Don't let fearfulness warp "coolness",  "self-esteem", and "acceptability". Also, don't let fearfulness cause you to submit to unhealthy peer pressure.

No guilt-trips in these equations!

Apologizing is about personal transformation!

Side notes: I fully support reparations for slavery, banning police choke holds, and any plan that caters well to all of the oppressed of our universe!

I support 100% https://www.contractwithblackamerica.us/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-apes/201910/how-handle-difficult-conversations

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201712/10-must-know-tips-making-better-conversations

Cognitive empathy is the ability to understand how a person feels and what they might be thinking. Cognitive empathy makes us better communicators, because it helps us relay information in a way that best reaches the other person.

Emotional empathy (also known as affective empathy) is the ability to share the feelings of another person. Some have described it as "your pain in my heart." This type of empathy helps you build emotional connections with others.

Compassionate empathy (also known as empathic concern) goes beyond simply understanding others and sharing their feelings: it actually moves us to take action, to help however we can.

https://www.inc.com/anna-meyer/holiday-retail-shopping-trends-2020.html

https://www.ashford.edu/blog/social-behavioral-science/the-psychology-behind-the-5-love-languages

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/201407/10-relationship-red-flags

Don't ignore symptoms,  danger, and warning signs!

Not everyone who "acts nice" is nice!

Not everyone who "looks nice" is nice!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-web-violence/201309/resilience-and-4-benefits-sharing-your-story

Side notes: I support permissive society, pink capitalism, cultural radicalism, civil libertarianism, and pink capitalism (as long as it's a form of the communitarian form of Democratic capitalism.) 

I only support Democratic capitalism under "the communitarian system of democratic capitalism described promotes respect for individual rights and basic workers’ rights, a virtuous community, and a limited role for the state and the market.According to the encyclical, these characteristics should be combined with a conscious effort to promote institutions which develop character in individuals."

I support top free equality (topfreedom.)

I don't have Victorian era values, I am not a Victorian era person. I am not a puritan, I don't have puritanical values. I am not squeaky clean, I dislike clean comedy. 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-therapy/201205/swearing-in-therapy#:~:text=Yes%2C%20you%20can%20swear%20in,shouldn't%20prohibit%20moderate%20profanity.

Report inappropriateness to legal authorities, insurance companies, and whoever they work for!

Maintain kindness on both ends, anything other than that, shut it down immediately. Switch therapists if you have to or switch clients if you have to.

Be a thriver, not just a survivor. It is more important to be a thriver than a survivor.

When it comes to in-person therapy, strictly and only electronically communicate about appointment scheduling. Any other conversation is unethical, (urgent matters are the only exceptions.)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201209/how-and-how-not-stand-yourself