In this episode, Buffy explores themes of holding. What are you holding—right now, in your hands, in your heart, in your attention? She considers the ways we hold things—grief, secrets, memories, hope—and how everything we hold benefits from breath and softness, especially when the storms rolls in.

This is an episode about attention, tenderness, and the possibility that in loosening our grip, we might find our way back to what we belong to, and what belongs to us.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In this episode, Buffy talks about the plant rosemary as a guide and teacher. Rosemary, AKA the compass weed, the old man, is the plant of remembrance. Buffy shares what she is learning about this ancient and practical plant: its effects on the body and mind, its symbolic and ceremonial uses, and why this time of year is such a potent moment to invite it in. She talks about how rosemary has been supporting her in the wake of her mother’s death, and how its steady, fragrant wisdom might become a companion to you, too.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In this episode, Buffy talks about her mom’s final days in hospice care and what has unfolded since. She shares about Vivian’s last moments, and the quiet peace that accompanied the sadness. She explores what it means to live inside the loss of her person, of the new language that grief offers, and how to find the small, steady places of okay-ness in the midst of it all.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In this episode Buffy shares three stories of bravery and presence: her daughter braving her first cliff jump with a hundred witnesses; her son choosing courage over conformity; and her mother, in the final stages of life, reflecting on the light she brought to others. These stories weave together into a reminder that a life well lived isn’t about avoiding fear or hardship, but about meeting each moment with fullness and love—so that, at least most of the time, the room feels brighter because we entered it.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In this deeply personal and tender episode, Buffy opens her heart and shares the journey of her mom Vivian’s breast cancer—from her diagnosis a decade ago, to the present moment of making the decision to call hospice. Buffy reflects on a conversation with Vivian’s longtime oncologist, on telling her children about the upcoming transition, and on the moving dialogue that unfolded between Otis and Vivian as they faced her approaching death together.

Vivian’s wisdom and peace about her life, and her gentle acceptance of its close, shine through as a gift to those who listen. Buffy shares what she is learning about being human, and walking with her family through this sacred portal of of caring, tending, and finding beauty even in the midst of loss.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In this episode, Buffy introduces the Circle of Willis — a vital loop of arteries that keeps blood flowing to our brains, even when part of the path is blocked. She uses this miraculous piece of human design as a powerful metaphor: when life blocks one path, it often quietly reroutes us to another, sometimes better, direction.

This divine circulation redirects us when we’re stuck, keeps us alive, and moves toward what’s meant for us. Through personal stories and reflections, Buffy reminds us that life, like the Circle of Willis, wants us to live. Whether you're in a season of smooth flow or frustrating blockages, this episode invites you to trust the reroute.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

This episode is about the rules we inherit—spoken and unspoken, cultural and familial—and how to discern whether they’re truly in service to our lives. So many of our thoughts, standards, and habits are built on default settings we didn’t consciously choose. What would it look like to pause, question, and redefine them?

Buffy asks questions like: What expectations are we unconsciously trying to meet? Which rules have we internalized without realizing it? And what could happen if we let them go?

This is an invitation to build systems of thought and ways of being that align with your true values—not just the values you were handed. It's not about throwing everything out; it's about becoming more intentional with what you keep.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

What is occupying your time and energy? Do these things actively contribute to your life? And if not - how do you begin to shift course when the investment runs deep?

Using the lens of the sunk cost fallacy, Buffy reflects on how challenging it can be to release something we've poured ourselves into. She posits that staying out of habit, history, or fear of change can block the natural evolution of our lives.

Inspired by the seasonal shift of the summer solstice, Buffy invites listeners to consider what needs to be brought into the light—and what might need to be gently folded into the dark. She introduces the concept of becoming a hollow bone—an active practice of clearing space, listening deeply, and allowing truth to move through you without resistance.

Changing your mind isn’t failure. It’s alignment. It’s listening. It’s choosing now over nostalgia. And it’s often the bravest thing we can do. Let this episode be a companion if you’re feeling the urge to pivot, release, or begin again.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

At any given moment, we may be experiencing a major beginning or a major ending; in this episode, Buffy explores why marking these moments matter, and how to do that. She reflects on how ritual can help us digest loss, honor change, and find our way forward. What could be possible when you purposefully witness meaningful transitions in your life? Ceremony creates a space to pause, digest meaning, and name what’s been lost and gained.

This episode offers gentle ways to slow down and honor where you are. Listeners will walk away with rituals they can integrate into everyday life to mark any moment. 

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

In this episode, Buffy explores the quiet power of specificity, and considers how precise, thoughtful feedback can leave a lasting mark. From Mr. Rogers’ letter-writing habits to Oprah's fourth grade teacher, Buffy shares stories that illustrate how specificity deepens connection, affirms identity, and answers our deep human desire to be seen.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.