I think grieving is a fundamental rationality skill. Often, the difference between the Winning Move, and your Current Path, is that there is something really beautiful and good about your current path. Or there was something actually horrifying about reality that makes the Winning Move necessary.

There is a skill to engaging with, but eventually letting go, of things that are beautiful and good but which you can't have right now.

There is a skill to facing horror.

I think these are a general skill, of looking at the parts of reality you don't want to accept, and... accepting them.

When you are good at the skill, you can (often) do it quickly. But, I definitely recommend taking your time with this, and my experience is that even when I thought I had grieved major things I would turn out to be wrong and have more processing to [...]

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