This Isn’t Therapy

This Isn't Therapy...this is a conversation about people pleasing. Through two #lovelylistener stories, Jake and Simon explore the root of people pleasing - where the behaviour stems from and how it comes to be. How do I stop people pleasing??? Get ready to laugh/cry/uncover the phenomenon known as the chameleon child. "Trying to make life fair for people around you doesn’t make up for the unfairness of your childhood." Woof.

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This Isn't Therapy...this is a casual Kelly conversation about the future and ALL our collective worries. Climate change? Finances? Relationships? Oh boy. So much to hold! So much to worry about! In this episode of the pod, Jake and Simon explore the role "worrying" has in our lives through two fantastical case studies (featuring TIT celebs Tina the Troll and Grant the Gnome).

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This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about finding hope in hopeless times. Forest fires, anti-LGBTQ bills, collective pain, and existential dread. In this episode, Jake dives deep into the purpose of therapists in hopeless times -- as the "bringers of hope". Jake and Simon talk through some stories submitted by the Lovely Listeners about how they keep hope alive and find the inner strength to keep going when things feel hopeless, meaningless, and purposeless. Whew... this one's a tear jerker!

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This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about finding your people, finding your place, and building community. In this episode, Jake and Simon read two submissions by the Lovely Listeners about the features of their ideal community. What follows is a discussion about building community, figuring out who should be there, and what features matter most. Let's get ta buildin'! 

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This Isn't Therapy... it’s the episode about coming out! In this episode, Jake and Simon come clean about coming out as they chat about some scenes and quotations from an article about the coming out experience. We are pulling back the colourful rainbow pride curtain for an essential discussion about coming out— what it’s like, why we may or may not do it, and how you can support someone who has done or is doing it! 🏳️‍🌈

Article: Mixed Feelings: I Recently Came Out, But I Still Feel Like I’m Hiding by Elly Belle.

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This Isn't Therapy...this is a fun, flirty convo about adapting to scenarios while keeping your values in check (*DING*). On this episode of the pod, Jake and Simon discuss two lovely listener stories, safe spaces, the embarrassing Ontario Catholic school board's decision to ~not~ fly a pride flag, and our new queer icon, Tina the Troll. Also, stay tuned to the end of the ep because we may or may not have a favour to ask! HAPPY PRIDE!!! <3333

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This isn't therapy... it's an episode about authenticity, being yourself, and knowing who you are. In this episode, Jake guides Simon through an ~authenticity exercise~! OoOoooO! They discuss whether or not authenticity should be everyone's goal and how the path to becoming yourself looks different for everyone (and how to find your own way!)... CAUTION: THIS EPISODE IS EXTREMELY FUNNY AND AUTHENTIC.

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This isn't therapy... it's some straight up real talk about depictions of therapy in popular media. Simon, a filmmaker, and Jake, a therapist, talk about the emerging media genre of fly-on-the-wall therapy. From explosive couples’ dramas on TV to podcasts with recorded therapy sessions, fly-on-the-wall therapy is pulling in huge audiences. But is it ethical? Is it exploitation? Is it just unhealthy voyeurism?

Article: ‘It was actually beautiful’: the wild rise in people turning their therapy sessions into devastating TV by Eleanor Morgan

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This isn't therapy... it's an episode about complex experience of grief and loss. Jake and Simon read two stories from the Lovely Listener. They add some nuance to the stages of grief model (DABDA!) and chat through different metaphors for grief - boulders, balls, and jars, oh my! Also, grab your spelunking gear because we're going down that rabbit hole: what evolutionary function does grief serve? Get ready for one silly and serious episode.

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This Isn't Therapy... it's the grand opening of the Ha-Ha Chuckle Hut! Just kidding. It's the conversation about deflecting and coping with humor. In this week's episode, Jake and Simon talk about the ups and downs of using humor to cope with the things we don't want to feel.

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