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  • Healthy sexual ethicalness (July 11th, 2022)
    "Everyone should know these facts, DO YOU?
    1. There is no method of contraception that is 100% effective.
    2. A woman who does not use any form of birth control has an 85% chance of getting pregnant within one year.
    3. For birth control methods to be effective, they must be used correctly and consistently.
    4. Taking medications, such as antibiotics, can reduce the effectiveness of birth control pills.
    5. When used correctly, condoms (rubbers) can greatly reduce the risk of pregnancy and STDs, such as Herpes, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Chlamydia, Hepatitis B, and AIDS.
    6. About 1 in 5 people in the U.S. currently have an STD/STI, and more than half are youth ages 15-25 years old.
    7. About 50% of all people will get an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime.
    8. Every year, there are about 20 million new cases of STDs/STIs, some of which are curable.
    9. STDs can be passed from one person to another through vaginal, anal, or oral intercourse.
    10. Some STDs, such as syphilis and herpes, can be passed through kissing.
    11. Birth control pills and diaphragms do not protect against STDs.
    12. Though the likelihood of getting genital warts can be decreased by condom use, contagious warts may exist elsewhere (such as on the buttocks, inner thighs, and outer lips).
    13. Dental dams or plastic wraps need to be used in oral sex to prevent the transmission of STDs.
    14. For additional protection against pregnancy, latex condoms can be used in conjunction with a spermicide. (However, if a person is allergic to spermicide, the resulting irritation can increase the potential for sexually transmitted infection).
    15. When using a latex condom, it is very important that you DO NOT use an oil-based lubricant (such as massage oil, baby oil, or Vaseline). Oil can damage the latex very quickly destroying the condom. (Use water-based lubricants, such as Astro glide, K-Y jelly, or liquid instead).
    16. Many people with STDs, such as Gonorrhea, HIV+, Chlamydia, and Herpes, show absolutely NO visible symptoms.
    17. Medical tests can determine if you or your partner have an STD.
    18. Some STDs can be easily treated and cured.
    19. Some STDs may stay in the system causing health problems or requiring medications forever.
    20. Some STDs, such as Chlamydia and Gonorrhea, can cause sterility in a man or a woman, rendering them unable to ever conceive a child.
    21. The more sexual partners you have the greater your risk of acquiring an STD."
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      39 min
    23. Church hurt memories
      "What Is Church Hurt: Harm That The Church Does To Its Members.

      That harm can take on various forms. For example, someone may have manipulated others for personal profit or power. Someone may have used their position to cover sexual abuse or assault.

      Someone may have rejected others because of race, sexual orientation, political affiliation, or economic standing in the community. In addition, someone may have directly or indirectly betrayed a person’s trust.

      Sometimes the harm is unintentional, an act of omission or carelessness.

      As Christ-followers, we don’t want to take responsibility for our complicity in church hurt. It is easier to blame the problem on someone else. Conclusion: It is time for us to acknowledge when we harm others, apologize and change our behavior, and give the wounded time and space for healing.

      If you have experienced church hurt, let me offer my sincere apologies. The Church is supposed to be a place of healing and refuge, and there is no valid excuse for the harm done to you by the Church."

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      53 min
    24. (July 8th 2022) Ten Common Myths About Atheists
      "1) Atheists Believe Everything Came From Nothing

      Many theists believe there was once nothing, and then there was something—the universe—created by their god. And so they ask, “But if there is no god then how can something come from nothing?”

      This question has been asked for thousands of years, but now Quantum physics has provided a basis for some atheists, such as Lawrence Krauss, to indeed believe the universe comes from “nothing.” But Krauss doesn’t speak for all atheists and he speaks of a very different kind of “nothing,” the kind where virtual particles are created from borrowed energy inside a vacuum. This is not even remotely close to what theists mean by the term “nothing.”

      When asked about the universe, most atheists simply stop somewhere along the lines of “the evidence suggests the universe began expanding approximately 13.77 billion years ago.” Beyond that I’m fine with “I don’t know.” I don’t need to know. I do not believe the universe came from “nothing” in the way theists use the word or in the way Krauss uses the word. I don‘t think there’s enough evidence to reach a conclusion yet and I‘m fine with that. I’ve never met an atheist who believed everything comes from “nothing “in the way theists use the word and in my experience, only a minority subscribe to the theory Krauss puts forward. Theists may believe the universe sprang from nothing, but they then have the burden of proving there was ever “nothing” and that “something” requires any gods at all.

      2) Atheists Have No Morals

      Humans are social beings, and as such we have morals. Some theists say atheists have no reason to be moral since we don’t believe in a god to instruct or punish us. This claim seems rather disingenuous when one considers that most theists who say this wouldn’t become immoral deviants overnight if they suddenly stopped believing in a god.

      Studies have shown our morals are a product of multiple factors. The Milgram experiment shows authority plays a major role. The Stanford prison experiment showed the same, but also displayed the role of social hierarchy. The “good or evil” puppet test for babies suggests we are all born with a basic sense of fairness, justice, and unfortunately, bigotry. Human morality is too complex to be explained by religion or lack of it.

      Millions of atheists across the globe live moral lives every day. Some don’t. Neither do some believers. There are atheist charities and atheist criminals. There are religious charities and religious hate groups. Religious people and atheists can both behave morally or immorally because of—or wholly independent of—their religious beliefs. One doesn’t necessarily lead to the other. Studies have shown the basis of human morality is present even before we’re exposed to religion."

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      23 min
    25. The evils of religious narcissism

      "It is not the type of belief but rather how faith is used that makes it abusive.

      1. It begins with dichotomous thinking, diving people into two parts. Those who agree with the narcissist's beliefs and those who don't. Interestingly, only the narcissist is the judge and jury of who belongs on which side. Your opinion is insignificant.
      2. Then the narcissist makes fun of, belittles, and shows prejudice towards other beliefs. This tactic is done to remind you that if you change your views, you will be treated likewise.
      3. Suddenly the narcissist becomes elitist and refuses to associate with people or groups they consider impure or unholy. They prefer isolation and insist you do the same while condemning others who don't.
      4. Next, the narcissist requires that you completely adopt their point of view. There is no room for differing opinions or questioning their authority. Any voicing of opinions to the contrary is met with threats of abandonment or divorce. There is no free will for you.
      5. Demands of total submission without question follow. You are not free to question their authority and any attempt to do so is met with spiritual, physical, and/or verbal discipline. Name calling, chastising, and silent treatment are common maneuvers into compliance.
      6. The narcissist is no longer satisfied with private dominion but instead needs the appearance of power in public. They expect strict adherence to whatever image they have created regardless of the accuracy of that image. Even the slightest hint of challenging their facade is met with quick and cruel reprimands.
      7. To further intimidate, the narcissist labels people who don't comply with their beliefs as disobedient, rebellious, lacking faith, demons, or enemies of the faith. This is done in front of others to reinforce their opinions and instill fear inside and outside the family.
      8. There is huge emphasis on public performance. They demand perfection and happiness at all times. Religious activities such as attending church have extreme demands, excessive expectations, and rigidity. No allowances are given even for grieving over the loss of a friend or relative.
      9. Strict adherence to their rules and regulations are commanded with absolute statements about insignificant issues such as hair color or style. Non-compliance is met with severe discipline and even excommunication.
      10. To further segregate, the narcissist uses secrecy or withholds information to select a few worthy individuals. Sometimes they require proof of advanced spirituality or some deeper level of commitment before they will share.
      11. Questioning the narcissist is worse than questioning the religion. Blind obedience to the narcissist is expected as their opinion is more important than religion. In essence, they have replaced your religion with themselves and you are expected to worship them.
      12. The narcissists frequently use their religious position of authority to connive for their own personal benefit which is often financial. They will justify this behavior by saying they deserve it because they are better than others. You, however, will not be included because even your best is not good enough.
      13. For the narcissist, the end justifies the means. They may engage in criminal misconduct or cover up the transgressions of others in the name of their religion. This includes covering up sexual abuse, physical abuse, financial felonies, and misdemeanors. They believe they are above the law and therefore can subvert it."
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        45 min
      15. The Bible is Fiction: A Collection Of Evidence
        "Similarities to Other Stories

        The similarities between the stories and characters in the Bible and those from previous mythologies are both undeniable and well-documented. This would be obvious if it weren’t for early indoctrination of these beliefs into children, which usually makes them unassailable as adults.

        In this short piece I’ll attempt to show extraordinary similarities with regard to two of the most important Biblical narratives: the Genesis story and the character of Jesus Christ.

        The Book of Genesis’s Flood Story Mirrors The Epic Of Gilgamesh From Hundreds Of Years Earlier

        Here are a number of elements that both Gilgamesh and the flood story in Genesis share:

        1. God decided to send a worldwide flood. This would drown men, women, children, babies and infants, as well as eliminate all of the land animals and birds.
        2. God knew of one righteous man, Ut-Napishtim or Noah.
        3. God ordered the hero to build a multi-story wooden ark (called a chest or box in the original Hebrew), and the hero initially complained about the assignment to build the boat.
        4. The ark would have many compartments, a single door, be sealed with pitch and would house two of every animal species.
        5. A great rain covered the land with water.
        6. The ark landed on a mountain in the Middle East.
        7. The first two birds returned to the ark. The third bird apparently found dry land because it did not return.
        8. The hero and his family left the ark, ritually killed an animal, offered it as a sacrifice.
        9. The Babylonian gods seemed genuinely sorry for the genocide that they had created. The God of Noah appears to have regretted his actions as well, because he promised never to do it again.
        10. Keep in mind the level of detail in these similarities. It’s not a matter of just a flood, but specific details: three birds sent out, resisting the call to build the ark, and a single man being chosen by God to build the ark. Then consider that the first story (Gilgamesh) came from Babylon — hundreds of years before the Bible was even written.

          Do you honestly think, based on the similarities above, that those who wrote the Genesis story had not heard the Gilgamesh story? And if they had heard it, and they were simply rehashing an old, very popular tale, what does that say about the Bible?

          Unavoidable contradictions

          Not only was the Bible taken largely and blatantly from previous stories, but there are contradictions so massive that they defy belief. Here are just a few of them.

          • The Angel’s Message: In Matthew 1:20 it says the Angel spoke to Joseph. In Luke 1:28 he spoke to Mary. Which was it?
          • Mary’s Virginity: The Hebrew word ‘Almah’, which people took to mean virgin, actually means ‘young woman of marriage age’. And there are plenty of indications that Jesus had brothers and sisters.
          • The Census: The authors of the Bible are trying so hard to get Jesus born in Bethlehem that they craft a story about a census. They say that Joseph had to travel back to his father’s homeland in order to register for it. Can you seriously imagine—in any period let alone then—asking the entire country to travel back their father’s hometown to register for a census? It’s completely impossible. The author of the story put it in there because they needed Jesus born in that city. Plus, historians note that the Romans kept extraordinary records, and there wasn’t even a census at that time. It’s completely fabricated, and for obvious reasons."
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            44 min
          • 3 Myths About Black Atheists That Prove They Need Better Representation (July 5th, 2022)
            "Myth 1. Black Nonbelievers Don’t Exist

            The general population is well aware of the existence of atheists by now. Dawkins, Harris, and other prominent white atheists have made sure of that.

            But black atheists make up less than 0.5% of the black population in the US and a very small proportion of the atheist population. Though logic dictates that black nonbelievers must exist, their small numbers and lack of visibility contribute to their erasure.

            Why does this matter?

            Because perpetuating the myth that black people are inherently theistic ignores the diversity of thought that actually exists within the black community. It contributes to the stereotyping of black culture as monolithic, even amongst black people who (should) know better.

            Furthermore, when people don’t consider the possibility of black nonbelievers existing, it can affect their relationships with the non-religious people in their lives.

            Think of theists offering prayers to nonbelievers with sick family members, or comforting grieving nonbelievers by talking about the afterlife, or encouraging an agnostic cousin to say grace at dinner, or telling a strident atheist they’ll “come around eventually.”

            These are just a few examples of the ways that nonbelievers in general are invalidated, annoyed, and silenced by well meaning people. The smaller number of nonbelievers in the black community heightens their erasure in particular.

            Black nonbelievers often encounter the assumption that because they are black, religion and spirituality should be especially important to them. And when this assumption is coming from other black people who are themselves religious, it can feel like a denial of cultural identity to express one’s nonbelief.

            Recognizing and affirming the existence of black nonbelievers isn’t just about making them more comfortable. If members of the black community strive to recognize and understand people with different views of the world, they can more thoughtfully approach and get along with the people in their lives with whom they disagree.

            Myth 2. Black Nonbelievers Haven’t Been Active in Social Justice

            A lot of prominent freethinkers, humanists, and atheists seem more concerned with denouncing religion than solving issues of structural inequality and systematic injustice. This contributes to the myth that nonbelievers are unconcerned with social justice, or are less concerned with doing good in the world than religious people.

            There have been a number of skeptics, mostly older white men, who have made the case for abandoning religion in the modern age. But for all the Dawkins, Hitchens, and Harrises in the atheist world, there aren’t as many skeptics focused on feminism, racial justice, and other sociopolitical issues that would exist with or without religion.

            Alongside the myth of the apathetic nonbeliever are even greater myths about religion’s role in black culture. Religion can be wielded as both the weapon of the oppressor and the shield of the oppressed.

            For example, during the Transatlantic slave trade, white captors used passages of the Bible to justify the enslavement of Africans and demand their subjugation. Slaves who converted to Christianity, on the other hand, saw parallels between themselves and the enslaved Israelites in the Exodus."

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            45 min
          • Jesusism (Non-religious Jesus)
            “Jesusism is the teachings of Jesus in distinction to the teachings of mainstream Christianity. In particular, the term is often contrasted with Pauline Christianity and mainstream church dogma of Nicene Christianity. Flanagan defines Jesusism as the "message" of Jesus and notes that he "call[s] it 'Jesusism' because most Christian Churches do not endorse Jesus' message truthfully". "Christianity of today is not the old original Christianity. It is not Jesusism, for it is not the religion which Jesus preached.” I take all of the good from all secular schools and thoughts and all of faith-based schools of thoughts and make it my inner beauty buffet. All of the good means all positive character traits.
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            49 min
          • Atheism in the African diaspora
            “Sometimes, atheism is seen as a whites-only club by black people and in the United States, African American history, slavery and the civil rights movement are all closely tied to Christianity. Religion has very much become part of the tradition of black history and culture. Even when there is a strong atheist or secular humanist movement in the African diaspora, it has been ignored. In surveys of history, black expressions of humanism and secularism have been ignored by historians. African-Americans who come out as atheist may face a "prohibitive" social cost. Journalist Jamila Bey wrote, "It's difficult - if not impossible - to divorce religion from black culture." This social cost is not unique to blacks who leave Christianity, but also occurs among black Muslims who leave the religion. Some atheists who have left Islam have been disowned by family or received death threats. Black atheists in the United Kingdom face similar problems, where coming out as an atheist is associated with the fear of being "ostracised and demonised." For this reason London Black Atheists was formed in the United Kingdom by Clive Aruede and Lola Tinubu. At an atheist conference which took place next to a Christian conference in 2015, one of the black atheist attendees found herself attacked and accused by a black Christian woman for having a "slave mentality" and being "demon possessed."
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            58 min
          • Discrimination against child-free adults and challenges facing ethically non-monogamous clients.
            “Childfree adults are speaking out more and more these days about discrimination, and while this murmur growing to a small uproar is actually a surprise to many who didn't realize the discrimination existed, consider the following real life examples:
            A young male professor recently contacted me, asking for advice on dealing with discrimination in his workplace. He explained that, at the start of each quarter when teaching schedules are selected, the parenting professors, both mothers and fathers, are given first pick, so that their work does not interfere with their children's school and extracurricular activities. Don’t assume.
            Don’t assume emotional experience, relationship configuration, sexual preferences, or frequency. Don’t even assume they want to talk about their relationships. Instead, allow the client to lead and be open to where they lead the conversation.”
            Don’t pathologize.
            Long ago I had a client report that another clinician had called her a “nymphomaniac” because she had two long term partners—but the client hadn’t even had sex in six months. Also, there’s no such thing as nymphomania. Don’t be this clinician.
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            16 min
          • Discrimination Against Childfree Adults and The Challenges of Ethical Non-Monogamy in Therapy
            “Childfree adults are speaking out more and more these days about discrimination, and while this murmur growing to a small uproar is actually a surprise to many who didn't realize the discrimination existed, consider the following real life examples:
            A young male professor recently contacted me, asking for advice on dealing with discrimination in his workplace. He explained that, at the start of each quarter when teaching schedules are selected, the parenting professors, both mothers and fathers, are given first pick, so that their work does not interfere with their children's school and extracurricular activities. Don’t assume.
            Don’t assume emotional experience, relationship configuration, sexual preferences, or frequency. Don’t even assume they want to talk about their relationships. Instead, allow the client to lead and be open to where they lead the conversation.”
            Don’t pathologize.
            Long ago I had a client report that another clinician had called her a “nymphomaniac” because she had two long term partners—but the client hadn’t even had sex in six months. Also, there’s no such thing as nymphomania. Don’t be this clinician.
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          Autism is my super blessing! I'm a high-school valedictorian, college graduate, world traveler, disability advocate. I'm a Unitarian Universalist. I'm a Progressive Liberal. I'm about equal rights, human rights, civil & political rights, & economic, social, &cultural rights.