This Woman Can

This week in celebration of International Women's Day, I'm sharing the recent presentation I made about women's empowerment at the first Women's Empowerment Brunch held in Antigua & Barbuda.

In it I talk about what confidence meant to me especially as I was overcoming adversity in my life and how by adopting a confident attitude I rose to become a successful CEO in a male dominated industry. Also my belief that confidence is the bedrock of a woman's success and give a little insight into what actions I believe we take to overcome feelings of self doubt, low self esteem and confidence. I do hope you enjoy and feel free to message me about any aspects of the talk.   

Need some support regaining your confident self? 

I'm delighted to let you know that registration for my signature confidence building program WARRIOR is now open and I really would love to have you in this program with me

Take this step to join a collective of women just like you, becoming the Warriors of their own lives.

The program is a combination of group coaching and a personal strategy focused on the goals you want to achieve, the Warrior program will help you to step up, see the potential you have and give you the confidence to take action to move towards a more powerful and fulfilling way of living the life you deserve, it's all delivered virtually so it doesn't matter what part of the world you live.

Now, how do I know it works? Because I’ve been just like you, a working mom, a divorcee, single parent, survived an abusive marriage. Yet using the same tools, I learnt how to regain my confidence and self-esteem, attend University, happily remarry, became the first female CEO for a major Caribbean company and start my own business.

So if I can, you can. This is your time.

So if you would you love to have the confidence to take control of your personal and professional life. Or you want to transform the way you feel about yourself and the way the world perceives you, the WARRIOR is for you? Because if this I can do this so you can you.

So head over to my website janicesutherland.com, it won't cost you anything but the benefit to your confidence will be priceless.

Register here for WARRIOR 

I hope you enjoyed the show and would love to hear your feedback! If you enjoy what I share in this episode, please leave a review and comment on iTunes. I would really appreciate it.

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Until next time

Janice

The Fear of "Not Being Good Enough - It’s something we all struggle with at some point in our life but it doesn’t have to be that way. This week we’ll explore some ways to eradicate the feeling of not being good enough.    

A few months ago I stood up a women’s networking event, an event that gives you 90 seconds to tell your story on a pre - determined topic. I hadn’t planned it, I wrote my piece on my phone during the intermission, swallowed my fear and for want of a better word performed. I’d never shared my story, as I feared no one would what to hear it, who did I think I was and the biggie – I’m not good enough to do this!!!  

But there is a logical fallacy that underlies the fear of not being good enough – but that logic falls through because certain underlying assumptions that would make it true, just aren’t there. The biggest one is that “enough” can be clearly defined. Consider this question: How would you even begin to define what qualifies as “good enough”?

You can probably list several ideas: “I’d be good enough if I…didn’t shout at my kids, made more money, lost 10 pounds, actually committed deeply to my career, stopped procrastinating…” but you’ll find the goalpost will always move as the definition of enough lies in everybody’s individual opinion.  

I work to overcome the feeling of being "not being good enough" by using the following strategies that might work for you as well.

Make a Decision - As individuals, we have the incredible power to decide that we are, in fact, good enough. You are the person who owns the sole key to your self-worth, which governs what you do. In order to achieve the feeling of being good enough, you must first believe it.

If you choose not to do so, then no one else can do it for you. Write it down and say it to yourself. When you make the choice, you become the Boss and you are back in power. You hold that key, yet we often forget that you do. So remind yourself that when you feel imperfect, you've chosen to be imperfect. You must believe -- truly believe -- that you are good enough, which will allow you to let go of your quest for perfection.

Emphasize the Positive - How often do you quickly dismiss something you did well? Do you allow yourself to recognize and accept praise from others and feel that you deserve it? When someone tells me I look good, immediately find the “prop” that made look good – the lip gloss, different hair and not own that the props are just there to enhance me, so yes I do look good. The frequency of this is likely much less than the amount of time you spend dwelling on something you did wrong or even sub-par. Do you recognize criticism and feel that you deserve it much more than praise?

Always remember that you're on your own side, always.

Redefine Perfect - During my first year as a mature student at University, I failed my first quantative methods. I had prepared so much for the exam knowing that maths and numbers were my achillies heel. I can still remember the feeling when I saw the fail score on my exam and began to doubt whether I even belonged at University, I mean what was a divorced, single parent doing at Uni, this was a young person’s game? I called my Mom who gave me a good talking to and I buckled down and re took the exam in Summer, knowing that If I didn’t my dreams of getting a degree would be over.  Ultimately, I graduated and went on to gain a Master of Arts with distinction and I credit that exam for my academic su

Today we’ll explore our relationship with praise and criticism, which can often stop us putting ourselves or our best work forward. Something Tara Mohr calls “unhooking” from praise and criticism. 
Being hooked by praise and criticism takes a few different forms, each paralyzing in its own way:
1. Dependence on, or addiction to praise – causing us to do only those things that are likely to get us rave reviews and others’ approval
2. Avoidance of praise – not wanting to stand out from the crowd – even for positive reasons, which causes us to self-sabotage, to not do our best work
3. Fear of criticism – which causes us to not innovate, share controversial ideas, pursue interests where we’ll be fumbling beginners or fail along the way, or do anything that makes us visible enough to be criticized!
Our goal is to become “unhooked”, less dependent or not be controlled by praise or criticism and be run by our own wisdom, and to be able to use feedback effectively to serve us in our aspirations and not have others’ ideas about us distract us, silence us, or take us on an emotional roller coaster. Leaving us free to go after what the goals we are really interested in.

Book: Playing Big by Tara Mohr

I'm delighted to let you know that registration for my signature confidence building program WARRIOR is now open and I really would love to have you in this program with me

Take this step to join a collective of women just like you, becoming the Warriors of their own lives.

The program is a combination of group coaching and a personal strategy focused on the goals you want to achieve, the Warrior program will help you to step up, see the potential you have and give you the confidence to take action to move towards a more powerful and fulfilling way of living the life you deserve, all delivered online so it doesn't matter what part of the world you live.

Now, how do I know it works? Because I’ve been just like you, a working mom, a divorcee, single parent, survived an abusive marriage. Yet using the same tools, I learnt how to regain my confidence and self-esteem, attend University, happily remarry, became the first female CEO for a major Caribbean company and start my own business.

So if I can, you can. This is your time.

So if you would you love to have the confidence to take control of your personal and professional life. Or you want to transform the way you feel about yourself and the way the world perceives you, the WARRIOR is for you? Because if this I can do this so you can you.

Better yet, if you register your interest before the 28th February and mention that you heard of the WARRIOR program via this podcast, then I'll personally have a 1 on 1 WARRIOR session with you. Its not something I normally do but I'm so excited to share as I know what a difference it can make to your life. So head over to my website janicesutherland.com, it won't cost you anything but the benefit to your confidence will be priceless.

Register here for WARRIOR 

I hope you enjoyed the show and would love to hear your feedback! If you enjoy what I share in this episode, please leave a review and comment on iTunes. I would really appreciate it. Thanks!

To connect with me and the Phenomenal Woman community