed love advice regarding someone he loves and could see himself spending the rest of his life with. His issues are topics that the TRP have discussed before, but in real life issues tend be multilayered. The TRP doctors attempt to provide love advice issue by issue.

Another Session Of The TRP Love Advice Column Outline

In Ross’s words …

I’m in love with a girl. We have been in a long-distance relationship for a year now; “Rachel” lives in West Virginia and I reside in California. I met her at my cousin’s wedding; her best friend married my cousin. We fell hard for each at their wedding and our relationship blossomed soon after that. We traveled to be with each other as much as we could from that point on.

However, the long-distance was taking a toll on our relationship. We had discussions regarding moving to be with each other, but it does not seem right for us right now. Rachel does not want to leave her family in West Virginia; though she does not rule out doing so in the future. It would be difficult for me to leave California because I have a home here and also my dog. This really bummed me out because I was confident we would be married within a year’s time if one of us did move.

Sometime in February, I freaked out. We ended up mutually agreeing to breaking up. I felt like I was being impulsive and did not completely think it through. At the time, I thought we should break up because one of us will eventually get hurt as the long-distance takes its toll.

A month later, I still feel Rachel is the greatest woman I’ve come across. I consider myself to be a macho man and don’t express my feelings very well. I reached out recently to express myself because I do not want to give up on what we have. It takes two people to work it out. Rachel told me she is in pain about how things were and are now. Am I being dumb? I feel in my heart this is The One and I’m afraid of being 80 years old on my deathbed regretting just saying bye.

Is it illogical or stupid to carry on then, without a plan at the moment? Love is love, and sometimes it punches you in the gut. It’s been a wild ride and my therapist asked me if I regret it. I’m willing to continue the long-distance relationship even though I know it will be tough. I’ll have to see what she says.

* Discussion Questions:

* Any first reactions/knee jerks/red flags to anything he said?

* Long distance relationships are often seen as temporary: military service, higher education, work related.

* How would you deal with a more permanent long-distance relationship?

* Have you ever experienced the feeling of “the one that got away?”

* How did you deal with it?

* What would you do in his situation?

* What would be your actual advice to him (if it differs from what you would end up doing)?

* Resource Reads:

S2.E2 Break Ups and Downs: Learning From Relationships

    

Ryan considers me the comedic troll of the TRP trio. It’s all good and fun, but Ryan feels things can get awkward and out of hand at times. Hence, the many times he says “WOW.” In today’s episode, we talk about the impact of freedom of speech and how it elicits issues today. Ryan found an article from Polygon, Steam Game About Raping Women Will Test Valve’s Hand-Off Approach, about the stance PC Game Publisher Platform Stream maintains in regards to freedom of speech. This is the result of a game release called ‘Rape Day’ produced by Desk Lamp, which was being reviewed for distribution. Rape Day is a game where the gamer plays a rapist. Many media outlets and netizens have strong opinions on this game.

Does Society Today Take Freedom of Speech Too Far? Outline

* What is your definition on freedom of speech?

* Here are some modern elements that affect freedom of speech, please share your thoughts on each of them:

* Trolling: Deliberately, cleverly and secretly pissing people off online using dialogue.

* Doxxing: Publicly exposing someone’s real name or address online.

* Swatting: A prank call to emergency services in an attempt to bringing a large police force to a specific address.

* Cyberbullying: Online bullying or harassment.

* Which of the above do you feel is the most impactful? Why?

* Have you or know of someone that has experienced any of these?

* Does having a game like ‘Rape Day’ reinforce a negative (or positive) discussion about freedom of speech?

Rap music is covered under free speech, but is labeled misogynistic.

Is rap music prejudicial towards women?

Or are we able compartmentalize it?

Do you believe freedom of speech affects the relationships we have with each other?

How do you manage your partner that has strong feelings about an issue you don’t necessarily agree with?

* Resource Reads:

* Steam Game About Raping Women Will Test Valve’s Hands-Off Approach

* Save Free Speech From Trolls

* Cyberbullying | The First Amendment Encyclopedia

* On The Spirit Of Free Speech 71 Republic

* It Started As An Online Gaming Prank. Then It Turned Deadly.

* 6 Key Tips For Disagreeing With Someone Respectfully

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In this episode, TheRelationshiPodcast gives advice to people that write in. The big disclaimer is that they did not write in to us. Yes, we will be giving our 2-cents on all your love problems whether you like it or not. Doctor Ryan, Drey, and John are in the building.

What Piece of Advice Would TheRelationshiPodcast Offer? Outline

* He Turned Into A Pen Pal

* Summary: Hot intense relationship slowly fizzles.

* Question: Where does this go from here?

* Submitted by: Pen pals

* One Thing Led To Another …

* Summary: First sexual experience with a friend.

* Question: Did I ruin a good friendship by sleeping with him?

* Submitted by: Poked The Bear

* I Don’t Wish Them The Best

* Summary: Did so much for him and he leaves me.

* Question: Is it bad of me to be extremely bitter about this breakup?

* Submitted by: Bitter

* I Kissed My Friend’s Boyfriend

* Summary: I kissed my friends boyfriend.

* Question: What do I do now?

* Submitted by: Idiotic Girl

* Resource Reads:

* LoveLetters

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Dr. Drey, TRP in-house doctor, has been dying to talk about the “Disney Syndrome” again. The Disney Syndrome is the result of overexposure to fantasy. The infected cannot determine the lines between fantasy and reality. In relationships, this is known as the hopeless romantic. We all know friend(s) that have the Disney Syndrome. Some people find it endearing, but is it really healthy to be overly romantic? Before we get into that, let’s cover some other ground first.

The Doctor Wants To Know If You Have The Disney Syndrome? Outline

What does it mean to be a “hopeless romantic” today?

Are you considered a romantic person?

Have you ever dated a hopeless romantic?

Do you think it’s possible to be in a relationship without romance?

Can an overly romantic relationship become sustainable?

How much is too much?

Do you believe idealizing your partner is a good thing?

Studies have shown that idealism can have some positive effects in how you view a relationship; it can serve as the basis to optimism. Other studies have shown that idealizing your partner can lead you to be more satisfied with your partner. 

Resource Reads:

The Engaged Life – The Disney Syndrome

Can There Be Too Much Romantic Sensitivity?

The Science Behind Why Searching for a Lifelong Partner Is Bad For Your Health

Tempting Fate Or Inviting Happiness? Unrealistic Idealization Prevents The Decline Of Marital Satisfaction

* 20 vs. 1: Speed Dating 20 Guys | Jubilee x Solfa

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While driving back to NorCal from SoCal, Ryan and his girlfriend played the game Fuck, Marry, and Kill. One thing that stood out was how dangerous the game could be if family members were mentioned in the mix (e.g. Ryan’s girlfriend asked him which of HER sisters he would F.M.K.?) Ryan looked online and found a lot of dangerous questions. So let’s get into this topic.

Relationship Trap Questions People Should Look Out For? Outline

* What’s your definition of a relationship trap question?

* Which sex asks relationship trap questions more? Why?

* Here are a list of relationship trap questions. What is your opinions on each one:

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* Do these clothes make me look fat?

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* How many people have you slept with?

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* Is my sister/mother/best friend hot?

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* What did you do today?

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* Can I have a Guys Night Out or Girls Night Out?

* Do men and women ask different questions?

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* What about the LGBT community?

* Resource Reads:What Questions Do Girlfriends Ask That Are Actually A Trap?

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* 10 Tricky Questions Women Ask?

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* How To Answer Those 10 Dreaded Questions Every Woman Ask

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* How To Deal With Toxic Behavior And Shit Testing?

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I am the resident old guy of this group. One thing that I have never done is live with a girlfriend. In episode 50 Do You Have A Guide To Tackling Life Transitions?, we discussed “Becoming an adult.” I mentioned that I will never been an adult. I consider living with your partner as becoming an adult because a couple is sharing a home and responsibilities together. It is also a step or leap into likely marriage. Ryan and Andrey lives with their partners so I thought I might pick their brains about the topic. This may be informative for those that are thinking about living with their partners.

When Couples Decide To Move In With Each Other? Outline

* How many times have you lived with your lovers?

* Do you guys have a time range of when couples should move in together? Example, 6 months of dating? 1 year? 2 years?

* Is it a good idea to live with your partner first especially if marriage is the potential goal?

* Was this a decision that you made? Your partner made? Or both of you made together?

* How is the house rules determined? Home upkeep? Financial?

* What was your first experience like the first time you lived with your partner?

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* Do you guys have advice for first timers?

* If you plan on living together, do you let your parents know beforehand?

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* Some parents are old fashioned and religion is also a factor (ie. reference Dr. Events episode).

* What happens if you discover that you cannot live with your partner?

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* Is breaking up imminent?

* Resource Reads:Is It Time To Move In Together? 10 Ways To Know.

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* How Long Should You Date Before Moving In Together?

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* “I’m Afraid To Tell My Parents That I’m Moving In With My Boyfriend.”

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* 10 Couples Who Just Moved In Together Admit What They Already Can’t Stand About It.

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* What I Wish I’d Known Before Moving In Together.

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On Valentine’s Day, Drey was at Stater Brothers buying groceries for the dinner he was preparing for his wife. Drey noticed a guy walking around completely lost in the frozen food section; he stood out because he had flowers in one hand and Eggo waffles in the other. Drey had questions in his mind.  Like, what was his game plan? If he did not know how to cook, why did he not make dinner reservations instead of going to the market? This begs the question, what is a guy “suppose” to be able to do for his partner? As much as it’s easy to make fun of people that lack the skills that we have, is there really a guide of things that everyone needs to be able to do before they get to a certain age?

What Should A Proper Male Adult Be Able To Do In 2019? Outline

* Drey went to the Internet and found multiple guides. Here are some of the more interesting ones we can discuss:

* Cook a proper meal

* Drive a manual transmission

* Properly tie a tie

* Have some self defense knowledge

* Can include anything from military, boxing, martial arts, or weapons training.

* How to find a self defense class near you.

* Sew a button

* This actually shows up on multiple lists consistently.

* Start a fire

* Also shows up on multiple lists consistently.

* Have some level of competency with auto repair.

* Have some level of competency with household maintenance

* Do you think the evolving landscape of dating and technology in general have changed the relevancy of these lists at all?

* Do you have a list of what you think your partner or all women should be able to do?

* Have you ever been caught in not knowing how to do something you were “supposed” to know how to do

* Are there any things that you feel are important to know how to do that weren’t included on this list

* Resource Reads:

* 25 Things Every Man Should Be Able To Do By The Time He’s 25

* 20 Things Men Should Be Able to Do

* 50 Things Every Man Should Know How To Do By 50

* Skills Men Need: 4 Things Every Man Should Know How to Do

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We face life transitions in our daily lives; majority of the time they are unexpected. What about the things that matter the most like marriage, babies, taking care of parents, etc.? In Season 2, Episode 44 about Milestone Moments, we cover important milestones that occur in one’s life. You can say these transitions/phases help setup your journey to experiencing these key milestones in your life. We’ll go over the most life changing ones with a few exceptions.

Do You Have A Guide To Tackling Life’s Transitions? Outline

What is your definition of a life transition?

According to Managing Difficult Life Transitions, these losses are affiliated with life transitions:

Role

Person

Place

Belonging

Do you agree with this list? Why or why not?

We have covered the elements of loss affiliated with life transitions, here are various ones you may potentially go through:

Becoming an adult

Changing careers

Becoming disabled/ill

Raising children

Changing gender identity (LGBTQ)

Losing your life partner(s) via death/divorce/imprisonment

Change of religion

Rehabilitation back into society via prison, comatose, or rehabilitation treatment

Which ones are the most important from the listed?

* Are there any life transitions that are unique to an individual?

Resource Reads:

Keys To Handling Life’s Transitions

3 Essential Steps To A Smooth Career Transition

Managing Difficult Life Transitions

Managing Gender Transition In The Workplace

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