This Daring Adventure

Have you ever said something you regret… and then spent hours replaying it in your mind like you can somehow undo it? In this episode of This Daring Adventure, Trista Guertin breaks down the truth about shame: it isn’t proof that you’re a good person, and it isn’t what creates growth. Shame is a thought pattern that keeps you stuck in self-attack, overthinking, and people-pleasing. You’ll learn why shame isn’t caused by what you did—it’s caused by what you’re thinking about what you did right now. Using the Life Coach School Model (C-T-F-A-R), Trista teaches you how to separate the facts from the story, find the emotion underneath the reaction, and shift into self-leadership and self-trust. If you’re a woman who’s ready to make a real change, this episode will help you break the shame spiral and step back into your power.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. Why shame is NOT the same thing as accountability
2. The real reason you can’t “let it go” after you mess up
3. How shame fuels spiraling, over-apologizing, and emotional exhaustion
4. How to separate the fact of what happened from the story you’re making it mean
5. Why you don’t need to feel bad to do better
6. How to use the Life Coach School Model (C-T-F-A-R) to shift out of shame fast
7. The most important question to ask after you regret something you said or did
8. How to repair, learn, and move forward without abandoning yourself

1. Shame doesn’t make you better—it makes you smaller.
2. Shame is not growth. It’s self-punishment.
3. Your past isn’t creating your shame—your current thinking is.
4. When you find the emotion underneath the reaction, you stop making yourself wrong.
5. Self-trust is built through compassion + clean learning, not self-attack.

If you’re ready to stop spiraling, stop people-pleasing, and stop dragging shame behind you like it’s your identity…

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If you’ve been trying to change your habits, your mindset, or your life—and you keep falling back into old patterns—this episode will explain why. Sustainable change isn’t about more motivation or willpower. It’s about identity.

In this episode of This Daring Adventure, Trista shares how identity is created through the thoughts you repeatedly think about who you are, and why you can’t change what you’re doing without changing who you’re being.

You’ll learn how to identify your current identity, choose a new one on purpose, and build evidence through small daily actions that make your change your new normal. This is a powerful taste of the work Trista is teaching inside Shift 2026 in her coaching community, You, Redefined.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. Why you keep “starting over” even when you want change
2. What identity really is (and why it’s not a personality trait or a fixed label)
3. How your identity creates your results using the Life Coach School Model
4. The difference between trying to change and becoming someone new
5. How to choose a new identity that matches the life you want
6. Why discomfort is a sign of growth—not failure
7. A simple 3-step identity practice you can use immediately

1. Identity is not who you are—it’s what you repeatedly think about who you are.
2. Your results are a reflection of your practiced identity, not your potential.
3. Sustainable change becomes possible when you stop trying harder and start becoming different.
4. You build a new identity through evidence, not perfection.
5. The discomfort you feel during change is often the signal that it’s working.

You’ll love the work we’re doing inside You, Redefined — my coaching community where we’re preparing for Shift 2026, a 12-week identity and mindset transformation designed to help you create real, sustainable change.

Come join us and become the woman who decides to make changes, not wait for them.

Want to try coaching for yourself? Sign up for a free one hour coaching session with me HERE.

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Hard situations are unavoidable — family stress, grief, shared responsibilities, conflict, holidays, work projects, or major life transitions. What is optional is letting those moments damage the relationships that matter most.

In this episode of This Daring Adventure, we explore how to move through hard situations without losing connection, compassion, or yourself in the process.

This episode offers a grounded, practical framework for navigating emotionally charged situations with intention and care.

Rather than focusing on fixing others or controlling outcomes, this conversation centers on self-leadership: managing your thoughts, processing emotions, allowing discomfort, and choosing how you want to show up — again and again.

This episode is for anyone who wants to build strong relationships, even when life feels messy, heavy, or overwhelming.

In this episode, I share 10 principles to help you navigate hard situations while protecting and strengthening your relationships:

1. Why setting an intention for the relationship changes everything
2. How the story you tell yourself shapes your emotional experience
3. How to choose how you want to show up — regardless of others’ behavior
4. Why rehearsal and visualization help you respond instead of react
5. How to release control over others and reclaim control over yourself
6. Why discomfort is not a problem — it’s part of meaningful connection
7. How processing emotions regularly prevents resentment and burnout
8. The role of compassion for both yourself and the other person
9. Why this work must be practiced repeatedly, not once
10. How to recover when you mess up and begin again without self-judgment

1. Navigating relationships during stressful or emotional situations
2. Managing family dynamics and conflict
3. Emotional regulation and intentional living
4. Personal growth during hard seasons
5. Compassion, boundaries, and self-leadership
6. How to stay connected under pressure

1. What hard situation or relationship am I currently navigating?
2. What do I want the relationship to look and feel like when this is over?
3. What story am I telling about the other person — and is it helping me?
4. How do I want to show up when things feel uncomfortable?
5. Where can I practice more compassion — for myself or for them?

Hard situations don’t destroy relationships.

Unconscious reactions do.

When you choose intention over impulse, compassion over control, and presence over perfection, you don’t just get through hard seasons — you grow through them.

And that is the real daring adventure.

If this episode spoke to you, you’ll love the work we’re doing inside You, Redefined — my coaching community where we’re preparing for Shift 2026, a 12-week identity and mindset transformation designed to help you create real, sustainable change.

Come join us and become the woman who decides to make changes, not wait for them.

Want to try coaching for yourself?

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Every year, we hear the same thing:

“I hope this year brings you everything you want.”

But what if the year isn’t bringing you anything at all?

In this New Year’s Day episode, Trista challenges the quiet but powerful belief that time, circumstances, or January 1st will magically create change in our lives. Instead, she invites you into something far more empowering: ownership, intention, and agency.

This episode isn’t about resolutions, pressure, or “new year, new you.”

It’s about remembering that you are the creator of your life—not the recipient of it.

Inside this episode, you’ll explore:

1. Why hoping for the year to “bring you something” subtly gives away your power
2. What you actually do control—and why it’s enough
3. The difference between intention and outcome
4. Why the best year yet doesn’t mean an easy year
5. How to stop waiting and start deliberately creating your life

This is a calm, grounding reminder that you don’t need to feel ready, confident, or certain to begin. You just need to be willing.

If you’re ready to stop drifting, stop waiting, and start creating—

this episode is for you.

Happy New Year.

Let’s build it on purpose.

Let's go!

If this episode spoke to you, you’ll love the work we’re doing inside You, Redefined — my coaching community where we’re preparing for Shift 2026, a 12-week identity and mindset transformation designed to help you create real, sustainable change.

Come join us and become the woman who decides to make changes, not wait for them.

Want to try coaching for yourself?

Sign up for a free one hour coaching session with me HERE.

In this episode, we explore a powerful mindset shift for women who feel unappreciated, unsupported, or overlooked in their relationships and friendships. If you’ve ever found yourself waiting for someone else to make the plans, buy the flowers, initiate the call, or show you the love and attention you want… this episode is your wake-up call.

We ask one life-changing question:

Who better than you to give yourself what you need?

We unpack how much energy we lose when we wait, hope, complain, and expect others to behave differently — and the extraordinary power we reclaim when we stop outsourcing our joy and start meeting our own needs.

• Why unmet expectations in relationships create emotional suffering
• How we unintentionally outsource our happiness to other people
• The mindset shift that stops resentment and disappointment
• Why people often don’t show up the way we expect — and why it’s not personal
• How to take back your power by giving yourself what you want
• The identity shift that unlocks confidence and independence
• What happens when you redirect your energy from complaining to creating

When you stop waiting for others to go first, you stop feeling powerless.

When YOU go first, you become unstoppable.

• “Who better than you to take care of you?”
• “People aren’t thinking about you the way you think they are. They’re thinking about their lives.”
• “You can spend energy complaining, or you can spend energy creating. Only one moves your life forward.”

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You'll learn:

✨ Why change feels hard for you (and why nothing has gone wrong)

✨ Why your identity determines your future

✨ How to rewrite your self-concept and emotional patterns

✨ The formula that makes your shift inevitable

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If this episode spoke to you, you’ll love the work we’re doing inside You, Redefined — my coaching community where we’re preparing for Shift 2026, a 12-week identity and mindset transformation designed to help you create real, sustainable change.

Come join us and start becoming the woman who goes first.

Want to try coaching for yourself? Sign up for a free one hour coaching session with me HERE.

In this episode, we dive into the life-changing power of micro-actions—the tiny, consistent steps that reshape your identity, rebuild your confidence, and create massive change over time. If you're a woman in your 40s, 50s, or beyond who wants to reinvent herself but feels overwhelmed or stuck, this episode will give you the simplest, most effective path forward.

You'll learn why small actions compound, how micro-decisions shape your future self, and how to use these tiny steps to become the woman you want to be—without burnout, pressure, or perfectionism.

• What micro-actions really are and why they work better than major life changes
• How consistent small steps rewire your identity and build self-trust
• The biggest mistake women make in midlife when trying to reinvent themselves
• Simple examples of micro-actions that reduce overwhelm and build momentum
• A practical framework for choosing your first micro-action today
• How to anchor micro-actions into your routine so they actually stick
• Why your future self needs tiny steps—not dramatic reinvention

Midlife can feel heavy, confusing, and overwhelming—but change doesn’t require massive effort. Micro-actions offer a compassionate, sustainable path forward. This episode shows you how to shift your identity one tiny decision at a time and how to rebuild your confidence, purpose, and momentum without draining yourself.

If you’ve been wanting to make changes in your health, career, relationships, confidence, or personal fulfillment, this episode gives you the exact starting point.

After listening, you’ll walk away knowing:

✨ Your micro-actions matter more than motivation

✨ Overwhelm is solved by simplifying, not pushing harder

✨ Identity shifts happen through tiny follow-through moments

✨ Small steps are the fastest way to reinvent your future

✨ You are never too old or too late to change your life

If you're ready to start building confidence, clarity, and momentum through small-but-powerful daily actions, this episode is for you. Press play—and then go choose ONE micro-action to take today.

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If this episode resonated with you, it’s time to take the next step.

Book a free one-on-one coaching session with me and experience what it’s like to finally release the story that’s keeping you stuck.

This isn’t just a conversation — it’s a powerful hour that will change how you see yourself forever.

You’ll uncover the thought that’s still hurting you and walk away seeing your life through a completely new lens.

You’ll bring one area of your life — your relationship, your job, or that feeling of being stuck — and she’ll show you exactly how to change it from the inside out.

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In this episode of This Daring Adventure podcast, hosted by mindset mentor and life coach Trista Guertin, the focus is on 'The Illusion of Safety.'

Inspired by Tony Robbins' concept of human needs, especially certainty, Trista explores how our quest for external predictability often holds us back.

She contrasts external certainty—control, comfort, predictability—with internal certainty—self-trust, confidence, groundedness.

Highlighting that real security comes from within, Trista shares actionable tips through the three pillars of inner certainty: self-trust, emotional regulation, and intentional thinking.

Additionally, she offers daily practices to help shift from fear to faith and from control to growth.

If this episode resonated with you, it’s time to take the next step.

Book a free one-on-one coaching session with me and experience what it’s like to finally release the story that’s keeping you stuck.

This isn’t just a conversation — it’s a powerful hour that will change how you see yourself forever.

You’ll uncover the thought that’s still hurting you and walk away seeing your life through a completely new lens.

You’ll bring one area of your life — your relationship, your job, or that feeling of being stuck — and she’ll show you exactly how to change it from the inside out.

👉 Book your free coaching session

• Follow me on Instagram
• Join You, Redefined, my new monthly coaching membership
• Get my free guide to Create the Life You Want

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Stop Asking Why You Think That

If you’ve ever caught yourself spiraling in negative thoughts, wondering “Why am I like this?”—this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, Trista breaks down one of the most common traps in thought work: the endless search for why.

You’ll learn why analyzing your thoughts isn’t the same as managing them—and how constantly asking “why” actually keeps you stuck in self-judgment and confusion.

Through a powerful coaching story and practical tools, you’ll discover how to:

• Shift from analyzing your thoughts to choosing them on purpose
• Stop trying to find the “root cause” and start creating forward momentum
• Use awareness, emotional processing, and intentional thinking to feel better now

If you’re ready to stop overthinking your thoughts and start moving forward with clarity and confidence, this episode will show you exactly how.

If this episode resonated with you, it’s time to take the next step.

Book a free one-on-one coaching session with me and experience what it’s like to finally release the story that’s keeping you stuck.

This isn’t just a conversation — it’s a powerful hour that will change how you see yourself forever.

You’ll uncover the thought that’s still hurting you and walk away seeing your life through a completely new lens.

You’ll bring one area of your life — your relationship, your job, or that feeling of being stuck — and she’ll show you exactly how to change it from the inside out.

👉 Book your free coaching session

• Follow me on Instagram
• Join You, Redefined, my new monthly coaching membership
• Get my free guide to Create the Life You Want

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Do you ever feel like your emotions are too much?

In this episode, we unpack the truth behind emotional “overreaction.”

You’ll discover that you’re not too emotional.

We’ll talk about why emotions sometimes linger even after you think you’ve processed them, how judgment keeps you stuck, and the powerful shift that happens when you start listening to yourself instead of minimizing what you feel.

If you’ve ever been told you’re too sensitive or found yourself snapping at someone after saying you were “fine,” this episode will change the way you see your emotions—and yourself.

• Why emotions often stick around after you “process” them
• The hidden link between irritation and self-dismissal
• How self-judgment blocks emotional healing
• The difference between blaming others and advocating for yourself
• A practical mindset shift to build calm, clarity, and self-trust
• Why emotional awareness is the foundation for confidence

You’re not too emotional—you’re just finally noticing what you’ve been ignoring.

Your emotions aren’t weaknesses; they’re signals guiding you back to truth and self-respect.

Where in my life am I pretending I’m “fine” when I’m really not?

What truth am I ready to admit to myself today?

If this episode resonated with you, it’s time to take the next step.

Book a free one-on-one coaching session with me and experience what it’s like to finally release the story that’s keeping you stuck.

This isn’t just a conversation — it’s a powerful hour that will change how you see yourself forever.

You’ll uncover the thought that’s still hurting you and walk away seeing your life through a completely new lens.

You’ll bring one area of your life — your relationship, your job, or that feeling of being stuck — and she’ll show you exactly how to change it from the inside out.

👉 Book your free coaching session

• Follow me on Instagram
• Join You, Redefined, my new monthly coaching membership
• Get my free guide to Create the Life You Want

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In this episode, we explore what to do when it still hurts — when the past still lingers, when you’re replaying what someone did, and when you can’t quite let go.

Whether it’s a friend who betrayed you, a boss who fired you, or a parent who didn’t give you what you needed, I'll show you how we unintentionally keep the pain alive by using other people as evidence that we’re not enough.

If you’ve ever felt jealous, stuck, or unfairly treated, this episode will show you why the pain persists — and how to release it for good.

• Why the pain still lingers long after someone has hurt you
• How your thoughts — not their actions — are what keep you stuck
• The power of neutral circumstances in emotional healing
• How to stop comparing yourself to others and feeling “less than”
• The truth about fairness, childhood wounds, and your “life curriculum”
• A simple mindset shift that brings peace, freedom, and clarity

00:00 — Introduction: Why it still hurts long after the event

02:00 — A story about being fired by a friend and what it reveals about your mind

06:00 — The Model explained: how thoughts create feelings

10:00 — Using someone else’s success or behavior against yourself

13:00 — The “It’s not fair” trap: parents, childhood, and life’s curriculum

15:00 — The shift that brings peace and freedom

This episode is perfect for:

• Women in midlife who feel emotionally stuck or hurt by the past
• Listeners struggling with comparison, jealousy, or resentment
• Anyone healing from painful relationships or family patterns
• Those ready to build confidence, self-trust, and emotional resilience

If this episode resonated with you, it’s time to take the next step.

Book a free one-on-one coaching session with me and experience what it’s like to finally release the story that’s keeping you stuck.

This isn’t just a conversation — it’s a powerful hour that will change how you see yourself forever.

You’ll uncover the thought that’s still hurting you and walk away seeing your life through a completely new lens.

You’ll bring one area of your life — your relationship, your job, or that feeling of being stuck — and she’ll show you exactly how to change it from the inside out.

👉 Book your free coaching session

Don’t wait for time to heal it — awareness does.

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