This episode is about the rules we inherit—spoken and unspoken, cultural and familial—and how to discern whether they’re truly in service to our lives. So many of our thoughts, standards, and habits are built on default settings we didn’t consciously choose. What would it look like to pause, question, and redefine them?

Buffy asks questions like: What expectations are we unconsciously trying to meet? Which rules have we internalized without realizing it? And what could happen if we let them go?

This is an invitation to build systems of thought and ways of being that align with your true values—not just the values you were handed. It's not about throwing everything out; it's about becoming more intentional with what you keep.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

What is occupying your time and energy? Do these things actively contribute to your life? And if not - how do you begin to shift course when the investment runs deep?

Using the lens of the sunk cost fallacy, Buffy reflects on how challenging it can be to release something we've poured ourselves into. She posits that staying out of habit, history, or fear of change can block the natural evolution of our lives.

Inspired by the seasonal shift of the summer solstice, Buffy invites listeners to consider what needs to be brought into the light—and what might need to be gently folded into the dark. She introduces the concept of becoming a hollow bone—an active practice of clearing space, listening deeply, and allowing truth to move through you without resistance.

Changing your mind isn’t failure. It’s alignment. It’s listening. It’s choosing now over nostalgia. And it’s often the bravest thing we can do. Let this episode be a companion if you’re feeling the urge to pivot, release, or begin again.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

At any given moment, we may be experiencing a major beginning or a major ending; in this episode, Buffy explores why marking these moments matter, and how to do that. She reflects on how ritual can help us digest loss, honor change, and find our way forward. What could be possible when you purposefully witness meaningful transitions in your life? Ceremony creates a space to pause, digest meaning, and name what’s been lost and gained.

This episode offers gentle ways to slow down and honor where you are. Listeners will walk away with rituals they can integrate into everyday life to mark any moment. 

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In this episode, Buffy explores the quiet power of specificity, and considers how precise, thoughtful feedback can leave a lasting mark. From Mr. Rogers’ letter-writing habits to Oprah's fourth grade teacher, Buffy shares stories that illustrate how specificity deepens connection, affirms identity, and answers our deep human desire to be seen.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

Buffy opens this week’s episode by talking about the part vs. the whole; how, in times of great change, we usually don’t get to understand why something is happening to us. Meaning, and wisdom, arrive slowly and often in small moments.

This episode is an invitation to make your life smaller. To eliminate what’s not necessary, reject what doesn’t truly feed and nourish you, so that what is beautiful in your life can be amplified.

Buffy tells stories of farm walks, picnic table run-ins, and more, and invites listeners into spaciousness and trust - even, and especially if, things are feeling messy.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In this episode, Buffy explores the difference between a goal-oriented, legacy mindset vs. navigating your life like a laboratory. What if your life isn't something to perfect, but something to experiment with? What if it's not about leaving a mark, but about listening for what’s next? This episode is an invitation to stay tuned.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In part two of this special conversation, Buffy and Tina continue their discussion on love, loss, and Brody’s lasting impact. Tina shares how writing became a lifeline throughout Brody’s illness and grief, offering a glimpse into the book that is emerging from her journey. They also explore the breath, mindfulness, and meditation practices that carried their family through the hardest moments—and how those same practices continue to support them today.

CW: Grief, Child Loss, Cancer

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

Three years ago, Buffy’s dear friend Tina Porter faced the unimaginable—losing her son, Brody, to an aggressive brain tumor. In this special episode, Buffy and Tina come together for a heartfelt closet session to reflect on love, loss, and the lasting impact of Brody’s life. They discuss the beauty of his legacy and the practices that carried Tina and her family through both his passing and the grief that followed. This intimate conversation is a tribute to resilience, remembrance, and the ways we hold on to those we love. This is part one of a two-part conversation.

CW: Grief, Child Loss, Cancer

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In this episode, Buffy explores the juxtaposition between belonging and dissonance. She talks about the way communities can lighten the load and encourage bravery and belonging - as well as the pitfalls of what happens when we only surround ourselves with what feels familiar. Buffy challenges us to get curious about what is not like us through stories of post-car crashes, sheer tops, and unexpected moments of friction.

 Growth often comes from being around people who don’t think like us. How do we strike the balance between enough similarity to feel at home, and enough difference to stretch and challenge us?

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

How does deep listening shape the way we experience life? How does it help us notice what we might otherwise overlook? Buffy reflects on the shift from doing into being, and how fulfillment can meet us when we let ourselves be present with our process. She talks about the connection between listening and play, and how joy and creativity can deepen our relationship to our inner life. Buffy leaves listeners with the question: what legacy do do want to leave? How do you become, not just through what you do, but through the way you listen, move, and exist in the world?

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.