In this episode, we dive into the arc of the Vain Controller, the shadowy force behind performative success, image obsession, and the illusion of perfection. Known in our Inner Villain deck as Regina George (yes, that Regina George), this archetype reveals the ways we chase validation, status, and admiration—often at the cost of authenticity and trust.

We unpack:

• Why “people pleasing” is just one face of deeper shape-shifting strategies to stay safe and resourced.
• How the Vain Controller expresses in culture, including its Human Design (undefined heart/ego), Enneagram type (3), and root wound (betrayal).
• The burn book logic of self-sabotage: When controlling image becomes more important than truth.
• The connection between this archetype and narcissistic personality traits—and how healing doesn’t require shame, but rather, courage to be seen.
• The deeper spiritual medicine of trust and redefinition of success that liberates the Inventor (the transformed form of this archetype).
• Why “faking good” might be the most dangerous form of self-abandonment.
• Plus, two Am I the Asshole case studies that illuminate the painful edge between vanity, betrayal, and the fear of losing power.

Key Archetypal Stages Covered:

• Pinnacle Villain: The Vain Controller – The one who would burn down her own castle if it meant staying on top.
• Successful Antagonist: The Influencer – Bulletproof facade, all approval, no intimacy.
• Wounded Child: The Envious – The one who mistakes wealth and appearance for worth.
• Covert Form: The Compliant – Faking good, performing growth, staying hidden behind praise.
• Hero: The Unveiled – Naked truth. Willing to lose clout to find connection.
• Legend: The Inventor – Rebuilding from authentic resources, turning passion into purpose.

We also touch on:

• The time periods and cultural climates that amplify this archetype (hello, 1980s).
• The trap of ambition without desire.
• Why so many “successful” people are secretly crumbling from a lack of real trust.
• And how to recognize when this archetype is showing up in your work, relationships, or self-image.

This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt like they needed to look good while falling apart, or who’s ready to be seen for real—not just admired.

Referenced in the episode:

• Mean Girls (film)
• The Emperor’s New Clothes (folktale)
• Human Design: Undefined Heart/Ego Center
• Enneagram Type 3 (The Achiever)
• “Am I the Asshole?” Reddit posts

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This episode introduces the Obedient Critic, a villain archetype rooted in the fear of humiliation and obsession with hierarchy and order. Kristina breaks down how this archetype develops in high-pressure environments where performance and perfection are rewarded—and how it can show up as a moral superiority that isolates the individual from authentic connection.

We explore the transformation journey from perfectionist and people-pleaser to the Hero (the Anarchist) and ultimately the Legend (the Equalizer), who is free of internalized hierarchy and embodies true humility and presence.

Archetype Breakdown:

• Pinnacle Villain: The Obedient Critic — uses shame and order to control.
• Successful Antagonist: The Perfectionist — believes perfect behavior can prevent shame.
• Wounded Child: The Impostor — feels inherently outside the system.
• Covert Form: The People Pleaser — overfunctions to relieve pressure and maintain peace.
• Hero: The Anarchist — dismantles internal and external hierarchy.
• Legend: The Equalizer — creates belonging through humility and integrity.

Key Concepts:

• The wound of humiliation leads to rigid systems of control.
• How early childhood environments (e.g. rigid parenting, institutional pressure) shape this archetype.
• The trap of confusing shame avoidance with moral superiority.
• Why the Equalizer isn’t just rebellious—but relational and rooted.
• Releasing “obedience to the system” in favor of creating systems rooted in mutual dignity.

Case Study: Reddit AITA Post Analysis

• Scenario: Husband lies about Valentine’s plans to be with his abusive mother.
• Archetypes:
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• Mother = Obedient Critic
• Husband = People Pleaser (covert)
• Wife = Anarchist in transition
• Themes: Shame, inherited obedience, loyalty vs protection, moral blindness.

Referenced Tools:

• Human Design: Root Center (pressure to act, perform, do)
• Enneagram: Type 1 (Reformer/Perfectionist)
• Drama Triangle: Persecutor (Villain), Victim (Wounded Child), Rescuer (Covert Form)
• Study link: https://www.canonsociaalwerk.eu/1971_stigma/1973%20Rosenhan%20Being%20sane%20in%20insane%20places%20OCR.pdf?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Quotes:

• “You are effectively keeping yourself in a toxic system and calling it integrity.”
• “The Obedient Critic doesn’t want connection—they want order.”
• “Humiliation is the worst possible wound for this archetype. They will do anything to avoid it—even betray love.”

Next Episode:

The Vengeful Martyr — the Villain of Sacrifice and Resentment

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In this deeply personal and paradigm-shifting episode, Kristina introduces the Inner Villain Transformation System—a shadow work model that synthesizes IFS, Human Design, the Enneagram, and primal wound theory into a single, coherent system. With co-host Anna, she explores how maladaptive patterns (like people-pleasing, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome) aren’t isolated quirks but interconnected arcs of transformation. Each “villain” isn’t something to banish, but a gateway to your most powerful legend self.

Whether you resonate with Regina George, Darth Vader, or Nurse Ratched, this episode gives you a mythic yet grounded framework for recognizing and alchemizing your deepest inner patterns—one archetype at a time.

Topics Covered:

• The origin story of the Inner Villain system
• Why maladaptive patterns show up in clusters
• How the nine villains align with Human Design centers and Enneagram types
• The concept of “negations” (deep limiting beliefs) and how they point to core villain archetypes
• The development of the oracle deck and game
• Understanding the arc: Pinnacle Villain → Sub-Villains → Hero → Legend
• Inversion as the key spiritual movement (inspired by yoga, polarity, and karmic unwinding)
• How gameplay and roleplay deepen awareness of inner dynamics
• Disney character analogs for each Enneagram/villain archetype pairing

Inner Villain Archetypes Introduced:

• Type 1: Obedient Critic → Legend Form: Equalizer
• Type 2: Vengeful Martyr → Legend Form: Nourisher
• Type 3: Vain Controller → Legend Form: Inventor
• Type 4: Eternal Child → Legend Form: Traveler
• Type 5: Evasive Expert → Legend Form: Integrator
• Type 6: Divisive Immortal → Legend Form: Healer
• Type 7: Hungry Shapeshifter → Legend Form: Presence
• Type 8: Righteous Bully → Legend Form: Channeler
• Type 9: Invisible Destroyer → Legend Form: Architect

Key Quotes:

• “You don’t need to become a better person. You need to become better at change.”
• “Villains are like pendulums—when we’re stressed, we swing into their worst form. When we’re grounded, we move toward the hero.”
• “These aren’t parts. They’re entire universes.”
• “You don’t jump stars—you invert the spin. That’s the hero moment.”
• “Everyone has all nine villains. The goal is self-love across every domain of your life.”

Game Mechanics Preview:

• Oracle deck includes 63 cards: 9 Pinnacle Villains, 3 Sub Villains (Persecutor, Victim, Rescuer), Hero, Legend, and 9 Power Cards
• Designed for solo shadow work or group gameplay
• Involves roleplay, self-inquiry, and archetypal progression
• Roleplay scenarios bring unconscious patterns into awareness through embodied practice

Resources & Links:

• Learn more or sign up for the newsletter: www.kristinawiltsee.com or www.playconscious.com
• Be notified when the Inner Villain Oracle Deck Kickstarter launches (Fall 2025)
• Explore the nine mini-episodes coming soon—one for each villain archetype

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How can we stop peeing wrong, work-out smarter (not harder), and stay strong into our 80s and beyond? In this powerhouse episode, Anna and Kristina return from a six-month hiatus to dive deep into women’s health, the revolutionary book The Second Mouth, and their own personal fitness transformations. You’ll learn why women shouldn’t work out like men, how posture fixes can happen in your car, and why Japanese interval walking might just be the workout hack you’ve been waiting for.

Also in today’s episode:

• Training your pelvic “second mouth”
• Outlive by Dr. Peter Attia
• Tapping into cold (and heat) therapy for women
• The science of stress recovery
• Using physics to explain exercise?!
• Why visualizing your workout changes everything

Anna & Kristina’s Hacks for Women’s Health and Fitness Over 40:

• Rethink the Pelvic Floor: Learn to open rather than clench using insights from The Second Mouth by Dr. Nicole Fleischman
• Visualize Success: Picture your next workout before bed and first thing in the morning
• Shift Your Strength Strategy: Focus on 6–8 reps of heavy weights, not endless light reps
• Use Your Car as a Posture Trainer: Red lights = pec stretches + headrest alignment
• Try Japanese Interval Walking: Alternate 3 minutes fast / 3 minutes slow for 30 minutes total
• Tune Into Your Cycle: Do more strength in your follicular phase, recover more during luteal
• Stop Fasting (Especially Before Workouts): Women need to fuel before they move
• Cold Plunges? Maybe Not: Women benefit more from sauna (2–3x/week for 20 mins)
• Embrace HIIT Smarter: 30 seconds all-out, 90 seconds recovery, repeat up to 5 rounds
• Fix Your Protein Intake: Combine collagen with pea protein milk for a complete protein
• Sleep Matters More Than You Think: Especially for women—8 to 10 hours is ideal

Referenced Books, Podcasts, & People:

• The Second Mouth by Dr. Nicole Fleischman
• Outlive: The Science and Art of Longevity by Dr. Peter Attia
• Mel Robbins Podcast featuring Dr. Stacy Sims
• Dr. Stacy Sims — Expert in female physiology and fitness science
• Paul Lewis – Personal Trainer and Mediator
• Vital Proteins Collagen Peptides
• Ashtanga Yoga with Laruga
• Use Interval Timer App for HIIT workouts
• Substitute weights with bags of kitty litter for home training
• Do your posture exercises while driving—because multitasking can be healing

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Welcome back! It's the first episode of our newest season, in which Kristina and Anna reflect on 2024 and discuss their hopes and dreams for 2025.

Happy New Year, everyone!

Notes:

Conscious Wealth Investors

12 Miraculous Moments

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In this episode, we talk about the transition from intensive processing to embracing life fully. Are you addicted to shadow work and processing? What are some key indicators that you are ready to decrease the frequency of your shadow work? Get ready to step into a new phase of your life.

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Today’s episode is special, as the structure and content of it were revealed to Anna in a dream. This episode is in response to our listeners’ requests after hearing the Siblings episode — many of you wrote in and requested an additional episode on healing the Sibling Wound.

How do we repair the Sibling Wound? The same way we repair any relationship, only this relationship has more history and key characters. In today’s episode you will discover realistic expectations to healing your sibling bond, and a step-by-step plan to repair it. We hope you enjoy listening!

Five Levels of a Disharmonious Relationship:

Level 1: 0-20% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 2: 20-40% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 3: 40-60% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 4: 60-80% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 5: 80-100% of interactions are disharmonious

Five Tips to Heal A Sibling Wound:

1) Forgiveness (Emotional)

2) Feed Your Demon / Family Constellation (Mental)

3) The 360 Life Review

4) Conversation with your Sibling

5) Mediation with your Sibling (optional)

Episodes Referenced In this Episode:

1.14 Hooponopono / True Forgiveness

2.07 The Drama Triangle

4.11 Near Death Experiences

6.16 Reconnecting

6.17 Siblings

Books Referenced:

Limitless Book

The Four Agreements

John Gottman’s New Book

Celestine Prophecy

Links:

Harvesting Your Own Seeds

Me+ App (ADHD Calendar)

Pearls (Daily Book Summaries)

How To Feed Your Demons

Robbie Houcek Contact (Shaman)

Paul Lewis Contact (Mediator)

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The following is a gratitude practice that you can use in for any application in your life, but especially for creating a gratitude wave for the nature spirits.

Common sense caution: This is a guided meditation and may put you into a trance state, do not listen to it while driving, or other performing activities that require your full attention.

Note:

This meditation pairs well with episode 6.19 on Elementals.

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On this week’s podcast two best friends discuss the karmas associated with house chores, making friends with elemental spirits, a money wound update, and more. If you’re a fan of the podcast you will enjoy this playful, meaningful conversation.

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This is our third episode explaining the very complex and channelled system called Human Design. Kristina educates us on how to read our charts to understand which our life purpose and how we filter information and energy.

Here are the symbols and a brief description of what they mean:

☉ Conscious Sun – Your Divine Invitation

Your conscious sun is the most important placement in your chart and is the “aim” the soul wants to experience. It makes up about 70% of your energy. Everything else in the chart supports the suns brightest expression.

⊕ Conscious Earth – Your Stability

The energy that keeps you grounded, stable, and able to show up authentically.

Note: The conscious sun and earth are part of your incarnation cross. I do a deep dive on all four gates of your incarnation cross in the human design map.

☽ Conscious Moon – Your Relationship with Self

How you relate to your intuition, emotions, and needs. Often, the moon will be a significant part of your inner dialogue and the way you talk yourself through situations.

☊ and ☋ Conscious Nodes – Your Petri Dish of Purpose

The way you will observe your own growth and expansion. From birth until Uranus Opposition, the south node is the petri dish, and after Uranus Opposition, the north node takes over.

☿ Conscious Mercury – Your Currency

How you communicate and exchange value with your energy (aka not what you are saying, what you are being).

♀ Conscious Venus – Your Sense of Beauty

What you find beautiful about life and likely to place immense value on.

♂ Conscious Mars – Your Poison Arrow

The thing you must express in the world lest it poisons your mind, body, and spirit

♃ Conscious Jupiter – Your Expansion Excellerator

The thing that expands your consciousness when embodied in the high frequency and shuts down your consciousness when embodied in the low frequency

♄ Conscious Saturn – Your Caution Light

The thing you must keep in check to receive the bounty of Jupiter.

♅ Conscious Uranus – Your Quirks

The unusual or unique thing about how you express that energy. These tend to be more generational than personal because of the long transit time.

♆ Conscious Neptune – Your Maya

The illusions you get trapped in and fight to escape. This also tends to be more generational because of transit time.

♇ Conscious Pluto – Your Key of Truth

The things that unlocks the truth in your expression.

Links:

Christe Inge Gates Library

Free Personalized Chart

Pictures of Charts Discussed in the Episode

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