By Noël Roberts Coley
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Welcome back to This Is For Us! In today’s highly anticipated episode, we’re diving into the minds of men in their 30s. After countless requests, I’ve brought together a group of some of the most handsome, successful, funny, and fun guys to sit down and share their thoughts on dating, marriage, and life as a 30-something.
From societal pressures to the evolution of relationships, we’re covering it all—including juicy topics like what they notice first about a woman, their thoughts on confidence versus cockiness, and how they approach finding “the one.” Whether you’re single, dating, or just curious, this episode is packed with insights and laughter that will have you rethinking everything you thought you knew about modern relationships.
Grab your drink, settle in, and let’s get raw and real.
HIGHLIGHTS
The “30s Pressure”: Society may call you a dinosaur, but these guys feel like their 30s are just the beginning. From clarity of mind to more financial stability, they agree life only gets better.
Dating Goals: How their approach to relationships has shifted from “going with the flow” in their 20s to seeking substance, values, and long-term compatibility in their 30s.
Why They’re Single: Raw answers about prioritizing personal growth, career goals, and the importance of being ready before committing to someone else.
First Impressions: What really catches their attention—spoiler: it’s more about confidence and how you carry yourself than what you’re wearing.
Physical Appearance vs. Personality: The surprising balance these men seek and how a great conversation can make someone even more attractive.
Where to Meet High-Quality Men: Tailgates, church, mutual friends, and yes, sometimes even bars—how location sets the tone for connection.
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"At the end of the day, it’s not about what you’re wearing or how expensive your bag is—it’s about how you carry yourself and how you make others feel."
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Welcome back to another episode of This Is For Us! Today, I’m diving into Part Two of the This Is For Us Turns One birthday celebration! Last time, I shared the highlights and unexpected moments leading up to our amazing event. Today, it’s all about the takeaways—the memorable moments, reflections, and life lessons from a night filled with joy, courage, and community.
And a special shoutout for those of you listening on 11/11! This magical date reminds us to dream big, manifest abundance, and trust that everything is aligning perfectly. Here’s to making this year and the next the best yet!
HIGHLIGHTS
1. The Power of Togetherness Seeing so many women come with friends, sisters, or moms made me realize how This Is For Us is not just a podcast—it’s a place for community and connection. I’m grateful to have created a space that brings people together to laugh, share, and celebrate life’s wins.
2. We’re All in This Together As women, we all share that feeling of self-doubt, insecurity, or worry about not fitting in. Watching everyone enjoy themselves made me realize how similar we are and reminded me that we're never alone in how we feel.
3. Showing Up Alone Is a Bold Move I was in awe of those who walked in alone. It takes so much courage to step into a room where you don’t know anyone. This night was all about feeling welcomed, loved, and truly celebrated, no matter how we arrived.
4. Celebrating All Ages, Stages, and Styles From sequins to jeans, I was thrilled to see everyone embracing their unique style and rocking what made them feel amazing. This party was a celebration of authenticity and showing up exactly as you are.
5. Small Choices, Big Impact For those who took a little extra step—putting on a pair of lashes or going bold with an outfit choice—you could see the confidence glow! Sometimes, it’s the little things that help us step into our power.
6. Breaking the Age Barrier Women of all ages gathered, and it made me realize age is just a number. Let’s keep lifting each other up, regardless of where we are in life, and see each other as allies and inspirations.
7. There’s Always a Way When there’s a vision and a dream, there’s always a way to make it happen—even if it means pivoting, finding new solutions, or leaning on others. This party was a testament to perseverance, support, and unwavering belief in what This Is For Us can be.
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In today’s episode, I’m giving you all the behind-the-scenes details from our This Is For Us birthday celebration! Although the party looked beautiful and went off as a dream, there was a whole journey (with a few tears, laughs, and last-minute saves!) to make it all happen. From my mom’s unexpected health scare to the near-catastrophes with decorations and a missing cake, it’s a reminder that the most beautiful things often have chaotic beginnings.
So, whether you were able to attend or are just joining me today, I wanted to let you in on what really went down and why it was all worth it. Thank you all for being part of this journey—you mean the world to me!
HIGHLIGHTS:The Venue Hunt Planning the party didn’t come without obstacles, and finding the right venue was one of the first challenges. Just when it felt impossible, we found Lindsay at Sharp Social, who went above and beyond to make it perfect. Sometimes, rejection really is just a redirection!
Unexpected Challenges & Emotional Moments The week of the party was an emotional rollercoaster. My mom, who I always rely on for her incredible support, became very sick. Balancing her needs and party prep was difficult and grounding, but it reminded me of the power of showing up for the ones we love.
A Last-Minute Dress Dilemma What’s a party without an outfit crisis? My original dress didn’t work, so the night before, I found myself frantically cutting and sewing with the help of my amazing friends. Sometimes, the imperfect solutions make for the best memories!
The Sweatshirts & Knowing Your Worth I poured my heart into designing the This Is For Us sweatshirts, wanting them to be meaningful and high-quality. It was a leap of faith, but you all showed up and proved that we’re worth investing in ourselves and each other. Thank you!
The Party Team A big thank you to my friends, family, and everyone who showed up early to help me make the party a reality. From DIY decorations to solving last-minute issues, I couldn’t have done it without you!
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Thank you again for joining me on this journey! Stay tuned for Part Two next week, where I’ll dive into more reflections and the lessons I took away from this incredible event.
Welcome to the grand finale of The Best of This Is For Us series! In this final episode of our anniversary celebration, I reflect on the most powerful topics that shaped this podcast over the past year. It’s been a transformative journey, and I’m wrapping up with lessons on trusting yourself, embracing rejection as protection, romanticizing life, and stepping into your bad bitch energy (BBE).
If you’ve missed parts one, two, or three, be sure to check them out. And as always, thank you for spending your time with me—your support means the world. Let’s dive in!
HIGHLIGHTS:Trust Yourself: If you have a dream, you have the ability to see it through. Don’t let self-doubt or outside opinions hold you back. Your intuition knows the way—lean into it and trust yourself fully.
Rejection Equals Protection: Every closed door leads to something better. Shift your mindset: rejection is not a setback but a redirection toward the things meant for you.
Romanticize Your Life: Embrace the “I get to” mindset. Find the magic in everyday moments and cherish even the small, mundane tasks—they won’t always be there. Life is more beautiful when we see it as a gift.
You Can’t Hate Yourself into a Version You Love: Self-criticism won’t bring happiness or change. Learn to love yourself at every stage—growth comes from kindness, not self-punishment.
BBE (Bad Bitch Energy): No one else can be you. Step into your power, own your uniqueness, and live with main character energy every day. You are the only one who can live your life the way you do—embrace it unapologetically.
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Welcome back to This Is For Us! We’re diving into part three of the best moments from the last year, covering topics that have defined our journey together. As we celebrate the podcast’s first birthday, I’m taking you through numbers 11 to 15—some of my most personal and impactful topics.
In this episode, we talk about recognizing toxic people (bye, mean girls!), tossing out the rotten fruit in your life, and learning to stop comparing yourself to others. Plus, I remind you why it’s so important to wear the freaking bikini (or dress) and show up for yourself, no matter what the voice in the back of your mind says.
HIGHLIGHTS:
No More Mean Girls: Recognize toxic friendships, set boundaries, and say goodbye to negative influences—because peace is better than popularity.
Rotten Fruit Syndrome: Surround yourself with positive people—negative energy spreads like mold. Protect your vibe and let your light shine.
Comparison is the Thief of Joy: Social media is a highlight reel. Focus on watering your own grass rather than envying someone else’s life.
The Pressure to Be Everything to Everyone: You can’t be 100% at every role—give yourself grace. We’re all trying to wear every hat the best we can.
Wear the Freaking Bikini: Stop waiting for the “perfect” body or moment. Life is happening now—wear the dress, put on the bikini, and show up with confidence.
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We’re diving into Part 2 of the Best of This Is For Us series, where I’m sharing more of my favorite moments from the past year. From celebrating our podcast’s first birthday to reflecting on the lessons that have shaped this community, today’s episode is all about growth, gratitude, and standing tall through life’s challenges. I’m also reminding you why the hell yes still stands, and how we all need to embrace where we are in life—because every single step matters.
Plus, the This Is For Us First Birthday Party is THIS week, and I am beyond excited to finally meet so many of you in person. Whether you’re local or traveling in, this celebration is going to be the ultimate girls’ night, and I can’t wait to hug you, sip champagne together, and celebrate all that we’ve built!
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In This Episode: We’re celebrating the one-year anniversary of This Is For Us! I can’t believe it’s been 365 days of connection, growth, and real conversations. This episode is all about reflecting on the past year, from the nerves of recording the very first episode to the excitement of hosting our first in-person birthday party. I’m also answering your questions and diving deep into how to deal with mean girls and negative energy in our lives. Trust me—this is an episode you won’t want to miss.
HIGHLIGHTS • What I’ve learned from a year of podcasting. • My top moments from This Is For Us—and the lessons behind them. • How to deal with mean girls and cut toxic ties without guilt. • The power of self-worth and why being alone can sometimes be better than bad company. • A look at our upcoming birthday party celebration and why you have to be there!
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Hey, y’all, and welcome back to another episode of This Is For Us! As always, I am so excited and grateful that you’re here with me today. Before we jump into today’s episode, I’ve got to tell you again about the ultimate birthday party for This Is For Us coming up on October 18th! I can’t believe we’re celebrating a whole year of this podcast, and nothing would make me happier than to have y’all there. So, if you’re anywhere near Knoxville, Tennessee—or if you want to take a trip—I would love to meet you, hug you, and celebrate together. Check the show notes for all the details, and make sure to RSVP because I need to know how much champagne to get! 🥂
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Now, let’s get into today’s episode. It’s been a minute since I’ve done a Q&A, so I’m answering two amazing questions submitted on Instagram. These questions are SO real, and I know so many of you will relate. We’re talking about mean girls, toxic friendships, and how to deal when it feels like someone is draining the life out of you. Trust me, I’ve been there, and we’re breaking it all down today.
So grab your coffee, your wine, or whatever you need, and let’s dive into this episode!
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Be Part of the Conversation:Did this episode resonate with you? I’d love to hear from you! DM me on Instagram or share your thoughts in the Facebook group. We’re here to uplift each other.
Let’s keep this conversation going, and remember—whether you’re navigating tough friendships, toxic situations, or just figuring it all out, we’re in this together.
This is for you. This is for me. And This Is For Us.
Hey y’all! This week has been CRAZY but so full of exciting things, and I’m bringing all the energy to today’s episode! 🎉 I’m talking about some big life updates (hello, new siding, and windows!) and a personal reflection I had at the Morgan Wallen concert this weekend.
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We’re diving into the power of choosing who we are and what we believe about ourselves every single day. Whether you’re crushing life or feel like you’re barely hanging on, today’s message is all about owning your badass energy, putting your feet on the ground, and showing up like the superstar you ARE. 💪🏼✨
And y’all—don’t forget about the This is for Us birthday party on October 18th in Knoxville, TN! It's going to be the ultimate girls' night, and I would love to see you there. Wear whatever makes you feel fabulous—be it a cocktail dress or sweatpants—just be there. 🥂
Let’s get into this episode, where we’re reminding ourselves that we are the only ones who get to be us—and that’s what makes us unstoppable. 💖
In This Episode:Renovation Chaos & Life Updates: I'm sharing the wild week I’ve had—from new siding on the house to prepping for our big This is for Us birthday party. Life feels crazy, but there's excitement behind all the chaos!
The Pressure of Dressing Up (or Not): Ever feel overwhelmed about what to wear to an event? I’m breaking down why you should show up to our This is for Us party however you feel best—whether that’s in sweats or a cocktail dress!
Morgan Wallen, Neyland Stadium & A Life Lesson: A simple night at a concert turned into a powerful reminder that you get to choose what voices you listen to. Whether it's people telling you that you "suck" or those few supporters in your corner, it's up to you which ones you believe.
Bad B*tch Energy: Let’s talk about the power of self-talk! I’m reminding y’all to wake up each day, put your feet on the floor, and own that you are a bad b*tch—because no one else can be you or live your life.
Superstar Energy in Everyday Life: You don’t have to sell out stadiums to feel like a superstar. It's time to walk in your own version of superstar energy, and I’m here to remind you to carry that confidence with you wherever you go.
Don’t forget to join the This is for Us Facebook group! It’s our space to share, support, and remind each other that we’re all in this together.
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Thank you for listening! Whether you're balancing a crazy week like me or needing a reminder of how amazing you are—this space is for you, for me, and for all of us. This is for you. This is for me. And This Is For Us.
I hope you love this episode. xoxo
Hey y’all, and welcome back to another episode of This is for Us. As always, I am so freaking excited and thankful that you’re here with me today.
Do you ever find yourself wondering what guys are really thinking? Are they checking out our outfits or just there for the beer? Today, I’m so excited because we’re doing something totally new—our very first interview episode! I’ve gathered three single, successful guys in their 20s to ask all the burning questions you sent in about love, dating, and everything in between. From whether they notice the shoes we obsess over, to how they feel about ghosting, you’re about to get an honest look into the male mind.
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This conversation is real, raw, and unfiltered, touching on everything from first-date fashion choices to their thoughts on marriage. Whether you're single, dating, or married, there's something here for all of us to learn. And trust me, it’s full of some surprises you’re not going to want to miss.
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Thank you for being here today. Remember—whether you're single, dating, or just trying to figure it all out, we’re in this together. This is for you. This is for me. And This Is For Us.
I hope you love this episode. xoxo
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