Abusive/toxic relationships makes you distrustful of others and yourself. You become sidetracked by how long you put up with a terrible relationship and environment. So guilt and humiliation rule your existence. You believe all men are bad. This kind of nice treatment is love bombing and manipulation, it can't be real. You expect guys to leave without closure or to diminish your self-worth. But every day, the good guy shows he's the same guy. Someone has told you that you don't deserve the best. So you reject it. You don't want to be humiliated again, so you destroy the good. You're expecting a battle. Instead, everything is explained and discussed in a calm manner. Then comes a feeling of calm, and you understand that ordinary people don't retreat and destroy when anything goes wrong. He'll wonder why you apologize so often and for what. He'll notice the hurt from someone who made you doubt yourself in the past. I know someone taught you tough love, in the past. You've had to suffer a lot of things you didn't deserve. @coachkate1 Apple iTunes & Spotify