Too Old For This Sh*t

While TO4TS is on a break, check out this revisit of a past favourite episode (#058 Love Isn’t Enough). I will return early 2023 with Season 4!!!

Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie are a couple and relationship coaches that have gone through the wringer together from long distance, to open, to semi open to polyamorous to closed again, today we discuss its good, bad and ugly and what it takes to make a relationship work.

We cover: 

- Moving from transactional relationships to being of service to your partner but from a place of synergy, so not to drain yourself.

- Being able to receive without nagging. 

- Their path as a couple from mistrust, bickering, passive aggressive, snarky remarks to being in a respectful and loving relationship.

- Seeing your man from useless to someone you respect.

- How to stop parenting our romantic partner.

- How we see our partner, is not who they are aka being present with your partner and not living in the archives of all their perceived wrongdoings.

- They don’t believe compromises/sacrifices make for a healthy and happy relationship.

- Being responsible for our own emotions, whatever we feel is internally created.

- The blaming and projecting game. 

- It’s not just about being honest with someone, it’s about being honest with yourself.

Find Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie  Podcast: awakenedwife.com

Communication Quiz: www.yourexceptionalrelationship.com/understand

Music by Peter Walsingham

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References in this episode: https://thework.com/ by Byron Katie where you can download her worksheets

Today’s episode is about money, how to save for your pension and even retire early. Jeremy Schneider breaks it down into bitesize steps to regain control over your finances and redirect your financial trajectory. 

We cover: 

// Index Funds.

// How to change your financial trajectory.

// Investing vs speculating.

// The dirty little secret of Hedge Funds.

// Passive and Active management of investments.

// [32min] How to calculate the magic number to retire.

// Emergency funds vs retirement plan.

// Strategies for those with longer time frames and shorter time frames to retire comfortably.  

// [41min] Should you put money in one pot or divide it into several pots, like ISA, Index Funds, etc.

// [43min] Strategy to financial independence when you have zero funds. 

// When more money stops making you happier. 

// The 10% rule in investment.

// [58min] Buying Index Funds vs buying individual stocks. 

// [1hr03] How to get started with Index Funds.

// [1hr09] What are the risks when investing in Index Funds?

// [1hr12] Saving for a house vs investing for financial independence.

Listen till the end where I recap the takeaways.

Announcement: Taking a little time off but I will be back! 

Find Jeremy: https://www.personalfinanceclub.com & https://www.instagram.com/personalfinanceclub/ 

Music by Peter Walsingham

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Today is a laughter filled threeway on divorce with Pete & Seth on all things love, and the weird things heartbreak makes us do.  

With podcast Producer Pete, married for 23 years and Divorce Lawyer Seth, engaged to be re-married; we cover:

// How they met.

// Oddest items fought over in past divorce settlements.

// What makes for good relationships?

// What is love?

// When to stick it through and when to leave?

// What they learned from their own podcast on what to avoid in relationships.

// Their views on infidelity.

// Second life marriages, causing terrestrial divorces.

Mentioned in this episode: Esther Perel 

Find Pete & Seth: www.nelsonlg.com, https://trustory.fm/  Their podcast: How to Split a Toaster 

Music by Peter Walsingham

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Why do you think black holes exist and where do they lead to? I want to hear your thoughts on this :-)!!

Today with Astrophysicist and poet Lindsay we take a fun look at what a black hole is, what lies behind it and where it could all lead to.

This is part 2 of this two-part series.

We cover:

// What are black holes and how are they created?

// What’s behind a black hole? 

// What happens to the content in the black hole?

// What happens to the spatial coordinates after a black hole has gone through it?

// Multiverses. 

// String theory for beginners. 

// And my biggest question: How are we still around as a species?

Find Lindsay https://www.lindsaydemarchi.com Her podcast: Go Ask Alice.

If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact   

Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online 

If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations 

With astrophysicist and poet Lyndsay, we take a deep-dive into the benefits and harms that come from the Mars exploration & her unusual journey into academia. This is part 1 of a two-part series.

We cover:

// Her unusual journey into academia.

// How we are related to dead stars. 

// The ethical issues on the mission to Mars. 

// The colonial language & attitude that is continually applied to space exploration. 

// Elon Musk’s mission and the lack of scientists being part of the big decisions. 

// Starlink’s satellites posing a huge threat to observational physics.

// Who does Starlink’s satellites truly benefit?

// The benefits and harms that come from Mars exploration.

// A lawless Mars. 

// Why are we so curious about finding life on other planets?

// Is an Armageddon-like event a likely threat? 

Timestamps:

[00:17:01] "The intersection of science and spirituality: Exploring near-death experiences"

[00:21:57] "Embracing the Unknown: A Personal Belief on Death"

[00:35:43] "Elon Musk and the ethics of space travel"

[00:44:16] "Surviving a 7-month trip to Mars"

[00:50:32] "The Cost of Colonizing Mars: Private Whim?"

[00:55:26] "Contemplating Life: Poets and Physicists' Perspectives"

[01:03:51] "Can Life on Other Planets Save Humanity?"

Next week in part 2: 

// What are black holes and how are they created?

// What’s behind a black hole? 

// What happens to the content in the black hole?

// What happens to the spatial coordinates after a black hole has gone through it?

// Multiverses. 

// String theory for beginners. 

// How are we still around as a species?

Find Lindsay https://www.lindsaydemarchi.com Her podcast: Go Ask Alice.

Music by Peter Walsingham

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From working with one of rock's most influential bands KISS to being a Florida Supreme Court Family Law Mediator, Mary a Licensed mental health counsellor, is here to wake us up from the codependent funk. 

Today we cover:

// What is codependency?

// How Ted Bundy utilised codependency to trap his victims.

// Why healing codependency is a matter of survival.

// Why codependency is a form of self-harm. 

// The narcissist / codependent attraction. 

// How do you know if you’re the narcissist or the codependent party? 

// How codependents & narcissists use people to medicate themselves.

// How to undo a lifetime of codependent habits and learn to set healthy boundaries. 

// Steps to take to avoid relapsing into codependency.

// The difference between compassion and compulsion when setting boundaries as a codependent & the role of the vagus nerve.

// The difference between collaborating and compromising. 

// How to leave a codependent relationship you can’t save.

Find Mary  http://www.winterhavencounseling.com

Music by Peter Walsingham

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Are you a good friend or do you feel let down by your friendships? Maybe it’s a bit of both…?

Today, Professor, Speaker and author Dr Marisa Franco, gives us some very good insights based on science and how our brain & attachment style interpret things subjectively when it comes to our friendships.

We cover:

// The one thing we get wrong about friendship.

// When to walk away and when to build on your friendship.

// Mutual vs reciprocal friendship.

// Managing friendship expectations.

// When we love our friends more than they love us.

// What are friend crushes?

// Placid and Dynamic safety in relationships

// How to make friends and keep them as an adult based on psychological research.

// What ruins friendships.

// The importance of boundaries and resolving conflicts with your friends.

// Friendship attachment styles.

// Are we getting more fussy with age?

// The difference between a friend, good company and an acquaintance.

// How our expectations are what hurt us in our friendships.

Find Marisa https://drmarisagfranco.com/

Music by Peter Walsingham

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*Recorded June 2022 ⁣ - Will Wood is more than a singer - songwriter, after a great deal of criticism and attempts at cancelling him. He has come out wiser and stronger. I loved hearing his insights on mental health and how  society and culture defines what mental health & illness are. 

We go over:

+ How to keep doing what feels right to you despite people having their own erroneous idea of who you are. 

+ Cultural pressures.

+ Going viral and being opened to criticism.

+ The manipulation of social media and the radicalisation it can cause.

+ Morality and culture.

+ The amount of subjectivity around mental health. Kanye West being mocked for his mental illness.

+ How to not let other people’s opinions affect your art.

Find Will: www.willwood.net

Music by Peter Walsingham

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For mental health crisis helplines:

UK: https://www.mind.org.uk 

Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ 

USA: American Foundation of Suicide Prevention

*Recorded June 2022 ⁣

His curiosity, focus and open-mind rewrote our history books, but don’t be fooled, Eske is an adventurer and his life journey is nothing short of extraordinary. Eske Willerslev is the world-leading evolutionary geneticist and the rockstar of science.

Today, we discuss where life comes from, conspiracy theories and if our DNA is alien technology. The biggest misunderstanding about Darwinism explained.

Find Ekse: https://eskewillerslev.com/ 

Eske's new book: ‘It’s a fucking adventure’ is now out! 

Music by Peter Walsingham

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Trial Lawyer turned peacemaker, Doug Noll, has since 2009 been working with prisoners, some serving life sentences, who want to learn how to stop the prison–violence.

Doug coaches them on how to become mediators and de-escalate conflicts which have had life-changing repercussions and I got him on to share some of his wisdom and methods with us.

We cover:

- How he got into this line of work.

- The softer you are, the stronger you are. The more vulnerable you are, the more powerful you are.

- What made him walk away from $10 million to pursue peacemaking. 

- How to listen.

- How to ignore the words to make an emotionally safe environment.  

- Real life example on how to put this into practice (I’m your guinea pig with an example from my dayjob).

- What a world without violent conflicts means.

- Emotional invalidation and how it plays into the unhappiness of couples.

- Debunking the worst tips on how to calm someone down.

- Affect vs emotions (a difference between animals and humans).

- How triggers can be used for self-awareness and how to rewire your brain to clear those triggers.

- How to self-regulate your emotions.

- What working with prisoners has taught him about life and people.

- How listening to others into existence can change your life and theirs.

- We round up with Doug sharing the most powerful story from his work with prisoners. 

Find Doug:  https://dougnoll.co/too-old (am not an affiliate) His program is called Prison Of Peace Program. 

Music by Peter Walsingham

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