Toolkit for Life

Season One of Toolkit for Life Finale

You guys! It’s the end of Season 1. That is cray, cray the first podcast I ever recorded was a voice note on my iPhone as I was talking I thought to myself "oh this is good, this is really good". I had that Felicity energy in me as I continued to talk. So I borrowed a mic from my neighbor, watched a couple of youtube videos on how to record a podcast and the next day my podcast was live. I didn’t overthink it or marry myself to the idea. I just began. Some days it took me hours to record an episode, other times it was completely organic.

My heart skipped a bit when I realized people were listening but to be very honest I do this because I see no other option than to share what I learn in a world that needs extra mindfulness and to stay inspired to learn more from others.

Today I listened  back to a couple of the first episodes and the audio was off, the music is super loud, you can hear some background noise, some "ums" and "likes" got in the way (I'm working really hard on this one) To be very honest I felt like erasing them but I think I will keep them as a reminder of where I started and how far we will come.

Here are some of the highlights from the last 13 episodes. Let me know if something else stuck my heart keeps skipping a beat when I hear from you.

·       Change your mood by being grateful, doing a backbend and taking a cold shower.

·       Stop Comparing yourself to others by using social media less, comparing yourself only against who you were and not only to the bits and pieces of other people, redefining the word success (more of this on season 2)

·       Heal your relationship with food “When you are trying to change the way you look you will never be able to have a healthy relationship with your body. It's like telling a friend you hate them you wish they would change but then tell them to come over for movies. It just doesn’t work that way. The vicious cycles end when love walks through the door.”

·      When feeling nervous or suffering from insomnia try writing without reading back, at least 3 pages. Use this as a mental purge to clear your mind. 

·       Craniosacral with Michelle taught us the power of using our eyes to access a part of our brain that stores memories and trauma. How juggling can be a great way to booth meditate/concentrate and use our eyes. 

·       Monotasking: The importance of slowing down and doing one activity at a time.

·       Josh Vincent taught us how what we work for on the mat is not a metaphor, we are working on those things off the mat as well. Slowing down and taking the time to explore our bodies with curiosity.

·       Inner Bullying: Recognizing the four voices of fear that show up – the victim, worrier, critic and perfectionist and how they might be keeping you from reaching your goals. This might have been one of my favorite episodes because it was very research based.

·       Use the question- Can you be happy right now? In this moment? When you are feeling overwhelmed and you will notice that 80% of the time the answer will be YES.

·       Build resilience by facing your fears constantly.

·       View your partner as a teacher somebody you can learn from and keep an open heart.

·       In difficult situations become present and offer actionable help.

·       Maring Higa taught us the importance of creating space for our creativity how it allows us to be more receptive and might be what we are missing in our lives.  

What you can expect on Season 2 better music and audio. More interviews I have my eyes on several guests. Less "um" "literally" "like". More engagement on my Facebook group please join here if you haven't. I promise to try and keep inspiring you. 

Thank You for tagging along in this Journey.

Has somebody you love shared news that left you speechless? Do you want to be there for people but are not sure how to do it? In today’s episode, I’m talking about what to say and do for people that are having a tough time.

Watch the short video or listen to the podcast.

Have you ever felt like choking the love of your life? How about shaking them? Or maybe you are more peaceful and feel like giving them a time-out. I know I have.

They say women marry hoping men will change and men marry hoping women won’t change. The truth is we both change but never in the ways, we expect.

So how do we deal with the frustration and sometimes anger of sharing our lives with people that can at times seem so different from us?

Let me give you an example- Jimmy is a perfectionist and has no notion of time, me, on the other hand, I like doing as many things as I can in the least amount of time and have an inner watch. I know for the most part how long things take (for the most part). So when we travel I’m the one running for breakfast, swearing I can go to a yoga class, while taking pictures and stretching. In the meantime, Jimmy is slowly sipping his perfect latte asking me what’s the rush? He doesn’t understand why I rush and my need to see and do everything and I don’t understand how he can take such a long time in the simplest tasks. 

The truth is I won’t make him into Speedy Gonzalez and he won’t turn me into a perfectionist. Can we get pissed at each other over it? ABSOLUTELY!  

It’s like we are watching a cloud and he swears it looks like an elephant and I swear it’s a unicorn. Trying to convince and argue over who is right is a waste of time. We are both right and wrong at the same time. Instead, we can take this as an opportunity to see our patterns and ask ourselves-

WHAT CAN I LEARN FROM THIS?

Marrying somebody exactly like yourself would be easy but would becoming boring in no time. If you are sharing your life with somebody it’s because you made the decision to grow and learn. So why not do that instead. View him or her as a teacher, view the problem as a teaching (sometimes the teacher you don’t really like or the subject that you hate) but a teacher none the less and get enough insight to break your patterns. 

Go to the podcast to learn a quick meditation for loving the unlovable and growing together.