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Podcast episode 69 is titled Scared To Date, Cheating On Husband, Date Like A Man. TheRelationshiPodcast gives advice to people that write in. The big disclaimer is that they did not write in to us. Yes, we will be giving our 2-cents on all your love problems whether you like it or not. Doctor Ryan, Drey, and John are in the building.

Scared To Date, Cheating On Husband, Date Like A Man Outline

J Topic: I’m Around A Lot Of Women

Summary: Not sure about dating and everything else.

Question: Should I eliminate dating completely?

Submitted by: Derby Girl

A Topic: I Want To Cheat On My Husband

Summary: I am married, but I want to be with my ex.

Question: Should I work it out or do what I want?

Submitted by: What I Want

R Topic: They Say I Date Like A Guy

Summary: People have told me that I date like a man.

Question: What is this notion that a woman would “think like a man”?

Submitted by: Seeking Emotionally Stable Lumberjack

Resource Reads:

LoveLetters

S3.E69 will be the last episode by the TRP. Thank you for taking the time to support us and listen to our episodes. I hope you were able to get something valuable from our content; the very most a good laugh. Drey, John, and Ryan wish you the best in life and your relationships. Thank you again for your support.

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This is the NON-SALTY Disclaimer: ‘We at The Relationship Podcast do not discriminate based on race, sex, sexual orientation, income level, political affiliate, religion, or creed. These opinions are solely based on our own unique experiences; our opinions are not the rule. We are always open to EVERYONE’S personal life experiences and opinions...

    

Podcast episode 68 is titled Roommate Issues, Marry Me Now, Used For Sex. TheRelationshiPodcast gives advice to people that write in. The big disclaimer is that they did not write in to us. Yes, we will be giving our 2-cents on all your love problems whether you like it or not. Doctor Ryan, Drey, and John are in the building.

Roommate Issues, Marry Me Now, Used For Sex Outline

J Topic: ‘She Expects Us Not To Do Anything Of A Sexual Nature’

Summary: Dating my roommate’s brother. It isn’t going well.

Question: Am I wrong for not wanting to have rules in my own private space?

Submitted by: Desperate

A Topic: At Three Months, He Says He Wants To Marry Me

Summary: He wants to marry me already and I am not there yet.

Question: Is it OK to just not know and to try to take it slow?

Submitted by: Concerned

R Topic: Am I Being Used For Sex?

Summary: I think I am being used for sex.

Question: How do I figure out if what we have is love or just physical attraction?

Submitted by: Feeling Used

Resource Reads:

LoveLetters

*Please be advised that S3E69 will be the last episode of the TRP forever (Releasing 07/01/19)

If you want to be a guest on TheRelationshiPodcast please send us an e-mail.

You should binge on previous episodes of TheRelationshiPodcast. Start from Season 1 (Episode 1). LISTEN NOW.

This is the NON-SALTY Disclaimer: ‘We at The Relationship Podcast do not discriminate based on race, sex, sexual orientation, income level, political affiliate, religion, or creed. These opinions are solely based on our own unique experiences; our opinions are not the rule. We are always open to EVERYONE’S personal life experiences and opinions. At the end of the day, we can always agree to disagree. Please enjoy the podcast.”

    

Podcast episode 67 is titled Modern Morals, Would You Rather, Wedding Traditions. I discuss people’s view on morals today, Drey runs through some “Would You Rather …” relationship scenarios, and Ryan speaks on wedding traditions.

Modern Morals, Would You Rather, Wedding Traditions Outline

J Topic: Public Opinion on Morals Today

I was reading an article from the Pew Research Center on modern morals (A Barometer Of Modern Morals). Pew Research Center took a surveyed on 10 behaviors to determine if it was morally wrong. I will only focus on 3 of them.

Married people having an affair.

Morally wrong: 88%

Morally acceptable: 3%

Not a moral issue: 7%

Depends: 1%

Don’t know: 1%

Q1 Any surprises here?

Q2 Would these results differ if the person was separated?

Telling a lie to spare someone’s feelings

Morally wrong: 43%

Morally acceptable: 23%

Not a moral issue: 26%

Depends: 6%

Don’t know: 2%

Q1 Any surprises here?

Q2 Any scenarios that you think it would be morally acceptable to lie?

Sex between unmarried adults

Morally wrong: 35%

Morally acceptable: 22%

Not a moral issue: 37%

Depends: 2%

Don’t know: 4%

Q1 Any surprises here?

Q2 Does anybody really care anymore if people are unmarried and fornicating?

A Topic: Would You Rather …

Last weeks episode was dark so I thought we should do a fun and lighthearted one. When I’m drinking with my friends, we love playing “Would you rather…” It’s simply a game where you come up with a hard hypothetical decision and ask your friends what they would do in that situation. It’s not only a fun game, but you learn a lot about the people that you play with. You see how they think and what they prioritize. In the game, you have to choose 1 of the answers and give your explanation as to why you chose that way.

Would you rather …

Be in a bad relationship for the rest of your life, or never have another partner again for the rest of your life?

Have a jealous partner that is willing to be your complete sugar mama, or have a trusting partner that you share all responsibilities with 50/50?

Date attractive but stupid or unattractive but intelligent? By unattractive, I simply mean someone that you are 0% attracted to.

Find true love, or find a suitcase with $20M?

R Topic: A Variety of Wedding Traditions

For those of you who saw the IG stories, Kundai (friend of the Podcast and guest host on our Facebook Dating Episode) now getting ready to get married. Being the best man, I wanted to prepare and see if there were any wedding rituals people do today (besides the bachelor/bachelorette party of course covered in this episode) and here’s what I came up with.

    

Podcast episode 66 is titled Understanding, Jealousy, Gaslighting. I debate if understanding is more important than communication, Andrey wants to get into a deeper depth on jealousy, and Ryan wants to explore gaslighting.

Understanding, Jealousy, Gaslighting Outline

J Topic: Is Understanding More Important Than Communication?

I saw one of those social media posts the other day that made me think about this topic. I could not find it again, but basically it said that understanding is more important than communication in relationships. You can communicate with someone frequently, but sometimes people just don’t get it; they don’t understand. I’m sure some of you have encountered this before in personal relationships or worked related situations.

A prime example of this is the situation with Moby and Natalie Portman. Moby came out with a book “Then It Fell Apart.” In the book, Moby asserted that he dated Natalie. However, she vehemently denies this. Natalie stated  that they hung out a few times, but never dated.

So was Moby friendzoned in this situation? The debate between “dated” vs “we hung out.”

Do you think that understanding is more important than communication in relationships?

The flipside of this is maybe one person is doing a poor job of effectively communicating what they need. Do you guys have any suggestions on how one can effectively tell someone what they need?

A Topic: I Do Not Think You Are Ready For This Jelly.

I want to follow up on last week’s discussion. We touched very briefly on jealousy and it seemed like we had differing opinions on what jealousy is and how acceptable it is. So I came up with a few more questions to see if we can cover a little more ground.

One of the blogs on the dating site, Zoosk, defines jealousy as the fear of losing something, while envy is the desire to have something that someone else has. Would you agree with this definition? Why or why not?

In last week’s episode, I mentioned that jealousy is rooted in insecurity. Do you believe that’s the case or are there some situations where jealousy is reasonable?

Is there any advice you would give to someone who knows they’re the jealous type but wants to stop?

R Topic: What Should I Do About Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a frequently searched term on Google Trends. Gaslighting is manipulating someone psychologically by questioning their own sanity. I personally have not heard of this term until most recently. So after doing some reading and reflecting, I wanted the rest of the team to chime in on this topic:

Have you ever experienced gaslighting?

Why does it seem that men gaslight women than the opposite?

How would you deal with someone who gaslights you in the workforce?

Resource Reads:

Moby Cancels Book Tour After Natalie Portman Controversy

    

Podcast episode 65 is titled Bad Girls, Relationship Myths, Friendship Spectrum. I want to discuss why some guys think bad girls are desirable, Andrey focuses on relationship myths, and Ryan explores the friendship spectrum.

Bad Girls, Relationship Myths, Friendship Spectrum Outline

J Topic: Why Do Men Pick The Bad Girls?

I was reading the article 11 Reasons Why Men Never Pick The Good Girl And Why They Should. We will not be covering all 11, but I wanted to focus on the 3 that I think are the main reasons men do this.

Men Conflate “Bad” With Sexy (#1) –

In your experience, do you agree or disagree?

To flip it around, is this why women pick bad guys?

Bad Girls Are Usually Better In Bed (#3) –

In your experience, do you agree or disagree?

To flip it around, is this why women pick bad guys?

Good Girls Can Come Off As Bland (#5) –

In your experience, do you agree or disagree?

To flip it around, is this why women pick bad guys?

A Topic: Relationship Myths

In our previous discussions, we uncovered a number of relationship myths and touched upon this topic back in S2E19 when we talked about relationship cliches. So I wanted to keep it really simple for this week and discuss some of the ones we have not talked about yet. With the following “myths,” I want you guys to say whether or not you think it’s a myth or if it’s actually true and why.

If you’re truly happy with your partner, you should not need to be close to anyone else.

Jealousy is a sign of true love and caring.

If partners really love each other, they know each other’s needs and feelings.

Having a child will strengthen your relationship or marriage.

R Topic: The Spectrum of Friendships

We covered this topic in Episode 4 & Episode 31, think of this discussion as an added bonus.  Prior to the advent of technology (especially Social Media), friendship was a bit more linear. Now that we have the world at our fingertips, we have all kinds of friends (for all kinds of genders and lifestyles in between). Let’s talk about them and find out if we’re all on the same page!

According to Aristotle we have 3 types of friendships:

Utility – of need/activity

Pleasure – intimacy

Good – mutual admiration/respect

Which of these three do you have the most in your life right now?

Of the three, which do you think is the most important to have?

In 2015, Mobinah Ahmad from Sydney, Australia created the Friendship-Acquaintance 6 Stage Theory listed

    

In podcast episode 64, it is titled Sharing A Room, Social Media Posts, Sacrifice. I want to discuss if there is etiquette for sharing rooms, Andrey dives into social media oversharing, and Ryan wants to talk about sacrifice.

Sharing A Room, Social Media Posts, Sacrifice Outline

J Topic: Hey, So Can We Share A Room?

When we were college students, we did not have a lot of disposable income (unless that FInancial Aid check cleared). So if a group went on vacation, a shared room was commonplace. Now that we are 30 or 40-somethings, is this no longer an acceptable practice?

Scenario 1: In my late 30s, one of my friend’s suggested that we get our own rooms for a guys Vegas trip. Reasoning was because we were adults, it’s weird that guys share a bed, and we can afford to do so now.

What are your thoughts on this?

Scenario 2: My girlfriend was on a trip with her girlfriends and a male friend (late 50s) asked to stay with them. They agreed, but my girlfriend thought it was inappropriate.

How do you guys feel about this?

Scenario 3: Going to Chicago with some friends (1 guy and 1 lady). We discussed getting a room together–2 beds. Because this has been on my mind lately I told him that it would be fine if I got my own room in case the female does not feel comfortable sharing a room. He asked me “Do women get weirded out by that?”

Was I right about suggesting that?

Scenario 4: Spur of the moment trip to visit you–out-of-town friend(s).

If they ask you to stay at your place, do you allow it?

If you go visit friends, do you ask to stay at their place?

Are we at a place in our lives now that we should all pay for own lodging instead of share?

A Topic: Should I Have Posted That?

Like I said in my positive note, I went off-roading this weekend. What I didn’t mention was part of the reason for the trip was because I needed to do a photoshoot for work. Because of the nature of what I shoot, I’m unable to release the photos or post them on social media in any way. It doesn’t really bother me because I tend not to post anyway, for better or worse. But, I know that a lot of people struggle with this. So, I figured we should talk about it.

Have you ever posted something on social media that you realized afterwards wasn’t appropriate?

Like I mentioned on previous episodes, I only post vacation pictures while I’m on the vacation if I have someone watching my house. Do you ever feel like it’s a problem when people know where you are? Do you take any preventative measures to secure yourself from those that may want to do you harm?

How do you feel about parents that constantly post pictures of their kids along with their names? Do you feel that this is dangerous, or just a sign of the times?

Are there any other social media faux pas that you can think of that piss you off?

R Topic: What’s The Definition Of Sacrifice In 2019?

In 2019, we live in a very attention driven world.

    

Welcome to episode 63! In podcast episode 63, I want to discuss relationships with people in the industry of death, Andrey dives into dealing with your exes, and Ryan wants to talk about partner reassurance.

Dating Death, Dealing With An Ex, Partner Reassurance Outline

J Topic: Dating Someone In The Business Of Death

In episode 62, Ryan discussed Creepy Jobs. It made me think about people who work in these industries. What is their dating life like compared to everyone else? Is it really that much different?

How much of a concern should another person’s career be if you want to date them?

Do you think there is a misconception about people that work with death (morticians, embalmers, funeral directors, etc)?

One concern is having the”How was your day? discussion. Is this any different than couples that have vastly different professions?

As your younger self, would you have dated someone that had a career in death?

A Topic: How to Deal With Exes?

I went to my last wedding of this year and it was a big one. While it was generally a good and happy time for everyone, a by-product of big weddings is that there’s bound to be at least some beef when there’s that many people. Even though it didn’t necessarily cause any drama that night (thankfully), there were some interesting discussions the morning after.

Have you ever had to deal with a situation where you were forced to be around your ex for the sake of another friend?

Have you ever bailed on a friend because you didn’t want to deal with your ex?

What do you think is the best way to deal with a situation like that (i.e. do you suck it up and say hi and call a truce, or just avoid her the whole night)?

R Topic: The Importance of Partner Reassurance in a Relationship

Ayesha Curry has been getting negative feedback because of the comment that she has not received any male attention for the past 10 years. Although, her husband, Stephen Curry, seems to get a lot of attention from female groupies. The discussion I propose to the group is the importance of a partner’s reassurance in a relationship.

Do you feel more men or women need reassurance in a long-term relationship? Why or Why not?

Do you think this is different in LGBTQ or inanimate relationships?

Do you feel the person who does not get the reassurance in the relationship has the right to be insecure if this need are not met?

If both partners, had an equal amount of sexual appeal and reassurance from their significant other, would it still be an issue with either gender?

Do you think reassurance is necessary to have a stable and health relationship in the long-run?

Resource Reads:

How Much Does Status Matter?

    

Welcome to episode 62! In this episode, I focus on relationship age gaps, Andrey discusses an exclusive dating club. and Ryan explores weird (and/or creepy) career options.

Relationship Age Gap, BeautifulPeople.com, Creepy Jobs Outline

J Topic: Let’s Talk About The Relationship Age Gap

Should age matter between 2 consenting adults?

What about relationships between a minor and adult?

Is there a difference between couples that are 17 and 18  vs. 17 and 40 year old?

Why is there stigma between men and women?

Men dating younger women vs. Women dating younger men

Men typically date younger for fertility.

Is this still a truthful statement today?

Will this always be true?

Women date older men for resources.

Will this always be true?

Since the wage gap is getting smaller between the sexes, how likely is this going to be true in the future?

A Topic: Beautifulpeople.com

Beautifulpeople.com has been around since 2002, but the New York Post broke the news on this controversial dating site yesterday. To add your profile to this site, you have to get voted in by the users. If you don’t make the cut, then you simply can’t be a part of this exclusive dating site.

What are your initial thoughts and reactions?

The required traits are all completely aesthetic: bad teeth, overweight, too effeminate, etc.

Assuming that you would qualify for the site, would this be something you would join?

They accept roughly only 15% of applicants, and even the founder, Greg Hodge, was stripped of his account last year for not being “hot” enough. Because of this, the founder then built in a feature that lets people know why they go rejected and offer suggestions on what to get corrected through plastic surgery.

Is there anything that you wouldn’t mind getting plastic surgery on yourself?

Would you date someone that has had plastic surgery done?

I’ve been joining a few “exclusive” groups on FB recently, like the ones where you have to submit an application. It’s mainly to weed out people who know nothing about the subject matter that the group’s about. It seems to help and the discussions tend to be pretty focused and are full of useful information. So I’m thinking, having requirements itself isn’t a bad thing.

If you could make an exclusive dating site, what requirements would you put for applicants?

R Topic:  Creepy Jobs In Society

We talk a lot about work but what people don’t realize is the diversity of jobs out there. While in transition for my next career move, I wanted to see what was out there and here’s what I uncovered and wanted to get you guys’ thoughts on the matter.

What’s the creepiest (or weirdest) job you have ever partaken in?

Based on this list, what is the most creepy?

Bomb Technician

Crab Fisherman

    

In podcast episode 61, we continue our 3 Topics 1 Podcast format. John wants to discuss the future of love, Andrey revisits Ross & Rachel regarding the motivation to move for another partner, and Ryan reviews vulnerability.

The Future Of Love, Moving For Love, Feeling Vulnerable Outline

J Topic: Not Your Typical Love In Society Today

How many people do you know that have found love in virtual reality? (ie. Online games)

Why do you think people fall in love with inanimate objects (Objectum sexuality)?

What do you think is the appeal of having robots as lovers?

Is there a fear that normal human relationships will eventually become obsolete?

A Topic: What Would It Take For You To Move?

With “Ross” moving and my friends that came back from out of town, I started to think of what it would take for me to move. So here are a few scenarios and I wanted to get your takes on if you would move in these situations:

Your partner finds a job that requires her to move to that area.

Work asks you to relocate. This assumes that they’ll cover relocation costs and there would be just enough of an increase in pay for you to consider it.

The market in which you work becomes inhospitable for that industry (i.e. tech, firearm, tax regulations).

What kind of pay/benefits would you need to get to take a job in a part of the country where you would be completely isolated from your current friends and family?

R Topic: The State Of Vulnerability In 2019

Does social media make youth more or less vulnerable in 2019?

Is it necessary for a leader to be vulnerable in order to become successful in managing their team?

The act of suicide is a state of vulnerability, why do more men go through with it than women?

Do you feel Artificial Intelligence (AI) will allow humans to be more or less vulnerable in the future?

Do you think AI will dictate how frequently men and women have sex?

Resource Reads:

Love In Virtual Reality

Objectum Sexuality Internationale – What Is OS?

10 People Who Married Inanimate Objects

The Future of Love: Robot Sex and AI Relationships

Another Session Of The TRP Love Advice Column – S3E57

6 Signs You’re Not Ready To Move For Love, According To Therapists

4 Questions That’ll Help You Decide if You Should Relocate for Work

Moving Your Business out of California

    

The TRP team decided to change the format of our episodes moving forward. This is so each of us gets a chance to talk about a topic that is important to each of us. Plus, this gives our listeners a chance to hear a variety of topics. Sometimes the variety of life is better, right? Today, we discuss dating coaches, clinginess, and delaying family.

Dating Coaches, Clinginess, Delaying Family Outline

J Topic: Should People Considering Using A Dating Coach?

From your lens, do you think it is more difficult to find a match now versus back then?

What are your thoughts if someone you know wanted to use a dating coach?

Is there a stigma for people that need the aid of a dating coach?

Single Dating Coach vs Boo’d Up Dating Coach. Would you use a single Dating Coach?

A Topic: How To Deal With Stage 5 Clinginess.

In your younger days, have you ever been accused of being clingy?

What would you say is the difference between “clingy” and “stage 5 clingy?”

Have you ever dated anyone that was either of those things?

What would be your advice to someone who is really attracted to a stage 5 clinger?

R Topic: What Are The Challenges Of Starting A Family Later?

Do you feel people in this generation are more likely to freeze their eggs or sperm as they get older?

Which gender is more likely to sacrifice their career for the greater good of the family unit?

Why are some people not hindered to start a family knowing they cannot afford to do so (student loans, mortgages, etc.)?

What are your thoughts on this LGBTQ family, who asked their maternal mom (baby’s grandmother) as a surrogate?

Follow-Up (if unanswered): What do you think the impact will be on the mom?

Resource Reads:

A New Breed Of Experts Is Going Beyond Executive And Life Coaches To Help Professionals Conquer Another Area Of Their Lives: Dating

Can You Have A Successful and Healthy Relationship Without Trust? – S2E23

Marquita Johnson – MillennialDatingCoach

Run! The Signs You’ve Got A Stage-5 Clinger On Your Hands

How to Avoid Being a Stage 5 Clinger When Dating a Girl You Really Like

20 Signs You Might Be A Stage Five Clinger

This gay married couple wanted to have a child via CNN

Women in their 40s freeze their Eggs via...